Ukukhulelwa kungaba ngesinye sezikhathi ezinhle kakhulu empilweni yakho, isikhathi esigcwele uthando nethemba. Kodwa-ke, kuyinto evamile futhi ukubhekana nezinselele zomzimba nezengqondo kanye nokungakhululeki phakathi nalesi sikhathi. Ungase ube nokucasuka kwasekuseni , ukuqwasha, ukuphelelwa yisifiso sokudla, kanye nokukhathala. Awuwedwa. Ngisho nomculi odumile emhlabeni wonke u-Alanis Morissette wadlula kokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwakhe. Ake sithathe indaba yakhe njengesibonelo futhi sixoxe ngendlela yokuchitha lesi sikhathi ngenjabulo nangendlela enempilo.
Ushintsho olukhulu endleleni yokuphila: Ingabe kufanele sinciphise ijubane kancane?
Ngaphambi kokuba ukhulelwe, cishe wawuphila impilo ematasa kakhulu, usebenza ungayeki. U-Alanis uthi 'wayengumuntu othanda ukusebenza ngokweqile', okusho ukuthi wayeluthakile emsebenzini. Kodwa ngemva kokukhulelwa, ikakhulukazi ku-trimester yokuqala neyesithathu, wayengakwazi ukusebenza kanjalo. Umzimba wakhe wamtshela ukuthi, "Kwanele, phumula."
"Lesi yisikhathi sokuqala empilweni yami ngithola ithuba lokunciphisa ijubane. Angikaze nginciphise ijubane ngaphambili ngenxa yempilo yami. Kodwa manje sengiyabona ukuthi akuyona ishejuli yami, ishejuli yengane ebalulekile." - Alanis Morissette
Lokhu kungaba yinto evamile nakuwe. Ngenxa yezinguquko zamahomoni , ukukhathala, nokunye ukungakhululeki ngokomzimba, ungase ungakwazi ukugijima kakhulu njengoba wawusenza ngaphambili. Ungakhathazeki ngakho. Kungumzamo womzimba wakho wokunikeza wena nomntanakho ukuphumula abakudingayo. Kubalulekile ukuba nomusa kuwe futhi ulalele umzimba wakho phakathi nalesi sikhathi .
Inselelo yokuqala: Ungabhekana kanjani nokucasuka kwasekuseni?
Omama abaningi bahlushwa isicanucanu nokuhlanza ezinyangeni zokuqala zokukhulelwa. Lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi 'ukugula kwasekuseni', kodwa kwabanye abantu lokhu kungakhululeka kungahlala usuku lonke. Ngisho no-Alanis wabhekana nalokhu.
Kodwa kukhona uhlangothi oluhle kulokhu. Odokotela bathi lolu hlobo lwesicanucanu nokuhlanza luvame ukuba uphawu lokukhulelwa okunempilo . Kusho ukuthi umzimba ukhiqiza ama-hormone anele adingekayo ekukhuleni komntwana.
Ngakho-ke yini esingayenza ukuze siphathe lokhu kungakhululeki?
| Iseluleko | Incazelo |
|---|---|
| Ukusetshenziswa kwejinja | Ukuphuza itiye likajinja, ukudla ukudla okufakwe ujinja, noma ukuhlafuna izingcezu zikajinja kungasiza ekunciphiseni isicanucanu. |
| Ukudla okuncane | Esikhundleni sokudla okuningi ngesikhathi esisodwa, yidla ukudla okuncane izikhathi eziningana ngosuku. Ungadli esiswini esingenalutho. |
| Ukudla okomile | Ungalawula isicanucanu ngokudla okuthile okufana nebhisikidi le-cream cracker ngaphambi kokuvuka embhedeni ekuseni. |
| Phuza amanzi amaningi. | Ukuhlanza kungabangela ukuphelelwa amanzi emzimbeni, ngakho-ke phuza uketshezi olufana namanzi kanye nejusi yezithelo usuku lonke. |
| Okubalulekile: Uma uhlanza kakhulu, ungakwazi ukudla noma ukuphuza noma yini, futhi wehlisa isisindo, bona udokotela wakho ngokushesha. | |
Ukudla, umzimba kanye nombono omusha
Abanye besifazane bangase babe nezinkinga ngesimo somzimba wabo kanye nemikhuba yokudla ngisho nangaphambi kokuba bakhulelwe. U-Alanis ngokwakhe ubelokhu enenkinga yokuphazamiseka kokudla esikhathini esidlule. Kodwa ngokukhulelwa, indlela abheka ngayo umzimba wakhe yashintsha ngokuphelele.
