Akukho ndaba zimnandi ngaphezu kweendaba zokuba uza kuba ngumama. Kwangaxeshanye, amathemba amaninzi amahle afika engqondweni. Kodwa eli xesha alifani kuye wonke umntu. Kwabanye, eli xesha linokuba ngamava anzima nabangela uxinezeleko. Yiloo nto siza kuthetha ngayo namhlanje. Kuba le yingongoma ebalulekileyo engenakuze ityeshelwe kwaye inokudlala ngobomi.
Yintoni ukudakumba okunxulumene nokukhulelwa?
Ngamafutshane, kwezonyango, sibiza uxinezeleko oluqhubekayo ngaphambi kokuzalwa ukuba yimeko yoxinzelelo oluvela kumama ngexesha lokukhulelwa okanye kunyaka wokuqala emva kokubeleka.
Le yimeko enzima kakhulu kune-'baby blues', ebuhlungu kancinci kwaye iphele kwiintsuku ezimbalwa. Usizi, ixhala, kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba ozivayo kunokuthatha iiveki okanye iinyanga. Kunokuchaphazela ubomi bakho kangangokuba awukwazi nokwenza imisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba ugqirha uyakuxilonga aze akufumanise ukuba unesifo sokudakumba, okanye akunike amayeza okunyanga, yiloo nto siyibiza ngokuba yi-'Perinatal Depression''.
Khumbula, oku akusilo ityala lakho, kwaye akusibo ubuthathaka entliziyweni yakho. Yimeko yezonyango efuna unyango kwaye ibangelwa lutshintsho lweehomoni emzimbeni, uxinzelelo lwentlalo, kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi.
Inyaniso ebuhlungu etyhilwe luphando lwamva nje
Izifundo ezimbini zakutshanje ezenziwe kwiqela elikhulu loomama eSweden zityhile iinyani ezoyikisayo ngale nto. Ezi ngxelo zophando zipapashwe nakwiijenali zonyango ezihlonitshwayo kwihlabathi liphela, i-"JAMA Network Open" kunye ne-"BMJ".
Ezo zifundo zibonisa ukuba oomama abanesifo esibizwa ngokuba yi-"Perinatal Depression," banamathuba aphindwe kathathu okuba neengcinga zokuzibulala nokuzibulala kunoomama abangenaso esi sifo. Khawuthelekelele ukuba oko kuyingozi kangakanani.
Kwakhona, enye into eyoyikisayo efunyenwe lolu phando kukuba le ngozi ayipheli emva nje kokuba nomntwana. Bafumanise ukuba ingozi ihlala iphezulu ixesha elide, njengeminyaka eli-18 .
Iyintoni ingozi? Makhe sibone.
Ungawuqonda ngokucacileyo lo mahluko womngcipheko kwitheyibhile engasezantsi.
| Umngcipheko | Umama onesifo soxinzelelo lwe-perinatal | Umama ongenalo uxinezeleko olungapheliyo |
|---|---|---|
| Ukufa ngokuzibulala | Umngcipheko ophezulu ngokuphindwe kathandathu (kathandathu) | Umngcipheko ngokubanzi |
| Ukuziphatha kokuzibulala, kuquka nokuzama ukuzibulala | Umngcipheko ophezulu ngokuphindwe kathathu (kathathu) | Umngcipheko ngokubanzi |
| Ukufa kwingozi | Umngcipheko ophezulu ngokuphindwe kathathu (kathathu) | Umngcipheko ngokubanzi |
Kutheni oku kusenzeka? Ingaba yimfuza?
Abantu abaninzi banokucinga, "Owu... banezifo zengqondo ezinjalo kusapho lwabo" okanye "Kufuneka ukuba babenezi ngxaki ngaphambi kokuba bakhulelwe." Kodwa into emangalisayo kukuba ezi zifundo zibonise ngokucacileyo ukuba unxibelelwano lweentsapho aluyiyo yodwa imbangela yale ngozi inyukileyo. Kwakhona, umngcipheko wale meko 'yokudandatheka kokuzalwa' uyanda ngokwahlukeneyo nangokuzimeleyo, nokuba bekukho isifo sengqondo ngaphambi kokukhulelwa okanye akunjalo.
Oku kuthetha ukuba nokuba awukaze ube neengxaki zempilo yengqondo ngaphambili, kwaye akukho mntu kusapho lwakho oye waba neengxaki ezinjalo, le meko kunye neengozi ezinxulumene nayo zinokuvela ngexesha lokukhulelwa.
Ngoko ke, senza ntoni? Singasinda njani koku?
Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Nangona le meko inzima, ingalawulwa kwaye inyangeke ngokupheleleyo . Nazi izinto ekufuneka sizenze ngokuqinisekileyo.
1. Musa ukufihla iimvakalelo zakho, thetha ngazo.
Ukuba uziva ulusizi, unesizungu, uxinezelekile, okanye ungenathemba, nceda ungagcini kuwe. Thetha nomyeni wakho, umama wakho, utata wakho, umhlobo wakho osenyongweni, okanye nabani na omthembayo. Kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba uthetha noMbelekisi wakho wezeMpilo yoSapho, ingakumbi ugqirha wakho.
2. Inkxaso yosapho ibalulekile
Ukuba unomyeni okanye ilungu losapho elifunda oku, oku kukulungele. Ukuba umfazi wakho, intombi yakho, okanye udadewenu uthetha into efana nale, musa ukuyityeshela ngokuthi, "Kunjalo kanye," "Musa ukukhathazeka ngokuba nomntwana," okanye "Yomelela." Endaweni yoko, mphulaphule . Zama ukumqonda. Mncede afumane iingcebiso zonyango. Inkxaso yakho yeyona nto inamandla akhe amakhulu.
3. Ungaphoswa luvavanyo lwezonyango kunye nonyango
Abaphandi bagxininisa ngakumbi ukubaluleka kokuhlolwa kwempilo yengqondo ngaphambi nasemva kokukhulelwa. Ukuba ugqirha wakho ukubuza ngale nto, thetha inyaniso kwaye ungafihli iimvakalelo zakho zokwenyani.
Kubaluleke kakhulu: Ukuba ukhe wanikwa amayeza okudakumba okanye esinye isifo sengqondo ngaphambili, ungayeki ukuwasebenzisa ngaphandle kokubonisana nogqirha wakho nangasiphi na isizathu , kuba oku kunokuba yingozi kakhulu. Soloko uthetha nogqirha wakho kuqala ngaphambi kokuba usebenzise naliphi na iyeza kwaye ulandele icebiso lakhe.
Kwimeko kaxakeka, oko kukuthi, ukuba iingcinga zokuzibulala ziyoyisa, yiya kwiSebe lezeMpilo elikufutshane (i-ETU) ngokukhawuleza okanye uxelele umntu omthembayo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukudakumba okubangelwa kukuzalwa komntwana akusisifo sengqondo, yimeko enzima kakhulu efuna unyango.
- Le meko inyusa kakhulu umngcipheko wokuzibulala, kwaye loo mngcipheko unokuhlala iminyaka emininzi.
- Thetha ngokukhululekileyo ngeemvakalelo zakho. Musa ukufihla nantoni na, ingakumbi kugqirha wakho.
- Ungaze uyeke ukuthatha amayeza anikwe ngugqirha okanye utshintshe umthamo ngaphandle kokubonisana nogqirha.
- Inkxaso, ukuqonda, kunye nokumamela amalungu osapho kubalulekile ukuze kulungiswe le meko.
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