Ngaba nawe udinga unxibelelwano olunzulu lweemvakalelo ukuze utsaleleke kumntu wesondo? (Ukuthandana nabantu besini esinye) Masithethe ngayo!

Ngaba nawe ngamanye amaxesha uvakalelwa ngolu hlobo? Xa abahlobo bakho besithi, “Umhle, ndiyamthanda” xa uqala ukudibana nomntu omtsha, awunalo olo luvo? Okanye uziva unomdla wesondo kumntu emva kokuba umazi kakuhle, unobuhlobo obusondeleyo, okanye ulwalamano olunzulu? Leyo yimeko esiza kuthetha ngayo namhlanje. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-'Demisexuality'.

Yintoni 'i-Demisexuality'?

Ngamafutshane, 'i-Demisexuality' yindlela yokuthandana ngokwesondo . Abantu abazibiza ngokuba 'yi-Demisexual' batsaleleka kumntu ngokwesondo kuphela emva kokuba benobudlelwane obunzulu beemvakalelo nalowo mntu. Xa kuthelekiswa nabantu ngokubanzi, abantu abaninzi 'be-Demisexual' abafumani mdla wesondo rhoqo. Abanye basenokuba nomdla omncinci kwimisebenzi yesondo, okanye bangabi namdla konke konke.

Cinga nje, uninzi lwabantu lunokutsaleleka kumntu othile ngokwesondo, nokuba banonxibelelwano naye ngokweemvakalelo okanye akunjalo. Banokutsaleleka kumntu abangamaziyo okanye abadibana naye okokuqala. Kodwa umntu othandana nabantu besini esinye akaziva olu thando lokuqala ngokwesondo.

Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba akukho siqinisekiso sokuba unxibelelwano lwengqondo luya kukhokelela ekutsalweni ngokwesondo. Nangona kunjalo, olo nxibelelwano lubalulekile nokuba ucinge ngezenzo zesondo. Nokuba kwenzeka loo nto, umnqweno wezenzo zesondo uhlala uphantsi kakhulu.

Ixesha elithathwayo ukuze olu nxibelelwano lweemvakalelo lukhule liyahluka ukusuka kumntu ukuya komnye. Kwabanye abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye, olu nxibelelwano lunokukhula ngokukhawuleza. Kwabanye, lunokwenzeka emva kweminyaka yokuthandana. Olu nxibelelwano lweemvakalelo akufuneki ukuba lube 'luthando'. Lunokuba lubuhlobo obusondeleyo nobunobuhlobo.

Ndingazazi njani ukuba ndingubani? Ngaba kukho uvavanyo lwe-'demisexuality'?

Hayi, akukho vavanyo olunokukuxelela ngqo ukuba yintoni na isini sakho. Kodwa ungazibuza le mibuzo:

• Ngoobani onomdla kubo ngokwesondo? Bakwenza uzive njani?
• Ngaba uziva utsaleleka ngokwesondo? Ukuba kunjalo, kangaphi? Uziva unamandla kangakanani?
• Kubaluleke kangakanani ukutsaleleka ngokwesondo xa ugqiba ekubeni uthandane nomntu?
• Ngaba uzifumana unomdla wesondo kubantu abatsha odibana nabo, ongabaziyo?

Akukho zimpendulo zichanekileyo nezingalunganga kule mibuzo.Kodwa ukucinga ngale mibuzo kungaba sisiqalo sokuba uqonde ukuba ungumntu onjani ngokwesondo .

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ``umntu ongasebenzisi ucansi`` okanye ukuba `` umntu osebenza ngaphandle kocansi`` ?

Abantu abazibiza ngokuba "ngabantu abangafuniyo ukuzibandakanya ngokwesondo" abanamdla kangako okanye abanawo kwaphela. Basenokuphelelwa ngumdla kwimicimbi yesondo.

Abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye ngamanye amaxesha babizwa ngegama elithi "asexual" kuba abasoloko beziva betsaleleka ngokwesondo. Nangona kunjalo, banokuziva betsaleleka ngokwesondo kwaye benomdla kwizinto zesondo emva kokuba bekhe ubuhlobo obungokweemvakalelo nomntu othile.

Isichasi se-asexual yi-allosexual. Abantu abazibiza ngokuba ngabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye badla ngokuba nomdla wesondo, nokuba bakhetha ntoni na.

Yintoni umahluko phakathi kwe-'Demisexual' kunye ne-'Graysexual'?

I-'Demisexuality' kunye ne-'Graysexuality' ziyafana kancinci, kodwa kukho umahluko omncinci. Abantu abazibiza ngokuba yi-'Graysexuality' abafane bafumane umdla wesondo, okanye abanamnqweno mkhulu wokuzibandakanya kwizenzo zesondo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokungafaniyo nabantu 'be-Demisexual', abantu 'be-Graysexual' akufuneki badibane ngokweemvakalelo ukuze bazive benomdla wesondo. Nguwo lowo umahluko ophambili.

Yintoni le 'Demiromantic'?

