‘Hei hi ka ti thei tak tak em?’ tih ngaihtuah hian i in man ngai em? emaw, mahni inrintawkna tlem zawk nei mai mai duhna emaw? Thudik tak chu, heng rilru put hmang leh ngaihtuahnate hi kan nun kawng hrang hrangah kan tawng vek a ni. A pangngai tak a ni. Vawiin hian inrintawkna chungchang kan sawi dawn a ni. I hlimna te, mimal thanlenna te, leh nunah hlawhtlinna zawng zawngah te thil pawimawh tak a ni.
Inrintawkna chu eng nge ni tak tak? A awlsam zawngin...
Inrintawkna chu chu nangmah leh nangmah leh nangmah theihnaah rinna nghet tak, chhungril lama i neih chu a ni. Inngaihluhna emaw, mi zawng zawng aia tha zawka inhriatna emaw a ni lo. Grounded, realistic leh secure zawk a ni. A awlsam zawngin, ‘Hei hi ka ti thei’ tih hriatna ngawi reng, chhungril lam hriatna hi a ni.
Engtin nge inrintawkna nei mite chu an thiltih? I hriat theih turte chu hetiang hi a ni:
- A tul lova inrintawk lohna rilru an tuar lo; anmahni chhungah him takin an inhria.
- An thiamna leh chhungril chakna rinchhanin nunnain a rawn thlen apiang chu an hmachhawn thei tih an hria .
- Exam, inelna, a nih loh leh vantlang hmaa thusawi ang chi nitin harsatna hmachhawn turin an inpeih tawh niin an hria.
- “Ka thei lo” tih ngaihtuah ai chuan , “Ka ti thei” tih ngaihtuah reng a ni.
School event buatsaih theihna hun pek i ni tawh ang tih han ngaihtuah teh. Tih i duh tak zet a, mahse, “Ka buai a nih chuan engtin nge ni ang?Mi zawng zawng hmaah ka bengchheng a nih chuan engtin nge ni ang?” Chu chu i inrintawkna a tlahniam tih chhinchhiahna a ni. Amaherawhchu, mi inringtawk tak chuan, “Sure, hetiang hi ka la ti ngai lo, mahse ka bei dawn a ni, hei hi ka ti thei ang,” tiin a ngaihtuah thin. Chu chu a danglamna chu a ni.
Engvângin nge inrintawkna hi kan tân a pawimawh êm êm?
Inrintawkna chu nun kawng zawh tura puitu ṭhian ṭha ang a ni. Kawng tam takah min pui thin:
- Nun tawn tawhte hmachhawn turin min buatsaih thin: Inrintawkna i neih chuan thil thar tawk emaw, mi thar tawn emaw i hlau lo. I insum ai chuan hma i sawn zel zawk.
- Hun remchang thar zawng chhuak tur leh midangte nena inzawmna siam turin min fuih a ni: Ngaihtuahna ropui tak i neih laiin i hlau lutuk a, i sawi chhuah theih loh hun lai kha han ngaihtuah teh. Inrintawkna i neih chuan i ngaihtuahnate pholan turin chakna i nei tih i inhria. I tan kawngkhar engzat nge inhawng thei tih hi han ngaihtuah teh!
- Hlawhchham hnua kan bounce back theih nan min pui thin: Kan tisual vek a, a chang chuan hlawhchhamna kan tawng vek bawk. Mahse mi inringtawk chu a tlai lo. An tho leh a, an tum leh a.
Flip side hi inrintawkna a hniam chuan a thleng thin. Inrintawkna hniam zawk neitute chuan thil thar tih tum emaw, mi thar nena inpawh emaw an hreh fo thin. A vawi khatnaah an hlawhchham a nih chuan an tum leh theihna a tlem hle. Inrintawkna tlakchhamna hian kan theihna zawng zawng kan hlen chhuak thei lo fo thin. Sava thla lian tak nei, thlawh hlau tak ang mai a ni.
Mahni inringna awmzia
Mi tu emaw chuan thiamna nei, nuihzatthlak, ngilnei, kutchhuak thiam, zirlai ropui tak, ziaktu, athlete thiam tak i nih thu a hrilh che em?
