Ina mate ohorere tetahi e tino tata ana ki a koe, pērā i tō tāne, tō wahine, tō tamaiti, tō whaea, tō pāpā rānei, i tētahi wā e kore e taea te whakaaro... Kāore e taea te whakaahua i te mamae e pā ana ki a koe, kāore? Me te mea kua hinga te ao katoa ki a koe. Me pēhea e tīmata anō ai tō oranga i muri i tētahi ohorere nui me te pouri e kore e taea te pupuri? Me pēhea e ara ake ai koe me te whakamarie i tō hinengaro mō ētahi atu? I tēnei rā ka kōrero tātou mō ētahi mea hei āwhina i a koe ki te kimi i taua kaha.
Ngā kōrero mō ngā whaea i huri i te pouri hei kaha
Ahakoa nō ngā whaea o tāwāhi ēnei kōrero, kāore te pouri e mōhio ki te whenua, ki te iwi, ki te whakapono rānei. He mea noa tēnei kare ā-roto mō te katoa. Waihoki, ko te kaha o te tangata ki te wikitoria i te pouri. Tirohia te āhua o te manawanui o ēnei whaea i muri i te matenga o ā rātou tāne i tētahi whakaekenga kaiwhakatuma ohorere, i taua pouri, ā, i tū ake mō ā rātou tamariki me te hapori.
Te Kōrero a Laura: Te Tū Atu mō te Tamaiti
He tama tā Laura, e whā tau te pakeke, he mate motuhake tōna, arā, he autism, ko Willie tōna ingoa. Nā Laura rāua ko tana tāne i tiaki a Willie. Engari i muri i te matenga ohorere o tana tāne, ka taka te kawenga katoa o Willie ki ngā pakihiwi o Laura.
I tino pouri te tama mō te matenga o tōna matua. I wareware ia ki ngā mea i akohia e ia me tōna matua, hei tauira, me pēhea te haere ki te wharepaku ko ia anake. I tumanako ia ka hoki mai tōna matua. Nā te mea kāore i taea e ia te kōrero, ko te "pōuri" anake tana i taea ai te kī tonu i te reo tohu.
I tēnei wā, ko te mea nui rawa atu i meatia e Laura ko te tuku i tana tama ki tētahi kura pai. I oti i a ia, ahakoa he tino uaua. Āta ora ake tana tama. Inaianei kei te maumahara ia ki tōna matua me te harikoa. Kei te mahi a Laura ki te hanga i tētahi kura motuhake mō tana tama me ētahi atu tamariki autō. He moemoeā tēnei nā rāua ko tana tāne.
Ia tuu atu oe i to oe iho pouri i te hiti, a rave ai i te tahi mea no te tahi e whakawhirinaki nei ia oe, e riro mai te reira ei puna nui no te puai ia ora.
Te Kōrero a Patricia: Te Āwhina i Ētahi Atu kia Mamae
E ono tau i mua atu i tēnei aituā, i mate tētahi o ngā tamāhine a Patricia i te niumōnia pūkahukahu. Kātahi ka mate anō hoki tana tama i taua aituā anō. Nā te kore e taea te manawanui i te mamae, ka haere ia ki te kite i tētahi tohunga hinengaro , i tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei. I tohua e te tākuta he rongoā ārai pouri me ngā rongoā whakamarie i a ia.
Kāore ia i mutu i reira. I whakatau ia kia āwhina i ētahi atu e mamae ana pērā i a ia. I tīmata ia i tētahi rōpū tautoko i tōna rohe mō ētahi atu whānau kua mate ō rātou whanaunga. Nā tēnei, he maha ngā tāngata kua whai wāhi ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou pouri me te kimi i te rangimārie o te hinengaro.
"Me i konei taku tama, kua tino whakahīhī ia ki ahau," te kī a Patricia. Kua whakatau ia ki te hanga i tētahi mea pai mai i te matenga o āna tamariki .
He aha ētahi huarahi hei āwhina i te whakamātau i te pouri?
