I rilru natna hriatthiamna kawng 5!

He thuziak hi i chhiar tan hmain, rei lo te chu chawlhsan mai rawh. Thâwk muang takin thawk la. I duh chuan i mit pawh i chhing thei. Tichuan heti hian inzawt rawh: "Tun dinhmunah hian engtin nge ka awm tak tak?" Eng thu nge i rilruah a lo lang tih en rawh. Thil hriatna pakhat chauh ka rilruah a lo lang mai thei, engemaw zat pawh a ni mai thei. Chu chu thil pangngai tak a ni.

Engvangin nge heng emotion te hi emotion an tih? Engtin nge kan tan an pawimawh?

A awlsam zawngin sawi ila, emotion hi kan rilru leh taksa chhung atanga kan hnena lo thleng thuchah a ni. Kan chhungril thian te tak te in min biak ang mai a ni. Heng thuchahte hmang hian keimahni chanchin tam tak kan hrethiam thei a ni. Tin, chûng rilru put hmangte chuan nunah thu tlûkna dik siam tûrin min ṭanpui bawk. Hetiang hian han ngaihtuah teh. Kawngpui i pelh dawn a, rang takin lirthei lian tak pakhatin chak takin a rawn rawn pan che tih i hmu ta a. Tichuan hlauhna i nei ta a ni , a dik em? Chu hlauhna rilru chuan, "Fimkhur rawh! Accident a awm thei!" Chuvang chuan kawng zawh chu rei vak lo i chawlhsan ta a ni. Hmu? Kan himna atan pawh emotion hi a pawimawh hle.

Emotion hriatthiamna hian eng hlawkna nge a neih?

Kan rilru put hmang kan hriat chian chuan, chu chu kan hriat chian theih chuan hlawkna tam tak kan dawng a ni. Hengte hi han en teh.

• Nangmah i inhriat chian lehzual a: i hlimna tur, i lungngaihna thlentu leh i thinrim lai te i hre chiang zawk thin.
• Thil ṭha lam en tûr leh harsatna a lo thlen huna ṭha taka hmachhawn tûrin a ṭanpui che a ni: I rilru put hmang i hriatthiam chuan thunun a awlsam zâwk a ni. Tichuan, buaina a lo chhuah chuan hlauthawng lovin a chinfelna i zawng thei a ni.
• I inpuh tlem zawk ang: "Engvangin nge hetiang hian ka awm?"
• Emotion harsa tak tak a lo chhuah chuan dawhthei taka ngaihtuah a, thil tih nghal loh hian a pui a ni: i thinrim chuan i au nghal lo va, i lungngaih chuan i tap nghal lo va, i thil tih tur ngaihtuah turin hun rei vak lo hmang la.
• Thil awmdan pakhata awm dan tur leh eng ang thutlukna nge siam tur tih chu thutlukna siam a awlsam ta hle.
• Mi dangte nêna inlaichînna a ṭha zâwk: Mahni rilru put hmang i hriatthiam a, mi dangte rilru i hriat chian tum poh leh i ṭhiante leh chhûngte nêna in inzawmna chu a nghet zual sauh sauh a ni.

Hriat reng tur: rilru natna zawng zawng, hlimna emaw, lungngaihna emaw, thinrimna emaw, hlauhna emaw pawh ni se, thil pangngai a ni. A pawimawh ber chu anmahni i hmachhawn dan hi a ni.

Kan rilru natna hrethiam zawk theih dan tur 5

Okay, chuti a nih chuan kan rilru put hmang nena inmil zawka kan awm theih dan tur leh kan hriatthiam theih dan tur i en ang u. Hetah hian i tih theih dan awlsam panga tarlan a ni.

1. I rilru put hmang hriat chian la, hming pe rawh.

Hei hi a hmasa ber leh a pawimawh ber a ni. Nilengin thil chi hrang hrang i hre mai thei. Engtik lai pawhin, "Tun dinhmunah hian eng nge ka awm?"Mahni inzawt rawh. Tichuan chu rilru put hmang chu hming pe rawh.

• Ngaihtuah teh, i thil tih chu a hlawhtling hle a nih chuan i chhuang mai thei.
• Exam-a score hniam i hmuh chuan i lungngai a, i lungngai thei bawk .
• Thut dun leh ṭhiante nena inbiakna hian zalenna leh hlimna a siam thei che a ni .
• Hna lian tak i thawh hmain i hlauthawng leh lungkham deuh mai thei.

Hetianga i rilru put hmang hming i vuah hian chu hriatna atanga inhlat leh thunun chu i tan a awlsam zawk thin.

2. Hriatthiamna pakhat thlang la, nilengin ngaihven rawh.

Hei pawh hi exercise ngaihnawm tak a ni. I duhzawng emotion pakhat thlang rawh. Entirnan, emotion "hlimna" hi thlang ila. Tunah chuan ni khat chhunga vawi engzat nge hlimna i neih tih hi en rawh.

