Ngaba wakha weva ngabantu abasondela kubathimbi babo? Oku kubizwa ngokuba yiStockholm Syndrome!

Ngaba wakha weva ngemeko apho umntu ethinjwa aze abanjwe aze uve uvelwano, mhlawumbi nobuhlobo, ngomntu okuthimbileyo? Kuyamangalisa, akunjalo? Kodwa eneneni inokuba yimeko yengqondo entsonkothileyo. Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngemeko yengqondo engaqhelekanga, kodwa ebaluleke kakhulu. Le yinto oogqirha abayibiza ngokuba yiStockholm Syndrome.

Yintoni iStockholm Syndrome?

Ngamafutshane, iStockholm Syndrome yinkqubo apho umntu, xa ebanjwe okanye exhatshazwa kakhulu, afumana uthando oluqinileyo kunye novelwano ngomxhaphazi okanye umntu omphangayo. Khawuthelekelele indlela emangalisayo neyinkimbinkimbi ngayo ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye novelwano ngomntu okuhlukumezayo okanye okuhlukumezayo.

Nangona le meko yaqala ukubonwa kwiimeko zokuthinjwa, oogqirha ngoku bathi inokubonwa nakwezinye iziganeko ezibuhlungu kakhulu . Oko kukuthi, kukho ulwalamano olungaqhelekanga nolunzima ukuyiqonda phakathi komxhaphazi kunye noxhatshazwayo.

Iingcali ezininzi zempilo yengqondo zibona oku njengendlela yokumelana neemeko esetyenziswa ngumntu ofumana esi siganeko sibuhlungu ukuze asinde kwiintsuku, iiveki, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha iminyaka yokulimala nokuxhatshazwa . Yindlela engaqhelekanga yokuba ingqondo iziqhelanise nemeko eyingozi kwaye izikhusele.

Kukho ezinye iimeko zengqondo ezifana nale, kwaye zikwanxulumene nazo, ezichongiwe ngoogqirha:

• Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abafumana ingozi: Olu budlelwane buyingozi obuvela phakathi komntu oxhaphazayo kunye nomntu ofumana ingozi enkulu.
• Ukufunda ukungabi nakuzinceda: Oku kuthetha ukuba ungabi nakuzinceda ngokukholelwa ukuba awunakuze ubaleke kule meko kwaye akukho ncedo lufumanekayo.
• Isifo somntu obethelweyo: Imeko yengqondo ebangelwa kukuxhatshazwa ngokomzimba okanye ngokwengqondo ixesha elide kwaye ibangelwa kukuxhatshazwa okunjalo.

Kwenzeka njani ukuba le ndawo ifumane igama elithi 'Stockholm'?

Yafumana igama layo ngenxa yesiganeko esikhethekileyo esatsala ingqalelo yehlabathi liphela. Senzeke ngo-1973, kwisixeko esibizwa ngokuba yiStockholm, eSweden . Iqela labantu leza liza kuphanga ibhanki laza labamba abasebenzi abaninzi bebhanki kangangeentsuku ezintandathu. Oku kwenzeka ngelixa amapolisa ayebangqongile. Into emangalisayo kukuba emva kokuba aba babanjwa bekhululwe ngandlela thile, abanye babo babengafuni nokunikela ubungqina enkundleni ngokuchasene nabaphangi bebhanki . Akuphelelanga apho, kodwa ngokumangalisayo, baqokelela nemali yokunceda kwiinkqubo zomthetho zokusindisa abaphangi!

Ngoko ke, ingcali yezolwaphulo-mthetho kunye nogqirha wengqondo owayephande nzulu ngesi siganeko ngabokuqala ukusebenzisa igama elithi 'Stockholm Syndrome' ukuchaza obu buhlobo bungaqhelekanga kunye novelwano olubonakaliswe ngabasebenzi bebhanki kubaphangi. Oko kukuthi, isifo esabonwa kwisixeko saseStockholm. Eli gama belisetyenziswa kwiimeko ezinje ukususela ngoko.

