Ingabe ngezinye izikhathi uzizwa udabuke kakhulu noma ukhathazekile? Kuvamile ukuzizwa udabuke lapho silahlekelwa othandekayo, silahlekelwa umsebenzi, noma sidumala empilweni. Kodwa-ke, uma lokhu kudabuka kungapheli ngemva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa futhi kuqhubeka, kungase kube okungaphezu nje kokudabuka okuvamile. Ngakho-ke namuhla, ake sixoxe ngomehluko phakathi kwalokhu kudabuka okuvamile nesimo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuthi ukucindezeleka, nokuthi kufanele sikhulume nini nodokotela ngalokhu.
Kuyini ngempela ukucindezeleka?
Kalula nje, ukucindezeleka kuyisifo sengqondo esivamile, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi esibi kakhulu, esingathinta imizwa yakho, indlela ocabanga ngayo, indlela oziphatha ngayo, ngisho nomzimba wakho.
Sonke sizizwa sidabukile ngezinye izikhathi ekuphileni kwethu. Kungokwemvelo kakhulu. Kodwa ukucindezeleka akusikho nje ukudabuka. Ekudabukeni okuvamile, umuzwa uyancipha kancane kancane ngemva kwesikhathi. Kodwa ekucindezelekeni, leyo mizwa yokudabuka, ukuphelelwa yithemba, kanye nokungabi nalutho isengqondweni yakho ngaso sonke isikhathi, cishe usuku lonke. Kuzwakala sengathi awukwazi ukukubalekela. Ngisho noma abanye abantu bekutshela ukuthi, "Kuyinto oyiqambile," noma "Yeka," ukucindezeleka akuyona into ongayicabanga nje bese uyisusa.
Kuvamile futhi ukuzizwa unesizungu ngezinye izikhathi. Kuhle empilweni yakho ukuba wedwa futhi uphumule nje. Kodwa uma ucindezelekile, uzizwa sengathi uhlukaniswe ngokuphelele nomphakathi. Awukwazi ngisho nokwenza imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke kahle. Kunzima ukuya emsebenzini, ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, nokuxhumana nabanye abantu. Lesi esinye sezici ezibucayi kakhulu zokucindezeleka.
Qaphela lezi zimpawu.
Uma wena noma othile oseduze nawe enesinye noma ngaphezulu sezimpawu ezingezansi ezihlala isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili , kungaba ukucindezeleka, kunokuba kube ukudabuka okuvamile. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukukhuluma nodokotela ngakho.
| Isibonakaliso | Incazelo |
|---|---|
| Ukudabuka okuqhubekayo | Ukuzizwa ungenathemba, ungenalutho, ukhala njalo, uzizwa ungelutho, uzizwa unecala ngezenzo zangaphambilini. |
| I-Anhedonia | Izinto ezazijabulisa ngaphambili (izinto zokuzilibazisa, ezemidlalo, ukukhuluma nabangani, ukuya ocansini) azisalethi injabulo. Konke sekuyisicefe. |
| Izinkinga zokulala | Ukungakwazi ukulala, noma ukuvuka njalo ebusuku. Mhlawumbe ukulala kakhulu nokuzizwa uvilapha ukuvuka embhedeni. |
| Ubuthakathaka | Ukuzizwa ukhathele, ukhathele njalo. Ukuhamba kancane, ukukhuluma kancane, futhi kuthatha isikhathi eside ukuphendula izinto zabanye abantu. |
| Izinguquko zesisindo | Ungase wehle isisindo ngenxa yokulahlekelwa yisifiso sokudla, noma ungase wehle isisindo ngenxa yokwanda kwesifiso sokudla okungenampilo. |
| Ubuhlungu bomzimba | Ubuhlungu emhlane, ekhanda, njll. ngaphandle kwesizathu esithile. Ukuqaqamba kwemisipha, ubuhlungu besisu. Lobuhlungu abupheli ngisho nangemva kokuthatha imithi. |
| Ukuzidebeselela | Angikhathali ngokuhlanzeka kwakho nokubukeka kwakho. Angigezi, ngigqoka izingubo ezifanayo ezingcolile nsuku zonke. |
| Intukuthelo engenasizathu | Ukulwa nabanye njalo, ukuthukuthela ngezinto ezincane, nokubamba amagqubu. |
| Ukuzizwa njengenkungu yobuchopho | Ubunzima bokucabanga kahle, ukukhohlwa izinto. Ukungakwazi ukugxila emsebenzini noma engxoxweni. Ubunzima bokwenza izinqumo. |
| Ukudinwa yimpilo | Ukuzizwa sengathi impilo ayinayo incazelo, ukuba nemicabango ngokufa, noma ukuba nemicabango yokuzibulala. |
Into ebalulekile ukuthi akubona bonke abantu abanesifo sokucindezeleka abazobhekana nazo zonke lezi zimpawu. Abanye abantu bangase babe nazo ezimbalwa kuphela. Futhi ubukhulu bezimpawu buyahlukahluka kuye ngomuntu nomuntu.
