Kei te mokemoke anō hoki koe? (Te mokemoke) Me kōrero tāua mō tēnei?

Āe, i ētahi wā ka tino mokemoke tātou, kāore? Me te mea kāore he tangata i te taha, me te mea kāore he tangata e mārama ana ki a tātou. He mea tēnei e pā ana ki a tātou katoa i ētahi wā, ehara i te mea mō ngā tamariki nohinohi anake. Koia te mea nui kia kōrerohia tēnei kare o te mokemoke, e kiia nei i te reo Pākehā, "(Mokemoke)", me te ngana ki te wikitoria i tēnā.

He aha rawa tēnei mokemoke?

Ki te kī ngāwari, ko te mokemoke ko te hiahia kia tata ki tētahi, engari kei te tawhiti koe i a rātou. Whakaarohia, kei te hiahia koe kia noho tahi me ō hoa, engari kei te mahue koe, me te mea kāore he tangata e aro ana ki a koe. Ki te hiahia rānei koe kia noho tahi me ō hoa, kei te mokemoke koe. He rite tēnei kare ki te pouri iti, ki te mokemoke e puta mai ana i roto i te hohonutanga.

Ka mokemoke tātou katoa i ētahi wā. He mea noa te noho mokemoke i ētahi wā. He rite ki te kapua e haere mai ana, e haere atu ana. I te nuinga o te wā, kāore e roa te noho mokemoke. Ka memeha haere i muri i tētahi wā. He mea noa tēnei mō te tamaiti nohinohi, te taiohi, te pakeke rānei.

Ina pōuri koe, ko tā tātou e tino hiahia ana ko te hono atu ki ētahi atu tāngata, kia rongo kei te mārama rātou ki a tātou, kei te manaaki rātou i a tātou, kei te maioha mai ki a tātou. Ā, ina tupu tēnā, ka memeha haere taua kare o te pōuri, pērā i te hukapapa e rewa ana i roto i te wai wera.

He aha tātou i tino mokemoke ai? He aha ngā take?

Nā, me titiro tātou ki te take e tino mokemoke ai tātou. He maha ngā take. Ahakoa he rerekē ngā wheako o te katoa, anei ētahi mea ka meinga koe kia mokemoke:

Ina noho mokemoke koe me te kore he tangata

Whakaarohia, mēnā kei te ngaro tō whaea, tō pāpā rānei ki te mahi, mēnā rānei kāore tō hoa pai i te tino piripono pērā i mua, mēnā rānei kua haere rātou ki tētahi atu kura. Kātahi ka tino mokemoke te korenga o rātou, kāore? Kāore e taea e koe te tatari kia hoki anō ki a rātou, kia kōrero ki a rātou. Ina hoki mai aua mea harikoa, aua kōrero, ka ngaro wawe atu taua mokemoke. He rite ki te haere ki te kāinga mō tētahi hararei me te whai wā harikoa me ō koroua, kātahi ka hoki mai ki te kāinga me te āhua mokemoke i te korenga o rātou.

Ina te āhua nei kei te riri tetahi ki a koe.

Tērā pea i pā mai he tautohetohe iti ki a koe me tō tuahine, tungāne, hoa rānei. Tērā pea i riri tō māmā, tō pāpā rānei mō tētahi mea i mahia e koe. Ina kore te iwi e harikoa tetahi ki tetahi, ka taea e koe te noho mokemoke, te wehe, me te pouri. Engari ina kōrero koe, ā, ka noho hoa anō, ina kī mai rānei tetahi 'aroha mai,' ka ngaro taua tawhiti, ā, ka tata anō tō ngākau. Kātahi ka rere atu te mokemoke.

Ina whakaaro koe kāore tetahi e mōhio ki ngā mea kei roto i tō hinengaro

I ētahi wā ka pā mai ngā mea uaua, ngā raruraru maha, me ngā āwangawanga ki a tātou. Ina huna e tātou ēnei mea ki a tātou anō, me te kore e kōrero ki tētahi, ka tino mokemoke, ka taumaha hoki tātou. Engari ina whakapuaki koe i ō kare ā-roto me ō raruraru ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe, ka tino whakaitihia taua uauatanga, taua taumahatanga.Ina whakarongo tetahi ki a koe, ina mārama ki a koe, ā, ka mea mai, "Kāore koe i te mokemoke, kei konei ahau," ka ngaro atu taua mokemoke.

Ina whakaaro koe kei te arohia koe e ētahi atu

I ētahi wā, ahakoa i te kura, i tō wāhi mahi, i ētahi atu wāhi pāpori rānei, ka tawai pea ētahi atu ki a koe, ka ārai rānei i a koe i ngā mahi rōpū, i ngā kēmu rānei. Ka tino mokemoke, ka mamae hoki te whakaaro kāore koe i te manakohia, kāore koe i te noho ki taua rōpū. Engari, ki te kōrero mai tētahi ki a koe, ki te whakaurua koe – ki te whakatau rānei koe ka uru atu ki a rātou – ka whakakapia taua mokemoke e te kare mahana e mōhio ana koe kei roto hoki koe i taua rōpū, i taua hapori.

