E mōhio ana koe ki te āhua o tō oranga? Me kōrero tātou mō ngā Wāhanga Whanaketanga e 8 a Erikson

I a tātou e tipu ake ana, ka tino rerekē ō tātou tuakiri, whanonga, me ngā huarahi whakaaro, kāore? Kāore tātou i rite ki tō tātou tamarikitanga. Kāore tātou i rite ki tō tātou tamarikitanga, engari i waenganui o te pakeketanga. Kua whakaaro koe me pēhea te puta o tēnei huringa? Kua homai e tētahi tohunga hinengaro Tiamana ko Erik Erikson tōna ingoa he whakamārama whakamiharo mō tēnei. I mea ia e waru ngā wāhanga matua o ō tātou oranga mai i te whānautanga ki te mate. I ia wāhanga, ka tūtaki tātou ki tētahi momo "pakanga hinengaro." Ko te huarahi e wikitoria ai tātou i taua pakanga te mea e hanga ana i tō tātou tuakiri, arā, ko wai tātou.

He aha ngā wāhanga whanaketanga e 8 a Erikson?

I te whakarapopototanga, e kī ana te ariā a Erikson ka whanake haere tō tātou tuakiri ego puta noa i ō tātou oranga mā roto i ēnei wāhanga e waru. Ehara i te mea ka mutu tētahi wāhanga, ka tīmata tētahi atu, engari he hononga kei waenganui i ēnei wāhanga, ā, ko ngā mea e toe ana mai i tētahi wāhanga ka pā ki te wāhanga e whai ake nei.

Whakaarohia, he tamaiti nohinohi tēnei, ki te mea kei te whakama ia, kei te ruarua rānei mō ōna pūkenga, kāore taua kare ā-roto e mutu i reira. Ahakoa kua neke atu ia ki ngā wāhanga e whai ake nei o te ao, ka pā tonu aua kare ā-roto ki tōna tuakiri. I taua wā tonu, ka neke atu ia i roto i ētahi atu wāhanga.

Kia mārama tātou he aha ēnei wāhanga e waru.

Kia tirohia tātou ēnei wāhanga takitahi.

He rite ia o ēnei wāhanga ki ngā pereki i te turanga o tētahi whare. Mā te whakatakoto i tētahi ki runga i tētahi ka hangaia he tuakiri pakari.

Wāhanga 1: Pēpitanga (whānau ki te 18 marama) - Te Whakawhirinaki me te Kore Whakawhirinaki

Whakaarohia te whānautanga o tētahi pēpi... kāore ia e mārama ki tētahi mea mō tēnei ao. Kei te whakawhirinaki katoa ia ki tōna whaea, ki tōna pāpā, ki ōna kaitiaki rānei. Ina tangi te pēpi nā te hiakai, nā tētahi atu āhuatanga rānei, ina awhi koe i a ia, ina whāngai koe i a ia, ina whakamarie koe i a ia ki te aroha, ka hangaia te whakawhirinaki i roto i te ngākau o te pēpi.Ka ako ia "tērā tetahi hei tiaki i aku hiahia." I roto i te wā, ka horapa atu tēnei whakawhirinaki ki ētahi atu anō hoki.

Heoi, ki te kore e arohia te pēpi, ā, kāore i tutukihia ana hiahia i te wā tika, ka whanake te wairua kore whakawhirinaki ki a ia . Ki te kore e hangaia te whakawhirinaki i tēnei wā, ka tino uaua ki te hanga i muri mai. Ina puta he raruraru i roto i te ao, ka tino pouri aua tāngata.

Wāhanga 2: Pēpi Nohinohi (18 marama - 3 tau) - Te mana motuhake me te whakama/te ruarua

Koinei te wā e ako ana tāu tamaiti ki te mahi i ngā mea māna ake. Kei te ngana ia ki te kai, ki te whakakakahu i a ia anō, me te toro atu ki tētahi taonga takaro. Ki te whakatenatena koe i a ia i taua wā, me te kī atu, "He rawe tēnā, ka taea e koe," ka whakawhanakehia e ia te māia ki a ia anō me te mana motuhake .

Engari, ki te whakahē koe i a ia mā te kī atu, "Āe, kaua e pena, kāore e taea e koe, ka hinga koe," tera pea ia e whakama, ka ruarua hoki i ōna pūkenga.

Wāhanga 3: Tau kōhungahunga (3-5 tau) - Te whakaaro nui me te hara

Koinei te wā ka tīmata ngā tamariki ki te mahi takitahi, ki te tono mea hou, ki te hanga whare tākaro, ki te tuhi pikitia. Ka tīmata rātou ki te whakaaro he kaupapa, he whāinga hoki tō rātou i te ao. Ina whakatenatenahia rātou e koe ki ngā mea e mahia ana e rātou, ka hihiri rātou ki te whai i tētahi kaupapa . Ka mea rātou, "Māku tēnei e mahi."

