Ngaba ukhe uzive ngathi ukwiphepha elahlukileyo kunabanye? Nangona abahlobo banokubona umntu omtsha baze bazive benomtsalane ngoko nangoko, ngaba ufumanisa ukuba awuziva ezo mvakalelo konke konke? Mhlawumbi uqala ukuziva unomdla wesondo emva kokuba umazi kakuhle umntu kwaye wakhe unxibelelwano olunzulu nolunentsingiselo. La mava yinto esiyibiza ngokuba yi-demisexuality .
Yintoni i-Desixuality?
Ngamafutshane, ukungafuni abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo kukuthanda abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo . Abantu abazibiza ngokuba ngabantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo bafumana ukutsaleleka kwabanye abantu ngokwesondo emva kokwakha ubudlelwane obunzulu ngokweemvakalelo . Xa kuthelekiswa nabantu ngokubanzi, abantu abaninzi abathandana nabobulili obufanayo bafumana ukutsaleleka ngokwesondo rhoqo. Kwabanye, kusenokuba nomdla omncinci kakhulu kwimisebenzi yesondo, okanye kwezinye iimeko, kungabikho mdla konke konke.
Cinga ngale nto: uninzi lwabantu lunokuba nomdla wokwabelana ngesondo nabanye abantu nokuba banonxibelelwano lweemvakalelo. Basenokuziva benomdla kubantu abangabaziyo okanye abantu abasandula ukudibana nabo. Nangona kunjalo, kumntu ongatshatanga ngokwesini, loo mnqweno wokuqala, ozenzekelayo awuhlali ukho.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ulwalamano olunzulu ngokweemvakalelo aluqinisekisi ukuba umtsalane wesondo uya kulandela. Nangona kunjalo, olo lwalamano luyimfuneko ekucingeni ngezenzo zesondo. Nokuba umtsalane ukhula, umnqweno wesondo udla ngokuba sezantsi.
Ixesha elithathwayo ukwakha olu nxibelelwano lweemvakalelo liyahluka ukusuka kumntu ukuya komnye. Abanye abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye banokwakha olo lwalamano ngokukhawuleza, ngelixa abanye benokuthatha iminyaka yobuhlobo. Olu nxibelelwano lweemvakalelo akufuneki lube lolothando; lunokuba ngumhlobo osondeleyo nowengqondo.
Ndingayibona njani indlela endithanda ngayo? Ngaba kukho uvavanyo lwe-Desexuality?
Hayi, akukho vavanyo lwezonyango olusemthethweni oluza kuqinisekisa ukuba uthandana nomntu onjani ngokwesondo. Nangona kunjalo, ungakufumanisa kuluncedo ukuzibuza le mibuzo:
- Ngubani otsaleleka kuye ngokwesondo? Luhlobo luni lweemvakalelo abazivuselelayo kuwe?
- Ngaba ukhe utsaleleke ngokwesondo? Ukuba kunjalo, kangaphi, kwaye zinamandla kangakanani ezo mvakalelo?
- Kubaluleke kangakanani ukutsaleleka ngokwesondo kuwe xa ugqiba ekubeni uye kwi-date?
- Ngaba uziva unomdla wesondo kubantu ongabaziyo okanye abantu osandul’ ukudibana nabo?
Akukho zimpendulo zichanekileyo nezingalunganga kule mibuzo. Ukucinga ngazo kunokuba yindawo yokuqala yokuqonda ubuwena bakho ngokwesondo .
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumntu ongenayo i-sexual okanye ukuba kwi-Asexual Spectrum?
Abantu abazibiza ngokuba ngabantu abangenazo isondo abanamava amaninzi okutsaleleka ngokwesondo okanye abangenazo isondo kwaye basenokuba nomdla omncinci okanye bangenawo kwaphela kwizenzo zesondo. Abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye ngamanye amaxesha babekwa phantsi kwe- asexual spectrum kuba nabo abanawo umdla rhoqo wesondo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokungafaniyo nabantu abaninzi abangenazo isondo, banokutsaleleka ngokwesondo kunye nomdla kwizenzo zesondo xa sele benobudlelwane obunzulu beemvakalelo.
Isichasi se-asexual yi-allosexual, ebhekisa kubantu abafumana umdla wesondo rhoqo, nokuba bakhetha ntoni na.
Yintoni umahluko phakathi kwe-Demisexual kunye ne-Greysexual?
