Ingaba umntwana wakho omncinci ukhula kakuhle? (Uphuhliso lomntwana) Masithethe ngale nto!

Akukho nto imnandi ngaphezu kokubukela umntwana wakho ekhula kwaye efunda izinto ezintsha, akunjalo? Kwangaxeshanye, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukubaluleka kophuhliso lomntwana kwimpilo yakhe nakwimpilo-ntle yakhe. Kuba ukuba kukho ingxaki ekukhuleni komntwana wakho, olu lwazi luya kukunceda uyichonge ngokukhawuleza.

Kuthetha ukuthini uphuhliso lomntwana? Zithini iinkalo zalo eziphambili?

Ngamafutshane, uphuhliso lomntwana yinkqubo umntwana wakho akhula ngayo emzimbeni nasengqondweni ngokuhamba kwexesha, efunda izinto ezintsha. Oogqirha badla ngokwahlula olu phuhliso lube ziinkalo ezine eziphambili:

• Izakhono Zokuhamba Ngeemoto: Oku kubhekisa kwindlela umntwana alawula ngayo iintshukumo zomzimba wakhe. Cinga ngayo njengokusebenzisa izandla zakhe, ukubamba izinto ezincinci ngeminwe yakhe, ukukhasa, ukuhamba, ukubaleka, ukutsiba, nokuhambahamba ngendlela athanda ngayo. Oku kukwaneenxalenye ezimbini, i-Gross Motor Skills, ezizinto ezisebenzisa izihlunu ezinkulu (njengokuhamba, ukubaleka), kunye ne -Fine Motor Skills, ezizinto ezisebenzisa izihlunu ezincinci (ezifana nokuzoba, ukubhala, kunye nokucinezela).

• Izakhono Zokuqonda: Ezi zakhono zinxulumene nobuchule bomntwana bokucinga, ukusombulula iingxaki, ukukhumbula, ukunikel’ ingqalelo, kunye nobuchule bokufunda. Imizekelo ibandakanya ukubuza "Yintoni le?" ngezinto ezincinci, ukujonga izinto ezintsha, kunye nokufumanisa indlela ithoyizi esebenza ngayo.

• Izakhono zoLwimi noNxibelelwano: Ezi zizakhono umntwana wakho azisebenzisayo ukunxibelelana nawe kunye nabanye abantu kunye nokuveza iimfuno zakhe. Oku akubandakanyi nje kuphela amagama awathethayo, kodwa nendlela alila ngayo, ancuma ngayo, enza ngayo izandi, asebenzisa izandla neenyawo zakhe, kwanamehlo akhe ukuze abonise.

• Izakhono zentlalo nezeemvakalelo: Ezi zinxulumene neemvakalelo zomntwana (ezifana nolonwabo, usizi, umsindo). Zikwabandakanya ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye, ukuhlalisana nabanye, ukufunda ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo, kunye nendlela umntwana asabela ngayo kwiimvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha kwakho kunye nabanye.

Zonke ezi nkalo zidibene. Ukukhula kwindawo enye kunceda ukukhula kwezinye.

Zithini ezi ziganeko zophuhliso?

Mhlawumbi ukhe weva ngento ebizwa ngokuba " ziimpawu zophuhliso ." Ezi ziindlela zokuziphatha okanye izakhono ezichongiwe ziingcali, uninzi lwabantwana (ngokuqhelekileyo malunga nabathathu kwabane) abazibonakalisayo xa beneminyaka ethile.

Kubalulekile:Kodwa khumbula, ayingabo bonke abantwana abafanayo. Abanye abantwana benza izinto ezithile kwangethuba, abanye emva kwexeshana. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Ezi ziganeko zizikhokelo nje zokukunceda ufumane umbono ngokubanzi wokukhula komntwana wakho. Aziloluhlu lokuhlola olufanele lulandelwe ngqo.

Ukwazi ezi ziganeko zibalulekileyo kunokukunceda uchonge naluphi na uthintelo lokukhula kwangethuba. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba uhlale uhlola umntwana wakho rhoqo kugqirha wabantwana.

Ngawaphi amanqanaba aphambili okukhula komntwana?

Oogqirha badla ngokwahlula uphuhliso lomntwana lube ziinxalenye ezintlanu eziphambili:

• Iintsana: Ukususela ekuzalweni ukuya kwiinyanga ezili-12. Eli lixesha apho ukukhula ngokukhawuleza kwenzeka khona.
• Abantwana abancinci: Ubudala obuqala kwi-1 ukuya kwi-3. Ngeli xesha, umntwana uba nomdla kakhulu aze azame ukuzenzela izinto eyedwa.
• Isikolo sabantwana abancinci: Iminyaka emi-3 ukuya kwemi-5. Ixesha elibalulekileyo lophuhliso lwezakhono zolwimi kunye nezakhono zentlalo.
• Ubudala besikolo samabanga aphantsi: Uneminyaka emi-5 ukuya kweli-12 ubudala. Uqala ukucinga ngendlela enengqondo aze afunde izinto ezintsonkothileyo.
• Ulutsha: Iminyaka eli-12 ukuya kweli-18. Ixesha lotshintsho olukhulu emzimbeni nasengqondweni.

