Āhea te wā pai rawa atu mōu ki te "haere tahi" me tētahi? Me kōrero tāua mō tēnei!

He aroha tōu ki tētahi i ētahi wā, he hiahia noa rānei ki te kōrero ki a rātou, ki te noho tahi me rātou? Tērā pea ka pā te aroha ki a koe ina kite koe i tētahi i te kura, i te akomanga, i tētahi atu wāhi rānei. He mea noa te pā mai o ēnei kare ā-roto, inā koa ka pakeke haere koe. Nō reira, i tēnei rā, me kōrero tātou mō te 'hanga hoa', arā, ko te wā e haere tahi ana koe me tētahi. Nā te mea he kaupapa tairongo tēnei, me kōrero mārama tātou mō ngā mea katoa, ā, i roto i te huarahi e mārama ai koe.

He aha te tikanga o tēnei "ngaronga"? He aha te `(Crush)`?

Ki te kī ngāwari, ko te `(aroha)` he hiahia motuhake tōu ki tētahi. Ka taea tēnei te tupu ahakoa i te wā taitamariki tonu, arā, mai i ngā tau tuatahi. Engari ina pakeke haere koe, ā, ka uru atu ki ngā akomanga pēnei i te Taumata Noa, ka piki ake pea tēnei `(aroha)` ka arahi ki ngā kōrero pēnei i te "Me noho hoa tāua?" "Me `(haere atu tāua)`?"

I tēnei tau, arā, i te wā e kura ana koe, ko te "haere tahi" me tētahi ko te tikanga kua mōhio kōrua e pai ana kōrua tetahi ki tetahi . Kātahi pea rāua ka:

• Te kōrero i te waea.
• Ko te karere ko `(kuputuhi)`.
• Te noho tahi me tētahi rōpū hoa (hei tauira, ina haere ō hoa katoa ki tētahi papa tākaro i muri i te kura, ka taea e te tangata e pai ana ki a koe te noho ki reira).

Engari i te nuinga o te wā, he mea onge te haere takitahi ki te whakatā i ēnei rā. Ki te pono, ko te mea tino haumaru, ko te mea pai hoki māu ko te tatari kia tae koe ki te kura tuarua, ki te whare wānanga rānei, kātahi ka haere takitahi, ka noho takitahi rānei me tētahi e pai ana ki a koe. He iti noa ngā take mō tēnā, ā, ka kōrerohia e tātou.

He aha tātou kāore ai e mataku mō te "haere ki waho"?

He mea tino nui ngā mea ka akohia e koe i tēnei tau mō tō heke mai. Ko tō pumau kare ā-roto, ko tō hauora hinengaro, ko ēnei katoa ka hangaia i tēnei wā. Nō reira, he iti noa ngā mea me whakaaroaro koe i mua i te tīmatanga o tētahi whanaungatanga ki tētahi.

• Te Whakahaere i ngā Kare ā-roto: Kei te ako tonu koe ki te whakahaere me te mārama ki ō kare ā-roto. I tēnei tau, he tino tairongo tō hinengaro. Ka taea e koe te tino harikoa mō ngā mea iti, ka tino pouri hoki mō ngā mea iti. Nō reira, ina tīmata koe i tētahi whanaungatanga ki tētahi, ahakoa ngā raruraru iti, ka pā kino ki a koe. He nui te tūponotanga ka whara koe. Whakaarohia te pouri mēnā ka mutu ohorere tētahi whanaungatanga i tīmatahia e koe me te tumanako nui.
• Pānga ki te mātauranga: I ētahi wā ka whakararuraru ēnei momo whanaungatanga i tō mahi mātauranga. Tērā pea ka tahuri ke tō aro.
• Pēhanga koretake:I ētahi wā, ka puta te whakaaro "me whai hoa" i te pēhanga a ō hoa. Kaua e whakaaro nā te mea kei te mahi katoa i tēnei, me mahi anō hoki koe. Ko te mea nui ko te mea kua tino rite koe mō tēnei.
• Te māramatanga ki te taha o tetahi ki tetahi: He mea tino nui te māramatanga me te whakaute ki te taha o tetahi ki tetahi mō te whanaungatanga hauora. Mā te mārama tika ki ēnei mea me te whanonga tika ka āwhina i a koe ki te whiwhi i te pakeketanga ka riro i a koe i roto i te wā.

