I fa chu sikulah tihduhdah a ni em? (Bullying) – Hemi chungchang hi han sawi ila!

I fa hian sikul kal a duh lo em ni? Bus-a chuang emaw, inkhelhna hmuna kal emaw a hlau em? A châng chuan hei hi a tihbuai vang pawh a ni thei . Hei hi thil tenawm tak a ni lo. Hetianga tihduhdahna hian naupang rilruah hliam thuk tak a thlen thei a ni. Thil nasa tak ṭhenkhatah chuan tharum thawhna thiltih te, thil tihchhiatna te, leh naupang hliam na tak thlenga thleng thei a ni. Chuvangin, i fa chu tihduhdah a nih chuan a tihtawp theih nan tanpui a pawimawh hle.

‘Bullying’ tih hi eng nge ni tak tak?

A hmasain bullying tih hi eng nge ni tih i hrethiam ang u. A chang chuan naupang te te hian an in nuihzat thin a ni lawm ni? Unau emaw, thian emaw atanga prank tlem a nih a, an pahnih tan a nuam a nih chuan thil lian tham a awm lo. Chu chu thil pangngai a ni.

Mahse, he fiamthu hian midang a ti na chhunzawm zel a, buaina a siam a nih chuan , chuta tang chuan buaina chu a intan a ni. Chu chu ‘bullying’ kan tih chu a ni.

A awlsam zawngin, mi tihduhdahna chu kum inang naupangin tumruh taka naupang dang taksa emaw, tawngkam emaw, rilru emawa a tihnat leh nawn leh nawn fo hi a ni. Heta naupang tibuaitu hian naupang dang aiin power imbalance a nei tih a ring a ni. Hei hian nawr, vuak, hau, vau, leh nuihzat te pawh a huam thei. A châng chuan hei hian tharum hmanga sum emaw thil dang emaw lak pawh a huam tel a ni. Naupang dangte chuan mi dangte chu hnawhchhuah leh thu dik lo thehdarh hmangin an tibuaitu a ni.

Ngaihtuah teh, i fa chu ni tin sikulah naupang dang emaw, pawl emawin hetiang hian an tihbuai a nih chuan engtin nge a ngaih ang?

Tunlai hian bullying pawi tak dang chu cyberbullying hi a ni . Social media, text, leh WhatsApp message hmanga midangte mualpho leh tihnat tihna a ni. Hei hi tihduhdahna chi dang ang bawkin a pawi hle.

He bullying hi ngaihthah tur a ni lo . "Naupangte chu chutiang chiah chu a ni a, kan tuar mai a ngai a ni," tih hi ngaihtuah a dik lo. A chhan chu hei hian naupangte inngaihhlutna leh himna kawngah nghawng lian tak a nei a ni. Extreme case thenkhatah chuan khawvelah hian he bullying hian naupangte chu mahni intihhlum leh school-a silai hmehpuah ang chi thil rapthlak tak tak ti turin a hruai niin report a awm tawh a ni. Chuvangin hei hi thil pawi tak a ni.

Engvangin nge naupangte hian hetiang hian midang an tihbuai?

A tam zawkah chuan naupangte hian chhan hrang hrang avangin midang an tibuai thin. Naupang thenkhat chuan an pawimawh zawk, an lar zawk emaw, an thunun thei zawkin an inhria a, anmahni aia rilru emaw taksa emaw lama chak lo zawk nia an ngaih, emaw, a hmel emaw, a che dan emaw a danglam deuh deuh naupang chu an pick up thin. Naupang tibuaitu chu naupang dang aiin a lian lo va, a chak lo bawk.

A châng chuan, naupangte chuan mi dangte chu chutiang bawka enkawl an nih avângin an tibuaiin an tiduhdah ṭhin. An chhungkua emaw, an chhehvela mi zawng zawngte chu an au chhuak reng a, an inchhir reng a nih chuan hei hi thil pangngaiah an ngai mai thei. I hmu em, TV show thenkhatah pawh midang tihchhiat te, midang hnawhchhuah te, midangte hmel lan dan emaw, talent nei lo emaw avanga nuihzat hi thil pangngai a ni. Hei hian anmahni a nghawng bawk.

