Namuhla, sonke sizwa amagama amasha ekhulunywa ngawo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kanye naku-TV, akunjalo? Ngezinye izikhathi sisebenzisa la magama yize singazi kahle ukuthi asho ukuthini. Ngokufanayo, igama elilokhu lizwakala ezindlebeni zethu muva nje yi-"Cisgender." Kungenzeka ukuthi uke walizwa leli gama ngaphambili. Ngakho-ke, liyini ngempela i-Cisgender? Ingabe lesi yisihloko esiyinkimbinkimbi? Cha nhlobo. Ake sixoxe ngalokhu kalula nangokuthula namuhla futhi sicacise yonke imibuzo esezingqondweni zethu.
Kusho ukuthini nje ukuthi i-Cisgender?
Kulula kakhulu. I-Cisgender isho ukuthi ingqondo yakho iyavumelana nobulili obuphilayo owabelwe bona lapho uzalwa.
Ake sichaze kabanzi. Cabanga ukuthi ngesikhathi uzalwa, odokotela babhala "owesifazane" esitifiketi sakho sokuzalwa. Njengoba ukhula, ucabanga futhi uzizwe sengathi uyintombazane, noma owesifazane. Uma kunjalo, ungowesifazane othanda ubulili obufanayo .
Ngokufanayo, uma wazalwa "njengowesilisa" esitifiketini sakho sokuzalwa, futhi njengoba ukhula, usacabanga futhi uzizwa njengomfana noma njengowesilisa, khona-ke uyindoda ye-cisgender .
Iningi labantu emhlabeni liwela esigabeni se-cisgender. Ingxenye yesiLatini yaleli gama, "cis", isho ukuthi "ngakolunye uhlangothi". Igama eliphambene nalo lithi "trans". Lisho ukuthi "ngakolunye uhlangothi". Ngamanye amazwi, sibiza abantu abazibiza ngobulili obuhlukile kobulili ababunikwa ngesikhathi sokuzalwa ngokuthi 'Transgender'.
Ingabe ubulili nobulili yizinto ezihlukene?
Yebo! Lokhu kuyiphuzu lokudideka kubantu abaningi. Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi "ubulili" kanye "nobulili" kuyinto efanayo. Kodwa lena imiqondo emibili ehlukene ngokuphelele. Ake siwuqonde kahle lo mehluko.
| Umqondo | Incazelo |
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| Ucansi | Lokhu kungokwemvelo ngokuphelele. Okusho ukuthi, kuhlobene nomzimba wakho. Ngokuvamile kuhlukaniswa izingxenye ezimbili: owesifazane nowesilisa. Lokhu kusekelwe ku:
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| Ubulili | Lokhu kuyinto yomphakathi ngokuphelele. Okusho ukuthi, kuhilela ukuziphatha, izindima, kanye nezindlela zokuziphatha umphakathi okulindele kwabesifazane nabesilisa. Isibonelo, imibono efakwa kithi ngumphakathi, njengokuthi "abafana abakhali," "amantombazane kufanele agqoke izingubo," kanye nokuthi "amadoda kufanele abe namandla." Lokhu kungahluka kuye ngamasiko. |
Ukuzazi Ngobulili yindlela ozibona ngayo ngaphakathi, indlela okhuluma ngayo nawe (yena, yena, bona). Ubulili bomuntu ngamunye kanye nokuzazi ngokobulili akuhambelani.
Ngakho-ke ngubani ongeyena u-binary?
"Okungeyona eyesibili" yigama elivamile elisetshenziselwa abantu ababulili babo obungangeni emabhokisini endabuko owesilisa noma owesifazane. Kungaba phakathi nendawo, inhlanganisela yakho kokubili, noma ubuwena obungaphandle kwakho kokubili.
Ezinye izibonelo:
- Ubulili: Ubunikazi babo bobulili bungashintsha njalo.
- Ubulili: Ubunikazi obuvame ukushintsha phakathi kobunikazi besilisa nabesifazane.
- Ubulili: Abantu abangazibonakalisi ngobulili (owesilisa, owesifazane, noma omunye).
- I-Bigender: Abantu abazibiza ngokuthi abesilisa nabesifazane ngesikhathi esisodwa noma ngezikhathi ezahlukene.
Ubunikazi Bobulili Nokuthambekela Kobulili
Lena enye into edida abantu abaningi.
- Ukuzazi Ngobulili: Yilokhu oyikho . Kusho ukuthi uzibona njengowesilisa, owesifazane, noma olunye uhlobo lokuzazi.
- Ukuthambekela Kocansi: Yilowo omthandayo . Yilowo okukhanga ngokocansi nangokomzwelo.
Isibonelo, umuntu oshintshe ubulili (umuntu ohlukile ngokobulili bakhe obufanayo nobobulili azalwa nabo) angase akhangwe ubulili obuhlukile (ngokuqondile), ungqingili (ungqingili/ungqingili), noma ubulili obubili. Le mibono emibili izimele ngokuphelele.
