Ingabe uzizwa unesizungu futhi unesizungu ngenxa yokukhubazeka kwakho? Kuvamile ukuzizwa ngaleyo ndlela ngezinye izikhathi. Kodwa akudingeki kube njalo. Cabanga ngale ndaba. UJessie ungowesifazane osemusha owayekhubazekile kusukela okhalweni kuye ezansi ngemuva kwengozi yesithuthuthu. Ekuqaleni, wayekhathazekile kakhulu, kodwa impilo yakhe yashintsha lapho ehlangana nomunye umuntu owayesebenzisa isihlalo sabakhubazekile. “Wangitshela ngakho konke ayekwenza. Wayenomlingani, wayesebenza, wayedlala emanzini… Kwanginika ukuzethemba okukhulu,” kusho uJessie. Lokho kuzethemba kwamnika amandla okuphupha ngokuba ngumdlali wezemidlalo, umama, kanye nomnikazi webhizinisi futhi.
Ngakho-ke, uma unenselele yomzimba efana nale, usengaphila impilo ejabulisayo, eqinisekile, neyomphakathi. Ake sibone ukuthi yini ongayenza ngakho.
Okokuqala, zazi wena manje.
Ukukhubazeka ngokomzimba, ikakhulukazi uma kuyinto entsha, kudinga ukuthi uzinike isikhathi sokujwayela, kusho uDkt. Jennifer Hankenson, uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ngokomzimba kanye nochwepheshe wezokwelapha ngokuvuselelwa eYale School of Medicine.
"Lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele ucashe. Kunalokho, qala kancane kancane ukuzibandakanya emphakathini , nabantu osondelene nabo nabathembeke kakhulu, ngendlela ezwakala ikhululekile kuwe, ephephile kuwe."
Uma usebenzisa isihlalo sabakhubazekile, isitho sokufakelwa, noma enye idivayisi yokusiza, qala ngokujwayelana nokulinganiselwa, amakhono, kanye nezingozi zaso. Njengoba uDkt. Hankenson esho, ukuzama lezi zinto "endaweni ephephile, nabantu abaphephile" ngaphambi kokuya emphakathini kwakha ukuzethemba kwakho.
Uma unenkinga yokujwayela le mpilo entsha, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngakho. Mhlawumbe uchwepheshe wezokwelapha angakusiza ufunde ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nalezi zinkinga ezisebenzayo.
Qaphela nezinselele zempilo yengqondo.
Ngaphezu kwezithiyo zomzimba, abantu abakhubazekile bavame ukuba nezinkinga zobunikazi. Okusho ukuthi, ushintsho emqondweni wabo wokuthi "ngingubani?" Lokhu kungathinta isifiso sabo noma ikhono labo lokuba nobudlelwano nabantu, ngokusho kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMary Schrammer.
Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi: " Angifuni abantu bangibone nginje. Ngizophuma uma sengiphilile ngokwanele. " Le micabango ibenza bazizwe bebodwa nakakhulu. Iphinde inciphise imibono yabo ngalokho abangakwenza.
Kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu ukunqoba lokhu kwesaba. Kufanele uzibuze:
- "Yiziphi izinto engizithandayo empilweni yami njengamanje?"
- "Ngingayithola kanjani injabulo kulezo zinto?"
- "Yiziphi ezinye izindlela engingajabulela ngazo izinto engizithandayo kanye nokuxhumana nabantu, ngisho noma ngikhubazekile?"
Ukwelulekwa ngempilo yengqondo kuyindlela enhle kakhulu ngezikhathi ezinjengalezi. Ukwelashwa kweqembu noma ukwelashwa kwangasese kungakusiza ukunqoba lezi zithiyo futhi uthole isiqondiso sokuphila impilo yakho engcono kakhulu. Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu futhi.
Thola imisebenzi nezinto ozithandayo ezikufanele.