Ko te mea nui rawa: Kaua rawa koe, i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, e tuku i tētahi kia mahi, kia kōrero rānei i tētahi mea e whakamā ai koe, e kore rānei koe e hiahia ki te mahi. Me mōhio koe ki ō rohe.

A, ki te mea ka tono mai tetahi kia "haere atu" ahau? Ki te mea rānei kei te hiahia ahau ki te tono atu ki tetahi?

He raruraru tēnei e pā ana ki te tini tāngata. Āe, me titiro tātou me pēhea te whakatau i tēnei.

1. Pātai atu ki a koe anō: "He aha taku e hiahia ana i tēnei? He aha taku e tumanako ana?" Tērā pea ko te mea anake e hiahiatia ana e koe he hoa pai. Tērā pea he nui atu i tēnā. Me whakaaro koe ki tēnā māu ake.

2. Tirohia mēnā e pai ana ki a kōrua: Ki te pai koe ki tētahi, me pai mai anō hoki rātou ki a koe. Ki te kore, kāore e taea e koe te akiaki i tētahi whanaungatanga. Ki te hiahia kōrua, ka taea e kōrua te "haere atu".

3. Kia āta haere: Ko te tohutohu pai ko te āta haere. Kaua e mataku. Kaua e whai tumanakohanga teitei i te wā kotahi. Kia mōhio mārire tetahi ki tetahi, kia kōrero. Nā te mea, e ai ki taku kōrero i mua, i tēnei tau, he tino ngāwari te whara.

4. Kōrero ki tētahi pakeke pono: Ki te pāngia koe e te māharahara, te mataku, te pouri rānei nā tētahi mea i kōrerotia, i mahia rānei e tō hoa, kia mōhio koe ki te kōrero ki tētahi pakeke pono e whakawhirinaki ana koe. Tērā pea ko tō māmā, ko tō pāpā, ko tētahi kaiako, ko tētahi atu mema o te whānau rānei. Ka taea e rātou te āwhina i a koe. Kaua e noho ko koe anake i tēnei āhuatanga.

He aha ēnei "rohe"?

He mea tino nui tēnei. Ko ngā rohe ko te mārama ki ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe, ngā mea kāore e pai ki a koe, ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe, me ngā mea e kore ai koe e pai ki a ia, me te whakapuaki i tēnā ki ētahi atu. Hei tauira:

• Kaua e hoatu ōu mōhiohio whaiaro (hei tauira, te kupuhipa o tō waea) ki tētahi atu tangata, ki te kore koe e hiahia.
• Ki te mea ka kata tetahi e kore ai koe e pai ki te kōrero, kaua e wehi ki te kī atu, "Kāore au i te pai ki tēnā, kaua e kōrero pēnā."
• Ki te pā atu tetahi ki a koe i tētahi āhua kāore koe e pai ki ai, kaua e tukua, aukatia, ka kōrero ki tētahi pakeke.

He mea tino nui te pupuri i ēnei rohe mō tōu whakaute i a koe anō me tōu haumaru.

A, mehemea ko te tangata e pai ana ki ahau he hoa noa iho? Mehemea rānei ka "riro" tetahi hei ahau, kātahi ka whakatau ki te mutu?

Āe, koinei te wāhanga tino uaua. He mea noa te pōuri, te riri, me te mea kei te mutunga te ao i tēnei wā.Ehara i te mea ko koe anake, he tokomaha kua pāngia e ēnei āhuatanga.

