Chikondi cha Abambo: Nkhope Zatsopano za Abambo M'dziko Losintha (Ubambo Wamakono)

Kale, tikamaganiza za “bambo,” timaganiza za munthu amene amasamalira banja, wokhwima pang'ono, komanso wotalikirana ndi ana, sichoncho? Koma lero, chithunzichi chasintha kwambiri. Momwe bambo amasonyezera maudindo ake ndi chikondi chake chasintha. Lero, tikulankhula za kusintha kwa khalidwe la bambo. Mwina nkhaniyi ingakhale nkhani yanunso.

Kusintha kwa mabanja ndi abambo osakwatira

Tiyeni tiganizire za mwamuna wina dzina lake Kamal. Zaka zingapo zapitazo, Kamal ndi mkazi wake anali kukambirana za chisudzulo pamene mwadzidzidzi mkazi wake anamwalira ndi matenda a mtima. Usiku umodzi wokha, Kamal anatsala yekha akukumana ndi vuto lalikulu kwambiri m'moyo wake. Limenelo linali kulera mwana wake wamkazi wazaka 12.

Masiku ano pali abambo ambiri osakwatiwa ngati Kamal kuposa kale lonse. Palinso mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya abambo masiku ano, kuphatikizapo abambo osudzulana, abambo okalamba, ndi abambo olera ana. Izi zikutanthauza kuti lingaliro la "abambo" lakula kwambiri tsopano.

Kamal anazindikira kuti bambo wosakwatiwa angathe kulera mwana bwino, monga momwe banja lilili ndi makolo awiri. Koma ndi ulendo wodzaza ndi mavuto. Monga momwe Kamal akunenera, "Kukhala bambo wosakwatiwa n'kovuta kuposa kukhala mayi wosakwatiwa. Chifukwa anthu amaona mayi wosakwatiwa ngati wabwinobwino. Koma mukaona bambo wosakwatiwa, anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti, 'Mwana ayenera kukhala ndi mayiyo.'"

Monga abambo ambiri osakwatira, Kamal anatengera udindo wake mozama. Anasiya ntchito yake mumakampani a inshuwalansi ndipo anayamba kugwira ntchito kunyumba. Ankafuna kuthandiza mwana wake wamkazi kusukulu, kuphika chakudya, komanso kukhala naye nthawi. Iye anati chinsinsi cha kupambana kwake ndi kulankhulana momasuka ndi mwana wake. "Koma mwana wanga wamkazi nthawi zonse ankadziwa kuti zivute zitani, chisankho chomaliza chinali changa monga kholo," akutero Kamal.

Chikondi cha bambo chimakhala champhamvu ngati chikondi cha mayi.

Mu chikhalidwe chathu, nthawi zambiri timaganiza kuti mayi ndiye amene angathe kusamalira mwana ndikumupatsa chikondi. Koma kodi ndi zoonadi? Kafukufuku wapeza kuti chikondi chachikulu chomwe bambo amakhala nacho pa ana ake ndi chachiwiri kuposa cha mayi.

Abambo osakwatiwa angakumane ndi vuto lalikulu akamalera mwana wamkazi okha. Makamaka mwana wamkazi akafika msinkhu wotha msinkhu, angafunike chitsanzo chachikazi choti alankhule naye ndikumuuza mavuto ake. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kuti, "Panthawi ngati zimenezi, ndikofunikira kugwiritsa ntchito akazi omwe angakhale zitsanzo zabwino pamoyo wa mwana." Akhoza kukhala azakhali, agogo, kapena bwenzi lapamtima la banja.

Malangizo ena oti mukhale bambo wabwino

Kaya ndinu bambo wachinyamata, bambo wachikulire, kapena kholo lokhalo, mfundo zoyambira zomwe mungatsatire kuti mukhale bambo wabwino ndizofanana kwa aliyense.

1. Dzikhululukireni nokha pa zolakwa zanu.

Akatswiri a zamaganizo amati, “Musayese kukhala kholo langwiro. Chifukwa palibe makolo angwiro padziko lapansi.” Khalani bambo wabwino kwambiri. Mukalakwitsa ndikuona kuti mwaphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwazo, ana anu amaphunzira kuti palibe cholakwika kulakwitsa ndikukhala opanda ungwiro. Imeneyo ndi mphatso yamtengo wapatali kwambiri yomwe mungapatse mwana.

2. Nthano ya 'Nthawi Yabwino'

"Timaganiza kuti mukabwera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito yovutikira ndikutulutsa ana anu kukadya pizza ndi kukaonera filimu Lachisanu madzulo, imeneyo ndi nthawi yabwino." Koma kwenikweni, kafukufuku wa ana wasonyeza kuti ana amafuna bambo wosapsinjika maganizo kwambiri komanso wosapsinjika maganizo kwambiri . Amafuna kukhala opanda mavuto kuntchito ndikungokhala ndi abambo awo, kutanthauza kuti, kukhala ndi nthawi mwamtendere.

3. Pali zinthu zambiri zoti mupereke kuposa ndalama.

Abambo ambiri amaganiza kuti utate wawo umayesedwa ndi kuchuluka kwa ndalama zomwe amapeza pa banja. Zimenezi n'zofunika. Koma ana anu amayembekezera zambiri kuchokera kwa inu. Dzifunseni mafunso awa:

• "Kodi ndikufuna kupereka mfundo zanga kwa mwana wanga?"
• "Kodi ndikufuna kuphunzitsa mwana wanga kugwiritsa ntchito kompyuta momwe ndikufunira?"
• "Kodi ndikufuna kuti mwana wanga aphunzire chikondi kuchokera kwa ine?"

Zinthu zimenezi ndi zamtengo wapatali kwambiri kuposa ndalama.