Makhe sibone ukuba zeziphi izinto umntwana anokuzisebenzisa ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yakhe.

Emva kokuba umntwana egqibe unyaka omnye ubudala, izakhono zakhe zikhula ngokukhawuleza. Isiseko sale nto yinto awayifunda ebuntwaneni bakhe bokuqala. Makhe sijonge oko uninzi lwabantwana abakwenzayo kwiminyaka eyahlukeneyo.

Xa umntwana wakho eneminyaka eli-15 ubudala...

Abantwana abancinci bathanda ukudlala kakhulu kule minyaka. Bafanele bakwazi ukwenza ezi zinto:

• Angaphakama aze athabathe inyathelo elinye okanye amabini ngaphandle koncedo lomntu. Angawa, kodwa uza kuvuka azame kwakhona.
• Angathabatha ukutya ngeminwe yakhe. Khawucinge nje ethatha iqhekeza elincinci lebhisikithi okanye iqhekeza lesiqhamo aze alitye ngokwakhe.
• Bayazi indlela yokuqhwaba izandla xa bonwabile. Xa usenza ihlaya, baqhwaba izandla zabo ngathi "chiri chiri".
• Ukubonisa ithoyizi okanye into ayithandayo. Ulula isandla sakhe aze athi, "Mama, jonga le."
• Goba ithoyizi, ibhere eliyi-teddy, okanye ubonise uthando ngokukugoba nokukuphulula.
• Babukela abanye abantwana bedlala baze bazame ukulinganisa oko bakwenzayo.
• Ukongeza kumagama athi "mama" kunye "notata," bazama ukubiza elinye okanye amabini ngaphezulu . Basenokungachanekanga ncam, kodwa bazama ukulibiza ngokusondeleyo kangangoko.
• Uyaqonda amagama ezinto . Umzekelo, xa ubuza, "Iphi ibhola?", ujonga ibhola ekufutshane.
• Uyayiqonda imiyalelo elula aze ayilandele. Ukuba ucela into ayiphetheyo esandleni sakhe uze wolule isandla sakho, kuba ngathi uza kukunika.
• Xa ufuna uncedo, uyalucela.Mhlawumbi baza kukhomba into ethile, okanye bathethe igama elinxulumene nayo.
• Uyakwazi ukusebenzisa izinto ngendlela eyiyo . Umzekelo, uphatha ikomityi okanye incwadi ngendlela eyiyo.

Yintoni eyenziwa ngumntwana omncinci xa eneenyanga ezili-18 (unyaka omnye nesiqingatha)?

Kule minyaka, umntwana uye waba krelekrele ngakumbi:

• Ungahamba wedwa , ngaphandle koncedo lomntu okanye ukubamba nantoni na.
• Uthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla. Umzekelo, xa ecelwa ukuba ahlambe izandla, elula izandla, okanye xa ecelwa ukuba anxibe ijakethi, unxiba izandla.
• Bazama ukutya ngecephe , kungekuphela nje ngeminwe yabo. Bazama ukusela amanzi kwikomityi engenasiciko (kodwa asenokuchitha kancinci!).
• Uyakwazi ukukhwela nokuhla esitulweni okanye kwisofa ngaphandle koncedo .
• Baqala ukujonga macala onke . Nokuba baya kude nawe kancinci, bayajika ukuze babone ukuba ukhona na.
• Ndihlala phantsi ukuze ndifunde incwadi nawe, kwaye ndinomonde xa ndijonga amaphepha ambalwa .
• Ulingisa izinto ezilula ozenzayo. Ukuba ekubona utshayela ngomtshayelo, uza kuthatha umtshayelo omncinci aze azame ukutshayela naye.
• Usebenzisa ubuncinane amagama amathathu ngaphandle kwegama elithi "mama" nelithi "tata," kwaye ulandela imiyalelo elula esebenzisa amagama kuphela.

