Mwana wenyu anotya kuenda kuchikoro here? Izvi zvinonzi Scolionophobia here? Ngatitaurei nezvazvo!

Mwana wako mudiki anoita seasingadi kuenda kuchikoro here? Dzimwe nguva anochema here achiti, "Amai/Baba, handigoni kuenda kuchikoro nhasi?" Kusada kuenda kuchikoro kwakajairika. Asi izvi hazvisi kungoda kuenda kuchikoro chete, kune vamwe vana, pfungwa yekuenda kuchikoro inokonzera kutya kukuru uye kuzvidya mwoyo. Chirwere ichi chinongonzi 'Scolionophobia' kana kuti kutya chikoro zvakanyanya. Kunyangwe zvisiri chirwere chaicho chiri mu 'DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders)', vanachiremba vanoona sechimwe chinhu chinowira muchikamu che 'specific phobias'.

Pane nguva dzakawanda apo vana vadiki vasingade kuenda kuchikoro. Izvi zvakajairika. Asi munyaya iyi inonzi `Scolionophobia`, mwana anonzwa asina kuchengeteka uye achinetseka kunyangwe paanofunga kuenda kuchikoro. Dzimwe nguva zvinotorwadza mumuviri. Mwana akadaro anogona kusaenda kuchikoro kwemazuva asina chikonzero chakajeka, kana nezvikonzero zvisingazivikanwi. Izvi zvinonziwo `school phobia` kana `school refuncing`. Rimwe zita ndi `didaskaleinophobia`. Chirwere ichi chinogona kusanganiswa nezvimwe `anxiety disorders`.

Saka, ndiani angatya kuenda kuchikoro ichi?

Kazhinji pakati pemakore gumi nemasere nemakumi maviri nemana, kureva kuti, anenge gore rimwe nehafu kusvika maviri, vana vadiki zvikuru vanotanga "kuzvidya mwoyo kwekuparadzana." Izvi zvinoreva kuti vanochema, vanonetseka, uye vanotya pavanoparadzaniswa naamai vavo, baba vavo, kana muchengeti wavo. Zvisinei, chirwere ichi chinowanzopera sezvo vana vachikura. Kana zvikaitika, vanogona kutanga "scolionophobia."

Kana tichitarisa mberi, vana verudzi urwu vanowanzotya kuenda kuchikoro:

• Kana vabereki vachinyanya kudzivirira vana: Vamwe vabereki vanowanzo nyanya kudzivirira vana vavo kunyangwe pazvinhu zvidiki. Izvi zvinogonawo kukonzera mamiriro ezvinhu aya.
• Vamwe vana vanoberekwa vachinetseka zvishoma: ndizvo zvavari kuita.
• Kana uri iwe wega mwana mumhuri.
• Kana uri mwana mudiki mumhuri.
• Kana uri kurwara nechirwere chisingaperi.

Fungidzira, mwanakomana waNimali, Sandun mudiki. Ndiye ega mwana mumhuri. Amai vake nababa vake vanomuda zvikuru uye vanomutarisira semwana mudiki. Sandun anga achitya zvishoma kubvira achiri mudiki. Paakatanga kuenda kuchikoro, aichema mangwanani ega ega, achiti, "Dumbu rangu rinorwadza amai." Zvakazoonekwa chete paakaratidza kuna chiremba kuti Sandun aitya kuenda kuchikoro.

Unoona kutya kuenda kuchikoro kwakakura sei?

"Kutya vana kuchikoro" uku kunokanganisa vana vari pakati pe2% ne5% chete . Izvi zvinoreva kuti, muchidimbu, mwana mumwe chete pavana makumi maviri anogona kunge aine chirwere ichi.

Izvi zvinonyanya kuonekwa:

• Pakati pevana vadiki, vane makore angangoita mashanu kusvika matanhatu.
• Pakati pevana vezera rechikoro chepakati, vane makore ari pakati pe10-11. (Izvi zvinoreva kuti vane makore mashanu kana matanhatu)

Uyewo, zviratidzo zveScolionophobia zvinogona kuonekwa panguva dzekuchinja kukuru muhupenyu hwemwana, senge mwana paanotanga chikoro chesekondari.

Sei kutya kuenda kuchikoro kuri kukura? Ndezvipi zvikonzero?

Dzimwe nguva, panogona kunge pasina chikonzero chakajeka chechirwere ichi, "Scolionophobia." Zvisinei, matambudziko kuchikoro kana kumba anogona kukonzera mwana kunetseka kana kutya chikoro.