"Isikhathi eside, bengibona umzimba wami njengento okufanele igcinwe kahle futhi ifanele ezemidlalo. Kodwa manje, uwumshini omangalisayo owenza ingane. Indlela engicabanga ngayo ngokudla engikudlayo nayo ishintshile. Manje sengikhetha ukudla ngokusekelwe kwizakhamzimba ezikuqukethe," kusho yena.
Lona umyalezo obaluleke kakhulu. Ukudla okudlayo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kuthinta ngqo impilo yakho kanye nokukhula okunempilo komntwana wakho.
Ake sicabange nangokuzilolonga.
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba nakho kuhle kakhulu ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa , kodwa akusebenzi kakhulu njengakuqala.
- Ukuhamba: Kuhle kakhulu ukuhamba ngezinyawo okufushane nsuku zonke.
- I-Yoga: Ukuzivocavoca kwe-yoga, okuqondene ngqo nabesifazane abakhulelwe, kunganciphisa ubuhlungu bomzimba (isib. ubuhlungu bomhlane) futhi kuphumuze ingqondo.
- Iseluleko sezokwelapha: Ngaphambi kokuqala noma yiluphi uhlelo lokuzivocavoca, kubalulekile ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho bese ubuza ukuthi yini ekufanele.
Izinyanga ezimbalwa ezedlule: ubusuku bokungalali
Omama abaningi banenkinga yokungalali ngesikhathi sekota yesithathu yokukhulelwa. Lokhu kungaba ngenxa yokungakhululeki kwesisu esikhulayo, isidingo sokuchama njalo, kanye nokushintsha kwamazinga ama-hormone.
Odokotela bathi lokhu kuyinto enhle ngandlela thile. Okusho ukuthi, lokhu kungumzimba wakho okuqeqesha ukuthi uhlale uphapheme ubusuku bonke ngemva kokuzalwa komntwana.
Ngakho-ke wenzani ngalokhu?
- Gcina isikhathi sokulala esihambisanayo .
- Ukudla into encane, njengobhanana, cishe ihora ngaphambi kokulala kungakusiza ukuthi ulale.
- Uma uvuka phakathi nobusuku, ungakhathazeki ngakho, funda incwadi, ulalele ingoma ethambile, noma wenze ezinye izivivinyo zokuphefumula. Ukukhathazeka ngokungakwazi ukulala kuzokwenza kube nzima ngawe ukulala.
Ukulungiselela ukubeletha (Uhlelo Lokuzalwa)
Wonke umama unecebo lokubeletha. Abanye bangase bafune ukubeletha ekhaya. Ngisho no-Alanis uhlele ukubeletha ngokwemvelo ekhaya.
Kodwa waqaphela into eyodwa: "Njengohlelo lwami, umntwana unecebo lakhe." Ngakho-ke, wakhuluma nodokotela esibhedlela futhi walungiselela zonke izinhlelo zokusekela ezidingekayo uma kwenzeka isimo esiphuthumayo.
Ngokwesimo saseSri Lanka, ukubeletha umntwana esibhedlela kuyindlela efanele nephephile kakhulu yokuqinisekisa ukuphepha okuphezulu kumama nomntwana.
Uma ucabangela ukubeletha ekhaya, kumele uhlangabezane nezindinganiso eziqinile kakhulu (isib., umama kumele abe nempilo ephelele, akumele kube nezinkinga, futhi umntwana kumele abe sesimweni esifanele). Esimweni esiphuthumayo, ngisho nemizuzwana embalwa ingaba yigugu. Esibhedlela, noma yikuphi ukwelashwa umama nomntwana abakudingayo, okuhlanganisa nokuhlinzwa uma kudingeka, noma ukunakekelwa okuphuthumayo eMnyangweni Wezimo Eziphuthumayo (ETU), kunganikezwa ngokushesha.
Xoxa ngendlela yakho yokubeletha nodokotela wakho . Umgomo omkhulu kufanele ube umama onempilo kanye nomntwana onempilo , kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubelethe kanjani.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukukhulelwa kuwuhambo olugcwele injabulo nezinselele. Lungela ukubhekana nezinguquko zomzimba nezengqondo.
- Lalela umzimba wakho. Uma uzizwa ukhathele, phumula. Kuvamile ukungakwazi ukusebenza ngokushesha njengoba wawuvame ukwenza.
- Ukucasuka kwasekuseni kuvame ukuba uphawu lokukhulelwa okunempilo. Kodwa uma kukubi kakhulu noma ungakwazi ukudla noma ukuphuza noma yini, bona udokotela wakho.
- Yidla ukudla okunempilo wena kanye nomntwana wakho ongakazalwa. Funa iseluleko sezokwelapha ngaphambi kokuzivocavoca.
- Xoxa ngayo yonke imibuzo yakho kanye nezinhlelo zakho mayelana nokubeletha ngokukhululekile nodokotela wakho. Ukuphepha kukamama nomntwana kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu.
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