Uvuyo lokuzisa umntwana ekhaya alunakuchazwa, akunjalo? Elo vumba litsha, uthando oluvayo xa ujonga izandla neenyawo ezincinci... Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, kunye nolo vuyo, kukho amaxesha apho iimvakalelo ezifana nosizi, ixhala, kunye nokuba wedwa zifika engqondweni. Ngaba wakha waziva ngaloo ndlela? Enyanisweni, phantse wonke umama osandula ukuzalwa udlula kolu lwazi. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba oku kuqhelekile okanye yinto esifanele siyiqwalasele ngakumbi.
Ingaba le 'yiBaby Blues'? Okanye yinto engaphezulu koko?
Emva kokuzala umntwana, malunga nesithathu kwisine soomama bafumana 'i-baby blues'. Oku kuqhelekile kakhulu. Cinga ngako, ukuba nomntwana lolona tshintsho lukhulu ebomini bakho. Kwangaxeshanye, amanqanaba e-hormone emzimbeni wakho atshintsha ngequbuliso emva kokukhulelwa. Xa konke oku kuhlangana, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva uneemvakalelo kwaye ufune nje ukukhala.
Kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi 'kwe-baby blues' kunye noxinzelelo lokwenyani emva kokubeleka.
1. Ixesha oziva ngalo lusizi.
2. Indlela ezivakala ngayo ezo mvakalelo ngamandla nangokunzulu.
'I-baby blues' idla ngokuqala emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa umntwana ezelwe. Idla ngokuphela emva kweeveki ezimbini. Kodwa ukuba usaziva ulusizi emva kweentsuku ezili-15, ungacingi kwangoko ukuba luxinzelelo. Asinto enokulinganiswa ngeentsuku ezichanekileyo.
Imvakalelo 'yokudandatheka komntwana' nayo yahlukile kancinci. Ayikokudakumba nje kuphela, yimvakalelo yokugutyungelwa ziimvakalelo. Ungalila kuba ulusizi, kodwa ungalila kuba wonwabile kwaye uthandana nomntwana wakho. Lixesha apho uziva zonke iimvakalelo zilungile.
Ifunyanwa njani i-postpartum depression?
Ukudandatheka emva kokubeleka yimeko embi kakhulu nehlala ixesha elide. Kufana nokuziva uphantsi imini yonke uze ubone yonke into oyenzayo ngeglasi engwevu. Jonga ukuba unayo na kwezi mpawu.
| Uphawu | Ngaba le yindlela ovakalelwa ngayo? |
|---|---|
| Iingxaki zokulala | Wonke umntu uthi, "Lala xa umntwana elele." Kodwa nokuba uzama ukulala, awukwazi ukulala nokuba uvale amehlo akho? |
| Utshintsho kwindlela yokutya | Ngaba unciphisa umzimba kuba ungenamdla wokutya okanye utya kakhulu kuba ukhathazekile? |
| Ukubekwa wedwa koluntu | Awunamdla wokudibana okanye ukuthetha namntu? Ngaba kuyakukhathaza nokuba umntu ufika endlwini yakho? |
| Andonwabanga | Ngaba izinto owawuzithanda ukuzenza (ukubukela iTV, ukufunda incwadi, ukuthetha nomhlobo) azisakuziseli lonwabo? |
| Ubunzima bokugxila | Awukwazi ukugxila kwinto ethile? Ngaba uziva ngathi ulibele yonke into? |
| Ukuzibeka ityala | Ngaba iingcinga ezinje ngokuthi "Andingomama olungileyo" kunye nokuthi "Andinakwenza nto ilungileyo" zihlala zifika engqondweni? |
| Ubunzima bokunxulumana nomntwana | Ukungaziva uthandwa ngumntwana, uzive ngathi ngumthwalo wokunyamekela umntwana. Ngaba oku kukwenza uzive uneentloni kwaye unetyala? |
Ukuba unenye yezi mpawu ixesha elide, bonana nogqirha wakho ngoko nangoko uze uthethe ngazo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha ngoko nangoko ukuba unokucinga ngokuzilimaza okanye ukwenzakalisa umntwana wakho.
Ingaba ixesha lemvula liyayichaphazela le meko?
Nangona kungekho nto ibizwa ngokuba "bubusika" kwilizwe lethu, kukho imihla enexesha lemvula eliqhubekayo kunye nemozulu emnyama. Xa uvaleleke ekhaya ngeentsuku ezinjalo, ukuba wedwa kunye nosizi kunokwanda. Abanye abafazi banemeko apho iimvakalelo zabo zitshintsha ngokwemozulu. Ibizwa ngokuba yi-`(Seasonal Affective Disorder - SAD)`. Oko kuthetha ukuba bathambekele ngakumbi ekudandathekeni ngexesha lobumnyama nelingenalanga kangako lonyaka.