Mhedzisiro yemamiriro epamba:

Vana vane Scolionophobia vanogonawo kunetseka nematambudziko akadai seaya kumba:

• Kutya mhirizhonga kumba kana munzvimbo dzavanogara: Dzimwe nguva mwana anogona kutya paanoona kurwa kumba, kana nekuda kwezvinhu zvakaipa zvichiitika zvakamupoteredza.
• Matambudziko emari: Kana paine matambudziko emari kumba, vana vanonzwawo saizvozvo.
• Kushaikwa kwechikafu nechinwiwa: Kushaikwa kwekudya nekunwa zvakakwana chinhu chinoshungurudza zvikuru.
• Kushaya pekugara pakakodzera kana kushaya pekugara.
• Kusatarisirwa zvizere nevabereki kana vachengeti: Kana vabereki vese vari kubasa, hapana nguva yekutaura nemwana kana kubvunza mibvunzo yake. Fungidzira, vabereki vaKasun vanoshanda kubva mangwanani kusvika husiku. Kasun haana wekuudzawo kusuruvara kwake.
• Shanduko huru mumhuri: Zvinhu zvakaita sekutama kwemba, kurambana kwevabereki, kana kufa kwemumwe munhu.

Mhedzisiro yenharaunda yechikoro:

Vana vanogona kutanga 'Scolionophobia' mushure mekusangana nezviitiko zvakadai kuchikoro:

• Kushungurudzwa, kusekwa, kana kutyisidzirwa nevamwe vana: Vamwe vana vanoseka, vanotyisidzira, kana kuedza kurova vamwe. Izvi zvinogona kuita kuti mwana atye kuenda kuchikoro.
• Kutya kushorwa, kurangwa, kana kusekwa nevadzidzisi kana vashandi vechikoro: Mwana anogona kutya sekuti "Mudzidzisi achandituka," kana kuti "Mudzidzisi achandirova."
• Kuremara pakudzidza: Semuenzaniso, vana vane zvirwere zvakaita se dyslexia (matambudziko ekuverenga nemutauro) kana dyscalculia (kuomerwa nekunzwisisa manhamba nemasvomhu) vanogona kunetseka nekuda kwekuomerwa nebasa rechikoro.
• Kunetseka kana kutya zvakanyanya njodzi huru: Semuenzaniso, kutya chimwe chinhu chakaita sekupfurwa kwevana kuchikoro. Kunyangwe zvinhu zvakadaro zvisingawanzoitika munyika medu, vana vanogona kutya nekuda kwezvinhu zvavanoona munhau.

Kana uchitya kuenda kuchikoro, zviratidzo zvacho ndezvipi?

Kune vana vazhinji vane Scolionophobia, zviratidzo zvikuru ndezvemuviri . Paanenge achifunga kuenda kuchikoro, mwana anogona kusangana nezvinotevera:

• Manyoka.
• Musoro.
• Kusvotwa nekurutsa.
• Maronda emudumbu.
• Kudedera kana kuzununguka kusingadzoreki.

Zviratidzo izvi zvemuviri ndezvechokwadi. Mwana haasi kuita zvekutamba. Kutya kuri mumoyo make ndiko kuri kukonzera matambudziko aya emuviri.

Vana vanogonawo kuva nezviratidzo zvehutano hwepfungwa . Semuenzaniso:

• Kubatirira: Kutya kusiya vabereki kana vanovachengeta. Kuedza kugara navo nguva dzose.
• Kutya rima.
• Zviroto zvinotyisa.
• Kugara uchinetseka nezvekuchengetedzwa kwako kana kwevamwe.
• Zvinhu zvakaita sekugwinha-gwinha, kuridza mhere, uye kuumburuka pasi ('Tantrums').

Semuenzaniso, mwanasikana waAmaya, Mihri. Mangwanani ega ega paanenge ava kuda kuenda kuchikoro, anoti, "Maiwe, dumbu rangu rinorwadza," uye dzimwe nguva anotorutsa. Paanosvika kumba achibva kuchikoro, anenge akanaka. Izvi ndizvo zviratidzo zvemuviri zvaakataura.

Chiremba anoziva sei izvi?

Hapana zviratidzo chaizvo zvekuongorora chirwere che'Scolionophobia'. Kureva kuti, hapana rondedzero chaiyo yekuti "kana uine zviratidzo izvi, une chirwere ichi."

