Ukukhusela umntwana wakho: Masifunde ngotywala ngexesha lokukhulelwa (Ukusetyenziswa kotywala xa ukhulelwe kunye neengxaki zotywala kwimveku engekazalwa)

Molo! Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngesihloko esibalulekileyo koomama abaninzi, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sibangela uloyiko oluncinci kunye nemibuzo emininzi. Oko kukuthi, ukusela utywala ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Usenokuba ubunemibuzo efana nokuthi 'Ngaba kulungile ukusela kancinci ngamanye amaxesha?', 'Ndisele ndingayazi, ndenze ntoni ngoku?'. Masithethe ngayo yonke le nto ngokucacileyo nangokulula.

Kutheni ukusela utywala kuyingozi ngexesha lokukhulelwa?

Ngamafutshane, ukuba usela utywala ngexesha lokukhulelwa, olo tywala luza kungena egazini lakho luze ludlule ngqo kwi-placenta luye kumntwana wakho. Cinga ngathi umntwana wakho usela nantoni na oyiselayo. Kodwa ingxaki kukuba, nangona umzimba wakho unako ukumelana notywala, umzimba womntwana wakho osakhula, ingakumbi isibindi sakhe, awukwazi ukumelana nalo konke konke. Ngoko ke oku kuyingozi kakhulu kumntwana.

Oku kunokubangela ukuba umntwana abe neemeko ezibizwa ngokuba yiFetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASD) . Le asiyomeko inye, kodwa liqela leemeko ezidibana kumanqanaba ahlukeneyo. Eyona inzima kwezi yiFetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) . Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba 'ukusela kancinci kulungile'. Kodwa inyani yile, akukho tywala 'bukhuselekileyo' ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Nokuba ukusela kancinci kunokubeka umntwana esichengeni.

Ziziphi iingozi ezinokubakho kumntwana?

Ngoku makhe sibone ukuba olu tywala lunokuba naliphi ifuthe kumntwana. Oku kunzulu kakhulu kunokuba ucinga.

• Iingxaki zomzimba: Utshintsho kwimo yobuso bomntwana (umzekelo, umlebe ongasentla ogobileyo, ukuncitshiswa kwesithuba esiphakathi kwamehlo), iingxaki zentliziyo, iingxaki zezintso, ukubona nokuva, kunye neengxaki zamathambo namalungu zinokwenzeka. Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana usenokuba nesantya sokukhula esinciphileyo, nto leyo ethetha ukuba umntwana unokuzalwa enobunzima obuphantsi.
• Iziphumo kwingqondo nakwinkqubo yemithambo-luvo: Le yeyona iyingozi kakhulu. Utywala bungonakalisa ingqondo yomntwana ekhulayo. Oku kunokubangela ukukhubazeka kwengqondo, ukukhubazeka kokufunda, iingxaki zenkumbulo, kunye nokungabikho kwengqalelo.
• Iingxaki zokuziphatha nezentlalo: Abanye abantwana banokubonisa ukusebenza ngokugqithisileyo, ukulawula okungafanelekanga, kunye nezakhono ezingezizo zentlalo. Ezi ngxaki zinokuqhubeka de babe badala.
• Ezinye iingozi: Ukongeza, ukusela utywala ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwandisa umngcipheko wokuphuma kwesisu, ukuzalwa komntwana oswelekileyo, kunye ne -Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe.

Ukuba ndicinga ngayo, akukho namnye kuthi ongathanda ukuba into efana nale yenzeke kumntwana omncinci esimlindeleyo, akunjalo? Yiyo loo nto kufuneka sikhathazeke kangaka ngale nto.

Ingaba kulungile ukusela isiselo esincinci ngamanye amaxesha?

Lo ngumbuzo abantu abaninzi abawubuzayo. 'Andiseli kakhulu, kulungile na ukusela iglasi encinci yewayini okanye ibhiya ngamanye amaxesha?' Enyanisweni, le yinto enobungozi kakhulu ukuyenza.

Khawucinge nje, nokuba utywala obuncinci kangakanani na obuselayo, budlula ngokulula kwi-placenta buye kumntwana wakho. Ingxaki kukuba, nangona umzimba wakho unokuqhekeka uze ubususe obu tywala, umzimba omncinci womntwana wakho, ingakumbi isibindi sakhe, awukwazi. Ngoko ke utywala buhlala emzimbeni womntwana wakho ixesha elide kunokuba buhlala kuwe. Ngeli xesha, utywala bungonakalisa ingqondo yomntwana wakho esakhulayo kunye namanye amalungu omzimba.

Ukusela kakhulu kuxa usela iziselo ezingaphezu kwezine ngexesha. Oku kuyingozi kakhulu ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi ukuba utywala obuphantsi okanye obuphakathi bukhuselekile. Hayi, akunjalo. Akukho 'mda ukhuselekileyo' wotywala ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Ngoko ke eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukuyeka ukusela kwaphela.

