Unombonzwa sekunge uri papeji rakasiyana nerevamwe here? Kunyange zvazvo shamwari dzingaona mumwe munhu mutsva dzobva dzanzwa kukwezvana, unoona here kuti hausi kunzwa izvozvo zvachose? Pamwe unotanga kunzwa kukwezvana pabonde mushure mekunyatsoziva mumwe munhu uye kuvaka hukama hwakadzama uye hune chinangwa. Chiitiko ichi ndicho chatinodaidza kuti demisexuality .
Chii chinonzi Desexuality?
Zvichitaurwa zviri nyore, kuva nerudo rwepabonde kunowanzoitwa nevanhu vanongoda zvepabonde . Vanhu vanozviti vanhu vanongoda zvepabonde chete vanongoda vamwe chete mushure mekuumba hukama hwakadzama hwepfungwa . Zvichienzaniswa nevanhuwo zvavo, vanhu vakawanda vanongoda zvepabonde kashoma. Kune vamwe, panogona kunge pasina kufarira kukuru mukuita zvepabonde, kana kuti mune dzimwe nguva, hapana kufarira zvachose.
Funga nezvazvo: vanhu vazhinji vanogona kunzwa kudanana nevamwe vanhu pasinei nekuti vane hukama hwepfungwa here kana kuti kwete. Vanogona kunzwa kudanana nevanhu vavasingazivi kana vanhu vavachangobva kusangana navo. Zvisinei, kune munhu asina hukama hwepabonde, kudanana ikoko kwekutanga kunongoerekana kwavapo.
Zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti hukama hwakadzama hwepfungwa hahuvimbisi kuti kukwezvana pabonde kuchatevera. Zvisinei, kubatana ikoko ndiko kunonyanya kukosha kuti munhu afunge nezvekuita zvepabonde. Kunyangwe kana kukwezvana kwacho kukatanga, chido chepabonde chinowanzova chakaderera.
Nguva inotorwa kuti pave nehukama hwemanzwiro hunosiyana kubva pamunhu kusvika pamunhu. Vamwe vanhu vanoita zvepabonde nevanhurume vanogona kuvaka hukama ihwohwo nekukurumidza, nepo vamwe vangatora makore eushamwari. Hukama uhwu hwemanzwiro hahufanirwe kunge huri hwerudo; hunogona kungova hushamwari hwepedyo, husina kurongwa.
Ndingaziva sei kuti ndiri munhu akaita sei? Pane here bvunzo yeDesexuality?
Kwete, hapana bvunzo dzepamutemo dzekurapa dzinoratidza kuti unosarudza zvepabonde here. Zvisinei, ungawana zvichibatsira kuzvibvunza mibvunzo iyi:
- Ndiani waunonzwa uchida zvepabonde naye? Ndeapi manzwiro aanoita mauri?
- Unonzwa kuda zvepabonde here? Kana zvakadaro, kangani, uye manzwiro iwayo akasimba zvakadini?
- Kukwezvana pabonde kunokosha sei kwauri paunosarudza kuenda kunoonana nemunhu?
- Unonzwa uchida zvepabonde nevanhu vausingazive kana vanhu vauchangobva kusangana navo here?
Hapana mhinduro dzakarurama kana dzisina kururama kumibvunzo iyi. Kufungisisa nezvayo kunogona kungova pokutangira kunzwisisa hunhu hwako hwepabonde .
Zvinorevei kuva asina zvepabonde kana kuti ari paAsexual Spectrum?
Vanhu vanozviti havana zvepabonde vanonzwa kuda zvepabonde zvishoma kana kuti havafariri kuita zvepabonde uye vanogona kunge vasina kana kufarira kuita zvepabonde. Vanhu vane pabonde rimwe chete dzimwe nguva vanoiswa pasi pemhando yepabonde risingawanzoitiki nekuti havawanzonakidzwa nepabonde. Zvisinei, kusiyana nevanhu vazhinji vasina zvepabonde, vanogona kutanga kuda zvepabonde uye kufarira kuita zvepabonde kana vangosangana nehukama hwakadzama hwepfungwa.
Kusiyana neavo vasina zvepabonde ndekwekuti vanhu vanoita zvepabonde kakawanda, zvisinei nekuti vanoda zvepabonde zvakadii.
Musiyano uripo pakati peDemisexual neGraysexual ndeupi?