Kuti anzwisise chikonzero chikuru chekuramba kwemwana wenyu kuenda kuchikoro, chiremba anogona kukubvunzai kana kubvunza mwana wenyu zvinhu zvakaita seizvi:

• Zviratidzo zvemwana wako ndezvipi?
• Zviratidzo izvi zvakatanga rini?
• Zviratidzo izvi zvave nenguva yakareba sei zviripo?
• Zviratidzo izvi zvinowedzerwa nechiitiko chaicho kana chimwe chinhu chakaitika nemumwe munhu here?
• Chii chaungaita kuti uderedze zviratidzo izvi?

Chiremba ndiye anosarudza kuti mwana ane chirwere chipi zvichibva pamhinduro dzemibvunzo iyi.

Saka, unobata sei izvi?

Vana vane zviratidzo zvishoma zveScolionophobia vanogona kukunda kutya kwavo kuchikoro, zvichida nerubatsiro rwevabereki vavo kana mudzidzisi.

Zvisinei, kana zviratidzo zvacho zvakanyanya , kana kuti zvine chekuita nechimwe chirwere chepfungwa, vana vanogona kubatsirwa nemishonga yakaita seyi:

• Kurapa nehurukuro:
• Kurapa Nepfungwa Dzepfungwa (CBT): Izvi zvinowanzonzi "kurapa nekutaura." Zvinosanganisira kubatsira mwana kuona pfungwa dzisina kururama, dzisingabatsire. Murapi anobva adzidzisa mwana maitiro ekutsiva pfungwa idzodzo dzisina kururama nepfungwa dzakarurama, dzine musoro. Semuenzaniso, kana mwana achifunga kuti, "Mudzidzisi wangu anogara achindituka," murapi anobatsira mwana kuongorora kana izvozvo zviri zvechokwadi uye kuti sei zvakadaro.
• Kurapa Maitiro Ekutaura (DBT): Mukurapa uku kweDBT, vana vanodzidziswa hunyanzvi huna hwekuvabatsira kubata nemanzwiro akaoma. Murapi anodzidzisa mwana hunyanzvi huviri hunotarisisa kugamuchira uye hunyanzvi huviri hunotarisisa shanduko. Chinangwa ndechekubatsira mwana kunzwisisa kuti pfungwa dzake dzinokanganisa sei maitiro ake. Nekunzwisisa uku, vanogona kudzora zviri nani manzwiro avo asina kunaka uye hukama hwavo nevamwe.

• Kurapa nekuratidzwa pachena: Izvi zvinosanganisira kuisa mwana zvishoma nezvishoma kune chinhu chaanotya. Kutanga, unogona kutanga nekuvaita kuti vafungidzire zvichaitika kuchikoro. Zvishoma nezvishoma, unotarisana nekutya ikoko. Semuenzaniso, kana mwana achitya kuenda kugedhi rechikoro, tanga watarisa gedhi uri kure, uye mangwana acho, swedera pedyo zvishoma, uye nenzira iyi, kutya kuchaderera zvishoma nezvishoma.

• Mishonga: Mishonga inogona kubatsira, kunyanya kana mwana wako aine imwe dambudziko repfungwa. Semuenzaniso, vana vanogona kupihwa mishonga yekudzora marwadzo inonzi Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs). SSRIs, dzakadai seSertraline (Zoloft®) kana Fluoxetine (Prozac®), dzinogona kurapa chirwere chekushushikana. Asi yeuka, mishonga iyi inofanira kungopihwa pasi pekutarisirwa kwachiremba.

Chinonyanya kukosha: Kurapa uku kwose kunofanira kuitwa chete pasi pekutungamirirwa nachiremba ane hunyanzvi kana mupi wezano wehutano hwepfungwa . Usangoita chero chaunoda kuita.

Pane zvimwe here zvine chekuita nekutya kuenda kuchikoro uku?

Ehe. Vana vane matambudziko ekuzvidya mwoyo kana mamwe matambudziko ehutano hwepfungwa vane mukana wekuva netsika iyi yekuramba kuenda kuchikoro. Vana vane scolionophobia vanogonawo kuva nechimwe chezvinotevera:

• Kuora mwoyo.
• Dambudziko reKunetseka Kwakajairika (GAD).
• Dambudziko reObsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). (Ungayeuka kuti takataura nezvazvo munyaya yapfuura.)
• Dambudziko reKupikisa.
• Dambudziko rePost-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
• Dambudziko reKunetseka Kwemagariro Evanhu.

Saka, kana mwana achitya kuenda kuchikoro, zvakakosha zvikuru kuferefeta kana chikonzero chacho chiri chimwe chirwere chakaita sechi.

