I thian pakhatin chhungkaw member a chan tawh em? He lungngaihna hi kan sawi dawn em ni?

I ṭhian ṭha ber chhûngte zînga mi hnai tak, i pi, i pi, a nih loh leh a hnaih ber pawh ni se, a boral tawh ang tih han ngaihtuah teh. Chu chu thil lungchhiatthlak tak leh lungchhiatthlak tak a ni lawm ni? Chutih lai chuan i ṭhianpa chu ṭanpui theih loh, mangang, leh mahni chauha awm a ni ngei ang. Vawi sangkhat pawh i ngaihtuah tawh ngei ang, "Aw, he hun lai hian engtin nge ka puih theih ang? A natna tihziaawm nan engtin nge ka tih ang?" Chu chu ngaihtuahna hlu tak a ni tak zet a ni. Chuvangin, vawiinah hian hetiang hun khirh tak karah hian i thianpa tana chak taka awm tur leh a thinlunga thlamuanna tlem tal i thlen theih nan eng nge i tih theih tih hi han sawi ila.

He lungngaihna hi eng nge ni tak tak?

A awlsam zawngin sawi ila, lungngaihna hi kan hmangaih tak kan chan huna kan hrehawmna leh lungngaihna hi a ni. Kan thinlungah phurrit lian tak ang mai a ni. Mi zawng zawng hian he rit hi an hre vek lo. He lungngaihna hi mi tinin an hmachhawn dan leh an chhân lêt dân hi a inang lo hle.

I thianpa Sameera nu chu a boral tawh ang tih han ngaihtuah teh. Sameera chu a tap nasa mai thei, mi zawng zawng hmuh theih turin a lungngaihna chu a sawi chhuak mai thei. Mahse, ṭhian dang pakhat, a hming chu Netmi ti ila, a pa boral hunah a ngawi hle mai thei. Amah chauhva awm a tum mai thei a, tumah biak vak loh a tum mai thei. Naupang thenkhat chuan hetiang hunah hian hun engemaw chen chu inkhelh leh intihhlimna an chawlhsan thin. Chu zawng zawng chu an ngaihven tawh lo. Mahse, naupang dang, a rang thei ang bera nunphung pangngaia kir leh tumtu an awm. Sikul kal te, ṭhiante nena inkhelh te, thil dang tih te chu an châk hle a ni. Heng zawng zawngah hian dik leh dik lo a awm lo. A chhan chu mi tin hian lungngaihna kan hmachhawn dan tur kan nei vek a ni.

A pawimawh ber chu lungngaihna hi natna a ni lo tih hi a ni. Kan hmangaih tak kan boral hian thil awmdan pangngai tak a ni. Dam turin hun a mamawh a ni.

Naupang thenkhat chuan an rilru put hmang sawi hi an duh hle. Midang erawh chuan an ti lo. Ṭhenkhat chuan an lungngaihna chu lemziak emaw, rawng emaw hmangin an târ lang thei a ni. Tin, mi tam tak chuan hetiang hun lai hian chhungte nena hun hman tam an duh a, an hnen atangin hmangaihna leh thlamuanna an dawng thin. Chhungkaw member-te in tanpui tawn tur a ni a, khawngaih tawn tur a ni. An boral tawhte hriatrengna ṭha tak tak leh an bula hun hlimawm tak an hman thu sawi chu hahdamna nasa tak a ni thei. Heng zawng zawng hian natna tihziaawm nan a pui a ni.

Engtin nge i ṭhian pakhat lungngaihnaah i ṭanpui theih?

I thianpa chu hetiang natna a tawrh lai hian i tih theih tha ber chu thian tha tak angin an tan i awm mai mai a ni. An rilru hahdam tir thei lo emaw, hlim tir nghal thei lo emaw pawh a ni thei, mahse chu chu a pawi lo. An rilru put hmang chu i hriattîr thei a ni.

1. Chutah awm mai rawh, thil lian tak a ni!

I sawipui thei a, "Kan kal dawn em ni?" "Game kan khel dawn em ni?" emaw, "Rei vak lo kan awm dun mai dawn em ni?" A duhzawng ti rawh se. A bula awm mai mai hi chakna nasa tak, chakna nasa tak a ni. Thil danglam bik sawi a ngai lo, i awmna chauh a tawk.

2. "Dam" turin in nawr luih suh.

I thianpa a lungngaih lai chuan, "Khawngaihin tap suh," "Lungngaih suh," "I chak a ngai" tih ang chi te sawia an rilru tihlim tumna chuan a ti na zual mai dawn a ni. An lungngaih leh tap hi thil pangngai a ni. Chutiang rilru put hmang chu chhuah tir rawh.

3. Inbiakna hun pe la (mahse nawr luih suh) .

Hemi chungchang sawi hi tlem i hlau emaw, i mualpho deuh emaw pawh a ni thei. Mahse, "I pi boral hi pawi ka ti lutuk" tih ang chi thu sawi chuan a natna chu i hrethiam tih a hriattir ang. Chu chuan a rilrua thil awmte chu i hnêna a sawi ṭan theih nân a ṭanpui thei a ni.

Kawng ngilnei tak chu: " Hemi chungchang hi sawi i duh chuan ka ngaithla ang. " tih hi a ni.

Mahse, chutih lai chuan i thianpa chuan a sawi duh lo a nih chuan hriattir rawh. Anmahni chu nawr luih suh. An mamawh apiangin i awm tih hriattir mai rawh.