Mai i ēnei kōrero, ka kite tātou i ngā huarahi rerekē i aro atu ai ēnei whaea ki ō rātou pouri. Engari i kitea e rātou katoa tētahi kaupapa. Me whakarāpopoto tēnei ki tētahi ripanga.
| Me pēhea te aro atu ki te wero | Whakaahuatanga me te tauira |
|---|---|
| Te kimi i tētahi kaupapa hou | Te aroha o Laura ki tāna tama he hunga hauā, me āna mahi ki te whakatū i tētahi kura mō ētahi atu tamariki pērā i a ia. |
| Te āwhina i ētahi atu | I tīmata a Patricia i tētahi rōpū tautoko mō te hunga e pouri ana pērā i a ia, me te whakaaro kāore ia i te mokemoke, ā, kei te kitea te whakamarie i roto i te mahi ki ētahi atu. |
| Te whawhai mō te huringa | Tokorua atu ngā whaea (ko Sally rāua ko Domenica) i whakatū i tētahi rōpū hei akiaki i ngā huringa ki ngā ture haumaru hanga whare kia kore ai ētahi atu e pāngia e te mate rite ki ā rātou tamariki. |
| Kia kaha tonu mō te whānau | Ko Diana, e ngana ana kia kaha i mua i āna tamariki. I te wā e hiahia ana rātou ki te tangi, ka tangi ko ia anake hei tuara kaha mō rātou. |
| Te tiki āwhina mai i ētahi atu | E ai ki a Diana, he puna nui te tautoko a ētahi atu wāhine o te hapori mōna. Ehara i te mea pai te noho mokemoke i roto i te pouri, ā, kāore koe e hiahia kia noho mokemoke koe. |
He nui ake tō pouri i ngā rā motuhake?
Ina mate tētahi o ōu whanaunga, ka tino mamae pea i ngā wā motuhake pēnei i ngā rā whānau, te Rā o te Tau Hou, me te Rā o ngā Whaea. He mea noa iho tēnei. Anei ētahi mea hei āwhina i a koe i ēnei wā.
- Whakaaetia ō kare ā-roto: Ki te pōuri koe, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te tangi, waiho noa iho. Kaua e huna ō kare ā-roto mā te whakaaro, "Me kaha ahau." He tukanga roa te pouri. Ehara i te mea ka taea e koe te kī noa, "Āe, kua nui."
- Huihui ki te whānau: Kaua e noho mokemoke, engari me hui tahi me ētahi atu mema o te whānau. Mena he whaea koe me ā tamariki, ka iti ake te taumahatanga o te ngana ki te takaro hei "whaea harikoa " ina noho tahi koe me ētahi atu tāngata.
- Mahia tetahi mea māu ake: Mahia tetahi mea e pai ana ki a koe. Kaukau pai, pānui pukapuka, haere ki tētahi wāhi whakangā, mirimirihia. He mea nui kia atawhai koe i a koe anō.
- Kia maumahara ki te tangata i mate i roto i te aroha: tunua he kai i pai ai rātou, hoatu he koha ki a rātou, hoki atu ki te wāhi i haere tahi kōrua, tirohia ā rātou pikitia, me te whakapuaki i ngā maharatanga pai mō rātou ki ētahi atu.
- Rapua he tohutohu hauora: I ētahi wā ka tino taumaha rawa atu tēnei pouri. Ki te kore e taea e koe te moe, kāore e hiahia ki te kai, kāore rānei e taea e koe te mahi i ō mahi o ia rā, me toro atu ki tō tākuta mō ētahi tohutohu. Ki te tika, ka tukuna koe e ia ki tētahi tohunga hauora hinengaro . Ehara te tono āwhina i te tohu ngoikore, engari he tohu kaha.
He uaua ake te aro atu ki te pouri i puta mai i te ohorere ohorere i te pouri noa, nō reira he mea nui kia rapu āwhina i ēnei wā.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- He mea noa te pōuri nui ina mate te tangata e arohaina ana. Kāore he hē o te pōuri, te tangi rānei. Tukua koe kia rongo i aua kare ā-roto.
- He rerekē te roa o te wā e ora ai te tangata i te pouri. Kaua e akiaki i a koe anō kia "whakaorangia wawetia tēnei."
- Kaua e mamae ko koe anake. Tukua atu tō pouri ki tō whānau me ō hoa. He tino whakamarie tēnei.
- Ko te kimi i tētahi kaupapa hou, pērā i te āwhina i ētahi atu, te manaaki rānei i te hunga e whakawhirinaki ana ki a koe, pērā i ngā tamariki, he puna nui tēnei o te kaha mō te oranga.
- Ki te mea kei te pāngia koe e te mamae e kore e taea te whakamanawanui, kei te pōuri rānei tō hinengaro, kaua e mangere ki te toro atu ki tō tākuta me te rapu tohutohu hauora. He tohu tēnei mō te kaha.
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