Umntwana wakho ukuxelela ntoni? (Unxibelelwano losana olusandula ukuzalwa) Masiphulaphule!

Uyakhumbula isandi sokuqala esathethwa ngumntwana wakho xa wayezalwa? Oko kukuthi, isikhalo sokuqala somntwana. Enyanisweni, iintsana ziqala ukuthetha nathi ukususela ngexesha lokuzalwa kwazo. Ekuqaleni, ezi zikhalo nezandi zomntwana zinokubonakala ngathi lulwimi olungaqhelekanga ongenakuluqonda. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba wazi, ufunda 'ulwimi' lomntwana kwaye ufunde ukuqonda kanye into umntwana ayidingayo uze umnike yona. Ayimangalisi na? Olu luqalo lolwalamano oluhle phakathi komama nomntwana, notata nomntwana.

Iintsana zithetha njani nathi?

Ukulila yindlela ephambili umntwana athetha ngayo emva kokuzalwa. Xa umntwana ekhala, kudla ngokuthetha ukuba kukho into engalunganga ngaye. Makhe sijonge ukuba yintoni na:

• Mhlawumbi ulambile: Isikhalo esithi, "Owu, ndilambile!" sisenokufika kancinci kancinci kwaye sifutshane. Ezinye iintsana ziyakhala ngelixa zizama ukufaka izandla zazo emlonyeni wazo.
• Iimpahla zisenokuba zimanzi: Iintsana azikhululeki kakhulu xa iinapukeni okanye iimpahla zazo zimanzi. Nangona kunjalo, ziyakhala ukuze zikwazise.
• Kusenokuba kungenxa yokubanda: Iintsana ezincinci zibanda lula. Ukuba izandla neenyawo zazo zibanda, okanye ukuba azinxibanga ngokwaneleyo impahla, zinokukhala.
• Kusenokuba kungenxa yokuba zidiniwe: Iintsana ziziva zidiniwe emva kokudlala nzima okanye xa ingxolo kwindawo ezikuyo isanda. Nangona kunjalo, ziyakhala zithi, "Ndifuna ukulala ngoku."
• Kusenokwenzeka ukuba bafuna ukugonwa: Ngamanye amaxesha yonke into abantwana abayifunayo bubushushu bukanina okanye boyise. Iintsana ziyakhala nokuba zifuna ukugonwa nokuziva zithandwa.

Khawucinge nje, usebenza ekhitshini aze umntwana wakho aqalise ukukhala ngequbuliso. Ubaleka uze ubone ukuba umntwana wakho ukujongile elule iingalo zombini. Oko kusenokuba kukuthi, "Ndicela undithathe," akunjalo?

Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha iintsana ziyakhala xa zingakwazi ukusingatha zonke izinto kunye neengxolo ezibangqongileyo ngaxeshanye. Okanye, iintsana zinokukhala ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo . Ngoko ke xa umntwana wakho ekhala, ungakhathazeki ukuba awukwazi ukumthulisa ngokukhawuleza. Ukulila yindlela yokuba iintsana ziveze iimvakalelo zazo kwaye ziphendule kwizinto ezingenakulawula.

Ukongeza ekulileni, iintsana zinxibelelana nathi ngezinye izandi, imbonakalo yobuso, kunye neentshukumo zomzimba . Kubalulekile ukuzazi ezi zinto, kwaye kuyaqinisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho.

Nika ingqalelo engakumbi kwindlela umntwana wakho asabela ngayo kwilizwi lakho. Ilizwi lakho yindlela yomntwana yokumxelela ukuba atye, afudumale, achukunyiswe, aze athuthuzelwe. Xa umntwana wakho ekhala, qaphela indlela akhawuleza ngayo ukuzola xa usondela uze uthethe naye. Qaphela indlela akumamela ngayo xa uthetha ngothando. Nokuba umntwana wakho ujonge kude, ingqalelo yakhe epheleleyo ikwilizwi lakho xa uthetha. Umntwana wakho unokutshintsha kancinci umzimba wakhe, atshintshe ubuso bakhe, okanye ashukumise iingalo nemilenze yakhe ukuze ihambelane nesingqi sentetho yakho.

Okungakumbi malunga nokuqonda "ulwimi" lomntwana...

