Ingabe nawe uzizwa ucindezelekile ngemva kokubeletha? Ake sixoxe 'nge-Birth Trauma'

Ukubeletha kuyisenzakalo esikhethekile kakhulu nesishintsha impilo empilweni kamama, akunjalo? Sonke sinethemba lokuya ekhaya sijabule futhi siphilile nomntwana. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, izinto ezenzeka ngaphambi, ngesikhathi, noma ngemva kokubeletha zingadala ubuhlungu obukhulu kanye nokulimala. Yilokhu esikubiza ngokuthi 'Ukulimala Kokuzalwa'.

Kuyini ngempela lokhu 'kuhlukumezeka kokuzalwa'?

Kalula nje, 'Ukulimala Kokuzalwa' yinoma yiluphi uhlobo lobuhlungu noma ukushaqeka ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo obhekana nakho ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Izibalo emazweni afana ne-United States zibonisa ukuthi umama oyedwa kwabathathu kufanele abhekane nesimo esinjalo esibuhlungu.

Cabanga ngakho, lokhu kuhlukile kuwo wonke umuntu. Mhlawumbe uma kube nesimo esiphuthumayo esisongela ukuphila ngesikhathi sokubeletha, noma uma ukubeletha kuthathe isikhathi eside kunokulindelekile noma kwakunzima kakhulu, izinto ezinjengalezo zingaholela 'ekuhluphekeni kokuzalwa'.

Okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu okufana nalokhu kungathinta impilo yakho izinyanga, ngisho neminyaka. Akugcini nje ngokuthinta umama obelethayo. Kungathinta nomlingani wakho, abasebenzi bezempilo abakusizile, noma noma ubani owabona ukubeletha. Kungaholela nasekucindezelekeni ngemva kokubeletha ngemva kokubeletha (PTSD) kanye nokucindezeleka ngemva kokubeletha .

Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Yiziphi izimbangela 'zokulimala kokuzalwa'?

Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani ukubeletha kungaba yinto ebuhlungu. Lokhu kuhlukumezeka kungaba ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo. Ezinye zezizathu zingakuthinta, ezinye zingathinta ingane yakho, noma kungaba nezinto ezithinta kokubili. Ezinye izinkinga zingavela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, kanti ezinye zenzeka ngemva kokubeletha.

Izimbangela zomzimba

Lokhu kuvame ukuhlobene nokulimala ngesikhathi sokubeletha, noma into esingayibona noma esiyithinte.

• Ukulimala kokubeletha: Lokhu akwenzeki njalo, kodwa kungenzeka. Mhlawumbe ingane yakho ibambeke emgudwini wokubeletha bese ilimala. Noma mhlawumbe isibeletho sakho siyaqhuma bese kudingeka uhlinzwe ngokuphuthumayo.
• Izinkinga zokubeletha: Isibonelo, ukwenza ukuhlinzwa kwe-C-section okuphuthumayo , noma ukusebenzisa i-forceps noma i-vacuum ukususa umntwana. Futhi, ukopha ngokweqile (ukopha ngemva kokubeletha) noma ukudabuka okukhulu kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane kungabangela ukulimala ngokomzimba.
• Izimo eziphuthumayo ezisongela ukuphila:Ukubeletha ngezinye izikhathi kuyinto engavamile. Nakuba kungavamile, ezinye izehlakalo ezisongela ukuphila ngisho nezibulalayo zingase zenzeke. Izehlakalo ezinjalo ziyashaqisa wonke umuntu ohilelekile.

Izimbangela zengqondo

Lezi zingokwengqondo, okusho ukuthi ziyizinto ozizwa ngenxa yesipiliyoni.

