Umntwana wakho omncinci ngoku mdala kancinci kunomntwana osandul’ ukuzalwa, akunjalo? Kulapho wena nomntwana wakho niqala khona ukuba “nentetho” entle - oko kukuthi, baqala ukunxibelelana ngokuhleka nangezandi ezincinci. Njengoko umntwana wakho eqalisa ukusebenza ngakumbi kwaye eqala ukunaka izinto ezimngqongileyo, uza kubona ubuntu bakhe obutsha. Eli lixesha elimnandi kakhulu!
"Nithetha" njani nathi, bantwana?
Ngoko ke, umntwana wakho usebenzisa kakhulu ukulila ukukuxelela oko kusezingqondweni zakhe kunye noko akudingayo ngeli xesha. Oko kuthetha ukuba, xa ekhala, uzama ukukuxelela, 'Mama, ndilambile,' 'Ndiyozela,' 'Inabukeni yam ibonakala imanzi,' okanye 'Ndinengxaki.' Kufana nolwimi lwabo. Ngamanye amaxesha, xa bexinezelekile zizinto ezintsha ehlabathini, izandi, izibane, banokucaphuka kancinci baze balile. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo, ungakhathazeki kakhulu ngayo.
Mhlawumbi uqaphele ukuba umntwana wakho uyasabela kwilizwi lakho xa uthetha. Mhlawumbi ujika intloko yakhe iye kwelo cala, ahlale ngokuthula, ancume, okanye ade aphakamise iingalo nemilenze yakhe ukubonisa ulonwabo lwakhe. Xa ujonga umntwana wakho uze uncume, naye angancuma nawe. Ayilonto imnandi leyo?
Kulapho ke iintsana zifumanisa ukuba nazo zinokwenza izandi. Kungekudala, ikhaya lakho liza kuba ngumatshini wezandi ezincinci, ezifana neentaka ezikhalayo, "ezikhalayo" kunye nokugquma! Umntwana wakho uza kuqala "ukuthetha" nawe ngezandi ezahlukeneyo. Ezinye iintsana ziza kuqala nokwenza izandi ezilula ezifana no-"ah-ah" okanye "uh-uh" ngeli xesha.
Yintoni esifanele siyenze njengabazali?
Zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukunceda umntwana wakho aphuhlise ezi zakhono zonxibelelwano. Kufana nokunkcenkceshela, ukunyamekela, nokukhulisa isityalo esincinci.
Thetha kwaye udlale nomntwana wakho rhoqo.
Umntwana wakho uyalithanda ilizwi lakho. Ngoko ke, kwezi nyanga zimbalwa zokuqala , thetha nomntwana wakho kangangoko unako, funda iincwadi (iincwadi zemifanekiso zilungile!), cula iingoma, kwaye "uxolise" ngothando. Phendula ngomdla nangovuyo kwisandi ngasinye esincinci esenziwa ngumntwana wakho, nakweyiphi na intsini encinci. Thetha izinto ezinje, "Owu, nyana/ntombi yam endiyithandayo, uthini?"
Xelela umntwana wakho ngento ayijongileyo nento ayenzayo. Mxelele nento oyenzayo. Khawuthelekelele, ngelixa utshintsha inabukeni yomntwana wakho, uthi into efana nale, "Ngoku, Mama, masitshintshe inabukeni yonyana wakho, ukuze ahlale esempilweni." Oku kunceda umntwana wakho aqonde amagama aze afunde ngolwimi. Xa unika umntwana wakho ithoyizi okanye into ayiphetheyo, yitsho igama layo. Umzekelo, "Nantsi ibhola," "Nantsi isandi sakho."
"Ncokola" nomntwana wakho.
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba umntwana wakho wenza isandi, phinda isandi uze ulinde "impendulo" evela kumntwana wakho. Khawuthelekelele ukuba umntwana wakho uthi "Aaag" uze uncume ubuze, "Aaag? Uthini umntwana wam?"Ngale ndlela, ufundisa umntwana wakho izifundo ezibaluleke kakhulu, ezinje ngendlela yokulawula ithoni yelizwi lakho xa uthetha nomntu, isantya sentetho yakho, kunye nokutshintshiselana ngokuthetha.
Kwakhona, oku kwenza umntwana azi ukuba ubalulekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba angaphulaphulwa. Musa ukumphazamisa okanye ukumjonga ecaleni xa umntwana "ethetha." Menze azive enomdla kwinto ayithethayo kwaye angakuthemba.
Ezi "ncoko" zincinci zizo ezivula indlela yeencoko ezinkulu kamva.
