Umnyango wavuleka buthule. UShanika wangena, amehlo akhe ebheke phansi, ephethe uVihanga omncane. Nakuba kwakuyintambama nje yangoLwesibili, ngangibona ukuthi kuShanika, kwakungelona usuku olujwayelekile.
“Sawubona, Shanika. Ngicela ungene,” ngisho ngimomotheka ngemfudumalo. Wazama ukubuyisela ukumomotheka, kodwa wayebukeka ekhathele futhi ekhathazekile ngokusobala. Ngesikhathi ephethe uVihanga ezingalweni zakhe, kwakukhona umthwalo osindayo enhliziyweni yakhe. Waphefumula isikhathi eside njengoba ehlala phansi.
“ Dkt. Priya , bengicabanga ukuthi ngizogcwala injabulo ngemva kokuzalwa komntwana. Kunalokho, ngizizwa ngingenalutho. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngizizwa ngisho nokwesaba. Angazi ukuthi kukhona yini engikwenzayo okungalungile.”
Nganqekuzisa ikhanda, nginethemba lokumqinisekisa ukuthi akanalutho okufanele alwesabe. “Shanika, awuwedwa. Ake ngichaze ukuthi ubhekene nani. Ngicela ungacabangi nakancane ukuthi leli yiphutha lakho.”
Ukucindezeleka Kwengane: Lapho Imizwa Ichichima
Omama abaningi, njengani, babhekana nalokho esikubiza ngokuthi “i-postnatal blues,” noma ngokuvamile, “ i-Baby Blues .” UShanika wangibheka enezinyembezi emehlweni akhe, elangazelela ukuqonda ukuthi kwenzekani kuye.
“Shanika,” ngisho ngobumnene, “lokho okuzwayo kuyinto evamile ngokuphelele. Omama abaningi abasha badlula kulokhu. Ngemva kokubeletha, ama-hormone akho ashintsha kakhulu. Uma wengeza ukukhathala okukhulu, ubusuku bokungalali, kanye nobunzima bemithwalo yemfanelo emisha, akumangazi ukuthi uyazabalaza.”
Wanqekuzisa ikhanda, eluma umlomo wakhe. “Kodwa kufanele ngizizwe ngijabule, akunjalo? UVihanga uphilile, futhi nginokusekelwa. Pho, kungani ngizizwa ngidabukile kangaka?”
Ngasondela eduze. “Imizwa yobuntwana iba khona ngoba umzimba wakho ujwayela lezi zinguquko ezinkulu. Akusho ukuthi awumthandi uVihanga, futhi ngokuqinisekile akusho ukuthi awuyena umama omuhle. Ungumama omuhle kakhulu. Le mizwa imane nje ingumphumela wezinguquko zamahomoni kanye nengcindezi ozibeka yona.”
Kwenzekani ngesikhathi se-Baby Blues?
Uma unezinkinga zobuntwana, ungase uzizwe udangele noma ukhungathekile ngokomzwelo. Ngezinye izikhathi ungase uzizwe ucasukile noma uzithole ukhala ngokungalindelekile. Cishe uzozizwa ukhathele futhi uzabalaze ukulala. Ungase futhi ungabaze amakhono akho njengomzali omusha. Izimpawu zomzimba ezifana nekhanda elibuhlungu noma izinhlungu zomzimba nazo zivamile. Kodwa ungakhathazeki—lokhu kuvame ukudlula ngokwako ezinsukwini noma emavikini ambalwa.
Uma i-Baby Blues iqhubeka: Ukuqaphela Ukucindezeleka Kwangemva Kokubeletha
Ngezinye izikhathi, ukudabuka kwengane akupheli. Uma leyo mizwa iqhubeka isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili noma iqala ukuba mibi kakhulu, kungaba ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha.. Kungaphezu nje kokudumala kwesikhashana; kujule kakhulu. NjengoShanika, ungase uzizwe ungenathemba noma unecala. Ukungalali nokukhathala okungapheli kungaba yinto ekucindezelayo. Khumbula, lokhu akulona iphutha lakho—kuyisimo sezokwelapha, futhi selapheka kakhulu.