Kusava nemurume kana mukadzi uye kusviba kwakafanana asi zvine musiyano mukuru. Vanhu vane murume kana mukadzi vanonzwa kudanana pabonde kashoma kana kuti vasina simba rakawanda. Zvisinei, kusiyana nevanhu vane murume kana mukadzi, havadi hukama hwakadzama hwepfungwa kuti vanzwe kudanana ikoko. Ndiwo musiyano mukuru.
Chii chinonzi Demiromantic?
Kuda kuita zvepabonde kwakafanana nekusaita zvepabonde nevanhurume chete asi kune chekuita nekukwezvana kwerudo. Munhu asingade kuita zvepabonde chete anongonzwa kudanana chete mushure mekunge abatana zvakanyanya. Izvi zvakasiyana nekukwezvana pabonde; chero ani zvake ane chero chido chepabonde anogona kunge asina chido chepabonde.
Ndeupi musiyano uripo pakati peDemisexual nePansexual?
Vanhu vane pabonde risingawanzoonekwi vanowana kukwezvana pabonde nevamwe zvisinei nekuti murume kana mukadzi here kana kuti murume. Mumwe munhu anogona kuva nepfungwa dzisina kuonekwa pabonde uye murume kana mukadzi; izvi zvinoreva kuti vanokwanisa kukwezvana nevanhu verudzi rupi zvarwo, asi chete mushure mekunge hukama hwakakosha hwepfungwa hwasimbiswa.
Unogona kuva munhu akarurama (asina bonde) uye munhu asina bonde here?
Ehe, zvechokwadi. Tinoziva kuti kune mazita akasiyana-siyana ekuda zvepabonde akadai seHeterosexual (inokwezva kune verudzi rwakasiyana), Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, uye Pansexual. Kuda zvepabonde kwakasiyana nekuti kunotsanangura hunhu uye mashandiro ekuona kwako kukwezvana . Vanhu vazhinji vanoshandisa mazita ese ari maviri. Semuenzaniso, unogona kunge uri werudzi rwakasiyana kana kuti une dendemisexual. Muchidimbu, kuda zvepabonde hakusi pamusoro pekuti unokwezvwa nani , asi kuti kukwezvana ikoko kunotanga sei.
Sei zvichikosha kuva nezita rekuti Desexuality?
Ungashamisika kuti sei zita rekuti "label" richikosha. Kune vazhinji vanozviti "demise ngochani", kuva nezita rezvakaitika kwavari kunoita kuti vanzwe sevanhu vemunharaunda, vakabatana nevamwe, uye kuti vazive kuti havasi vega.
Funga nezvazvo: kubva paudiki, kana waisafarira zvepabonde zvakafanana kana maitiro ekukwezvana sevezera rako, ungangodaro wakanzwa kuvhiringidzika, kunetseka, kana kushamisika, 'Pane chakaipa neni here?' kana kuti 'Ndakasiyana nevamwe vese here?'
Izwi rekuti 'demisexual' rinokosha nekuti:
- Zvinobatsira vanhu kuwana nzanga yevanhu vane pfungwa dzakafanana.
- Zvinobatsira vanhu kuti vanzwe vakachengeteka mune zvavari.
- Zvinosimbisa kuti nzira yatinonzwa nayo kukwezvana pabonde ndeyechokwadi uye yakasiyana-siyana .
- Inopa izwi rekuti chiitiko chaigona kunge chakaoma kutsanangura kare.
Mharidzo Yekuenda Nayo Kumba
Tinovimba kuti izvi zvinopa kujeka. Kusada zvepabonde kunoreva vanhu vanongonzwa kuda zvepabonde mushure mekunge vanyatsobatana.
Kuda kuita zvepabonde nevanhurume kunowanzoiswa muchikamu chevanhurume vasina zvepabonde nekuda kwekushaikwa kwechido chepabonde. Zvisinei, vanhukadzi vasina zvepabonde nevanhurume iboka rakasiyana nekuti vanogona uye vanonzwa kukwezvana pabonde uye chishuwo mumamiriro ezvinhu chaiwo. Kuzvinzwisisa uye kukudza manzwiro ako kwakakosha zvikuru.
Dzimwe nguva zvinogona kuoma kutaura nezvenyaya idzi munharaunda medu, asi yeuka: manzwiro ako ane musoro.
Kana uine manzwiro aya uye uchida kuaongorora zvakanyanya kana kutsvaga rubatsiro, usazeza kutaura nenyanzvi yehutano kana nyanzvi yekurapa. Vanogona kukupa ruzivo nerutsigiro rwaunoda kuti uzive kuti uri munhu akaita sei. Hausi wega!