Ingabe izimpawu zingashintsha ngokuguga?
Yebo, impela. Izimpawu zokucindezeleka zingavela ngezindlela ezahlukene emaqenjini ahlukene eminyaka.
Kwabantwana abancane
Izingane ezincane ezinokucindezeleka zingase zingafuni ukuya esikoleni. Zingase zingenzi kahle ekilasini, futhi amamaki azo angase ehle. Ezinye izingane ezincane zingase zinamathele kubazali bazo futhi zesabe yonke into.
Kwabantwana abancane
Izingane ezincane zingase zilingeke ukuba zigweme isikole. Zingase zibe nomuzwa ojulile, zingazethembi, zidle noma zilale ngokweqile, futhi ngezinye izikhathi zihlanganyele ekuziphatheni okuyingozi njengokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa noma utshwala noma ukuzilimaza (njengokuzisika izandla noma ukungqubuzana namakhanda azo odongeni).
Kwabantu abadala
Ukucindezeleka kubantu abadala kuvame ukungatholakali ngoba izimpawu ziphambaniswa nokuguga okuvamile. Bangase babonise izimpawu ezifana nokuhlala ekhaya, ukuhoxa emphakathini, ukulahlekelwa isifiso sokudla, ukulala kabi, kanye nokukhohlwa.
Udokotela angakusiza kanjani?
Uma usola ngisho nokuncane ukuthi unesifo sokucindezeleka, sicela ukhulume nodokotela noma nomeluleki wezempilo yengqondo . Bangakuthola isimo sakho futhi bakunikeze ukwelashwa okudingekayo ukuze kuncishiswe izimpawu zakho.
Udokotela uzokuxilonga futhi akubuze ngomlando wezokwelapha womndeni wakho. Bangase futhi bahlole igazi ukuze babone ukuthi izimpawu zakho zibangelwa yini esinye isimo (njengenkinga ye-thyroid). Bazobe sebekubuza imibuzo mayelana nemizwa nemicabango yakho, futhi bangase bakucele ukuthi ugcwalise uhlu lwemibuzo. Lokhu kuzobasiza ukuthi banqume ukuthi hlobo luni lokucindezeleka onalo.
Ukucindezeleka kungalawulwa ngosizo.
Ukucindezeleka kuyisimo esingelapheka. Ngakho ungesabi. Udokotela wakho uzokunikeza imithi efanele kanye nokwelashwa kwengqondo. Uma kudingeka, bangakudlulisela kudokotela wezifo zengqondo noma kudokotela wezifo zengqondo.
Ungabi namahloni ngalesi simo noma ukhathazeke ngokuthi abanye bazocabangani. Ukuthola ukwelashwa kusho ukuthi uyazinakekela.
Ungazishayi isifuba ngokuthi, "Ngibuthakathaka, ngidinga ukukwazi ukulawula imizwa yami." Ukucindezeleka kuyisimo sezokwelapha, hhayi iphutha lobuntu. Funda kabanzi ngakho. Joyina amaqembu okusekelana lapho ungakhuluma khona nabanye abaphila nokucindezeleka njengawe.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukudabuka okuvamile kuyaphela ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, kodwa ukucindezeleka kuyisimo sengqondo esiqhubekayo esithinta impilo yakho yansuku zonke.
- Uma izimpawu ezifana nokudabuka okuqhubekayo, ukuntuleka kwenjabulo, nezinkinga zokulala ziqhubeka isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili, kubalulekile ukuzinaka.
- Ukucindezeleka kuyisimo sezokwelapha, hhayi ubuthakathaka bomuntu siqu. Akunakucatshangwa ngokucabanga.
- Ungabi namahloni okucela usizo. Khuluma nodokotela wakho. Ngokwelashwa okufanele (imithi, ukwelashwa kwengqondo), ungalulama nakanjani.
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