Ina te ahua pukumahi te katoa

He mea tēnei e pā ana ki te tini o te tangata i ēnei rā. I ētahi wā, he pukumahi rawa ngā mātua ki ā rātou mahi, ki ngā mahi o te whare, ki ngā tuākana, ki ā rātou akoranga, ki ngā hoa ki ā rātou mahi, ki ngā waea rānei a te katoa. Kātahi, ina kore he wā mō rātou ki te kōrero, ki te kata, ki te noho tahi rānei, ka paku mokemoke koe, ka riri hoki. Engari ina whai wā te whānau me ngā hoa ki te kōrero ki a koe, ki te tākaro kēmu, ki te inu tī tahi, ki te pātai rānei i tētahi mea kei roto i tō hinengaro, kaua ki taua mokemoke, ka rongo koe i tō rātou aroha, i tō rātou piripono, me tō rātou uara.

He aha tā tātou e taea ai ina pōuri ana tātou?

Āe, me kī atu kei te mokemoke koe. Kātahi, kaua e raru i taua kare ā-roto, me titiro tātou ki tāu e taea ai te wikitoria i taua kare ā-roto, me te whakamama i tō hinengaro.

Tuatahi, tautuhia tēnei kare ā-roto, hoatu he ingoa.

Ki te mea kei te mokemoke koe, tirohia te āhua o te kare ā-roto. Mea atu ki a koe anō, "Kei te mokemoke ahau i tēnei wā." Ki te mōhio koe he aha koe i pērā ai, mea atu ki a koe anō, "Tērā pea kei te mokemoke ahau nā te mea kua riro atu tōku māmā," "Tērā pea kei te riri tōku hoa ki ahau..."

"Kaua e whawhai ki tēnei kare ā-roto o te mokemoke. Kaua e whara nui atu i a koe anō mā te whakaaro he mea kino. Ko te pono, e hiahia ana koe kia whakakorea. Ka memeha haere i roto i tētahi wā. Engari i mua i tērā, kia mōhio koe kei a koe taua kare ā-roto, hoatu he wā ki a koe anō kia whakaae ai."

Kātahi, ngana ki te mahi i ētahi o ēnei mea hei whakangā i tō hinengaro.

Kia mōhio koe ki taua kare ā-roto, ka taea e koe te whakamātau i tētahi, i ētahi atu rānei o ēnei mea hei āwhina i a koe kia pai ake te noho, kia kore ai hoki e noho mokemoke:

• Kimihia he hoa: Waea atu ki tētahi ka kōrero mō tētahi wā, tākaro kēmu, mahi tahi rānei i tētahi atu mea. Ina noho tahi kōrua, ina kata tahi kōrua, ka tere te ngaro o taua kare o te mokemoke, pērā i te paoa e pupuhi ana ki te hau.

• Whakapaua he wā ki te whānau: Waea atu ki tō māmā, ki tō pāpā, ki tō kuia, ki tō koroua, ki ō tuākana, ki ō teina rānei, ka tono atu kia noho tahi kōrua mō tētahi wā. Tērā pea ka taea e kōrua te tākaro tahi i tētahi kēmu, te hikoi poto, te āwhina rānei i te kīhini ki te taka kai.Ina kata kōrua, ina kōrero, ina harikoa ngātahi, ka rongo kōrua i te arohaina me te manaakitanga, ā, kāore te mokemoke e ngaro.

• Kia atawhai, kia mahi i tetahi mea: Kia atawhai tetahi ki tetahi, kia kōrero i tetahi kupu atawhai. Tērā pea he hoa noho, he kaiako, he tangata e haereere ana, he tangata rānei i te kāinga. Ina āwhina koe i ētahi atu, ka rite koe ki tētahi wāhanga nui o tō whānau, kura, hapori rānei. Ina whakaaro koe nō tētahi koe, ā, e hiahiatia ana koe, kāore koe e noho mokemoke.

• Kia atawhai: Ataata, me te kī atu, "Kei te pēhea koe?" ki te hunga katoa e tūtaki ana koe. He hoa pea, he hoa akomanga, he tangata hou rānei. He kaiako rānei, he kaiārahi pahi, he kaihoko toa rānei. Ina atawhai koe (ahakoa he ataata noa iho, he kupu noa iho rānei), ā, he atawhai ētahi atu ki a koe, ka ngaro te āhua o te mokemoke.

• Kōrerohia ō kare ā-roto: Ki te mea kei te mokemoke koe, kōrerotia ō kare ā-roto ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe, me te take. Tērā pea ko tō māmā, ko tō pāpā, ko tō hoa pai, ko tō tuakana, ko tō teina, ko tō tuahine, ko te kaiako – tae atu ki tāu mōkai pea. Ina whakapuaki koe i ō kare ā-roto, ina whakarongo mai tētahi, ina mārama mai hoki ki a koe, ka tino pārekareka koe ki te tata me te whakamarie, kaua ki te mokemoke. Ka taea hoki e koe te whakapuaki i ngā kare ā-roto harikoa i tēnei ara.

