Lixesha elimnandi kakhulu xa kufika undwendwe olutsha ekhayeni lakho. Wonke umntu unika ingqalelo kusana olusandul’ ukuzalwa kunye nomama omtsha. Kodwa phakathi kwalo lonke olu vuyo, ngaba wakha wacinga ngotata omtsha? Ngaba ebesoloko ekhalaza kangangeentsuku, ecaphuka zizinto ezincinci, kwaye engancumi njengoko wayesenza ngaphambili? Unokucinga ukuba kungenxa yokuba ediniwe. Kodwa isenokuba yinto engaphezulu koko.
Ingaba 'i-Postpartum Depression' yinto echaphazela oomama kuphela?
Sonke sivile ngoxinzelelo lwengqondo olufunyanwa ngoomama emva kokubeleka, okanye uxinezeleko lwasemva kokubeleka . Le meko inokwenzeka koomama ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, kuquka utshintsho lweehomoni emva kokuzala umntwana, ukungalali kakuhle, kunye noxinzelelo oluza nemisebenzi emitsha.
Kodwa into enye esingathethi kakhulu ngayo, kodwa ibaluleke kakhulu, kukuba le meko inokuchaphazela nootata . Ngokophando lwamva nje, i-10% yootata abatsha, okanye malunga nomnye kwabalishumi, basengozini yokuhlaselwa yile meko. Oku kunokuvakala kumangalisa, kodwa kuyinyani.
Ngamafutshane, ukudandatheka emva kokuzalwa yimeko enokubachaphazela bobabini abazali, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bangobani na ngokwesini.
Ziziphi izizathu zokuba ootata babe nale meko?
Usenokuba ucinga, "Oku kungenzeka njani kootata ngaphandle kokutshintsha kweehomoni njengoomama?" Kunjalo. Amadoda awadluli kwiinguqu ezinkulu zeehomoni ezifana nezo zidlula kuzo umfazi ngexesha lokuzala. Nangona kunjalo, uxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo ebomini bukatata ngeli xesha alunto incinci.
- Ukungalali kakuhle : Xa umntwana evuka ebusuku, umama notata baphelelwa bubuthongo. Ukungalali rhoqo kangangeentsuku kunokuphazamisa ulungelelwano lwengqondo lomntu.
- Uxinzelelo lwezemali: Iindleko eziza nosana olutsha ziphezulu. Ngenxa yobisi lomntwana, ii-diapers, iimpahla kunye nemali kagqirha, utata usenokuvakalelwa kukuba uxanduva lwezemali losapho luwele emagxeni akhe.
- Ukutshintsha kobudlelwane bentsapho: Emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe, ingqalelo yabazali bobabini igxile kumntwana kuphela. Inkululeko nexesha abalichitha kunye ababenalo ngaphambili liyancipha. Amanye amadoda anokuziva engakhathalelwanga kuba abafazi bawo bexakekile.
- Uloyiko oluza neembopheleleko ezintsha: Uloyiko kunye namathandabuzo afana nokuthi "Ngaba ndiza kuba ngutata olungileyo?", "Ngaba ndiza kukwazi ukusingatha ezi mbopheleleko?" anokuthi eze engqondweni.
Xa uninzi lwezi zizathu zidibana, amathuba okuba utata adandatheke aphezulu.
Iimpawu zootata zitshintsha njani?
Into ebalulekileyo apha kukuba iimpawu zoxinzelelo emva kokubeleka kootata zinokwahluka kancinci kwezo zoomama. Nangona oomama bedla ngokubonisa iimpawu ezifana nokudakumba, ukukhala, kunye nokuzibeka ityala, amadoda abonakalisa ezi mvakalelo ngokwahlukileyo.