"Akukho 'ubungakanani obukhuselekileyo' botywala ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Nokuba buncinci kangakanani na bunokuba yingozi kumntwana wakho."

Kuthekani ukuba ndingaselanga ngaphambi kokuba ndifumanise ukuba ndikhulelwe?

Le yinto ejongene noomama abaninzi. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba kudlule iiveki ezimbalwa ukususela oko wafumanisa ukuba ukhulelwe. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ubusele utywala ngelo xesha ungaqondanga. Sukukhathazeka kakhulu ngayo. Enyanisweni, ukuba usele isiselo esincinci kube kanye okanye kabini ngaphambi kokuba ufumanise ukuba ukhulelwe, musa ukukhathazeka kakhulu ngayo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, isenokungabi nampembelelo ingako.

Kodwa, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba ungaseli elinye ithontsi lotywala ukususela oko wafumanisa ukuba ukhulelwe kude kube sekupheleni kokukhulelwa kwakho. Leyo yeyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza kuwe nakumntwana wakho.

Ukuba unamathandabuzo okanye uxhalabile ngale nto, qiniseka ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho. Yena angakunika iingcebiso ozifunayo.

Kuthekani ukuba ndinengxaki yotywala?

Kulungile, masithethe ngento ebuthathaka kancinci. Mhlawumbi unengxaki yokusela kwakho. Oko kukuthi, unengxaki yokulawula ukusela kwakho, okanye usela ngaphezu kokuba ucinga. Okanye, ucinga, 'Ndisenokuba nengxaki yokusela.'

Kwimeko enjalo, nceda ungabi nantloni okanye ungoyiki ukuthetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Xa ugqirha esazi iinkcukacha zokuba usele utywala obungakanani ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwaye ubusele nini, unokufumana umbono ocacileyo wemiphumo enokubakho kumntwana aze enze uvavanyo olufunekayo.

Kwakhona, ugqirha wakho anokukunceda uyeke ukusela utywala. Khumbula, oku ukwenza ngenxa yakho kunye nosana olungenatyala olusesibelekweni sakho. Ukucela uncedo akubonisi ubuthathaka, luphawu lwamandla.

Apho singafumana khona uncedo

Ukuyeka utywala kunokuba nzima kwabanye abantu. Kodwa awuwedwa. Kukho iindlela neendawo zokufumana uncedo.

• Ugqirha wakho: Umntu wokuqala omele uthethe naye ngugqirha wosapho lwakho okanye ingcali yokubelekisa/ingcali yabasetyhini. Banokukunika ulwalathiso olufunayo, kwaye banokukuthumela kwinkonzo efanelekileyo yokunika iingcebiso.
• Amaqela eengcebiso kunye nenkxaso: Kukho abacebisi abaziingcali abanokukunceda uyeke ukusela utywala kwaye ujongane neengxaki zengqondo ezinxulumene nako. Ungafumana intuthuzelo enkulu kunye nenkuthazo ngamaqela enkxaso apho abantu abajongene nengxaki efanayo bedibana khona.
• Amaziko enqanaba lesizwe: Amanye amazwe anamaziko enqanaba lesizwe okuthintela utywala neziyobisi. (Umzekelo, kukho amaziko afana neNational Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) eMelika.) Ungabuza ugqirha wakho ngeendawo ezibonelela ngolwazi kunye neenkonzo malunga noku eSri Lanka.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba, ungalindi ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba ucele uncedo. Thatha loo manyathelo ukuze ube nekamva elisempilweni kuwe nakumntwana wakho.

Zeziphi izinto ezibalulekileyo esifanele sizithathele ekhaya kweli bali?

Kulungile, ngoko ke, kuyo yonke into esithethe ngayo, nazi izinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule:

• Akukho tywala 'bukhuselekileyo' ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Nokuba buncinci kangakanani na bunokuba yingozi kumntwana.
• Ukususela kwangoko xa ufumanisa ukuba ukhulelwe, eyona nto ilungileyo nekhuselekileyo onokuyenza kukuyeka ukusela utywala ngokupheleleyo.
• Utywala bunokubangela iingxaki zempilo ezinzulu, ezihlala ixesha elide kumntwana, ezifana ne -Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASD) .
• Nokuba ubusela utywala ngaphambi kokuba ufumanise ukuba ukhulelwe, ungakhathazeki kakhulu ngalo nto, kwaye uyeke ngokupheleleyo ngoku.
• Ukuba unengxaki yokulawula indlela osela ngayo utywala, ungabi nazintloni kwaye ucele uncedo kugqirha okanye kumcebisi ofanelekileyo. Kuya kuba luncedo olukhulu kuwe nakumntwana wakho.

Ikamva elisempilweni lomntwana wakho lisezandleni zakho. Ukuba ufumana kunzima ukuhamba wedwa kule ndlela, ungathandabuzi ukucela uncedo. Umntwana osempilweni kumama ophilileyo!

Ukukhulelwa , utywala, umntwana, i-FASD, i-Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, utywala ngexesha lokukhulelwa, impilo yomntwana