Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha uziva ulusizi okanye uxhalabile? Kuqhelekile ukuba buhlungu xa silahlekelwa ngumntu esimthandayo, silahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, okanye sidanile ebomini. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba olu sizi alupheli emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa kwaye luhlala lukho, lusenokuba ngaphezu kosizi oluqhelekileyo. Ngoko ke namhlanje, masithethe ngomahluko phakathi kolu sizi oluqhelekileyo kunye nemeko yengqondo ebizwa ngokuba kukudandatheka, kunye nexesha esifanele sithethe ngalo nogqirha ngale nto.
Yintoni kanye kanye ingcinezelo?
Ngamafutshane, ukudakumba sisifo sengqondo esiqhelekileyo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha esinzulu, esinokuchaphazela iimvakalelo zakho, indlela ocinga ngayo, indlela oziphatha ngayo, kwanomzimba wakho.
Sonke siziva sidakumbile ngamanye amaxesha ebomini bethu. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ukudakumba akuyonto nje ibuhlungu. Kwintlungu eqhelekileyo, ukuziva kuncipha kancinci emva kwexesha elithile. Kodwa kwintlungu, ezo mvakalelo zosizi, ukuphelelwa lithemba, kunye nokungabi nanto zihlala engqondweni yakho ngalo lonke ixesha, uninzi lwemini. Kuvakala ngathi awunakukuphepha. Nangona abanye abantu bekuxelela, "Yinto oyiqambileyo," okanye "Yiyeke," ukudakumba akuyonto onokuyicinga nje uze uyisuse.
Kuqhelekile nokuba uzive unesizungu ngamanye amaxesha. Kulungile kwimpilo yakho ukuba wedwa uphumle nje. Kodwa xa udandathekile, uziva ngathi uhlukaniswe ngokupheleleyo noluntu. Awukwazi nokwenza imisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla ngokufanelekileyo. Kunzima ukuya emsebenzini, ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, nokunxibelelana nabanye abantu. Le yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo zokudandatheka.
Qaphela ezi mpawu.
Ukuba wena okanye umntu osondeleyo kuwe unempawu enye okanye ezingaphezulu kwezilandelayo ezihlala iiveki ezingaphezu kwezimbini , isenokuba luxinzelelo, endaweni yokuba lusizi nje oluqhelekileyo. Ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuthetha nogqirha ngayo.
| Uphawu | Inkcazo |
|---|---|
| Usizi oluhlala luhleli | Ukuziva ungenathemba, ungenanto, ulila rhoqo, uzive ungento yanto, uzive unetyala ngezenzo zangaphambili. |
| I-Anhedonia | Izinto ezazimnandi ngaphambili (izinto zokuzonwabisa, ezemidlalo, ukuthetha nabahlobo, ukulala nomntu) azisasizisi lonwabo. Yonke into iye yaba yinto ekruqulayo. |
| Iingxaki zokulala | Ukungakwazi ukulala, okanye ukuvuka rhoqo ebusuku. Mhlawumbi ulala kakhulu kwaye uzive uvila ukuphuma ebhedini. |
| Ubuthathaka | Ukuziva udiniwe, udiniwe rhoqo. Ukuhamba kancinci, ukuthetha kancinci, kwaye kuthatha ixesha elide ukuphendula izinto zabanye abantu. |
| Utshintsho lobunzima | Usenokuncipha umzimba ngenxa yokungabi namdla wokutya, okanye utyebe ngenxa yokuthanda ukutya ukutya okungenampilo. |
| Iintlungu zomzimba | Intlungu emqolo, entloko, njl. ngaphandle kwesizathu esithile. Ukuqaqamba kwemisipha, iintlungu zesisu. Le ntlungu ayipheli nasemva kokuthatha amayeza. |
| Ukungazihoyi | Andikhathali ngococeko lwakho nenkangeleko yakho. Andihlambi, ndinxiba impahla efanayo engcolileyo yonke imihla. |
| Umsindo ngaphandle kwesizathu | Ukulwa rhoqo nabanye, ukuba nomsindo ngezinto ezincinci, nokuba nenzondo. |
| Ndivakalelwa njengenkungu yengqondo | Ubunzima bokucinga ngokucacileyo, ukulibala izinto. Ukungakwazi ukugxila kumsebenzi okanye kwincoko. Ubunzima bokwenza izigqibo. |
| Ukudinwa bubomi | Ukuziva ngathi ubomi abunantsingiselo, ukuba neengcinga ngokufa, okanye ukuba neengcinga zokuzibulala. |
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ayinguye wonke umntu onesifo sokudakumba oza kuzibona zonke ezi mpawu. Abanye abantu banokufumana ezimbalwa zazo. Kwaye ubukhali beempawu buyahluka kumntu nomntu.