Engtin nge i fa chu tihduhdah a nih leh nih loh i hriat theih ang?

I fain direct-a a hrilh che loh chuan, emaw, hliam chhinchhiahna hmuh theih a awm loh chuan, a tihduhdah a nih leh nih loh hriat chian a harsa thei hle.

Mahse, nu leh pa kan nih angin kan fimkhur theih tur vaukhânna chhinchhiahna ṭhenkhat a awm a:

• I fate nungchang inthlak danglamna i hmuh chuan , emaw, an lungkham hmel mai mai a nih chuan .
• A ei tha lo a nih chuan, a muhil tha lo a nih chuan , a duh dan pangngaia thil tih a duh loh chuan .
• A hma aia moodier zawka i lan chuan, a nih loh leh thil tenawm ber pawha i thinrim awlsam chuan .
• Thil engemaw a dal a nih chuan (entir nan, school bus-a chuang duh loh, sikul hmun thenkhat pumpelh).
• Sikul kal duh loh, pum na, lu na (a bik takin sikul ni) ang chi thil i phunnawi fo chuan.
• Lehkhabu leh thawmhnaw te hi a bo emaw, a chhe emaw fo thin.
• I mumang ah hlauhna emaw tap emaw ang chi thil i hmuh chuan .

Hetiang thil hi i rinhlelh a, mahse i fain a sawi duh lo a nih chuan, direct zawhna zawh ai chuan, indirect deuh deuha inbiakna chu ṭan tum ang che Hetiang thil thleng hi TV-ah i hmu a, "Fapa/fanu, he thil hi engtin nge i ngaih?" emaw, "Chu naupang chuan eng nge a tih tur nia i ngaih?" Tichuan, "Hetiang thil hi i hmu ngai em?" emaw, "Hetiang thil hi i chungah a thleng ngai em?" Chutiang kum lama nangmah emaw, i chhûngkaw zînga mi dang emaw thiltawn chu i sawi thei mai thei.

A pawimawh ber chu i fate chu tihduhdah a nih emaw, midang tihduhdah a hmuh emaw a nih chuan puitling rintlak tak nena inbiakna neih a pawimawh tih hriatthiam tir hi a ni. Hei hi nangmah, puitling dang (zirtirtu, sikul counselor, chhungkaw ṭhian, emaw unaupa pawh ni se) i ni thei.

Nu leh pa kan nih angin eng nge kan tih theih?

I fain mi tihduhdahna chungchâng a hrilh che chuan, muangchangin ngaithla rawh . Thlamuanna leh thlawpna pe rawh.Pe. Vawi tam tak chu naupangte hian heng thilte hi puitlingte hrilh an hreh hle. An mualpho avangin hetiang thil thleng hi an hrehawm lo hle. A nih loh leh, an nu leh pate chu an lungawi lo ang a, an thinrim ang a, a nih loh leh an chhân lêt dân dik lo ang tih an hlau a ni.

A chang chuan naupangte chuan anmahni sualah an ngai thin . An danglam a nih chuan, an che danglam a nih chuan hetiang hi a thleng lo ang. A châng chuan mi tihduhdah tuin an thusawi a hriat chhuah chuan an tibuaitu lehzual ang tih an hlau bawk. Naupang thenkhat chuan an nu leh pate hian an ring lo emaw, engmah an ti lo ang emaw an ti. Mi dangte chuan an nu leh pate'n "kal bo" an tih ang tih an hlau a, mahse an hlau lutuk a, an ti thei lo.

Chuvângin, i fain he thu a hrilh che avâng hian fak hmasa phawt ang che . Anmahni chauh an ni lo tih hriat nawn tir la, mi tam takin an nunah engtik lai pawhin tihduhdahna an tawk tih hriat nawn tir bawk ang che. Naupang tihduhdahtu chu i fa ni lovin, nungchang ṭha lo neitu a ni tih sawifiah rawh . Nang leh anmahni chu a chinfelna zawng turin in thawk ho dawn tih hriattir rawh.

