Ukugula kwakho kuzoqhubeka kanjani? Ake sithole ukuthi odokotela bakubiza ngokuthini ngempela 'ukubikezela'!

Uma uthola ukuthi wena noma othile oseduze nawe uyagula, umbuzo omkhulu olandelayo ofika engqondweni uthi "Kwenzekani manje?" "Ingabe lokhu kuzoba ngcono?" "Ingabe ngiyoke ngikwazi ukuphila njengoba nganginjalo?" Yilapho odokotela bekhuluma khona 'ngokubikezela'. Kulungile, ake sibone ukuthi kuyini lokhu, ngamazwi alula.

Kuyini ngempela 'Isibikezelo'?

Kalula nje, 'isibikezelo' siyisibikezelo udokotela wakho asenzayo ngokugula kwakho, okungukuthi, isimo sakho, esebenzisa ulwazi lwezokwelapha kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho. Kufana nesibikezelo sezulu. Kodwa kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalokho, ngoba umzimba womuntu wonke nendlela abasabela ngayo ekuguleni kuhlukile.

Cabanga nje, udokotela ekutshela ukuthi unesifo esithile. Kuvele kuvele imibuzo eminingi engqondweni yakho, akunjalo?

• "Ingabe lokhu kungelapheka?"
• "Ngizokwazi yini ukululama ngokuphelele?"
• "Ingabe izimpawu zalesi sifo zizophela?"
• "Ngizokwazi yini ukuhlala lapho ngingenza khona umsebenzi wami ngedwa?"
• "Ingabe lokhu kwelashwa kuyakufanelekela?"
• "Ngingaphila isikhathi esingakanani?"

Ngemibuzo efana nale, udokotela angakutshela ukuthi yini engase yenzeke kuwe, ngokusekelwe kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye. Yilokho 'ukubikezela'. Akusikho ukubikezela okunembile okungu-100%, kodwa ukuqagela okungcono kakhulu ngokusekelwe kolwazi olutholakalayo njengamanje.

Ngakho-ke, kungani kubalulekile ukwazi lesi 'sibikezelo'?

Ukwazi lokhu kukunika wena nabanakekeli bakho amandla amaningi. Kukusiza ukuthi wenze izinqumo ucabangela izintshisekelo zakho ezinhle. Asikwazi ukuzivimba njalo ekuguleni noma ekubeni nezingozi. Kodwa ukwazi 'isibikezelo' kusinika ukuqonda okuthile kokubhekana nezinto esingenakuzilawula.

Yenza izinqumo mayelana nokwelashwa

Ukwazi ukuthi uzobhekana kanjani nesimo sakho kungakusiza ukhethe ukwelashwa, noma ukwenqaba. Izinqumo zokwelapha azilula. Cabanga ngakho, othile angase azimisele ukuthola ukwelashwa okunemiphumela emibi kakhulu, uma kungandisa impilo yakhe kancane. Kodwa umuntu onesifo esifanayo angase enqabe lokho kwelashwa. Angase acabange, "Kungcono ukuphila izinsuku ezimbalwa ngaphandle kobuhlungu, noma ngabe kusho ukuphila impilo ejabulisayo."

Futhi, ezinye izinsizakalo zokunakekelwa zisekelwe esibikezelweni. Isibonelo, uma wazi ukuthi izimpawu zakho zingase zibe zimbi kakhulu, ungase ukwazi ukuthola izinsizakalo ezifana nokunakekelwa kokunciphisa ubuhlungu, okusiza ukulawula ubuhlungu nokunikeza impumuzo yengqondo. Kwamanye amazwe, izinsizakalo ezifana nokunakekelwa kwe-hospice ziyatholakala kubantu okulindeleke ukuthi baphile cishe izinyanga eziyisithupha. Ezimweni ezinjalo, isibikezelo sivula umnyango wezinsiza ezingakusiza uphile ngokunethezeka ekupheleni kwempilo yakho.

Yenza ezinye izinqumo empilweni.

Ukuqonda isibikezelo sakho kungakusiza uhlele usuku lwakho. Kungakusiza ukuthi uhlele kahle ezezimali zakho kanye nempilo yakho engokomoya. Kungakusiza ukuthi ucabange ngokuthi ubani okudingeka ukhulume naye nokuthi yiziphi izinto ezibalulekile ofuna ukuzifeza empilweni. Kunganciphisa nengcindezi yokwenza izinqumo ezinkulu empilweni ngokushesha, wazi ukuthi unethuba lokululama ngokugcwele.

Odokotela banquma kanjani lokhu 'kubikezela'?