Izakhono zomntwana oneminyaka emi-2 ubudala

Xa wayeneminyaka emibini ubudala, umntwana omncinci wayesele efunde izinto ezininzi:

• Ungasebenzisa zombini izandla ngaxeshanye . Umzekelo, ungabamba into ngesandla esinye uze uyivule kwaye uyivale ngesinye.
• Xa ubona omnye umntu ebuhlungu okanye ebuhlungu, unokuyiqonda loo mvakalelo .
• Xa kwenzeka into ethile, ndijonga ubuso bakho ukuze ndibone ukuba uza kusabela njani.
• Amagama amabini adityaniswe ukuchaza izimvo. Njengokuthi "ubisi losana", "imoto iyahamba".
• Xa ubaxelela amagama amalungu omzimba, bayawaqonda baze bawakhombe . Xa ubacela ukuba bakubonise into ethile encwadini, bayayikhomba.
• Abagcini nje ngokukhomba nokushukumisa izandla, basebenzisa izimbo zomzimba ezintsonkothileyo . Banqwala intloko (ukuthi ewe/hayi), njengokungathi bayaqabulana.
• Uyakwazi ukucofa amaqhosha kunye neeswitshi kwiithoyi. Udlala ngeethoyi ezininzi ngaxeshanye.
• Batya ukutya besebenzisa izixhobo ezifana neepuni .
• Uyakwazi ukubaleka, ukukhaba ibhola, nokunyuka izinyuko (ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izandla, ukusebenzisa imilenze kuphela).

Kwinyanga ezingama-30 (iminyaka emi-2 1/2 ubudala) umntwana omncinci

Kwiminyaka emibini enesiqingatha ubudala, umntwana ulumke nangakumbi:

• Badlala nabanye abantwana, okanye badlala kufutshane nabo.
• Xa bexelelwa ukuba “lixesha lokulala,” balandela imiyalelo eqhelekileyo, efana nokuxukuxa amazinyo abo nokunxiba iimpahla zokulala.
• Usebenzisa amagama amalunga nama-50 , wakha izivakalisi ezilula, kwaye wabona ubuncinane umbala omnye.
• Kufana nokondla unodoli ngokucinga ngethoyi njengokutya.Ukudlala ngengcinga (umdlalo wokuzenzisa).
• Basebenzisa izandla zabo ukuvula iingcango, bavule iibhotile, baze batyhile amaphepha encwadi nganye nganye .
• Basebenzisa izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki , njengokubamba isitulo ukuze bafikelele kwinto engaphezulu kwabo.
• Ukutsiba ukusuka emhlabeni ngeenyawo zombini .
• Ukukhulula ijakethi ngaphandle koncedo .

Umntwana oneminyaka emi-3 ubudala

Kule minyaka, abantwana bathanda ukuthetha kakhulu baze babuze imibuzo:

• Ukuba kufuneka uzishiye uye kuhlala nomntu (umz., kwiziko lokugcina abantwana), ungadlula kwintlungu yakho uze uzole kwimizuzu eli-10.
• Xa bebona abanye abantwana, bajoyina baze badlale nabo.
• Bathetha ngcono kunangaphambili, besenza iincoko ezincinci, bebuza imibuzo , kwaye bechaza into emfanekisweni besebenzisa izenzi.
• Uthetha uninzi lwezinto azithethayo ngokucacileyo ukuze abanye baziqonde . Uzibiza igama lakhe xa ebuzwa.
• Uyaqonda izilumkiso ezinje ngokuthi "Musa ukuyichukumisa, ishushu" aze enze ngokufanelekileyo .
• Xa beboniswa indlela yokukwenza, bazoba imilo efana nesangqa baze basebenzise izandla zabo ukuncamathisela izinto ezifana namabhidi kwintambo.
• Ukutya ngefolokhwe .
• Ndifuna uncedo olungakumbi lokunxiba, njengokunxiba ibhulukhwe enkulu nejakethi.

Umntwana oneminyaka emi-4 ubudala

Umntwana wakho akasengumntwana omncinci. Kule minyaka, abantwana abaninzi benza ezi zinto:

• Xa bedlala, bazenza njengomnye umntu (okanye njengesilwanyana) .
• Xa ndibona umntu ebuhlungu okanye ebuhlungu, ndiyamthuthuzela .
• Bayaqonda indlela yokuziphatha kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo, njengethala leencwadi okanye indawo yokudlala, baze baziphathe ngokufanelekileyo.
• Bayazazi iingozi baze baziphephe, njengokungatsibi besuka kwindawo ephakamileyo.
• Bakucela ukuba wenze izinto abacinga ukuba ziya kukunceda, okanye bazame ukwenza izinto abacinga ukuba ziya kukunceda. Ukuba ucela uncedo, bayakunika.
• Uthetha izivakalisi zamagama amane nangaphezulu . Uthetha imigca evela kwiingoma namabali. Uthetha ngento ayenzileyo ngaphambili ngaloo mini.
• Uphendula imibuzo elula efana nokuthi "Ziyintoni izihlangu?"
• Ubiza imibala eyahlukeneyo yezinto azibonayo.
• Zoba umfanekiso womntu onentloko, iingalo, imilenze (mhlawumbi neenkcukacha ezingaphezulu).
• Ukuba ubethe ibhola enkulu , uza kuyibamba rhoqo .
• Ukukhulula amaqhosha . Ukubamba ipensile okanye ikrayoni akwenziwa ngokubamba isiphatho, kodwa kwenziwa ngokusebenzisa ubhontsi kunye neminye iminwe.