Ngaba iimpawu zingatshintsha ngokuhamba kweminyaka?
Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo. Iimpawu zokudakumba zinokubonakala ngokwahlukileyo kumaqela ahlukeneyo eminyaka.
Kwabantwana abancinci
Abantwana abancinci abanesifo soxinzelelo basenokungafuni ukuya esikolweni. Basenokungaphumeleli kakuhle eklasini, kwaye amanqaku abo asenokuhla. Abanye abantwana abancinci basenokunamathela kubazali babo baze boyike yonke into.
Kubantwana abancinci
Abantwana abancinci banokulingeka ukuba bangafundi. Basenokuba nochuku kakhulu, bangazithembi, batye okanye balale kakhulu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha babandakanyeke kwizenzo eziyingozi ezifana nokusebenzisa kakubi iziyobisi okanye utywala okanye ukuzenzakalisa (njengokuzisika izandla okanye ukubethelela iintloko zabo eludongeni).
Kwabantu abadala
Uxinzelelo kubantu abadala ludla ngokungafunyaniswa kuba iimpawu ziphazamaniswa nokwaluphala okuqhelekileyo. Banokubonisa iimpawu ezifana nokuhlala ekhaya, ukuzikhupha eluntwini, ukuphelelwa ngumdla wokutya, ukulala kakubi, kunye nokulibala.
Ugqirha angakunceda njani?
Ukuba unesikrokro sokuba usenokuba unesifo sokudakumba, nceda uthethe nogqirha okanye nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondo . Banokuxilonga imeko yakho baze bakunike unyango olufunekayo ukunciphisa iimpawu zakho.
Ugqirha uza kukuxilonga aze akubuze ngembali yezonyango yosapho lwakho. Banokwenza novavanyo lwegazi ukuze babone ukuba iimpawu zakho zibangelwa yenye imeko (njengengxaki ye-thyroid). Baza kukubuza imibuzo malunga neemvakalelo zakho neengcinga zakho, kwaye basenokukucela ukuba ugcwalise uxwebhu lwemibuzo. Oku kuya kubanceda baqonde ukuba loluphi uhlobo lokudakumba onalo.
Ukudakumba kunokulawulwa ngoncedo.
Uxinzelelo yimeko enokunyangeka. Ngoko ke ungoyiki. Ugqirha wakho uza kukunika amayeza afanelekileyo kunye ne-psychotherapy. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, banokukuthumela kwi-psychologist okanye kwi-psychologist.
Musa ukuba neentloni ngale meko okanye ukhathazeke ngento abanye abantu abaza kuyicinga. Ukufumana unyango kuthetha ukuba uyazinyamekela.
Musa ukuzibetha ngokuthi, "Ndibuthathaka, kufuneka ndikwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zam." Uxinzelelo yimeko yezonyango, ayilongxaki yobuntu. Funda ngakumbi ngalo. Joyina amaqela enkxaso apho unokuthetha nabanye abaphila noxinzelelo njengawe.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Usizi oluqhelekileyo luyaphela kwiintsuku ezimbalwa, kodwa uxinezeleko yimeko yengqondo engapheliyo echaphazela ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
- Ukuba iimpawu ezifana nokudakumba okungapheliyo, ukungabikho kolonwabo, kunye neengxaki zokulala zihlala ixesha elingaphezu kweeveki ezimbini, kubalulekile ukuziqwalasela.
- Ukudakumba yimeko yezonyango, ayibobuthathaka bomntu. Akunakucingelwa ukuba "kuphelile" ngokucinga.
- Musa ukuba neentloni zokucela uncedo. Thetha nogqirha wakho. Ngonyango olufanelekileyo (amayeza, unyango lwengqondo), ngokuqinisekileyo ungaphila.
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