• Ngāna kia whakaaetia: Ki te tono koe ki tētahi kia "noho hei hoa" ā, ka mea mai rātou "kāo," he tino uaua. Engari ngāna kia whakaaetia. Me ngana hoki kia atawhai ki taua tangata. Kāore he pai mōu, mō te tangata rānei te riri me te mauahara.
• Kāore tēnei kare ā-roto e mau tonu: Ko te pouri me te pouri e pā ana ki a koe e kore e mau tonu. Ka rerekē aua kare ā-roto i roto i te wā. Ka tūtaki koe ki ngā hoa hou, ā, ka arotahi koe ki ngā mea hou.
• Kōrero ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe: Koinei te mea pai rawa atu hei mahi. Kōrero ki ō mātua, ki tētahi atu pakeke rānei e whakawhirinaki ana koe, mō tēnei. Tērā pea kua pāngia rātou e ngā āhuatanga ōrite i tō tau. Ka taea e rātou te tuku tohutohu pai ki a koe, me te āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i tāu e whakaaro ai.

"E kore te ao e mutu nā te mea kāore ngā mea i haere i te ara i hiahia ai koe, me te tangata kotahi, i te wā kotahi. Ehara i te mea he tangata kino koe, kāore rānei he tangata e pai ki a koe."

Me pēhea koe e tū atu ai i tēnei wā? `(Te Tū atu ki te Oranga Hauora)`

Ina kore tetahi e pai ki a koe, e whara rānei i a koe, tera ētahi huarahi hauora hei whakakore i te mamae:

• Whakaaetia ō kare ā-roto: Ki te pouri koe, whakaaetia. Kaua e huna. Engari kaua hoki e noho puku i roto i taua pouri.
• Kaua e noho roa ki ngā mea kino: Ina tīmata koe ki te whakaaro i ngā mea pēnei i te, "Nāku te he," "Kāore he tangata e pai ana ki ahau," ka kino ake tō wairua. Engari, ngana ki te whakaaro, "Āe, i tēnei wā i pēnei te āhua, ā, i te wā e whai ake nei ka pai ake."
• Mahia ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe: Whakangawari i a koe. Tuhia he pikitia, whakarongo ki tētahi waiata, pānui pukapuka, tākaro kēmu, kōrero ki ō hoa.
• Tiakina koe: Kai pai, whakakori tinana, me te moe nui. Mēnā he hauora tō tinana, he māmā ake te pupuri i te hauora hinengaro.

Hei whakamutunga, ngā mea hei maumahara (Karere hei tango ki te kāinga)

Nō reira, ahakoa te ahua uaua o tēnei kōrero "haere atu", kāore i te kino rawa ina mārama tika koe.

• He mea noa ō kare ā-roto: He mea noa te aroha ki tētahi. Kaua e whakama mōna.
• Kaua e wehi: Kaua e wehi ki te tīmata i tētahi whanaungatanga. Taria kia tino rite koe.
• Haumaru me ngā rohe: Whakaarohia tō haumaru. Kia mōhio ki ō rohe, ā, whakautehia. Ki te mea kei te whiti tetahi i aua rohe, kaua e tukua kia takahia e ia.
• Ngā pakeke pono: He mea nui kia whai pakeke pono koe hei kōrero atu mō ngā raruraru, ngā uauatanga rānei e pā ana ki a koe. Kaua e wehi ki te rapu i tā rātou āwhina.
• He mea nui koe: Ahakoa e pai ana tetahi ki a koe, e kore rānei, he mea nui koe. Kāore tō harikoa, tō āmua, e whakatauhia ana e te hiahia o tētahi atu tangata.

Kia maumahara, koinei te wā pai rawa atu mōu ki te mōhio ki a koe anō, ki te whakawhanake i ō pūkenga, me te hanga hoa pai. Nō reira, whakaritea aua mea hei kaupapa matua. Ka whakaaetia hoki te aroha me ngā whanaungatanga ina tae mai te wā. I tēnei wā, tiakina koe!

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