Zithini iimpawu zeStockholm Syndrome?

Ukuba umntu uneStockholm Syndrome, usenokuba nezi mpawu. Kodwa khumbula, ayinguye wonke umntu oza kuba nazo zonke ezi mpawu, kwaye zinokuhluka kumntu nomntu.

• Ukuziva ukhululekile ngabo bakubambeleyo okanye abo bakuxhaphazayo. Oko kukuthi, uvelwano ngabo, mhlawumbi umnqweno, uvakalelo lokufuna ukubakhusela.
• Ukuvumelana neenkolelo zabo kunye nokuziphatha kwabo, ukuba novelwano nabo. Njengokuba oko bakwenzayo, ngokwembono yabo, kubonakala kulungile, ukuzama ukubaqonda.
• Ukuba neemvakalelo ezimbi ngamapolisa, abanye abasemagunyeni, okanye abo bazama ukukusindisa. Oko kuthetha ukuchasa nokungabathembi abo beze kukusindisa.

Ukongeza kwezi, iimpawu ezifana nezo zePost -Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) , imeko yengqondo eyenzeka emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu, nazo zinokubonakala. Ziquka:

• Ukubuyela umva: Oku kuthetha ukuba iziganeko ezenzekileyo zibonakala ngathi ziyaphinda zibuye phambi kwamehlo akho, kwaye izandi, ivumba, kunye neemvakalelo zibonakala ngathi zikhona ngelo xesha.
• Ukungakhululeki, ukusoloko unomsindo, uxhalabile, kwaye uxhalabile. Ukucaphuka nomsindo ngezinto ezincinci.
• Ukungakwazi ukonwabela izinto ezazikuzisela uvuyo, ukungakwazi ukuphumla.
• Ubunzima bokugxila. Ukulahlekelwa yinkumbulo nako kunokwenzeka.
• Ukungalali, amaphupha amabi.

Kutheni abanye abantu benale meko?

Enyanisweni, abaphandi abakaqiniseki ngokupheleleyo ukuba kutheni abanye abantu abathinjiweyo okanye abaxhaphazi befumana iStockholm Syndrome, ngelixa abanye abaye bahlangabezana namava abuhlungu bengenalo. Kodwa kukho iingcamango ezimbalwa ezinokuchaza isizathu.

Enye ingcamango kukuba le yindlela efundiweyo edluliselwa kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana koobawo bethu . Khawuthelekelele, ngaphambili, bekukho iimfazwe phakathi kwezizwe, kwaye bekukho umngcipheko wokubanjwa nokubulawa lelinye iqela lentlalo. Ngelo xesha, xa wawusakha uhlobo oluthile lobudlelwane okanye ubuhlobo nabo bakuthimbayo, amathuba akho okusinda ayesanda.Abanye oogqirha bengqondo abakholelwa ekubeni izinto zazivelela bakholelwa ukuba eli qhinga lamandulo lisenokuba luphawu lomntu oluye lwanceda abantu ukuba basinde.

Enye imbono kukuba xa umntu ebanjwe okanye exhatshazwa, yimeko ebangela iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu . Oko kukuthi, uxinzelelo lunzima kakhulu engqondweni. Emva koko, ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukuba ufumana ububele obuncinci okanye uvelwano oluvela kumxhaphazi (umzekelo, ukumnika ukutya, ukumnika amanzi, ukuthetha naye kancinci), ungatshintsha iimvakalelo zakho ekuphenduleni kwaye uhlakulele uvelwano kumxhaphazi. Kwakhona, ungaziva ngathi unokuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lwakho ngokusebenzisana nomxhaphazi, endaweni yokulwa naye. Xa ungonzakaliswa ngumxhaphazi, uyalingeka ukuba umbulele loo mntu, kwaye mhlawumbi umjonge umxhaphazi "njengomntu ongengomntu umbi kangako." Le yinkqubo yengqondo engapheliyo engqondweni .