• Ingane yakho ingase idinge ukunakekelwa kwezokwelapha: Uma ingane yakho izalwa inesimo sezokwelapha, udokotela wezingane angase ayiyise e-NICU (i-Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) ngemva nje kokuzalwa. Omama abaningi ngeke bakwazi ukubona noma ukuthinta ingane yabo amahora amaningi. "Ingabe ingane yami izophila?" kuyinkathazo enkulu nokukhathazeka.
• Ukuzizwa ungasekelwa: Ngesikhathi sokubeletha, ungase uzizwe sengathi awutholanga ukwesekwa nokunakekelwa obekudinga , kungaba eqenjini lezokwelapha noma kwabathandekayo bakho. Cabanga ukuthi bekuyoba njani ukube ubuzizwa sengathi akekho okulalele noma okuqondayo lapho usezinhlungwini?
• Ukuzizwa sengathi awunawo amandla okulawula: Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini amathemba nezifiso zakho, izinto zingase zizwakale sengathi azikho ngaphansi kwamandla akho. Uhlobo olungalindelekile lokubeletha lungaba nzima ngoba awunawo amandla okulawula ukuthi kuzokwenzeka kanjani noma nini.
• Ukungatholi okuhlangenwe nakho obukulindele: Cishe ubucabanga ukuthi ukubeletha kuzoba yinto enhle, enokuthula, nephumuzayo. Kodwa uma kuvela ukuthi kuyinto ehluke ngokuphelele, kungaba umthombo wosizi nokushaqeka. Kuyadabukisa ukucabanga ukuthi, "Lokhu akusikho engangikuphupha ukuthi kuzoba yikho," akunjalo?

Ubani onamathuba amaningi okubhekana 'nokulimala kokuzalwa'? (Izici Eziyingozi)

Kunezici ezithile ezandisa ingozi yokubhekana 'nokulimala kokuzalwa'. Ezinye zazo yilezi:

• Uma uke wabhekana nokulimala kokubeletha ngesikhathi sokubeletha kwangaphambilini noma ukukhulelwa.
• Uma ingane yangaphambilini ishonile, yazalwa ifile noma yaphuphuma isisu .
• Uma kukhona umlando wokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi noma ukuhlukunyezwa.
• Uma usuvele unesifo sengqondo esifana nokucindezeleka , ukukhathazeka , noma i-PTSD .

Wazi kanjani ukuthi 'une-Birth Trauma'? (Izimpawu Nezimpawu)

Uma wena noma othile oseduze nawe esanda kuthola umntwana, qaphela izimpawu ezithile ezingase zibonise 'ukulimala kokuzalwa'. Abantu ababona ukuzalwa (njengomlingani wakho nodokotela) nabo bangase babonise lezi zimpawu ezifanayo.

Ezinye zezimpawu 'zokuzalwa okubuhlungu' yilezi:

• Uphupha kabi ngokubeletha, noma unemicabango ephazamisayo njalo. Uma ucabanga ngenkumbulo kaninginingi,Kungase kube nokuhlaselwa uvalo, noma ungase uzizwe udangele noma uthukuthele kakhulu.
• Bagwema noma yini ebakhumbuza ngokubeletha. Lokhu kusho ukugwema imihubhe yesibhedlela, ukungafuni ukubona abesifazane abakhulelwe, njll. Abanye abantu bangase bagweme ngisho nezingane zabo.
• Uhlala ukhathazekile, ukhathazekile, futhi wesaba, uzibuza, "Kuzokwenzekani enganeni yami?" Lokhu kungenzeka kakhulu uma ingane yakho ilimele ngesikhathi sokuzalwa noma kwadingeka ihlale ku -NICU . Ungase ukhathazeke njalo, "Ingabe ingane yami izophinde igule, ingabe izophinde idinge ukunakekelwa okukhethekile kwezokwelapha?"
• Uzizwa uphansi kakhulu ngawe, ucabanga ukuthi, "Ngiyisehluleki, yimina obangela konke lokhu." Abantu abaningi abanesifo sokucindezeleka ngemva kokubeletha nabo banesifo 'sokuhlukumezeka kokuzalwa'.
• Ukuze sizame ukubalekela lesi simo , singase sisebenzise ukuziphatha okungalungile, njengokuphuza utshwala, ukubhema, ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa, noma ukusebenzisa imali eningi kakhulu.

Kuzokwenzekani uma lesi simo siqhubeka? (Imiphumela yesikhathi eside)

Ukushiya ukulimala kokuzalwa kungelashwa kungakuthinta iminyaka eminingi. Kungathinta nomndeni wakho nabangani bakho.

Imiphumela engaba khona kumama:

• Ubuhlungu obungapheli: Ungagwema noma uhlehlise ukwelashwa kwezimo ezinjengokuwohloka kwezitho ze-pelvic (ukwanda kwezitho ze-pelvic) ezihambisana nokubeletha kanye nokulimala kwemizwa.
• Ukuzihlukanisa nengane yakho noma ubunzima bokuhlangana nengane yakho: Lokhu kuhlukumezeka kungenza kube nzima ngawe ukuhlangana nengane yakho. Ungase ulingeke ngisho nokusola ingane. Lokhu kungaholela emuzweni wecala kanye namahloni. Ungase ucabange, "Angisiye umama omuhle yini?" Kodwa khumbula, akulona iphutha lakho, kungumphumela wokuhlukunyezwa.
• Ukucindezeleka noma imicabango yokuzibulala: Uma unemicabango yokuzilimaza wena, ingane yakho, noma omunye umuntu, sicela ushayele ucingo noma uthumele umyalezo ku-988 ngokushesha, noma ukhulume nomuntu omethembayo.