Ubungqingili kunye nobungqingili bufana kodwa bunomahluko ophambili. Abantu abangqingili bafumana umdla wesondo rhoqo okanye kancinci. Nangona kunjalo, ngokungafaniyo nabantu abangqingili, akufuneki ukuba babe nobudlelwane obunzulu beemvakalelo ukuze bafumane loo mtsalane. Nguwo lowo umahluko ophambili.
Yintoni iDemiromantic?
I-demiromanticism ifana ne-demisexuality kodwa inxulumene nomtsalane wothando. Umntu o-demiromantic ufumana umtsalane wothando kuphela emva kokuba kwakheke ubudlelwane obunzulu beemvakalelo. Oku kwahlukile kumtsalane wesondo; nabani na onomdla wesondo unokuba ne-demiromantic.
Yintoni umahluko phakathi kwe-Demisexual kunye ne-Pansexual?
Abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye banomdla wokwabelana ngesondo nabanye abantu nokuba bangoobani na okanye bangoobani na. Omnye umntu unokuba ngumntu othandana nabantu besini esinye okanye abe ngumntu othandana nabantu besini esinye; oku kuthetha ukuba bayakwazi ukutsaleleka kubantu besini ngasinye, kodwa kuphela emva kokuba kusekwe ulwalamano olubalulekileyo lweemvakalelo.
Ngaba ungaba ngumntu othe ngqo (ongathandana nabantu besini esinye) kwaye ube ngumntu othandana nabantu besini esinye?
Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo. Siyazi ukuba kukho iilebhile ezahlukeneyo zokuthandana ngokwesondo ezifana ne-Heterosexual (etsaleleka kwisini esahlukileyo), i-Gay, i-Lesbian, i-Bisexual, kunye ne-Pansexual. I-Desexuality yahlukile kuba ichaza uhlobo kunye nendlela oziva ngayo umtsalane . Abantu abaninzi basebenzisa zombini ezi lebhile. Umzekelo, usenokuba ngumntu othandana nomntu okanye umntu othandana nomntu. Ngamafutshane, i-demisexuality ayikuko ukuba utsaleleka kubani , kodwa yindlela loo mtsalane okhula ngayo.
Kutheni kubalulekile ukuba negama elithile le-Demisexuality?
Usenokuzibuza ukuba kutheni kufuneka ilebheli. Kwabaninzi abazibiza ngokuba ngabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye, ukuba negama ngenxa yamava abo kunika imvakalelo yokuba yinxalenye yoluntu, ukuba yinxalenye yabanye, kunye nokuqonda ukuba ababodwa.
Cinga ngale nto: ukususela ebuntwaneni, ukuba ubungenazo izinto ozithandayo ngokwesondo okanye iindlela zokutsaleleka njengoontanga bakho, usenokuba uzive udidekile, uxhalabile, okanye uzibuze, 'Ngaba kukho into engalunganga ngam?' okanye 'Ngaba ndahlukile kwabanye abantu?'
Igama elithi 'demisexual' libalulekile kuba:
- Inceda abantu bafumane uluntu lwabantu abacinga ngendlela efanayo.
- Inceda abantu bazive bekhuselekile ngakumbi kubuntu babo.
- Iqinisekisa ukuba indlela esidibana ngayo nomtsalane wesondo iyinto eqhelekileyo nebanzi .
- Inika igama elichaza amava ekusenokwenzeka ukuba ayengacaciswa ngaphambili.
Umyalezo oya nawo ekhaya
Siyathemba ukuba oku kuya kucacisa. Ukuthandana kwabantu besini esinye kubhekisa kubantu abafumana umdla wesondo kuphela emva kokuba unxibelelwano olunzulu lweemvakalelo luqalisiwe.
Ukuthandana kwabantu besini esinye kudla ngokuhlelwa phantsi kwesambulela esingenanto yakwenza nesini ngenxa yokuba umnqweno wesondo uphantsi. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye bahlukile kuba banokufumana umdla wesondo phantsi kweemeko ezithile. Ukuziqonda kunye nokuhlonipha iimvakalelo zakho kubaluleke kakhulu.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima ukuthetha ngezi zihloko kuluntu lwethu, kodwa khumbula: iimvakalelo zakho zifanelekile.
Ukuba unale mvakalelo kwaye ungathanda ukuyiphonononga ngakumbi okanye ufune isikhokelo, ungathandabuzi ukuthetha nomboneleli wezempilo okanye ingcali yezonyango efanelekileyo. Banokukunika izixhobo kunye nenkxaso oyifunayo ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda ubuwena bakho. Awuwedwa!