• Ukukhonkotha nokugquma: Malunga nenyanga enye enesiqingatha ukuya kwezimbini, iintsana ziqala ukwenza izandi ezinje ngo-'oo' kunye no-'ah'. La ngamazwi azo okuqala. Ziba nomdla ngakumbi xa uphendula kwezo zandi.
• Ukuhleka: Iintsana ziqala ukuncuma xa zineminyaka emibini ubudala. Akukho nto yanelisayo njengokubona ubuso bakho nokuncuma xa uthetha nazo, akunjalo?
• Imbonakalo yobuso: Ubuso beentsana buyatshintsha xa belambile okanye bengakhululekanga. Ziyawavula amehlo xa zimangalisiwe. Ungafunda okuninzi kwezi mbonakalo.
• Iintshukumo zomzimba: Xa umntwana wakho evuya, uza kuqhwaba iingalo nemilenze yakhe, kwaye xa exhalabile, uza kuqina. Ezi zikwazimpawu zokuba umntwana wakho uyakuthumela.

Ngoko ke, yintoni omele uyenze njengomama?

Ukususela ngexesha umntwana wakho ezalwa uze umbambe ngeengalo zakho, niqala ukunxibelelana - ngokujonga kwakho kokuqala, isandi sakho sokuqala, ukuchukumisa kwakho kokuqala. Iintsana zifunda ngehlabathi ngokukhawuleza zisebenzisa izivamvo zazo. Ngoko ke ungalibali ukwenza ezi zinto:

• Thetha nomntwana wakho nanini na kunokwenzeka. Nokuba umntwana wakho akaqondi into oyithethayo, ilizwi lakho elizolileyo nelinothando liya kumnika ukhuseleko olukhulu kunye nentuthuzelo. Thetha naye xa ehlamba, etshintsha impahla, etyisa, okanye edlala. Thetha izinto ezinje, "Unjani unyana/intombi yam endiyithandayo?" "Masinxibe ilokhwe entle namhlanje, akunjalo?"
• Nika umntwana wakho ukwanga ngothando uze umgone. Iintsana zifunda ngehlabathi ngokumchukumisa ngakunye. Ukumchukumisa kwakho ngothando kubenza bazive ngathi ihlabathi liyindawo entle nekhuselekileyo.
• Soloko usabela xa umntwana wakho ekhala. Abantwana 'ababi' ukuba bagonwe okanye baphathwa kakhulu. Le yinto ecingelwa ngoomama abaninzi ukuba ayilunganga. Enyanisweni, xa uphendula ngokukhawuleza, umntwana wakho uyaqonda ukuba ukhuselekile, ukuba kukho umntu oza kumnyamekela, kwaye akayedwa. Oku kwakha ukuzithemba kwakhe.
• Zama ukumthuthuzela umntwana wakho xa ekhala. Abanye abantwana bayazola ngokumshukumisa kancinci okanye ukuhambahamba egumbini. Abanye bangathanda ukulila, umbongo ocothayo, okanye isandi esingaqhelekanga esibizwa ngokuba 'yingxolo emhlophe' (umz., ipompo ecothayo, ifeni, okanye ngamanye amaxesha i-vacuum cleaner). Kungathatha ixesha ukuba umntwana wakho afumanise ukuba yintoni ayithandayo. Yiba nomonde kuye.

Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba uhlangabezane nazo zonke iimfuno zomntwana wakho – indlala, utshintsho lwenabukeni, ubushushu – umntwana wakho usenokukhala. Ungakhathazeki ngaloo nto. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho udiniwe kancinci, okanye uchukunyiswe kakhulu yingxolo nokukhanya okumngqongileyo. Okanye kukho amaxesha apho afuna nje ukukhala ngaphandle kwesizathu. Nangona kunjalo, kungcono ukumgona uze uthethe naye ngothando.

Ingaba umntwana wam ukhala kakhulu? Ngaba oko kunokwenzeka?

Iintsana ezininzi ezisandul’ ukuzalwa zinexesha elithile emini apho zisoloko zixakeka kwaye zikhala kakhulu, ingakumbi ngokuhlwa. Oku kuqhelekile. Zonke iintsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa ziyakhala kwaye zixakeke.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana ophilileyo ongenazo ezinye izifo ukhala ngaphezu kweeyure ezintathu ngosuku, ngaphezu kweentsuku ezintathu ngeveki, iiveki ezintathu zilandelelana, ngokwezonyango sibiza loo meko ngokuthi `(Colic)` . Eli lixesha elinzima kakhulu nelixinzelelayo kubazali. Xa umntwana ekhala rhoqo, kunzima ukwazi ukuba makenze ntoni.