I-'Demiromanticism' ifana ne-'Demisexuality', kodwa kukho umahluko omncinci. Ukuze umntu 'ongumntu ongumntu ongumntu ongumntu ofana nowemvelo' azive enothando ngomntu othile, kufuneka kuqala abe nonxibelelwano lwengqondo naloo mntu. Asithethi ngokutsaleleka ngokwesondo, sithetha ngeemvakalelo zothando apha. Nabani na onomdla wokwabelana ngesondo unokuba 'ngumntu ofana nowemvelo'.

Yintoni umahluko phakathi kwe-'Demisexual' kunye ne-'Pansexual'?

Abantu abazibiza ngokuba "ngabantu abathanda i-Pansexual" batsaleleka kuye nabani na ngokwesondo, nokuba bangobani na isini okanye ukuba bangobani na . Umntu unokuba "ngumntu othanda i-Pansexual" kunye "nomntu othanda i-Demisexual" ngaxeshanye. Oku kuthetha ukuba banokutsaleleka kumntu onobuntu bakhe, kodwa ukuze loo nto itsaleleke, kufuneka kuqala kubekho unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo olukhankanyiweyo ngaphambili.

Ngaba umntu angaba `ngowesilisa` nokuba 'ungowesilisa` (ongowesilisa)?

Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo kunokwenzeka. Siyazi ukuba kukho amagama amaninzi okukhetha isini, afana nelithi `Heterosexual` (utsaleleka kwisini esahlukileyo), `Gay` (ungqingili), `Lesbian` (ungqingili), `Bisexual` (utsaleleka kwizini zombini) kunye nelithi `Pansexual` (utsaleleka kuzo zonke iimpawu zesini).

Ileyibhile ethi `Demisexuality` yahlukile. Ibhekisa kuhlobo lomtsalane ovakalelwa ngabanye kunye nendlela ovela ngayo.Malunga. Abantu abaninzi bazichaza ngeendlela zombini. Umzekelo, ungaba `Heterosexual` kodwa ube `Demisexual`, okanye ungaba `Pansexual` kodwa ube `Demisexual`. Ngamafutshane, 'Demisexuality` ayingomntu omthandayo, kodwa yindlela eyenzeka ngayo loo mtsalane.

Kutheni le nto 'i-Demisexuality' ifuna ilebhile okanye igama elahlukileyo?

Usenokuba uzibuza oku. Enyanisweni, kubantu abaninzi abazibiza ngokuba 'ngabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye', ukuba nale leyibhile kubanika imvakalelo yokuba luluntu kwaye bayinxalenye yabanye, imvakalelo yokuba ababodwa kwaye kukho nabanye abafana nabo .

Khawucinge nje, mhlawumbi bebephantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu nokudideka ukususela ebuntwaneni, bezibuza, "Ngaba kukho into engalunganga ngam?", "Ngaba ndahlukile kwabanye?", kuba abanalo uthando okanye umdla ofanayo wesondo njengabahlobo babo ababangqongileyo.

Igama elithi `Demisexuality` libalulekile ngenxa yezi zizathu zilandelayo:

• Inceda abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye ukuba bafumane uluntu apho banokuzibona khona.
• Ukufumana ubuwena babo kunceda abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye bazive bekhuselekile ngakumbi kwaye baqonde ukuba ababodwa .
• Kwakhona, eli gama linceda ekuqondeni ukuba ukutsaleleka ngokwesondo kunye neemvakalelo ziqhelekile kwaye zinokubonwa ngokwahlukileyo ngumntu ngamnye, kwi-'spectrum', kwaye zonke ezo mvakalelo 'zisemthethweni' .
• Le lebheli ibanika igama elichaza ngokucacileyo into abayibonayo ababengenakuyichaza ngamazwi ngaphambili.

Okokugqibela, izinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Ngoko ke, ndiyathemba ukuba uyayiqonda into ethile koko sithethe ngako. Igama elithi 'Demisexual' libhekisa kubantu abatsaleleka ngokwesondo kuphela emva kokuba bakhe ubudlelwane obunzulu beemvakalelo nomntu.

Ukuthandana kwabantu besini esinye kuhlelwa phantsi kodidi lwe-asexuality, njengoko abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye beneminqweno yesondo engaphantsi komndilili. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye liqela elikhethekileyo, njengoko banokukhanga ngokwesondo kwaye banqwenele ukwenza isondo emva kokwakha olo lwalamano lweemvakalelo nomntu.

Ukuthetha ngezi zinto ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima kancinci kuluntu lwethu, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuziqonda nokuhlonipha iimvakalelo zakho.

Ukuba unezi mvakalelo kwaye ufuna uncedo lokuthetha ngazo ngakumbi, okanye ukuziqonda, ungabi nantloni. Bona ugqirha okanye umcebisi ofanelekileyo. Banokukunceda uhlolisise ezi mvakalelo, bakunike izixhobo ozidingayo ukuze ufumane ubuwena bakho, kwaye bakukhokele. Awuwedwa!