Mi dangte’n kan chakna leh theihnate an hriat chuan kan inrintawkna a tipung thei a ni. Mahse, condition pakhat a awm a, chu chu chu thil tha tak takte pawh chu kan ring tur a ni. Miin fakna a pek che kha i ringhlel ngai em, “An hlim mai mai a ni, a takah chuan chutiang chuan ka tha lo?” Chu chu inrintawkna kalh zawng a ni.
Mahni inring tak tak tur chuan i chhungril takah chuan thil ti thei leh thiam tak i ni tih i inhriat a ngai a ni. Chu rinna siam tûra kawng ṭha ber chu i thiamna leh theihnate hman hi a ni—chu chu zir chhuah te, tih dân te, leh hmalâkna te a ni.
Inrintawkna hian kan chaknate hmuchhuakin, kan tihchangtlun theih nan min pui thin. Kan thiamna kan hriat chian a, kan thil tihhlawhtlinte kan chhuang chhoh zel chuan kan inrintawkna chu a nghet zual sauh sauh a ni.
Engtin nge i inrintawkna i tihpun theih ang?
Hei hi a pawimawh ber a ni. Thu lawmawm tak chu kan inrintawkna kan siam thei vek a, step by step. Tips i tih theih thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:
1. Inrintawkna neia rilru put hmang siam
Hei hi a hmasa ber leh a pawimawh ber a ni. ‘Ka thei lo,’ ‘Hei hi a harsa lutuk,’ emaw, ‘Ka hlawhchham ang’ tih ang chi ngaihtuahna tha lo tak tak a rawn luh chuan hmun pe suh. Chu ai chuan chu chhungril aw chu hre chiang la, thlak danglam rawh. ‘Ka thei lo’ tih chu firm ‘I thei!’ tih hmangin thlak leh rawh. ‘Tih tak zetin, hei hi thil thar a ni a, mahse ka tum a, ka ngaihtuah chuan ka zir thei ngei ang, ka ti thei ngei ang,’ tiin. A tir lamah chuan harsa tak angin a lang thei a, mahse practice chuan tih danah a lo chang tawh ang.
2. Khawngaih takin nangmah in tehkhin rawh
Midang nen kan in tehkhin vek a ni lawm ni? A pianphung pangngai tak a ni. Mahni inhriatthiamna min pe thei a, mi dangte chunga kan ngaihsan em em miziate nei tûrin min chêttîr thei bawk. Mahse, tehkhin rengna chuan lungngaihna, beidawnna, a nih loh leh inngaihtlâwmna a neihtîr che a nih chuan, chu chu buaina a ni. Chu chu i mahni inngaihhlutna kawngah hna i thawh a ngai tih hriattirna chiang tak a ni. Mahni zinkawngah hlim taka awm chungin midangte thatna ngaihlu rawh.
3. Mahni inrinhlelhna chu tichhe rawh
Kan theihna kan rinhlelh hian hnuaihnung zawk, tling lo, inpeih lovah kan inhria a. Hei hian min tipung thei tur mi leh remchangte pumpelh turin min hruai fo thin. “Ka thei lo mai mai” tih i ngaihtuah apiangin chu ngaihtuahna chu dodal rawh. Tun hmaa hlawhtling taka i thil tih tawhte kha inhriat nawn tir rawh.
4. Risk him tak la rawh
Hei hian risk hlauhawm tak tak lak tihna a ni lo. I comfort zone pawn lam deuha ke pen a, i hlauh tlangpui mahse a hlawkpui dawn tih i hriat thil tih tum tihna a ni.
- School club pakhatah tel ve rawh.
- Project emaw khawtlang thil thleng emaw atan volunteer rawh.
- Team emaw talent showcase emaw atan enchhin rawh.
- Class-ah zawhna zawt emaw chhan emaw turin i kut phar rawh.
- Nui chungin, i bula zak deuha i hriat ṭhin mi pakhat nen inbiakna ṭan rawh.
5. Nangmah in challenge rawh
Inrintawkna i neih tam zawk chauh a nih chuan i tih duh tur thil thlang rawh. Tlem tal in nawr la, chu chu kal rawh. I tihhlawhtlin hnu chuan thil dang thlang la—chuan momentum chu kalpui zel rawh. Hmalam pan apiangin i inrintawkna a tipung a, exercise hian taksa ruh a siam dan ang bawkin.