• Thil tha i chunga a lo thlen hian i hlim hle mai thei.
• A nih loh leh ṭhian i tawn hian hlim takin i inhria.
• Miin a puih che emaw, thu ngilnei tak a sawi emaw chuan hlimna i nei tihna a ni.
• Chhan bik nei lovin i hlim mai thei, Friday a nih vang mai maiin!

Chu rilru natna thlan chu i hriat apiangin, chu chu rilruah chhinchhiah rawh. A nih loh leh lehkha te tak teah ziak rawh. Chu rilru natna chu a nêm emaw, a hniam emaw, a chak em tih pawh chhinchhiah bawk ang che . Chutianga i tih chuan i rilru put hmang chu i hrethiam ang.

3. Emotion atan thumal thar zir rawh

Emotion atan hian thumal engzat nge i sawi theih ang? Thumal tam zawk rawn chhuah tum ang che. Ngaihtuah teh, "thinrim" tih hriatna atan chauh hian thumal engzat nge awm?

• Tlem chuan i thinrim deuh mai thei .
• A nih loh leh tlem chuan i thinrim/i thinrim mai thei bawk .
• A châng chuan, thinrimna, thinrimna, leh thinrimna ang chi rilru natna nasa zâwk a lo chhuak thei a ni .

I rilru put hmang sawina tur tawngkam i neih tam poh leh nangmah inhriatthiamna leh midangte hnena i rilru put hmang sawifiah a awlsam zawk ang. Lehkhabu-a i hmuh hunah emaw, mi dangin an sawi lai emaw hian heng thute hi hre reng ang che.

4. I rilru put hmang diary-ah ziak chhuak rawh.

Hei hi mi tam takin \angkai an tih thil a ni. Zan tin i mut hmain minute engemaw zat hmang la, nilengin i rilru natna leh a thlentu thilte chu ziak chhuak rawh.

• "Vawiin khan hetiang thil hi ka chungah a thleng a, chutih lai chuan hetiang hian ka inhria..."
• "Vawiin khan chutiang ka tih chu ka lawm hle mai..."
• "Vawiin a kha thil thleng khan ka thinlung a na deuh a..."

Hetianga i ziah hian i rilru put hmang nen inzawmna tha zawk i siam thei a ni. I rilru put hmang sawi chhuahna tur lemziak te, hla phuah te, hla phuah te pawh i ti thei bawk. Hahdamna nasa tak a pe che a ni.

5. Art, hla leh movie-a rilru natna awmte chu enfiah rawh.

Hla i ngaihthlak hian, movie i en hian, a nih loh leh lemziak i en hian, chu hnathawh chuan eng ang rilru natna nge a lantir tih ngaihtuah rawh.

• Chu rilru put hmang chu ngaithlatute hnena thlen nân eng elements nge artist chuan a hman? (e.g., music melody, a rawng, actor performance)
• Chu thil siam chu i hmuh leh i hriat hian eng ang rilru nge i neih?

Chutianga i tih chuan lainatna , mi dangte rilru put hmang hriatthiam theihna i nei a ni. Hei hi khawtlang inlaichinna atan a pawimawh hle.

Emotion i hmachhawn hunah heng thilte hi hre reng ang che:

I rilru put hmang pawm turin hun i neih a pawimawh. I rilru put hmang chu enfiah mai rawh. I rilru put hmangah hian nangmah leh nangmah mawhpuh suh. Chu rilru put hmang chu pawm rawh. I chungah ngilnei rawh. I hriat reng tur pawimawh ber chu i rilru put hmang zawng zawng hi a pangngai vek a ni. Mahse, i chhân lêt dân leh i thiltih dân hi a pawimawh ber a ni. I rilru put hmang i pawm chuan, eng ang rilru put hmang pawh ni se, chutih laia tih tûr ṭha ber chungchângah thu tlûkna fing tak i siam thei a ni.

Harsatna i tih hunah tanpuina dawng rawh.

A châng chuan tuar harsa leh thunun harsa tak rilru put hmang kan nei thei a. Chutiang hunah chuan mahni chauha tuar ai chuan tanpuina dîl hi a pawimawh hle. I rintlak puitling (mom, dad, teacher, best friend) hnenah i rilru put hmang chungchang sawipui rawh. A châng chuan, mi ṭhenkhat chuan an ni tin nun nghawngtu rilru hahthlak tak takte hmachhawn tûrin professional ṭanpuina, chu chu therapist/counselor lam an pan ṭhin. Zahpui tur a ni lo va, i rilru hriselna ngaihtuah thiam a tha hle.

I tan Take-Home Message a ni

Chuvangin, vawiin a kan sawi tawh atang hian thil engemaw i lak ka beisei.

A awlsam zawngin, i rilru put hmang chu i ṭhian ṭha ber ang a ni. An thusawi ngaithla la, hrethiam rawh. Chuti a nih chuan nangmah i inhriatthiam thiam lehzual ang a, nun hlim taka awm chu a awlsam zawk ang.

Hei hi zan khat thil thua tih theih a ni lo tih hre reng ang che. Zawi zawiin la rawh. I tha ang!

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