Imiphumela engaba khona enganeni:

Ukulimala kokuzalwa kungathinta nengane yakho. Kungabangela ukubambezeleka kokukhula noma kwandise ingozi yezinkinga zempilo yengqondo njengokukhathazeka.

Ezinye izifundo zikhombisile ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka kungadluliselwa ngisho nangezakhi zofuzo . Lokho kusho ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka kuse- DNA yakho.Kungaba nomthelela ohlala njalo endleleni oziphatha ngayo. Futhi, ucwaningo lusikisela ukuthi lapho ingane ikhulela ekhaya lapho abanakekeli behlukumezekile khona, leyo ngane ingase ibe nezimpendulo ezibuhlungu. Isibonelo, uma wesaba izibhedlela nodokotela, ingane yakho ingase yesabe ukukutshela ukuthi igula nini.

Ingabe ukubeletha kungaba imbangela ye-PTSD?

Yebo, kungakwenza nakanjani. Ukubeletha kungabangela i-Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) . Nakuba izifundo zihluka, cishe umuntu oyedwa kwabayishumi uba ne-PTSD ngemva kokubeletha.

Yini okufanele uyenze uma une-'Birth Trauma'? Ungaluthola kanjani usizo?

Ukuqaphela izimpawu zokulimala kokuzalwa kungaba nzima. Kungaba nzima nakakhulu ukuthola ikhambi nokucela usizo. Uma uvame ukuzibuza ukuthi, "Ingabe ngihlukumezekile ngokuzalwa?", cishe unayo. Zilalele. Ungabi namahloni noma ube necala ngalokho okubonile noma ukuthi kuthinta kanjani impilo yakho. Ukufihla imizwa yakho nezimpawu zakho kuzokwandisa futhi kube kubi kakhulu lokho okubhekene nakho.

Uma unesihlungu sokubeletha, isinyathelo sokuqala esingcono kakhulu ukubona udokotela. Yabelana ngemizwa yakho, okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho nabo. Batshele ukuthi hlobo luni lobuhlungu obhekene nalo nokuthi lukuthinta kanjani. Bangase bakwazi ukukudlulisela kumhlinzeki wezempilo yengqondo ochwepheshe besifo sokubeletha noma i-PTSD.

Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha?

Indlela olulama ngayo ekuhluphekeni kokuzalwa ihlukile kuwo wonke umuntu. Kuncike kulokho okwenzeke ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwakho nokuthi kwakukubi kangakanani. Nazi ezinye izinyathelo ongazithatha ukuze ubhekane nokulimala kokuzalwa:

• Khuluma nodokotela wakho: Udokotela wakho angase akuncome ukwelulekwa , imithi, noma ezinye izindlela zokwelapha. Bangakusiza futhi ukuthi uqonde okwenzekile ngesikhathi sesigameko esibuhlungu nokuthi kungani senzeke. Khuluma nabo ngendlela ozizwa ngayo, ukuze bakusize uthole ukwelashwa okufanele wena.
• Yabelana ngendaba yakho: Nakuba kungase kubonakale kunzima ukuyilandisa, ukwabelana ngendaba yakho kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esihle sokunqoba usizi lokubeletha. Uma ukukhuluma ngayo kunzima, zama ukubhala ngayo noma ukurekhoda ividiyo. Cabanga ngokwabelana ngendaba yakho njengendlela yokukhipha imizwa nemicabango yakho emibi.
• Zijwayeze ukuzinakekela: Beka phambili inhlalakahle yakho kanye nokuphumula kwakho. Zinike isikhathi sokwenza izinto ozithandayo. Thola izindlela ezintsha zokuzola ingqondo yakho nokuphumula. I-YogaIzinto ezifana nokuhamba, ukuzindla, njalo njalo zingaba usizo kakhulu.
• Joyina iqembu lokusekela: Thola iqembu lokusekela lendawo noma eliku-inthanethi lapho abanye omama ababhekene nesimo esifanayo nesakho. Kungaba umthombo omkhulu wamandla lapho abanye abaye babhekana nokulimala kokubeletha bekulalela futhi bekuqonda.

Kuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani ukululama kulesi simo?

Kuhlukile kuwo wonke umuntu. Ungaba nobuhlungu bokuzalwa izinyanga ezimbalwa, noma kungaba amashumi eminyaka. Kuya ngokuthi ufuna usizo yini nokuthi kwakuyini lesi sigameko esibuhlungu.

Ukululama akwenzeki ngendlela efanayo noma endleleni efanayo kubo bonke abantu. Futhi akuhlali kuhamba ngendlela eqondile. Ungazizwa kabi ngohambo lwakho lokululama, noma ngabe lunzima noma luhamba kancane kunabanye obaziyo.

Uzinakekela kanjani uma 'unengozi yokuzalwa'?

Ukuvuma imizwa yakho nokufuna usizo yizinto ezinhle kakhulu ongazenza ukuze uzinakekele. Ukulimala kungokoqobo, futhi imizwa yakho iyafaneleka. Cabanga ngokubona isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo noma uchwepheshe we-PTSD ongakusiza ukuthi ululame. Ngisho nangosizo lochwepheshe, kuthatha isikhathi ukululama ekuzalweni okubuhlungu. Zibekezelele njengoba ubhekana nemizwa yakho.

Ingabe ngidinga ukubona udokotela? Kufanele ngikhulume nini?

Uma ubuhlungu bokubeletha buthinta impilo yakho yansuku zonke, qiniseka ukuthi ubona udokotela. Eminye imiphumela yokubeletha ingeyesikhashana, kodwa eminye ayiyona. Akudingeki uqhubeke nokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo noma ubuhlungu bokubeletha. Kunezindlela zokwelapha ezingakusiza uzizwe ungcono. Uma uzibuza ukuthi, "Ingabe kufanele ngikhulume nodokotela?" cishe kufanele. Ungakhuluma nangemizwa yakho ekuvakasheni kwakho kwangemva kokubeletha.

Kuvamile ukuba namaphupho namathemba ngokuzalwa kwengane yakho. Uphupha ngokubeletha okusheshayo, ukubeletha okulula, kanye nokuphatha usana oluphilile nolujabule ezingalweni zakho. Kodwa ukuletha umntwana emhlabeni kungaba yinto engalindelekile kakhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna kangakanani ukulawula lokhu, izinto ezenzeka ngesikhathi sokubeletha zivame ukuba ngaphezu kwamandla akho. Mhlawumbe ingane yakho inokulimala okusongela impilo. Noma mhlawumbe ubucabanga ukuthi uzojabula kakhulu lapho uhlangana nengane yakho, kodwa kunalokho uzizwa wesaba.

Abantu abaningi abayinaki imizwa yabo noma bayithathe kancane ngoba becabanga ukuthi kubenza babukeke bebuthakathaka, behlulekile, noma ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwabo kuyinto encane. Ungase ucabange ukuthi uwukuphela komuntu emhlabeni ongalandisi indaba yokuzalwa kwabo. Kodwa lokhu kuvame kakhulu kunalokho ongakucabanga.Ukulimala kokuzalwa akunakufiswa, kodwa awuyena ongenakuzisiza. Ungakhuluma nodokotela wakho ngemizwa yakho bese umcela ukuthi akuncomele ukwelashwa okuzokusiza ukuthi ululame.

Umyalezo wokugcina okufanele uwuthathe uye ekhaya

Ukubeletha kuyinselele futhi kuyisibusiso. Akuzona zonke izinto ezinhle. Uma uzizwa ungakhululekile, ushaqekile, noma ubuhlungu obuhlobene nokubeletha, sicela ungakufihli.

• Awuwedwa. Kunabanye abaningi abadlula kokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo.
• Imizwa yakho ibalulekile. Ungayithathi kalula.
• Ungesabi ukucela usizo. Ukukhuluma nodokotela, umeluleki, umngane omethembayo, noma ilungu lomndeni kungaba impumuzo enkulu.
• Kuthatha isikhathi ukuphulukiswa, kunike isikhathi. Yiba nomusa kuwe.

Khumbula, umama oqinile akayena umuntu ongakaze abhekane nezinkinga, kodwa umuntu ofuna usizo lokubhekana nazo lapho zivela. Unothando lwethu lonke nokusekelwa kwethu kulolu hambo!

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