Uma ungumlandeli wezemidlalo, kunemidlalo eminingi ehambisana nokuzivumelanisa nezimo etholakalayo. Izinketho zakho zingase zilinganiselwe kuye ngokuthi uhlala kuphi, kodwa sesha kalula ku-inthanethi "imidlalo ehambisana nokuzivumelanisa nezimo eduze kwami." Ungabuza nodokotela wakho noma uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ngezinhlelo endaweni yakini.
Abantu abanjengoJessie benza imisebenzi eyahlukahlukene, okuhlanganisa imidlalo yasemanzini, imidlalo yeqhwa, ukugoba izihlalo zabakhubazekile, ukugibela ibhayisikili ngezandla, ukubhukuda, ukucibishela ngomnsalo, kanye nokukhuphuka izintaba. Usebenzisa amakhono abakhubazekile awafunde kudokotela wakhe we-physiotherapist ukuze amise amakamu futhi ahambe ezindleleni zezintaba ezingavamile ukuhanjwa.
Funa uhambo olujabulisayo okulula ukulufinyelela nokubuya.
Uma ungathandi kakhulu ezemidlalo, izindawo eziningi ezifana namapaki e-theme, ama-zoo, kanye neminyuziyamu ziyatholakala kalula kubantu abakhubazekile. Nanka amanye amathiphu okukusiza ukuthi uthole izindlela zokuzihlanganisa kalula.
| Ithiphu | Lokho ongakwenza |
|---|---|
| Ukuhlela ukuhamba | Sesha ku-inthanethi iziqondiso zokuhamba ezilungele abakhubazekile kanye nezindawo oya kuzo. |
| Amaphakheji eholide | Funa amaphakheji eholide avumela abantu abakhubazekile, okuhlanganisa nohambo lokuhamba ngesikebhe. |
| Othile ongasiza | Uma uhamba noma uphuma, cela usizo kumngane omethembayo noma ilungu lomndeni. |
| Ukubuza abanye | Buza abanye abantu abakhubazekile njengawe ngezindawo abathanda ukuhlangana kuzo. |
Ukuhamba ngendiza ngezinye izikhathi kungaba nzima, ngakho-ke uma udinga isihlalo sabakhubazekile noma olunye usizo, kungcono ukwazisa inkampani yezindiza kusenesikhathi .
Joyina abantu abanokuhlangenwe nakho okufana nokwakho.
Kungaba nzima ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nabanye ngezinye zezinkinga ezingokoqobo abantu abakhubazekile ababhekana nazo (isibonelo, ubunzima bokuhuda kanye nokuchama). Njengoba uJessie esho, "Uma unabanye abasebenzisi bezihlalo zabakhubazekile, ungakhuluma ngokukhululekile ngalezo zinto ngaphandle kokwahlulela. Ngoba sonke sisendaweni efanayo."
I-inthanethi kanye nezinkundla zokuxhumana ziyindawo enhle yokuthola abantu abanjengawe. Kodwa futhi kungaba "indawo eyingozi," kuxwayisa uDkt. Hankenson. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokujoyina amaqembu angajwayelekile, buza udokotela wakho noma ilungu lomphakathi elithembekile ngawo, bese ujoyina amaqembu okusekela asevele akhona.
Njengoba uxhumana nalomphakathi, uzobona ukuthi awuwedwa kule mpilo. Kuzo, uzofunda amaqhinga amaningi, izinqamuleli, nezinto ezintsha ezingenza le mpilo ibe lula.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Zinike isikhathi sokujwayela isimo sakho somzimba. Kuyinqubo ehamba kancane.
- Njengempilo yakho engokomzimba, impilo yakho yengqondo nayo ibaluleke kakhulu. Uma uzizwa ucindezelekile engqondweni, ungangabazi ukufuna iseluleko.
- Ungayeki izinto ozithandayo. Thola izindlela zokuzenza zivumelane nesimo sakho esisha.
- Amandla nokuqonda okutholayo ngokuxhumana nabantu abake badlula kokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo nawe kubaluleke kakhulu. Thola amaqembu okusekelana athembekile.
- Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngokukhululekile nganoma yiziphi izinkinga zomzimba noma zengqondo. Bazokunikeza isiqondiso esifanele.
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