Yiziphi izimpawu zokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha?
- Imizwa eqhubekayo yokudabuka noma yokuphelelwa yithemba
- Ukuzizwa ukhathele ngaso sonke isikhathi
- Ubunzima bokulala noma ukulala ngokweqile
- Ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo emisebenzini owawuyijabulela
- Ubunzima bokusondelana nomntwana wakho
- Imizwa yokukhathazeka noma ukukhathazeka okukhulu
- Ukucasuka noma ukuthukuthela ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacile
- Imicabango engapheli yokuthi awuyena umama 'olungile ngokwanele'
Yini ongayenza ukuze uzizwe ungcono?
Ukuze unqobe ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, isinyathelo sokuqala ukukhuluma ngakho. Xhumana nomlingani wakho, umndeni, abangani, noma umhlinzeki wakho wezempilo. Bakhona ukukusekela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukujoyina iqembu lokusekela kungakusiza uqaphele ukuthi awuwedwa kulolu hambo.
Amathiphu okuphila nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha
- Cela usizo. Vumela abanye baphathe imisebenzi yasekhaya noma banakekele umntwana. Akudingeki ukuthi uzenzele yonke into wena.
- Phumula. Lala lapho ingane ilele. Ngisho nokuphumula okufushane kungakhuphula amazinga akho amandla.
- Hlala umatasa. Ngisho nokuhamba ibanga elifushane noma ukuthola umoya omusha kungathuthukisa inhlalakahle yakho yengqondo.
- Khuluma nabanye. Joyina iqembu lokusekelana noma uthulule isifuba kumngane omethembayo. Kuyasiza ekunciphiseni umthwalo.
- Yiba nomusa kuwe. Ufunda, njengoba nje nomntwana wakho efunda.
Kwenzekani uma ungalufuni usizo?
Uma kungelashwa, ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kungathinta hhayi wena kuphela, kodwa ingane yakho nomndeni wakho wonke. Kungenza ubudlelwano bube nzima futhi kucindezele ubudlelwano bakho bomuntu siqu. Kodwa-ke, ngosizo, izinto zizoba ngcono. Akudingeki ubhekane nalokhu wedwa.
Ukujoyina Iqembu Lokusekela
Amaqembu okusekelana anikeza indawo ephephile yokwabelana ngendaba yakho, ukufunda amasu amasha okubhekana nesimo, nokuqaphela ukuthi awuhambi wedwa kule ndlela. Ungathola nokuqonda okubalulekile kwabanye omama.
Njengoba uShanika elungiselela ukuhamba, ngabona ukukhanya kwethemba emehlweni akhe. “Ngiyabonga, Dkt. Priya. Ngizobheka ukujoyina iqembu lokusekela, futhi ngizokhuluma nomyeni wami namuhla ebusuku.”
"Awuwedwa, Shanika. Lena inqubo, kodwa kukhona usizo olutholakala yonke indawo. Khumbula njalo ukuthi wenza umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu."
Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha akumelwe ube namahloni ngakho. Kuthinta abesifazane abaningi. Uma uzizwa udangele noma ubhekene nobunzima, sicela ukhulume. NjengoShanika, ufanele ukwesekwa, ukuqonda, kanye nelungelo lokuzwa injabulo yalesi sikhathi sokuqala nomntwana wakho.
Isiqalo Esisha
UShanika washiya umtholampilo ngalolo suku enethemba elisha. Wayazi ukuthi wayengeyedwa nokuthi ukwesekwa kwakutholakala. Wayeqonda ukuthi ukucindezeleka ngemva kokubeletha akuyona into ehlazisayo—kuyisimo sezokwelapha esingelapheka.
Uma ubhekene nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, khumbula ukuthi awuwedwa. Xhumana nothile, khuluma naye, futhi uvumele imizwa yakho izwakale. Ngokwenza kanjalo, ungadlula kulesi sikhathi esinzima futhi wamukele impilo ejabulisayo nomndeni wakho.
Yabelana ngemicabango yakho kumazwana.
Ngihlala ngilapha ukukusekela.