4. Hriatrengna tha tak takte insem darh turin tanpui rawh

I thianpa chuan an hloh tawh chanchin a sawi tan a nih chuan, hun tha tak tak in hman dun te, thawnthu hlimawm tak tak te, leh hriatrengna tha tak tak te chu sawi rawh. Tlemte chuan hlimna leh thlamuanna a siam thei a ni. A chang chuan i thianpa a tap hian nang pawh i tap thei a, a chhan chu i lungngaihna i thunun theih loh vang a ni. Chutiang thianpa nena tap chu a pawi lo. In inṭhianṭhatna a ti nghet zual ang.

5. Dawhthei takin awm la, thlak danglam turin hun pe rawh.

I thianpa chu an hma ang khan hlim leh inkhelh thiam beisei suh. Zan khat thil thuah a thleng dawn lo. Lungngaihna an paltlang lai hian ni engemaw zat chu an khelh thin angin inkhelh emaw, hlim taka awm emaw an nei tawh lovang. Mahse, a tuk zingah chuan an nuih ang bawkin an nui leh ang. Ni tin hi a danglam thei. Chuvangin dawhthei takin awm rawh.

6. Sawi lo tura fimkhur tur thil

A châng chuan, kan inhriat loha kan sawite hian kan ṭhianpa chu a ti na lehzual thei a ni. Entir nan:

• "Tap suh, tlangval/hmeichhia i ni." (Emotion hian gender a nei lo.)
• "A hun takah engkim a tha vek ang." (Hei hi thudik ni mah se, tun dinhmunah chuan thlamuanna a thlen vak lo.)
• "Tunah chuan hmun tha zawkah a awm tawh." (Hei hi mi zawng zawng tan chuan a inang lo mai thei a, ṭhenkhat phei chuan an lungawi lo thei bawk.)
• "I rilru put hmang chu ka hrethiam." (Mi dang natna hi 100% velin kan hrethiam thei tak tak lo a, chuvangin, "I tan a harsat turzia hi ka ngaihtuah thei" tih ang chi hi sawi a tha zawk.)
• Mahni thil tawn chauh sawi. ("Hei hi ka pi boral lai khan a thleng a ni..." tih leh i thianpa thusawi ngaihthlak ai chuan nangmah chanchin chhiar.)

Hetiang thu sawi ai chuan ngaithla mai mai leh hriatthiam tum mai hi a hlu zawk hle.

Engtikah nge tlem tal kan fimkhur ang?

A tlangpuiin, lungngaihna hi hun kal zelah a reh zauh zauh thin. Mahse, hun rei tak hnuah pawh, .(Hei hian kar emaw thla tam tak emaw a daih thei a, mi hrang hrangah a inang lo.) I thianpa chu a nihna hluiah a kir leh tawh lo ang tih a hriat a, a thil tih dan pangngai a ti thei lo a, a lungngai leh a lungkham reng a nih chuan tlem tal i ngaihtuah tur a ni.

Entir nan:

• Hmanlai angin engmah i ngaihven lo a nih chuan.
• Sikul hna leh inkhelh ang chi thilte hi tihtawp vek ni ta se.
• Ei leh mut a tlahniam emaw, nasa taka a pung emaw a nih chuan.
• Mahni chauha awm i tum reng a, tumah i biak loh chuan.
• Mahni inhliam ang chi thil i sawi chuan.

Hetiang thil hi i hriat chuan i nu leh pate emaw, zirtirtu emaw, school counselor emaw hnenah hrilh rawh. Hei hi phatsanna a ni lo va, puitling hnenah i fain tanpuina a mamawh tih hriattirna a ni zawk. Chumi hnuah chuan an mamawh ṭanpuina an pe thei a, professional ṭanpuina pawh an pe thei bawk.

Nang pawhin Lungngaihna chungchang hi i hre belh thei ang.

I ṭhianpain hun harsa tak a paltlang lai i hmuh hian, lungngaihna chungchâng pawh i zir belh duh mai thei bawk. Chu chu thil tha tak a ni. I nunah puitling (nu leh pa, pi leh pu, zirtirtu) te chu an hmangaih tak tak an chan lai khan engtin nge an awm tih te, engtin nge an paltlang tih te, eng thilin nge an tanpui tih te i zawt thei ang. Chu thiltawnte chuan zirlai hlu tak tak a zirtîr bawk ang che.

A tawp berah chuan i hriat reng tur thilte

Chuvangin, i thianpain hetiang hian a lungngaih laia i tih theih turte khaikhawm ila:

• I thiante nen inhnaih takin awm rawh. I awmna hi an tan chakna nasa tak a ni.
• Ngun takin ngaithla rawh. An sawi duh chuan titawp lovin ngaithla rawh.
• Ngilnei la, dawhthei takin awm la, an rilru put hmang hriatthiam tum ang che.
• Anmahni chu nawr luih suh. Lungawi tur emaw, thusawi tur emaw chuan nawr luih suh.
• Thil tih dan pangngai ti turin sawm la, mahse an duh ang ti turin phalsak rawh.
• An duh chuan an hloh tawh hriatrengna tha tak tak sawi turin tanpui ang che .
• Lungkhamna i neih chuan puitling rintlak hnenah hrilh rawh.

Hetih hunlaia a damdawi leh thlamuanna ropui ber a ni tih hre reng ang che. I hnen atanga tanpuina tlemte pawh hi he hun harsa tak paltlang tur hian chakna ropui tak a ni ang.

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