6. I talent te hria la, eng chhuak turin tanpui rawh
Kan chak lohnate siam\hat kawngah rilru pe turin min zirtir fo \hin. Chu chu a pawimawh thei a, sikul-a grade tihsan ang maiin, i chak lohnate ngaihtuah chhuah hna thawh hian i thiam tawhnaah i hlawhtling lo thei lo. I thiamna thil tih hian hlimna a thlen a, chu chuan i inrintawkna a tipung bawk.
7. I hnathawh zawm zel ang che
Zirlai i nih chuan i assignment te, i zirlai te, leh project te chu zawm zel ang che. Class, quiz, leh exam atan inbuatsaih rawh. Engati nge? A chhan chu inbuatsaihna hian inrintawkna nasa tak a pe che a ni. Test anxiety leh school stress laka invenna tha ber chu consistency hi a ni. Inbuatsaihna hi inrintawkna kawngkhar a ni.
8. Nang tak tak nih ngam rawh
Mi dangte chuan i nihna dik tak angin hmu rawh se—i tihsual leh i chak lohnate pawh tiamin. Kan nihna dik tak thup tumna kan chawlhsan chuan kan inrintawk lohnate paltlang chu a awlsam zawk hle. I thil danglam bikte chu pawm la, i mimal nihna chu lawm rawh. Midang nih tum emaw, fake anga inhriatna emawa che chu bansan rawh. I nihna tak tak ni tur chuan huaisenna leh inrintawkna a ngai a, mahse i tih tam poh leh i inrintawkna a lo thang lian zawk ang. He inrintawkna hi i mahni inngaihhlutna siamtu a ni tih hre reng ang che.
Tih zel rawh! Beidawng suh!
Inrintawkna hi a level inang reng reng a ni lo. Ni engemaw zat chu tihtawp theih loh khawpin i inhria ang a, ni engemaw zat chu i hniam deuh mai thei bawk. Hei hi mi zawng zawng tan chuan thil awmze nei tak a ni—a nei vek ang maia lang mipuite pawhin.
Cricket match khelh ang maiin han ngaihtuah teh. Ni khat chu century i siam mai thei; a tuk zingah chuan duck ei turin i chhuak mai thei. Inrintawkna hian chutiang chiah chuan hna a thawk a ni.
Eng thilin i inrintawkna a tichhe a nih chuan, nangmah leh nangmah i chungah ngilnei rawh. Mahni inhnek suh.“Ka tangkai lo” tih ang chi negative label hi pumpelh rawh. Chu ai chuan thil thleng aṭangin zir la, a dawt leh hunah eng nge danglam taka i tih theih ang tih inzawt la, chu chu hre reng ang che. I rintlak, nangmah thlawptu chu biak rawh. Tichuan, i chakna leh i hlawhtlinna hmasa te kha inhriat nawn tir leh ang che. Game-ah hian lut leh rawh! I tlukna hmunah khan tho rawh!
Take-home thuchah chu
Inrintawkna hi zan khat thil thua i siam chhuah a ni lo. Huan phun ang mai a ni. Tui i pek a ngai a, i enkawl a ngai a, ni êng i hmuhtir a ngai bawk. Chutiang chuan a lo thang lian a, a par a, a rah bawk.
- Nangmah leh nangmah ring tan rawh. I theihna chu hre rawh.
- Harsatna tenau te chu hmachhawn rawh. Hlawhtlinna i neihte chu lawm rawh.
- Ngaihtuahna \ha lo a lo thlen chuan hmun pe suh—ngaihtuahna \ha tak chu practice rawh.
- I kawng chu midang nen tehkhinin mahni inngaitlawm suh.
- I hlawhchham chuan zirlai zir la, tum leh rawh.
- I authentic self nih hi hlau suh.
I ti thei ang! I ngaihtuah aiin i chak zawk hle. Nangmah i ring thei a nih chuan he khawvelah hian i tihhlawhtlin theih loh tur a awm lo tluk a ni!
Inrintawkna, Rilru hriselna, Mahni tanpuina, Mimal thanlenna, Ngaihtuahna tha, Mahni inngaihhlutna