Ake sifunde nangesimo esibizwa ngokuthi i-Intersex.
Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi ngokwebhayoloji kunobulili obubili kuphela, owesilisa nowesifazane. Kodwa empeleni kufana kakhulu ne-spectrum. "I-Intersex" yisimo lapho umuntu ezalwa khona enezici zobulili (ama-chromosome, ama-hormone, noma izitho zangasese) ezingahambisani kahle nezomzimba ojwayelekile wesilisa noma owesifazane. Lokhu akusikho ubunikazi bobulili, kodwa umehluko webhayoloji . Uma ufuna ukwazi okwengeziwe ngalokhu, kungcono ukubuza udokotela wakho (udokotela).
Kuyini "i-Cisgender Privilege"?
Lokhu kuyindaba ethinta inhliziyo kancane. Uma ngithi "ilungelo," abanye bangase bacabange ukuthi lokhu kusho ukuthi abantu abathanda ubulili obufanayo bangcono kunabanye. Lutho neze.
Ilungelo le-Cisgender liyilungelo nelungelo olijabulelayo ngokwemvelo ngoba ubuwena bakho bobulili buhambisana nohlaka "olujwayelekile" olwamukelwa iningi lomphakathi. Abantu be-Cisgender akudingeki bakhathazeke ngobunzima, imibuzo, kanye nokubandlululwa abantu abangebona abe-cisgender ababhekana nakho nsuku zonke.
Ilungelo le-Cisgender alisho ukuthi wenza into engalungile. Kusho ukuthi ngenxa yobuntu bakho bobulili, ngokwemvelo ukhululekile kwezinye zezithiyo abanye ababhekana nazo.
Ake sibheke ezinye izibonelo:
- Akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokuthi othile akubuke ngendlela exakile, akubuze imibuzo, noma akuhlukumeze uma uyosebenzisa indlu yangasese yomphakathi.
- Uma uhlangana nomuntu omusha, akekho obuza ukuthi "igama lakho langempela" lingubani.
- Akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokuthi othile uzosebenzisa isabizwana esifanele (yena/yena) uma ekhuluma ngawe.
- Abanye ababuzi imibuzo yomuntu siqu engadingekile mayelana nomzimba wakho noma ukuhlinzwa okwenzile.
- Uma ubona isithombe sakho useyingane, ngeke kudingeke uchazele noma ubani ukuthi, "Kungani ungekho njengoba unjalo manje?"
Nakuba lezi zinto zivamile kumuntu o-cisgender, kumuntu oshintshe ubulili noma ongeyena ongowesibili, lezi yizingcindezi zansuku zonke ezimbeka engcupheni enkulu yokuthola ukucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka, nezinye izinkinga zempilo.
Sibahlonipha futhi sibasekela kanjani bonke abantu?
Njengabantu abathandana nabantu besifazane, singakuqonda lokhu kwehluka futhi sisize ekwakheni umphakathi ohlanganisa wonke umuntu nohloniphayo. Akudingeki kube yinto enkulu. Ake siqale ngezinto ezincane.
- Ungacabangi ukuthi: Ungacabangi ukuthi wonke umuntu ohlangana naye ungumuntu we-cisgender.
- Yiba nenhlonipho: Yiba nenhlonipho ngendlela umuntu azethula ngayo. Mbize ngegama lakhe nesabizwana asithandayo. Uma ungaqiniseki, akukho okubi ngokubuza ngenhlonipho ukuthi, "Ungathanda ukubizwa kanjani?"
- Ungabuzi imibuzo engadingekile:Gwema ukubuza imibuzo ngomzimba womuntu, ukuhlinzwa, noma ulwazi lomuntu siqu lwezokwelapha. Yindaba yomuntu siqu kakhulu.
- Qaphela: Ngokufunda kancane ngalezi zihloko bese uqaphela, ungazivimbela ekufundeni ngokungazi into engalimaza imizwa yomunye umuntu.
Ekugcineni, sonke singabantu. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuhloniphana nobuntu bomunye nomunye futhi senze ngomusa nangokuqonda.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- I-Cisgender isho ukuthi ubulili bakho buhambisana nobulili obabelwe bona ngesikhathi sokuzalwa.
- Ubulili buyinto yemvelo, kanti ubulili buyinto eyakhiwe ngokwenhlalo. Ungazididanisi lezi zinto ezimbili.
- Ukuzazi komuntu ngokobulili kanye nokuthambekela kwakhe ngokobulili kuyimibono emibili ehluke ngokuphelele.
- Kubalulekile ukuhlonipha ubunjalo bomuntu wonke. Ungabasekela kakhulu ngokubabiza ngamagama abo kanye nesabizwana abasithandayo.
- Ngokwazi kabanzi ngalezi zihloko, singakha umphakathi oqondayo nozwela kakhudlwana.
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