Heoi, ki te whakahe koe, ki te whakakore rānei i tā rātou mahi, tera pea ka whakama rātou, ka whakaaro, "Kei te hē taku mahi?"

Wāhanga 4: Tau Kura Tuatahi (6-11 tau) - Te Mahi Ngāwari me te Whakaiti

I tēnei wā, ka tīmata te tamaiti ki te mōhio ki tōna ake tuakiri me ōna ake pūkenga. Ka tīmata ia ki te whakarite i a ia anō ki ōna hoa i te kura me te papa tākaro. He mea tino nui ki a ia te tohu whetu e hoatu ana e te kaiako i roto i te akomanga, arā, te tiwhikete mō te toa i tētahi whakataetae hākinakina.

Ina whiwhi rātou i te tautoko me te mihi mai i ngā kaiako, ngā mātua, me ngā hoa, ka whakaaro rātou he pūkenga, he hua hoki rātou. Heoi, ki te kore ā rātou mahi e mihia, ka whakaaro pea rātou he iti iho , he koretake hoki.

Wāhanga 5: Te Taiohitanga (12-18 tau) - Te whakapoauautanga o te tuakiri me te tūranga

Kua rongo koe i te kupu "raruraru tuakiri"? I ahu mai i tēnei wā. I tēnei wā, ka pātai te tamaiti nohinohi i ōna hinengaro pēnei i te "Ko wai ahau? He aha taku e hiahia ana kia noho? He aha taku tūranga i roto i te hapori?" Kei te ngana rātou ki te whakatū whāinga me ngā uara mō te oranga pakeke.

Ki te taea e rātou te whakatū tika i tō rātou tuakiri i tēnei wā, ka waiho hei kaha nui ki te ao. Engari ki te pēhia rātou e ngā tumanakohanga me ngā kawenga mai i ngā mātua me te hapori, ka mutu pea rātou i roto i te āhua pōhēhē o te tūranga, e kore ai e taea e rātou te mōhio ko wai rātou me te aha e hiahiatia ana e rātou.

Wāhanga 6: Te Pakeketanga Taiohi (19-40 tau te pakeke) - Ngā Hononga Whaiaro me te Motuhake

Koinei te wā e hanga ai tātou i ngā whakahoahoa me ngā whanaungatanga aroha he mea tino nui ki te ao. Ki te whai tikanga, ki te kaha hoki ēnei whanaungatanga, ka rongo koe i te whanaungatanga piripono ki ētahi atu.

Heoi, ki te uaua ki a koe te hanga i ēnei whanaungatanga, tera pea ka noho mokemoke koe, ka noho mokemoke hoki.

Wāhanga 7: Te Tau Waenga (40-65 tau) - Te Huarahi me te Nohopuku

Ina tae koe ki tēnei taumata, ka tino hiahia koe ki te ārahi i āu tamariki, arā, ngā rangatahi o te hapori, me te whakaako i a rātou ki ngā mea e mōhio ana koe. Ka kiia tēnei ko te whakatipuranga . Kei roto i tēnei ko te tango kawenga me te manaaki i te hunga e karapoti ana i a koe.

Engari, ki te kore koe e mahi hei kaiārahi, hei kaiārahi rānei i tētahi ara, ka pōuri pea koe, ka pouri hoki ki te ao. Ka taea e tēnei te arahi i a koe kia noho motuhake mai i ō hoa, i te whānau, i te hapori hoki, ā, ka noho pūmau tonu .

Wāhanga 8: Kaumātuatanga (i muri i te 65 tau) - te hiahia kia tino tika, me te pouri ki te tuakiri

Koinei te wāhanga whakamutunga e karangatia ana e Erikson. I tēnei wā, ka titiro whakamuri tātou ki ō tātou oranga. Ki te makona koe ki te oranga kua ora nei koe, ka koroheke koe me te mana (te pono o te ego) . Ka whakahīhī koe ki tāu i mahi ai. Ka hiahia koe ki te whakapuaki i ō wheako me ō whakaaro nui ki ētahi atu.

Engari, ki te titiro whakamuri koe ki tōu ao, ko ngā mea anake e toe ana ki a koe ko ngā pouri pēnei i te, "Āe, me i pena ahau i taua wā," ā, tera pea ka taka koe ki te pouri .

Mā te mōhio ki ēnei wāhanga ka āwhina i a koe ki te mārama ki tāu tamaiti, me koe anō hoki, hei mātua. Mena kei te pāngia tāu tamaiti, koe rānei e ngā uauatanga rerekē i tētahi wāhanga, he mea nui kia kōrero koe ki tētahi tākuta, ki tētahi tohunga hinengaro rānei mō tēnei mea.