Survey atanga a lan dan chuan naupang leh thalai tam tak chuan he tihduhdahna hi sikulah a thleng tam ber niin an sawi . Chuvangin, sikula mi pakhat (principal emaw, school nurse emaw, counselor emaw, zirtirtu emaw pawh ni se) chu thil awmdan chu hrilh rawh. Vawi tam tak chu an ngaihvenin, buaina a lo nih loh nan hma an la thei a ni.

Bullying hi dinhmun hrang hrangah a thleng thei avângin, one-size-fits-all solution a awm lo . Hmun khata hnathawk chu hmun dangah a thawk lo mai thei. Thil tih dan tha ber chu thil tam takah a innghat a, chung zingah chuan naupang inhnamhnawih te kum te, thil thleng nasat dan te, leh mi tihduhdahna awm dan te pawh a tel a ni.

I fain, "Ka thusawi an hriat chhuah chuan min ti na lehzual ang," a tih emaw, taksa lama tihnat che a vau emaw a nih chuan, ngai pawimawh rawh . A châng chuan naupang nu leh pate biak pawh a ṭangkai thei hle. Mahse, thil tam takah chuan zirtirtu emaw, counselor emaw biak hmasak a tha ber . Chutiang chu i lo tum tawh a, naupang nu leh pate nena inbiakna neih i la duh a nih chuan, school official, counselor ang chi hmaah inbiakna neih a tha ber. Hei hian a tul lova harsatna awm theihna a tiziaawm dawn a ni.

School tam tak chuan bullying chungchangah hian policy leh anti-bullying programme an nei a. Tin, ram tam tak leh kan ram hian hemi chungchangah hian dan kan nei a. I awmna hmuna dante zirchiang rawh. A châng chuan, i fate himna chungchânga ngaihtuahna lian tak i neih chuan, dân anga thuneitute i biak a ngai mai thei.

I fate chu eng thil nge zirtir i duh?

Nu leh pate chuan an fate chu tihduhdahna hmachhawn dan tur an zirtir thei a ni. Nu leh pa emaw, enkawltu thenkhat chuan an fa chu "kal la, vuak rawh" tih hi an duh mai thei. Hei hi hriatthiam theih a ni, a chhan chu i fate hrehawm tawrhna i hmuh hian i thinrim a, i naupan lai khan "nangmah tan ding rawh" an tih che pawh a ni mai thei. A nih loh leh, i fa chu tihduhdah a ni chhunzawm zêl ang tih i hlau pawh a ni thei a, chuvângin, vuak chu a tihtawp theihna awmchhun a ni.

Mahse, naupangte chu tihduhdahna chu chhân lêt lo tûr emaw, tihbuai leh tûr emaw zirtîr a pawimawh hle . Chu chu rang takin tharum thawhnaah a zual thei a, harsatna a thlen belh thei a, mi tuemaw a ti na hial thei a ni. Chu ai chuan, a ṭha ber chu thil awmdan kalsan a, mi dangte nêna inpawh tawn a, puitling hnêna hrilh hi a ni .

Naupangte thil tihdanglam leh an rilru hahdamna tur kawng dang thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