Le theyibhile ingezantsi iza kukunceda uqonde lo mahluko.
| Udidi lweempawu | Eyona ixhaphakileyo koomama | Eyona ixhaphakileyo kootata |
|---|---|---|
| Iimvakalelo | Ukuziva ulusizi ngaphandle kwesizathu, ulila rhoqo, uzive ungenathemba. | Umsindo okhawulezileyo , ukucaphuka, kunye nobundlobongela. |
| Ukuziphatha | Ukuba kude nabanye abantu, ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kumntwana. | Utywala obuninzi, ukuchitha ixesha elininzi nabahlobo endaweni yokubuya ekhaya, ukuthatha iingozi ezingeyomfuneko (njengokuqhuba ngesantya esiphezulu), kunye nokuba neentlobano zesini ngaphandle komtshato. |
| Iingcinga | Iingcinga ezinje ngokuthi "Andingomama olungileyo", "Andinakukwenza oku". | Iimvakalelo ezinje "akukho mntu undiqondayo", "ubomi bam buphelile". |
| Iimpawu zomzimba | Ukudinwa kakhulu , ukungabi namdla wokutya okanye ukutya kakhulu, intloko ebuhlungu. | Ukudinwa rhoqo, ukwehla okanye ukunyuka kobunzima, iintlungu zomzimba ezingachazekiyo. |
Kuza kwenzeka ntoni ukuba le meko ayinyangwa?
Asingombono ulungileyo ukulibala ngale nto, ucinge ukuba "iza kuphela kwiintsuku ezimbalwa." Ukuba ayinyangwa, le meko inokuhlala ixesha elingangonyaka . Ayichaphazeli utata kuphela, kodwa nosapho lonke.
Ngokukodwa, utata odandathekileyo usenokungakwazi ukunxulumana kakuhle nomntwana wakhe. Usenokungazikhathaleli iimfuno zomntwana wakhe, asenokungadlali naye, okanye ahlale engqongqo kuye. Uphando lubonise ukuba oku kunokuchaphazela kakubi uphuhliso lweemvakalelo nolwenyama lomntwana okhulela kwindawo enjalo.
Ungamnceda njani umyeni wakho?
Ukuba umyeni wakho ubonakalisa ezi mpawu, zimbalwa izinto onokuzenza.
1. Intetho: Khetha ixesha lokuthetha naye. Ixesha apho nobabini nikhululekile kancinci. Endaweni yokumtyhola ngokuthi, "Yintoni ingxaki yakho?", mbuze ngothando, "Ndiyabona ukuba udiniwe kwaye uxinezelekile. Singathetha ngayo?"
2. Qonda: Menze aqonde ukuba oku akusibo ubuthathaka bakhe, kodwa yimeko yempilo ekufuneka inyangwe. Menze azive ngathi unaye.
3. Funa ingcebiso kagqirha: Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha. Mkhuthaze ukuba aye kugqirha wosapho lwakho . Okanye aye kumcebisi wezempilo yengqondo. Oku akumele ube neentloni ngako. Njengesifo seswekile kunye noxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu, le yimeko enokunyangeka ngonyango. Ngamanye amaxesha ingcebiso yodwa inokwanela, okanye ungadinga amayeza okwethutyana elifutshane. Ugqirha wakho uya kwenza eso sigqibo.
Ungalibali, impilo yengqondo katata ibaluleke kakhulu kulonwabo losapho nakwikamva lomntwana njengokuba kunjalo ngempilo yengqondo kamama.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Uxinzelelo emva kokubeleka lunokuchaphazela oomama nootata .
- Iimpawu zootata ziyahluka. Ngokuqhelekileyo , umsindo, ukucaphuka, kunye nokuziphatha okunobungozi kuyabonwa.
- Oku akubangelwa bubuthathaka. Kungabangelwa zizinto ezifana nokungalali ngokwaneleyo, uxinzelelo lwezemali, kunye notshintsho ebomini.
- Ukungayinaki le meko kunokwenzakalisa utata, umntwana, kunye nolonwabo losapho.
- Ukuba umyeni wakho okanye umntu omaziyo ubonakalisa ezi mpawu, musa ukuba neentloni.Yiya kugqirha ngoko nangoko uze ufumane ingcebiso. Yimeko enokunyangeka ngokupheleleyo ngonyango.
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