Mwana wangu angakunda sei kutya kwake kuenda kuchikoro ichi?

Kana vana vakawanda vakarapwa zvakanaka, vanokunda kutya kwavo kuchikoro. Kune vamwe, kuzvidya mwoyo kunokonzerwa nechikoro hakuperi zvachose, asi vanodzidza kurarama nako.

Pamwe chete nekurapwa kwepamutemo, vana vanogona kudzidza nzira dzekugadzirisa nadzo dambudziko rekuzvidya mwoyo, dzakadai se:

• Kudzidza nzira dzekufungisisa kana dzekufungisisa: Izvi zvinogona kubatsira kuderedza kushushikana. Kune maekisesaizi akareruka ekufungisisa paYouTube ayo kunyange vana vadiki vanogona kuita.
• Kudzidzira maekisesaizi ekufema: Kufema zvakadzama uye kufema zvishoma nezvishoma kunogona kubatsira kudzikamisa pfungwa.
• Kudzokorora zvirevo zvakanaka uye zvinosimbisa (`zvisimbiso`): Kutaura zvinhu zvakaita sekuti "Ndinogona", "Ndine simba", "Ndichakunda izvi".

Zvinhu zvamunogona kuita sevabereki:

• Teerera mwana wako: Teerera mwana wako nemwoyo murefu. Usataure zvinhu zvakaita sekuti, "Chii ichocho, ingonyepa."
• Nzwisisa mwana: Bvuma kuti kutya kwake ndekwechokwadi.
• Taura nevadzidzisi: Zivisa vadzidzisi kuchikoro wowana rutsigiro rwavo.
• Isa zvinangwa zvidiki nemwana wako: Usatarisira zvinhu zvikuru panguva imwe chete. Zviite nhanho imwe neimwe.
• Tsvaga mazano echiremba: Kana uine dambudziko, iva nechokwadi chekuona chiremba kana mupi wezano wehutano hwepfungwa .

Chii chandinofanira kubvunza chiremba wemwana wangu?

Unogona kubvunza chiremba wemwana wako zvinhu zvakaita seizvi:

• Chii chingangove chikonzero chikuru chinoita kuti mwana wangu arambe kuenda kuchikoro?
• Mwana wangu ane chirwere chepfungwa here?
• Mwana wangu angabatsirwa here nekuona chiremba wepfungwa?
• Ndingabatsira sei mwana wangu kukunda kutya uku kuchikoro?

Nekubvunza mibvunzo iyi, muchakwanisa kunzwisisa zviri nani mamiriro acho ezvinhu uye kuwana nzira yakanakisisa yekubatsira mwana wenyu.

Unotya kuita basa rechikoro here?

Ehe. Vamwe vana vanotya zvikuru kuita basa rechikoro, senge basa rechikoro. Kutya uku kwebasa rechikoro kunonzi devwahrphobia . Kana vana vane devwahrphobia vakapihwa basa rakawandisa kuchikoro, vanogona kusangana nekutya kukuru kana zvimwe zviratidzo zvekunetseka zvakanyanya. Ichi chirwere chinodawo kutariswa, kungofanana ne scolionophobia.

Saka, ndezvipi zvinhu zvatinofanira kurangarira kubva munyaya iyi?

Kutya chikoro zvakanyanya. Kunyangwe isiri chirwere chepfungwa, nyanzvi dzakawanda dzinoti kutya chikoro zvakanyanya. Vamwe vana vane chirwere ichi vanonetseka zvakanyanya pavanofunga nezvekuenda kuchikoro. Vanogona kusaenda kuchikoro kwemazuva akawanda pasina chikonzero chakajeka.

Chinhu chinonyanya kukosha ndechekunzwisisa kuti iyi haisi mhosva yemwana kana kuti chimwe chinhu chavakaita nemaune.

Kana mwana aine zviratidzo zvishoma, kuzvidya mwoyo kunokonzerwa nechikoro kunogona kuderedzwa nerubatsiro rwemudzidzisi kana mubereki. Zvisinei, kana zviratidzo zvacho zvakanyanya, vana ava vanogona kubatsirwa nekurapwa uye, kana zvichidikanwa, mishonga inonyorerwa nachiremba.

Kana mwana wako ari kusangana nedambudziko iri, usambomusiya ari ega. Tsvaga mazano echiremba. Chinhu chakakosha ndechekupa mwana wako rudo, kunzwisisa, uye rutsigiro.

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