Nokuba awukaze uhlangabezane noku ngaphambili, ukunamathela ekhaya nosana olusandul’ ukuzalwa kunokukwenza uzive unesizungu ngakumbi ebumnyameni nasebanda yemini enemvula. Uphononongo olwenziwe eFinland lufumanise ukuba oomama banamathuba amaninzi okufumana olu hlobo loxinzelelo ngamaxesha amnyama nabandayo onyaka.
Ungacwangcisa njani kwangaphambili uze ufumane uncedo?
Ukuba umntwana wakho uza kuzalwa ngexesha lemvula, kwaye uhlala uziva ulusizi ngamaxesha anjalo, kulungile ukucwangcisa kwangaphambili.
- Lungiselela umntu oza kukunceda: Thetha nomntu omthembayo, njengomyeni wakho, umama, udadewenu, okanye umamazala wakho, kwangaphambili ukuze akuncede ngemisebenzi yasekhaya kunye nokugcina umntwana.
- Nxibelelana nabanye oomama: Nxibelelana nabanye oomama odibene nabo kwiiklasi zokukhulelwa okanye kwiinkqubo zokufundisa ukuncancisa. Oomama abaye baba nabantwana ngaxeshanye banokuqonda ubunzima bomnye nomnye.
Iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokuphumla nomntwana wakho
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uhlale ekhaya imini yonke kuba nje lixesha lemvula. Zama ezi zinto ukuze wehlise ubunzima obuvayo.
- Hamba-hamba kancinci: Ngemini enelanga, thatha umntwana wakho niye kuhamba naye ngaphandle. Ukukhanya kwelanga lelinye lamayeza angcono okwenza wonwabe.
- Ngena kwivenkile enkulu: Beka umntwana wakho kwi-stroller uze uhambehamba kwivenkile enkulu okanye kwivenkile enkulu. Ukuba ufuna ukuncancisa umntwana wakho, ungakwenza oko ngokukhululekileyo kwigumbi lokulinganisa kwivenkile yempahla.
- Sela ikomityi yeti nomhlobo: Yiya kwikhefi xa abantu bembalwa uze uncokole nomhlobo oqondayo iimvakalelo zakho.
- Thatha uhambo olufutshane emotweni: Iintsana ezininzi zilala ngcono emotweni. Beka umntwana wakho kwisitulo semoto, mamela ezinye zeengoma ozithandayo, kwaye uthathe uhambo olufutshane.
- Qhagamshelana kwi-intanethi: Ngeentsuku apho ungakwazi ukuphuma endlwini, thetha nabanye oomama kwi-intanethi. Ungafumana inkxaso eninzi kwizinto ezifana namaqela e-Facebook kunye namaqela e-WhatsApp.
Kuthekani ukuba kufuneka unyango?
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukujongana nezi mvakalelo wedwa. Ngamaxesha anje, kubalulekile ukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha. Xa uthetha nogqirha wakho, uya kukunika iingcebiso zonyango olufanelekileyo kuwe.
Abanye abantu banokungenelwa kunyango olungelulo olusebenzisa amayeza njengonyango olulula. Ukuba imozulu emnyama ikukhathaza kakhulu, thetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto. Ungacinga nangokufumana iingcebiso okanye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, amayeza.
"Uluntu lusenokuba lukunyanzela ukuba wonwabe kuba unomntwana ophilileyo. Kodwa xa udandathekile, awuziva loo lonwabo. Asikuko ityala lakho. Sisifo."
Ukucela uncedo kukunika ithuba lokuzikhathalela wena nomntwana wakho ngothando obusoloko uluphupha.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- 'I-baby blues' yimeko eqhelekileyo, yexesha elifutshane. Kodwa ukudandatheka emva kokuzalwa yimeko embi kakhulu efuna unyango.
- Ukuba iimpawu ezinje ngokutshintsha kwendlela yokulala nokutya, ukuzikhupha ebantwini, kunye nokuzibeka ityala ziyaqhubeka, musa ukuzityeshela.
- Ukuba iimpawu ziyaqhubeka okanye uneengcinga zokuzilimaza wena okanye umntwana, qhagamshelana nogqirha wakho ngoko nangoko.
- Musa ukuba wedwa. Hlala unxibelelene nosapho, abahlobo, kunye nabanye oomama abatsha.
- Ukucela uncedo akubonisi ubuthathaka, kodwa luphawu lwamandla. Kuya kukunceda ukonwabele ukuba ngumama.
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