Qonda xa umntwana wakho efuna ukuthula
Iintsana azisoloko zikuthanda ukuthetha okanye ukwenza ingxolo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukukhuthazwa zizinto ezizingqongileyo (umz. ingxolo, ukukhanya, abantu, njl. njl.) kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Emva koko zifuna ukuphumla kancinci.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ujonge ecaleni, uvala amehlo akhe , okanye uxakeka nje okanye ujongeka ecaphukile, oko kunokuthetha ukuba udinga ikhefu. Kwimeko ezinjalo, mnike ixesha lokuphumla, okanye umgone ngothando. Musa ukumnyanzela ukuba "athethe" ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ingaba umntwana wam ukhala kakhulu? Masifunde nge-`(Colic)`
Uninzi lweentsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa zinexesha elimalunga nexesha elifanayo yonke imihla, ngesiqhelo ngokuhlwa, xa zikhala kwaye zixakeka ngakumbi. Le yinto efunyanwa ngabazali abaninzi.
Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba umntwana osempilweni , ongenazo ezinye izifo okanye iingxaki, ukhala ngaphezu kweeyure ezi-3 ngosuku, ngaphezu kweentsuku ezi-3 ngeveki, kwaye ubuncinane iiveki ezi-3 zilandelelana, sibiza loo meko ngokuthi `(Colic)`. Oku kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu kubazali bobabini. Kuba kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu xa ungakwazi ukuqonda isizathu sokuba umntwana wakho akhale.
Kodwa iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba uninzi lweentsana lukhula ludlule kwesi simo '(Colic)' malunga neenyanga ezi-3 okanye ezi-4 ubudala. Ngoko ke khumbula ukuba oku akuyonto eya kuhlala ngonaphakade. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unamathandabuzo okanye uloyiko olunzulu malunga noku, kungcono ukuthetha nogqirha.
Ndifanele ndibonane nogqirha nini?
Ukuba uneengxaki okanye amathandabuzo malunga nokuthetha komntwana wakho okanye ukuva, ungathandabuzi ukuthetha nogqirha. Musa ukucinga ukuba, "Owu, ndiya kugqirha ngenxa yale nto incinci." Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukususa amathandabuzo engqondweni yakho.
Ekupheleni kweli xesha (elimalunga neenyanga ezi-3), uninzi lweentsana kufuneka lukwazi:
- Uphendula kwingxolo enkulu (umzekelo, wothuswa sisandi socango oluvaleka ngequbuliso).
- Benza ezinye izandi ngaphandle kokulila (njengoku "khonkotha" kunye nokugungqa okukhankanyiweyo ngaphambili).
- Uyancuma xa uthetha nayo.
- Xa umjonga uze uncume, naye uyancuma nawe.
Ezi ziziganeko ezincinci eziqhele ukubonwa.
Kodwa khumbula oku,Ayizizo zonke iintsana ezifanayo. Ezinye iintsana ziqala ukwenza ezi zinto kwangethuba, ezinye emva kwexesha. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho mdala kakhulu kunezi, okanye ukuba ubona umahluko, qiniseka ukuba ubona ugqirha ukuze akunike ingcebiso.
Ngamafutshane: yonwabele olu hambo nenjana yakho!
Iinyanga zokuqala zomntwana wakho zidlula ngokukhawuleza. Ngeli xesha, ufunda izinto ezintsha yonke imihla kwaye uqala ukunxibelelana nawe ngeendlela ezintsha.
- Le " ncoko " yindlela evulelekileyo. Okukhona uthetha nomntwana wakho kwaye uphendula kuye, kokukhona izakhono zakhe zonxibelelwano ziya kukhula ngcono.
- Ilizwi lakho nothando lwakho zezona zinto zikhuthazayo kumntwana wakho. Ngoko ke, thetha nomntwana wakho, cula iingoma, kwaye udlale naye ngothando nangononophelo ngaphandle koloyiko.
- Usana ngalunye lwahlukile. Musa ukuthelekisa usana lwakho nezinye iintsana. Wonke umntu ukhula ngesantya esahlukileyo.
- Ukuba unamathandabuzo okanye uxhalabile, ungaze ungathandabuzi ukubuza ugqirha.
Obu buntwana abuyi kuphinda bubuye. Ngoko yonwabele yonke imzuzu ngokupheleleyo kwaye uqinise olu lwalamano lumangalisayo nomntwana wakho omncinci!
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💬 Umntwana uthetha njani nathi kwiinyanga ezi-3 zokuqala?
Ngeli xesha, ulwimi oluphambili losana kukulila. Usana luthumela imiyalezo kumama ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokulila ngenxa yokulala, indlala, kunye nokungonwabi. Luqala nokwenza izandi ezibizwa ngokuba 'yi-cooing'.
💬 Umntwana uqala nini ukuncuma okokuqala (uncumo loluntu)?
Ngokwezonyango, 'uncumo lokuqala' olunokwenziwa lusana xa luneenyanga ezimbini ubudala (iiveki ezisi-8 ubudala), lujonga ubuso bukanina luze luthethe.
💬 Ngaba umama angaziphucula izakhono zokuthetha zomntwana wakhe?
Ewe, xa umntwana wakho esenza isandi, kufuneka uphinde isandi esifanayo. Kwakhona, jonga ubuso bomntwana wakho kwaye uthethe naye rhoqo, uphindaphinde imibongo. Nokuba umntwana wakho akaziqondi ezi zinto, ziya kumnceda aphuhlise izakhono zakhe zolwimi.
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