• Kia pai tō wā mokemoke: He pai te noho mokemoke i ētahi wā, ka wātea tō hinengaro. Tērā pea kei te hiahia koe ki te noho mokemoke, ki te pānui pukapuka, ki te tuhi, ki te whakarongo waiata, ki te kanikani, ki te eke pahikara, ki te waiata, ki te mahi toi, ki te hanga i tētahi mea whakamere – ki te noho noa rānei, ki te whakaaro i waho o te matapihi. Kāore te noho mokemoke e tohu ana me noho mokemoke tonu koe. Ka taea e koe te noho hei hoa pai mōu ake, te noho tahi me ō whakaaro ake, te mahi i ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe.

• Whakapaua he wā ki te taiao: Ki te taea, haere ki waho. Whakapaua he wā ki te titiro ki te rangi, ki ngā kapua, ki ngā rākau ataahua, ki ngā putiputi. Whakarongo ki ngā manu e waiata ana, ki ngā rau e haruru ana. Kia rongo i ngā kakara me ngā oro e karapoti ana i a koe. Kia rongo i te hau e pā ana ki tō mata, te whenua kei raro i ō waewae. Ki te hiahia koe, totoro ake ō ringa ka titiro ki te rangi. Mānu hōhonu, ka mānu mārire. Kia wheako i te kare whakamiharo o te noho hei wāhanga o tēnei ao nui, o tēnei taiao ataahua.

He kōrero anō mō ​​te mokemoke...

Kāore he he o te noho mokemoke i ētahi wā. He kare ā-tangata noa iho tēnei. Ki te pēnei tō kare ā-roto, kia atawhai ki a koe anō, kia aroha ki a koe anō. Engari kia mahara, kaua e tukua tēnei kare ā-roto o te mokemoke kia whakahaere i tō rā katoa, i tō wairua katoa, i tō harikoa. Kia mārama koe ki ō kare ā-roto, ka mōhio koe inaianei ka taea e koe te mahi i ngā mea hei whakapai ake i tō kare ā-roto, hei whakakore hoki i taua mokemoke.

Ko tētahi atu mea, ka taea e ētahi atu tāngata te āwhina i a koe kia pai ake tō wairua.Whakaarohia, ki te rongo koe i tēnei kare o te mokemoke mō ngā rā, mō ngā wiki pea, ki te pā ki ō mahi o ia rā (ako, mahi, mahi whare), ki te pōuri tonu koe, ki te riri tonu koe, ki te hiahia rānei koe i ētahi atu āwhina, me kōrero koe ki tētahi pakeke e whakawhirinaki ana koe – he mātua pea, he kaiako, he kaitohutohu whare wānanga, he tākuta rānei e whakawhirinaki ana koe – mō tēnei. He mea tino nui. He mea nui atu pea i te mokemoke, nō reira he mea pai kia rapu āwhina ngaio.

Nā reira, he mea pai kia maumahara ki tēnei?

Ki taku whakaaro kua nui ngā mea kua akohia e koe i ngā mea kua kōrerohia e tātou. He mea e pā ana ki a tātou katoa te mokemoke i ētahi wā. He maha ngā mea ka taea e tātou te mahi hei whakatau i tēnei me te puta atu i tēnei, me te kore e waiho hei raruraru nui.

• He kare ā-roto pouri, he kare ā-mokemoke te mokemoke, e noho mokemoke ana koe, me te mea kāore he tangata, ā, kāore he tangata e mārama ana ki a koe. Engari he mea e ōrite ana ki a tātou katoa.
• He aha koe ka noho mokemoke ai? He maha ngā take, pērā i te noho mokemoke me te kore he tangata e arohaina ana e koe, te riri ki tētahi, te kore he tangata hei kōrero māu, te whakarērea e ētahi atu, me te pukumahi ki ā rātou ake mahi.
• Ki te mea kei te mokemoke koe, tuatahi kia mōhio, kia whakaae ki taua kare ā-roto. Kātahi ka ngana ki te noho tahi me te hoa, te whānau, te āwhina i tētahi, te noho hoa ki ētahi atu, te kōrero mō ō kare ā-roto, te pārekareka ki tō wā mokemoke, me te hono atu ki te taiao.
• Ahakoa he mea noa tēnei kare ā-roto, ki te mau tonu, ki te kaha te āhua, ki te pā ki tō oranga me ō mahi o ia rā, me kōrero koe ki tētahi pakeke pono, ki tētahi tākuta, ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro rānei. Ka nui te whakamarie e homai ki a koe.

Ko te tino take, kāore koe i te tino mokemoke. He tangata tonu hei tono āwhina, hei kōrero ki a koe, hei whakapuaki i ō kare ā-roto. Ko tāu noa he toro atu ki a koe.

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