Oogqirha bayibona njani le nto njengesifo?

Nantsi into ekhethekileyo ekufuneka uyazi. I-American Psychiatric Association ayiyifakanga ngokusemthethweni iStockholm Syndrome njengesimo esahlukileyo kwincwadi yayo yamva nje yokuxilonga - i-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), isikhokelo esiphambili nesamkelweyo kwihlabathi liphela sokuchonga izifo zengqondo kunye neemeko.

Ngoko ke, abanye ababoneleli bezempilo, njengoogqirha kunye noogqirha bengqondo, basenokuyibona okanye bangayiqondi le meko ngelo gama. Nangona kunjalo, bonke baqhelene neendlela zokuziphatha ezenzeka emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu kakhulu, oko kukuthi, iimpawu ezibonakaliswa lixhoba. Iindlela ezisetyenziswayo ukufumanisa isifo soxinzelelo emva kwengozi (PTSD) kunye nesifo soxinzelelo olukhawulezileyo , kunye nezinye zeendlela zonyango, zifana kakhulu neStockholm Syndrome. Ngoko ke into eyenziwa ngugqirha kukucwangcisa unyango ngokusekelwe kwiimpawu namava.

Ziziphi iindlela zonyango lweStockholm Syndrome?

I-Stockholm Syndrome ayichazwanga ngokusemthethweni njengesifo sengqondo, ngoko ke akukho ndlela iqhelekileyo yokunyanga . Nangona kunjalo, njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, i-Stockholm Syndrome iphathwa ngendlela efanayo ne-post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) . Oku kwenziwa ikakhulu ngonyango lwengqondo kunye/okanye amayeza ukuba kuyimfuneko.

Ukuba wena okanye umntu osondeleyo kuwe unale meko, nazi ezinye iindlela eziphilileyo zokujongana namava abuhlungu owakha wawafumana.Ungafunda.

Unyango lunokukunceda kwezi zinto:

• Qonda amava akho, okwenzekileyo kuwe, kunye nesizathu sokuba uzive ngendlela owavakalelwa ngayo.
• Qonda ukuba iimvakalelo zosizi ngabathimbi bakho okanye abaxhaphazi yayisisakhono sokusinda owawunaso ngelo xesha ukuze usinde kwaye ujongane nale meko. Yamkela ukuba ayilotyala lakho.
• Funda indlela yokuqhubela phambili ebomini bakho ngamandla kwaye uqale ngokutsha emva kwale meko inzima.

Ukuba uneempawu, ezinje ngokungakwazi ukulala, ukuxhalaba, okanye ukudakumba, ugqirha wakho unokukunika amayeza okukunceda ulale ngcono kwaye anciphise ukuxhalaba okanye ukudakumba kwakho. Ezi zinokuba luncedo xa zisetyenziswa kunye ne-psychotherapy.

Ngaba singaphuma kule meko? Liza kuthini ikamva?

Into yokuqala ekufuneka ithethwe kukuba ayinguye wonke umntu oxhatshazwayo, onzakeleyo, okanye obanjwe ebanjwa ofumana iStockholm Syndrome . Oku kukusabela kwengqondo okungaqhelekanga kakhulu . Oko kukuthi, yinto engaqhelekanga kakhulu.

Nangona kunjalo, nokuba oku kuyenzeka, unyango lwengqondo , kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, amayeza anokukunceda wena okanye umntu omthandayo ukuba aphile kule meko kwaye niqhubeke nobomi obuqhelekileyo nobonwabisayo. Ngoko ke musa ukuphelelwa lithemba. Inkqubo yokuchacha ingathatha ixesha, kodwa ngenkxaso efanelekileyo, inokwenziwa.

Ngaba iStockholm Syndrome yenzeka kuphela kwiimeko zokubanjwa?