• Puitling hnenah hrilh rawh: School zirtirtu te, principal te, nu leh pa te, leh cafeteria-a thawktute chuan he tihduhdahna hi tihtawp tumin an pui thei a ni.
• Mi tihduhdahtu chu pumpelh la, ‘buddy system’ hmang rawh: Mi tihduhdahtu chu a bul hnaia awm a nih chuan bathroom dang hmang la, tumah an awm loh laiin i locker-ah kal suh. Mi tihbuaitu nen chauh awm suh, mi pakhat bulah awm rawh . Bus-ah te, hallway-ah te, inkhelhna hmunah te - mi tihbuaitu awmna hmun apiangah buddy la rawh. I thianpain tanpuina a mamawh chuan chutiang bawk chuan ti ve bawk ang che.
• I thinrimna thunun: Mi tihduhdahtu chunga thinrim hi thil pangngai a ni a, mahse chu chu mi tihduhdahtute tih duh dan chu a ni. Thiltihtheihna hriatna a pe a ni. Tap lo, hlim lo, leh thinrim lo tih practice rawh . Hei hian practice tam tak a mamawh a, mahse mi tihduhdah tuin a hriat loh nan a tha hle. Naupang thenkhat chuan ‘cool down strategies’ 10 thlenga chhiar te, thinrimna thute lehkha pheka ziah te, thawk chhuah te, kal bo te te hi a \angkai hle niin an hria. A châng chuan hlauhawm a awm loh hma loh chuan i fa chu hmêl muang taka awm tûrin zirtîr a ṭha ber (nui emaw, nuih emaw hian mi tihduhdahtu chu a tithinur zual thei chauh a ni).
• Huaisen takin awm la, kal bo la, mi tihduhdahtu chu ngaihthah rawh: Mi tihduhdahtu chu nghet tak leh chiang takin "tawp" la, kal bo turin hrilh rawh. Thu rilru ti na thei tak takte ngaihthah theih dân, ngaihven lo anga inlan emaw, i phone-a mi pakhat text emaw ang chite chu zir rawh. Mi tihduhdahtu ngaihthah hian i ngaihsak lo tih a tilang a ni. Hun a kal zel a, mi tihbuaitu chuan a tibuai che a chau ang.
• Hemi chungchang hi sawi rawh:I rintlak tak nen inbia ang che. School guidance counselor emaw, zirtirtu emaw, unau emaw, ṭhian emaw pawh a ni thei. Thurawn tha tak tak an pe thei che a ni. Thil awmdan an siam tha thei lo a nih pawhin, tlem chuan mahni chauha awm lo turin a pui thei che a ni.

Engtin nge naupang rilru chakna (inrintawkna) siam theih ang?

Bullying hian naupang mahni inrintawkna a tichhe thei a ni . Chu siam ṭhat leh tûra ṭanpui tûrin, i fa chu nghawng ṭha tak takte nêna hun hmang tûrin fuih rawh . Club-ah te, infiamnaah te, a nih loh leh an hlimthla thil dangah te telna hian rilru chakna leh inṭhianṭhatna siamin a ṭanpui thei a ni.

I fain hun harsa a sawi hian ngun takin ngaithla la, an ni tin thil \hate hrilh che turin fuih la, chu thilte chu ngun takin ngaithla rawh. Hei hian mi zawng zawngin inbiakpawhna zau tak neih dan tur a siam ang . Anmahni i rinzia leh harsatna eng pawh paltlang turin i theihtawp i chhuah dawn tih hriattir fo ang che.

Naupangte hmangaih, him, leh pawm an nihna hmuna inchhung boruak siam hi heng harsatna chi hrang hrangte hmachhawn tura an tan chakna ropui tak a ni tih hre reng ang che.

A tawp berah chuan hriat reng tur pawimawh ber chu...

Bullying hian naupang nunah nghawng tha lo tak a nei thei a ni. Thil pangngai anga ngaih loh tur a ni ngai lo .

• I fa nen inhawng takin inbiakna nei rawh . Mi tihduhdah a nih chuan nangmah ring turin fuih rawh.
• Naupang thusawi chu muangchangin ngaithla la , thlawp la, a dik lo tih hriatthiam tir rawh .
• School nen thawhhona tha tak nei rawh u . Zirtirtu leh counselor ten heng harsatna sutkian nan hian an pui dawn a ni.
• I fa chu bullying hmachhawn dan zirtir rawh , mahse tharum thawhna hmang ngai suh.
• I fa rilru chakna leh mahni inrintawkna siam turin tanpui rawh .

Heng thilte i tih lai hian a pawimawh ber chu in lama i fain hmangaih leh him nia a hriatna hmun siam hi a ni . Hei hian harsatna eng pawh hmachhawn turin chakna a pe ang.

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