Ngaba wakha wazama ukufihla ubuntu bakho bokwenyani ukuze 'ufane nabanye abantu' okanye 'ube ngumntu oqhelekileyo' eluntwini? Sonke sikwenzile oko ubuncinane kanye ebomini bethu. Kodwa ukuba unesifo sokungakwazi ukuqwalasela/ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo (ADHD), oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-'masking'. Ngamafutshane, kukufihla ubuntu bakho bokwenyani kwaye uzama ukubonisa ubuso obahlukileyo eluntwini.
Yintoni kanye kanye i-ADHD 'Masking'?
I-ADHD ibangela ukuba abanye abantu babe nomdla kakhulu okanye bangabi namdla. Abanye banobunzima bokunikel’ ingqalelo. Abanye abantu abadala banokuba nazo zombini ezi zinto.
Ngoko ke 'ukufihla ubuso' kuthetha ukuba uzama ukufihla ezi mpawu ekhaya, emsebenzini, okanye xa unabahlobo. Nangona oku kunokuba neengenelo ezithile, iingcali zithi kukwaneengozi ezinkulu kunokuba unokucinga. Makhe sijonge ngokusondeleyo.
Ngaba kukho naziphi na iingenelo zokufihla iimpawu ngale ndlela?
Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha oku 'kufihla' kukunceda ufumane amaqhinga akho akhethekileyo anokukunceda uphile ne -ADHD . Kufana nokwakha 'ibhokisi yezixhobo' zakho. Izinto ezinje ngezi zilungile ngokwenene.
Cinga ngale ndlela...
- Ngenxa yokuba unengxaki yokukhumbula izinto, uqhele ukubhala yonke into encwadini . Le yinto entle.
- Ekubeni uthetha kakhulu kwaye uphazamisa abanye, uzama ukulawula oko ngokuthetha kancinci kwaye umamele ngakumbi . Kwaye uzama ukuphinda oko kuthethwa ngomnye umntu entlokweni yakho.
- Ngenxa yokuba kunzima ukugcina ikhaya lakho kunye neofisi yakho zihlelekile, uqala ukukhangela amacebiso okulungiselela izinto aza kukunceda wenze njalo uze uqale ukuwalandela.
Ezi zizinto eziluncedo kakhulu. Kodwa 'ukufihla ubuso' ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba luncedo kwaye kube yingozi. Kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwinto oyenzayo.
Kodwa kukwakho nengozi eyingozi koku.
'Ma Skin g' kuthetha ukubeka phambili umfanekiso wakho wentlalo. Oko kukuthi, indlela abanye abakubona ngayo. Kodwa ukwenza oku kuza neendleko zokuncama ezinye izinto ezixabisekileyo ebomini bakho. Kwaye ngenxa yoku, kuya kufuneka uhlawule ixabiso elinzima.
"Xa uphila ubomi bakho ufihla indalo yakho yokwenyani, ixabiso olihlawulayo linokuba lixesha lakho, amandla, kunye nempilo yengqondo."
Cinga ngale mizekelo. Mhlawumbi nawe uqhelene nayo.
- Emsebenzini: Awunakwenza umsebenzi ngokukhawuleza njengabanye abantu eofisini, ngoko ke uhlala ulele kude kube sebusuku, ngamanye amaxesha uzisa umsebenzi ekhaya. Kodwa awuhlawulwa ngezi yure zongezelelweyo. Kwaye eli lixesha elibalulekileyo onokulichitha nosapho lwakho, uzilolonga , okanye uphumle nje.
- Kubomi bentlalo: Awuze umeme umhlobo kuba kunzima ukugcina indlu yakho icocekile. Emva kwexesha elithile, abahlobo bakho basenokukucaphukela. Ukuba ngequbuliso umeme umntu, uza kuhlala uvukile kude kube yintsimbi yesi-3 kusasa, ucoca indlu kwaye umzise ekhaya ngendlela 'efanelekileyo'.
Xa usenza izinto ezinje ixesha elide, zinefuthe elikhulu ebomini bakho.
| Indawo echaphazelekayo | Ingozi |
|---|---|
| Ukulala | Ukungalali kakuhle nokungalali ngokwaneleyo ngenxa yokudinwa rhoqo kunye noxinzelelo. |
| Ukutya Okunempilo | Ukuguqukela ekutyeni okukhawulezileyo ngenxa yokunqongophala kwexesha nokuphepha ukutya okunesondlo. |
| Ukuzilolonga | Ukungabi naxesha okanye amandla okwenza umthambo. |
| Ukuphumla kwengqondo | Ukungabi naxesha lokuphumla okanye lokuphumla. Ndihlala ndiziva ndixinezelekile. |
Ukuba uqhubeka ngolu hlobo, uza kufumana ' ukudinwa '.Kungenjalo, ungadinwa ngokupheleleyo engqondweni nasemzimbeni. Kwangaxeshanye, ungaqalisa ukungazinaki ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo ezifana nokuhlawula irhafu, ukuya kugqirha, nokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya.