Nangona igama elithi Stockholm Syndrome laqanjwa emva kwesixeko saseStockholm, apho kwaphangwa khona iibhanki kwaye kwathathwa abantu abathinjiweyo, ukuziphatha okufanayo kunye neemvakalelo zinokubonakala nakubantu abaye bahlangabezana nezinye iziganeko ezibuhlungu kakhulu. Oku kuthetha ukuba akupheleli nje kubathinjwa. Nazi imizekelo embalwa:

• Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, emzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo: Ingakumbi kwiimeko ezifana nobundlobongela basekhaya obuhlala ixesha elide.
• Ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana: Umntwana unokwenza ubuhlobo nomntu omdala omxhaphazayo kuba umntwana engenalo elinye ithuba okanye ukhuselo.
• Ukuxhatshazwa kwabaqeqeshi nabadlali: Khawuthelekelele, abanye abadlali bayavuma ukuba umqeqeshi wabo enze umthambo onzima, onzima, noxhaphazayo kuba bekholelwa ukuba umqeqeshi uyazi ukuba yintoni ebalungeleyo kwaye angabenza baphumelele.
• Ukuthengiswa kwabantu ngokwesondo: Nalapha, kukho iingxelo zamaxhoba abumba uhlobo oluthile lobudlelwane nabathengisi bawo.
• Ukuzinikela okungaboniyo kwamalungu eenkolo ezithile kwiinkokeli zawo kunokuthelekiswa noku ngandlela ithile.

Kuzo zonke ezi meko, iStockholm Syndrome yindlela yokumelana neengxaki . Endaweni yokuba uzive uloyiko, uloyiko, okanye intiyo ngomntu okuxhaphazayo, ungaqala ukuvakalelwa bubuntu novelwano ngaye.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba ukuba wena okanye umntu osondeleyo kuwe ukhe wadibana neStockholm Syndrome, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba iimvakalelo ezilungileyo onazo ngomxhaphazi wakho azikho ngenxa yakho. Yindlela yokuqonda indlela oziva ngayo, indlela ojamelana ngayo nento eyenzekileyo kuwe, kunye nendlela ojamelana ngayo nayo. Ugqirha okanye umcebisi wakho angakunceda wena okanye umntu omthandayo ukuba aphile kwesi simo.

Okokugqibela, ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Kulungile, ngoku siyiqonda kakuhle iStockholm Syndrome. Nangona ingumxholo onzima, kubalulekile ukuba siwuqaphele. Nazi ezinye iingongoma ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzikhumbule:

• Isifo iStockholm Syndrome sisifo sengqondo esingaqhelekanga, kodwa esinokwenzeka, xa umntu efumana intlungu okanye ukuxhatshazwa okukhulu apho ixhoba lifumana uvelwano okanye ukunamathela kumxhaphazi walo.
• Oku akusiyongxaki yexhoba , yindlela yokumelana neengxaki esetyenziswa yingqondo ukuze iphile, indlela yokusinda engaqondi .
• Le meko ayipheleli nje ekuthathweni kwabantu abathinjiweyo, kodwa inokubonwa nakwiindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuxhatshazwa kunye neziganeko ezibuhlungu .
• Nangona ingachazwanga ngokusemthethweni njengesifo, ibonisa iimpawu ezifana ne-post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) , kwaye unyango luyafana.
• Ngonyango lwengqondo, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, amayeza, ngokuqinisekileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba uphile kule meko kwaye ubuyele kubomi obuqhelekileyo.
• Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo unengxaki yesi sifo, okanye ukhe wahlangabezana naso, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna ingcebiso efanelekileyo yezonyango kunye nenkxaso yengcali yezempilo yengqondo efanelekileyo .

Ungaze uzive unesizungu, uneentloni, okanye unetyala ngamava anje. Ungoyiki ukucela uncedo. Impilo yakho yengqondo ixabisekile. Unelungelo lokuyikhusela.

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