Kodwa iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba uninzi lwexesha, i-colic iyaphela yodwa xa umntwana wakho eneenyanga ezi-3 okanye ezi-4 ubudala. Ngoko ke, hlala uqinile. Zama konke onako ukuthuthuzela umntwana wakho ngeli xesha, funa iingcebiso zonyango, kwaye ufumane inkxaso kwabo bakhona ukukunceda.

Ufanele umxelele nini ugqirha ngokukhala komntwana?

Nangona kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana akhale, ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba luphawu lwengxaki. Ngoko ke qiniseka ukuba ubona ugqirha kwezi meko:

• Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhala ixesha elide kakhulu, oko kuthetha iiyure ezininzi, nokuba uzama kangakanani na ukumthomalalisa, akayi kushukuma.
• Ukuba ubona into engaqhelekanga okanye eyahlukileyo kwisandi somntwana wakho okhalayo. Umzekelo, ukuba ukhala ngelizwi eliphezulu kakhulu, okanye ukuba ukhala ngelizwi elibuthathaka kakhulu nelingavakaliyo kangako.
• Ukuba umntwana unezinye iimpawu kunye nokulila. Umzekelo:
• Ukuba umsebenzi womntwana wakho unciphile , ubonakala elele, okanye akanamdla wokudlala.
• Ukuba unciphise ukungenisa ubisi , ukuba unomdla wokusela ubisi, okanye ukuba uhlanza ubisi obusele.
• Ukuba kukho umkhuhlane (ngesiqhelo ungaphezulu kwama-38 degrees Celsius / 100.4 degrees Fahrenheit).
• Ukuba unengxaki yokuphefumla (ukuphefumla ngokukhawuleza, isifuba singena xa uphefumla, imilebe ijika ibe luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka).
• Ukuba umntwana ubonakala ebuhlungu ndaweni ithile (umz., ekhala ebambe isisu sakhe, ekhala ngelixa etsala imilenze yakhe, ekhala xa uchukumisa inxalenye ethile yomzimba wakhe).
• Ukuba ulusu lomntwana lubonakala lutyheli (njenge-jaundice).
• Ukuba unesihlungu okanye urhudo .

Nokuba unenye okanye ezimbini kwezi mpawu, kulungile ukubona ugqirha ukuze akunike icebiso. Ekubeni izifo kwiintsana ezincinci zinokukhawuleza zibe yingozi, kubalulekile ukuba uzihlole ukuba unayo nayiphi na into ekuxhalabisayo.

Kwakhona, ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokuva okanye ukubona komntwana wakho , xelela ugqirha wakho. Kukho iimvavanyo ezikhethekileyo ezinokujonga ezi zinto kwiintsana ezisandul' ukuzalwa (umz., uvavanyo lokuhlolwa kosana olusandul' ukuzalwa). Kuba xa ingxaki ibonwa ngokukhawuleza, kokukhona iphumelela ngakumbi ekunyangeni.

Okokugqibela, izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uzikhumbule

Umntwana wakho ebesoloko ethetha nawe ukususela ngomhla awafika ngawo kweli hlabathi. Nangona olo lwimi lusenokubonakala lunzima ekuqaleni, uya kuba nobuchule bokuluqonda kancinci kancinci.

• Umntwana wakho uzama ngokwenene ukukuxelela izinto. Mmamele, zama ukumqonda.
• Uthando lwakho, uthando lwakho, kunye neempendulo zakho ezikhawulezayo zezona zinto zenza umntwana wakho azive ngathi eli hlabathi likhuselekile kwaye lihle. Oku kunceda ukuzithemba kwakhe kunye nophuhliso lwengqondo yakhe.
• Usana ngalunye lwahlukile. Oko kusebenzela olunye usana kusenokungasebenzi kolunye. Ngoko ke yiba nomonde uze ufumane oko kusebenzela usana lwakho.
• Awuwedwa. Njengomama omtsha, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nemibuzo, iinkxalabo, kunye namathandabuzo. Ngelo xesha, funa uncedo kumyeni wakho, kusapho, nakubahlobo bakho. Kwakhona, ukuba unamathandabuzo malunga nempilo okanye ukuziphatha komntwana wakho, ungoyiki kwaye ungalibazisi ukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha.

Siyathemba ukuba olu lwalamano lumangalisayo nolunothando phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho luya komelela yonke imihla!

Unxibelelwano olusandul ' ukuzalwa, ukukhala komntwana, ukuthomalalisa umntwana, i-colic, ulwalamano lomzali nomntwana, iingcebiso zonyango lwesiSinhala, impilo yomntwana