Umntwana oneminyaka emi-5 ubudala

Kwiminyaka emihlanu ubudala, sele kuza kufuneka siqale isikolo. Abantwana abaninzi benza ezi zinto:

• Balandela imithetho xa bedlala baze balinde ithuba labo.
• Ekhaya , ndenza imisebenzi elula efana nokucoca itafile nokuncedisa ekuhlambeni impahla.
• Ukuba neencoko ezinde, ukubalisa amabali amade(Intetho eneenxalenye ezininzi, okanye iincoko eziphindaphindwayo izihlandlo ezingaphezu kwesithathu okanye ezine).
• Uqonda kwaye usebenzisa amagama anemvano-siphelo . Ubala ukuya kwi-10. Uqonda kwaye usebenzisa amagama exesha afana nala izolo, namhlanje, nangomso.
• (Ngaphandle kokubukela iTV okanye ukuba sefowunini) Hlala ugxile kwinto ethile imizuzu emi-5 ukuya kweli-10 ngexesha .
• Bayazazi ezinye iileta xa ziboniswa, okanye babhale oonobumba abambalwa bamagama abo.
• Awunakukwazi nje kuphela ukuvula iqhosha, kodwa ungalivula neqhosha .
• Tshiba ngomlenze omnye .

Kuthekani ukuba umntwana wam akenzi izinto ezithile ezifanele iminyaka yakhe?

Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive ukhathazekile kancinci xa ubona ukuba umntwana wakho akenzi ezinye zezinto ezikolu luhlu ngokweminyaka yakhe. Kodwa ungoyiki . Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba la manqanaba ophuhliso ayizikhokelo nje eziqhelekileyo . Wonke umntwana wahlukile. Umntwana wakho usenokuba netalente kakhulu ngandlela thile, kodwa ngenye indlela, unokufuna ixesha elingakumbi kunye noncedo.

Ukuba unemibuzo okanye iinkxalabo malunga nophuhliso lomntwana wakho okanye ezi ziganeko zibalulekileyo, umntu ofanelekileyo onokuthetha naye ngugqirha wabantwana womntwana wakho . Uyakwazi ukuvavanya uphuhliso lomntwana wakho aze akunike iingcebiso ozifunayo. Unokukwazi ukuthumela umntwana wakho kunyango lomzimba , unyango lomsebenzi , okanye unyango lokuthetha ukuba kuyimfuneko. Okanye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, angakuthumela kwenye ingcali aze akunike izibonelelo ezongezelelweyo kunye nenkxaso.

Khumbula, uphuhliso lomntwana ngamnye lunokwahluka kakhulu. Ezi ziganeko azilulo uluhlu lokuhlola olufanele lulandelwe ngqo, kodwa ziimpawu endleleni. Nangona kunjalo, umntwana wakho uya kuhlala eludinga uthando lwakho, inkathalo kunye nenkxaso yakho kolu hambo.

Izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ekufuneka uzikhumbule

Ngoko ke, ukukhula komntwana kuyamangalisa, kwaye yinto ekufuneka iqwalaselwe.

• Wonke umntwana wahlukile: Wonke umntwana ukhula ngesantya sakhe. Musa ukumthelekisa nabanye abantwana.
• Izikhokelo ezibalulekileyo kuphela: Ezi zenzelwe ukukunceda ufumane umbono ngokubanzi wophuhliso lomntwana wakho.
• Funa ingcebiso kagqirha: Ukuba uneengxaki malunga nokukhula komntwana wakho, ungathandabuzi ukubonana nogqirha wabantwana. Ukuba ingxaki ichongiwe kwangethuba, kulula ukuyinyanga.
• Nika umntwana wakho uthando nenkxaso: Uthando lwakho kunye nenkuthazo yakho zingumthombo omkhulu wamandla kuwo onke amanqanaba okukhula kwakhe. Dlala naye, thetha naye, kwaye umfundise izinto ezintsha.

Siyavuyisana nawe ngolu hambo luhle lokukhula komntwana wakho omncinci!

Ukukhula komntwana , uphuhliso lomntwana, izigaba zophuhliso, uphuhliso losana, uphuhliso lomntwana omncinci, umntwana wangaphambi kwesikolo, izakhono zomntwana