Odokotela abaningi basekela 'ukubikezela' kwabo (ubuningi 'izibikezelo') ocwaningweni lwezokwelapha kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. Udokotela wakho angabheka izibalo zezokwelapha. Abacwaningi bafunda okuhlangenwe nakho kwamaqembu amakhulu abantu futhi babheke amaphethini ezifo. Ukwazi ukuthi kwenzekani kubantu abaningi abanesifo esithile esikhathini esidlule kuyasiza ekubikezeleni ukuthi yini engase yenzeke kumuntu othile.

Ngokuhlanganisa isimo somuntu somtholampilo, kanye nedatha evela kwabanye kanye nalesi simo, odokotela bangakha 'isibikezelo' esifanelana nomuntu ngamunye.

Nazi ezinye izibalo udokotela wakho angase azicabangele:

• Amazinga okusinda: Bangaki abantu abanesifo esithile abaphila ngemva kwesikhathi esithile. Isibonelo, abacwaningi bomdlavuza babheka ukuthi bangaki abantu abanesifo esithile abaphila ngemva kweminyaka emihlanu.
• Amazinga ezinkinga: Lokhu kulinganisa ukuthi bangaki abantu abathola izinkinga ezengeziwe zempilo, kungaba phakathi nesifo noma ngemva kokwelashwa okuthile. Lezi zinto zingashintsha isibikezelo sakho.
• Amazinga empumelelo yokwelashwa: Lokhu kulinganisa ukuthi ukwelashwa kusiza kahle kangakanani ekufezeni umphumela othize wesifo (isib., ukwelapha isifo, ukunciphisa ukusabalala kwaso, ukunciphisa izimpawu).
• Amazinga okuphindeka: Lokhu kubhekisela ethubeni lokuthi isifo noma uphawu luzobuya ngemva kokuba seluphelile. Lokhu kuvame ukubhekisela ethubeni lokuthi umdlavuza uzobuya ngemva kwesikhathi 'sokuxolelwa' (ukungabikho kwezimpawu noma izimpawu zomdlavuza).

Yiziphi izici zokubikezela?

Odokotela babheka nezici ezithile ezingathinta ubukhali besifo. Ezinye zazo zithinta umdlavuza, kodwa eziningi zivamile kwezinye izimo eziningi.

• Uhlobo lwesifo: Uhlobo oluthile lwesifo luthinta ukubikezela. Isibonelo, uhlobo lomdlavuza (okungukuthi, lapho waqala khona emzimbeni) luthinta umbono wakho wesikhathi esizayo.
• Izinga lesifo: Ukuthi lesi sifo sesisabalale kangakanani kuyisici esibalulekile okufanele sicatshangelwe lapho kwenziwa ukuxilongwa. Isibonelo, kwezinye izinhlobo zomdlavuza, isigaba somdlavuza (okungukuthi, ukuthi ususabalale kangakanani) siyisici esibalulekile ekunqumeni ukubikezela komdlavuza.
• Izici zebhayoloji nezezakhi zofuzo zalesi sifo: izinguquko zezakhi zofuzo esitokisini somdlavuzaUhlobo kanye nokuthi amaseli awajwayelekile kangakanani kunganikeza umbono wokuthi umdlavuza "unamandla" kangakanani (okungukuthi, kungenzeka ukuthi usakazeke).
• Impilo yakho iyonke: Ukuba nezimo zempilo ezingaphezu kwesisodwa (`ama-comorbidities`) ngokuvamile kungenza kube kubi kakhulu ukubikezela.
• Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kukhona ukwelashwa okuphumelelayo noma cha: Ukufinyelela ukwelashwa okuphumelelayo kuthuthukisa 'isibikezelo'.
• Indlela osabela ngayo ekwelashweni: Ngokuvamile, uma uba ngcono ngemva kokwelashwa, isibikezelo silungile.
• Izinga lakho lomsebenzi: Ukuthi usebenza kangakanani usuku lonke, nokuthi ungakwazi yini ukwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke njengokuya emsebenzini wakho nokugqoka, kungakunikeza izinkomba ngesimo sakho sesikhathi esizayo.
• Izici zezibalo zabantu: Ngezinye izikhathi izinto ezifana nobudala, ubulili, uhlanga, kanye nobuzwe zingahlotshaniswa nendlela isifo esivame ukuthuthuka ngayo.

Izici ezibaluleke kakhulu ekubikezelweni kwesifo sakho zizohluka kuye ngesimo sakho. Ungabuza udokotela wakho ukuthi yiziphi izici azicabangelayo lapho enquma ukuthi isifo sakho sizokwenzeka nini.