Eyona nto iyingozi kakhulu ngale nto kukuba olu xinzelelo lugqithisileyo lunyusa umngcipheko wokuba nezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo, ezinje ngexhala nokudakumba .
Ngoko ke wenza ntoni ngale 'Masking'?
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba le 'masking' inempembelelo enkulu ebomini bakho, eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukubona umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo onokukunceda ulawule imeko yakho ye-ADHD.
Khetha umntu ofanelekileyo
Kubalulekile ukukhetha umntu onolwazi nge-ADHD. Ungambuza ugqirha, "Unamava angakanani onayo ekunyangeni abantu abadala abane-ADHD?" Ungabuza nokuba ukunyanga i-ADHD kwahluke njani ekunyangeni ukudakumba.
Yazi oku nawe.
Funda ngezinye iindlela zokulawula i-ADHD yakho ngaphandle kokuthembela kwi-'masking'. Nazi iingcebiso ezinokukunceda wenze oku.
- Lumka xa 'ufihla ubuso': Oku kuye kwaba yinto eqhelekileyo kangangokuba usenokungazi nokuba uyakwenza. Kodwa zama ukukuqonda. Zibuze, "Kutheni ndikwenza oku? Ngaba ndizama ukuphepha ukuhlazeka? Okanye ngaba ndizama ukubaleka into yokuba ndine-ADHD?"
- Lawula oku: Usenokuba ubusoloko unxibe imaski ngenxa yesiqhelo. Ukususela ngoku, gqiba ngabom ukuba uza kuyinxiba nini kwaye uza kuyikhulula nini.
- Nika abanye ixesha lokuqhela 'ubuwena bakho bokwenyani': Ukuba ngequbuliso ukhulula 'imaski' yakho kuyo yonke indawo, abanye abantu banokumangaliswa yindlela oziphatha ngayo. Usenokude ungamkeleki. Ngoko ke, gqiba ekubeni uza kubonisana nabani kwaye kancinci kangakanani ubuntu bakho bokwenyani.
- Zingqonge nabantu abakwamkelayo: Ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo, usapho, kunye nabanye abakwamkelayo njengoko unjalo kuya kuba ngumthombo omkhulu wamandla.
Ngaba 'Ukugquma' Kungaqala Ngaphambi kokuba Ugqirha Athi Yi-ADHD?
Ewe, inokwenzeka. Abanye abantu, nangaphambi kokuba bafumane ukuxilongwa, bayaqonda ukuba 'bahlukile' kwabanye baze baqale ukufihla loo mahluko ukuze bavumelane noluntu.
Abanye “bazifihla” bengaqondanga. Oko kukuthi, abazi ukuba bahlukile, kodwa baxelisa nje indlela abanye abantu abaziphatha ngayo. Ngamaxesha anje, ulinganisa into ocinga ukuba yindlela abantu abafanele babe yiyo.
Ngoko ke, ukuba uziva ngathi uneempawu ezikhankanyiweyo kweli nqaku, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi indlela yokuxilonga ngokuchanekileyo i-ADHD yabantu abadala kunye nokubona ugqirha wakho kwaye ufumane uncedo olufunayo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- 'Ukuzifihla' nge-ADHD kubhekisa ekuzameni ukuhambelana noluntu, ukufihla iimpawu zakho ze-ADHD, kunye nokubonisa ubuso obahlukileyo.
- Nangona oku kunokukufundisa amaqhinga alungileyo, ekuhambeni kwexesha kunokukhokelela kwiimeko ezinje ngokudinwa kakhulu engqondweni nasemzimbeni, ixhala, kunye nokudakumba.
- 'Ukufihla' rhoqo kunempembelelo embi kakhulu ebuthongweni bakho, ekutyeni, ekuzilolongeni, nakwimpilo-ntle yengqondo.
- Ukuba unengxaki yesi sifo, kubalulekile ukubona ugqirha okanye umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo onolwazi nge-ADHD yabantu abadala .
- Qaphela imeko yakho. Kancinci kancinci, funda ukuba nguwe wokwenene kwabo bakwenza uzive ukhuselekile.
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