Izibali zokubikezela

Abanye odokotela basebenzisa "ama-calculator" akhethekile ukusiza ekunqumeni ukubikezela komuntu. Okokuqala, bafaka izici "zokubikezela" (isib. ubudala, izimo zempilo, izinga lomsebenzi) kusibali. Bese, isibali sisebenzisa ifomula ebala ulwazi "lokubikezela", njengokulindeleke empilweni. Nakuba lokhu kungeyona i-100% enembile, kungakunikeza umbono ojwayelekile wokubikezela komuntu.

Odokotela bakhuluma kanjani 'ngokubikezela'?

Ngezinye izikhathi odokotela bachaza 'isibikezelo' ngezinga elilodwa:

• Kuhle kakhulu (Kuhle kakhulu)
• Kuhle
• Okuhle
• Kubi

"Isibikezelo esiqaphile" sisho ukuthi asikho ulwazi olwanele lokwenza umbono mayelana nomphumela wesikhathi esizayo.

Uma uzwa 'ngesibikezelo' ngale ndlela, ungaqala ukukhuluma ngemininingwane. Isibonelo, uma uzwa ukuthi 'isibikezelo' "asisihle", kukusiza ukuthi ulungiselele ngokwengqondo ukukhuluma ngezinqumo ezinzima okufanele uzenze.

Kodwa-ke, ayikho indlela eyodwa odokotela ababelana ngayo ngolwazi mayelana 'nokubikezela'. Isibonelo, udokotela wakho angase akhulume 'ngokubikezela' kwakho kanje:

• Njengohlu: Isibonelo, udokotela ochaza ukuthi kufanele uphile isikhathi esingakanani angase acabangele izibalo zokusinda kanye nezici 'zokubikezela' kwakho. Ngokusekelwe kulolu lwazi, angase athi uneminyaka engaba mithathu kuya kwemihlanu yokuphila.
• Isimo esihle kakhulu nesibi kakhulu:Abanye abantu bathanda ukulungela ngokwengqondo kokubili okuhle nokubi. Isibonelo, isimo esihle kakhulu ukuthi uzophila cishe izinyanga eziyisithupha ngemva kokwelashwa ngaphandle kwemiphumela emibi. Isimo esibi kakhulu ukuthi izinkinga ezivela ekwelashweni zifinyeza impilo yakho.
• Njengomphumela ongaba khona kakhulu: Udokotela wakho angase achaze umphumela ongaba khona kakhulu. Isibonelo, umphumela ongaba khona kakhulu ukuthi ngemva kokwelashwa, uzoba nezinyanga ezintathu zokuphila nemiphumela emibi engalawulwa ngemithi.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu: Khumbula ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi udokotela wakho uthini, akekho ongabikezela ikusasa lakho. Futhi, udokotela wakho angashintsha 'isibikezelo' njengoba kutholakala ulwazi olusha, njengokuthi usabela kanjani ekwelashweni. 'Isibikezelo' yinto engashintsha njalo.

Ingabe 'isibikezelo' sinembile ngempela?

Ngezinga elikhulu, yebo. Odokotela abaningi banolwazi oluthembekile olungenza izibikezelo ezinolwazi mayelana nenkambo yesikhathi esizayo yesifo sakho. Izifundo zibonise ukuthi 'ukubikezela' okunembile kakhulu kuncike ekuhlanganisweni kwedatha (isb., izibali 'zokubikezela') kanye nokwahlulela kukadokotela wakho kwezokwelapha. Uma sikhuluma ngokunemba, ezinye izifundo zibonisa:

• Kulula ukubikezela umbono wesikhathi esifushane ngokunembile kunombono wesikhathi eside.
• Amathuluzi 'okubikezela' abheka izinto ezifana nezinga lomsebenzi wakho cishe azoba nembe kakhulu kunamathuluzi abheka izinto ezifana neminyaka yakho noma ubulili.

Kodwa, ngaphezu kokubuza ukuthi ngabe kunembile yini, udinga futhi ukubuza ukuthi lolu lwazi luwusizo yini. Isibonelo, udokotela wakho angase asikisele ukwelashwa okungakwandisa impilo yakho ngezinyanga ezimbalwa. Kodwa uma lokho kwelashwa kunengozi enkulu yezinkinga, futhi umgomo wakho oyinhloko uwukuphila izinsuku zakho ezisele ngaphandle kwezinkinga, lolo lwazi alusizi kakhulu. Udokotela angase athi umdlavuza wakho awunakuphulukiswa. Kodwa uma okukhathalelayo nje ukuthi uzophila isikhathi eside ngokwanele yini ukuze ube khona ekuphothuleni kwengane yakho, lolo lwazi alusizi kakhulu.

Uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, udokotela wakho angase angakwazi ukuphendula yonke imibuzo yakho. Kodwa lapho azi okwengeziwe ngezinto ezikukhathazayo nokuthi yini ebalulekile kuwe, kulapho kuzoba lula khona ngaye ukuchaza izinto.

Ngingakhuluma kanjani nodokotela wami 'ngokubikezela'?

Uma uthola ukuxilongwa, ungase uzizwe ungenamandla kakhulu. Kungase kubonakale sengathi udokotela unalo lonke ulwazi kanye nawo wonke amandla. Kodwa khumbula, uma kukhulunywa 'ngesibikezelo', nawe unamandla. Eqinisweni, ulwazi olubaluleke kakhulu - okubalulekile kuwe - lukuwe.

Uma uxoxa ngokubikezela nodokotela wakho, ungenza okulandelayo:

• Mtshele ukuthi yini ekukhathazayo kakhulu:Kungathatha isikhathi ukuthola ukuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe mayelana nokubikezela kwakho. Kwabanye, kungase kube ukuphila isikhathi eside. Kwabanye, kungase kube ukuqhubeka nemisebenzi yabo yansuku zonke ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphandle kokushintsha. Kwabanye, kungase kube ukuphila ngaphandle kobuhlungu noma ezinye izimpawu. Uma usuyitholile inkinga yakho eyinhloko, yabelana ngayo nodokotela wakho.
• Mtshele ukuthi ungalalela kangakanani: Ungase ungabi sesimweni esihle engqondweni sokwazi yonke imininingwane 'yesibikezelo' esibi. Tshela udokotela wakho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani. Uma ungathanda ukukhuluma ngomphumela ngokujwayelekile, yisho. Uma ufuna ukucela imininingwane (noma ngabe inzima), ungesabi ukusho kanjalo.
• Mtshele ukuthi ukhetha ukuthola ulwazi kanjani: Abanye abantu bafuna ukwazi izimo ezinhle kakhulu nezimbi kakhulu. Abanye bafuna kuphela lokho okungenzeka kakhulu. Abanye abantu bathanda ukwazi izibalo zezokwelapha ezisetshenziswa odokotela ukuze bathole 'isibikezelo' sabo. Abanye bayesaba leyo datha. Cela lokho okufunayo, lokho ongakusingatha.
• Uma ungaqondi okuthile, yithi: Ngezinye izikhathi odokotela bayakhohlwa ukuthi akubona bonke abantu abaqonda izinto ezifana nobubanzi namaphesenti. Akukho okubi ngokucela udokotela wakho ukuthi athathe kancane futhi achaze izinto ongaziqondi.

Uyini umehluko phakathi 'kwesibikezelo' kanye 'nokuxilongwa'?

'Ukuxilongwa' yisimo sezokwelapha udokotela athola ukuthi unaso ngemva kokwenza izivivinyo. 'Isibikezelo' yimiphumela elindelekile 'yokuxilongwa' kwakho. 'Isibikezelo' sibheka izinto njengokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi uzolulama nokuthi isimo sakho singaba njani . Cabanga 'ngokuxilongwa' (d) njengo (d)ukutholwa - ukutholwa, kanye 'nesibikezelo' (p) njengo (p)ukubikezela - ukubikezela okungenzeka kwenzeke.

Ingabe 'ukubikezela' kanye nesilinganiso sokusinda kuyinto efanayo?

'Ukubikezela' kanye namazinga okusinda awafani, kodwa ahlobene. Odokotela bavame ukubheka amazinga okusinda ukuze bathole ingxenye ethile 'yesibikezelo': ukuthi umuntu angaphila isikhathi esingakanani. Amazinga okusinda angenye yezingxenye zolwazi ezibaluleke kakhulu odokotela abazisebenzisayo ukuze bathole 'isibikezelo' somuntu.

Okokugcina, izinto okufanele uzikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Iningi lethu elithola ukuxilongwa okusha lifuna ukwazi kahle ukuthi kuzokwenzekani ngokulandelayo. Ngeshwa, izibalo zezokwelapha azanele ukubikezela ikusasa. Kodwa-ke, ukwazi ukuthi uzobikezela yini kuyinto elandelayo engcono kakhulu. Ukubikezela kwakho kungakunikeza ukuzethemba okwengeziwe ekukhetheni kwakho ukwelashwa nasezinqumweni mayelana nendlela ochitha ngayo isikhathi sakho.

Ungesabi ukubuza udokotela wakho imibuzo mayelana 'nokubikezela' kwakho. Akukho okubi ngokucela ukucaciselwa. Kungumqondo omuhle futhi ukugxila engxoxweni emibuzweni ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe mayelana nempilo yakho yesikhathi esizayo. Khumbula, ulwazi lungamandla!

Ukubikezela , ukuxilongwa, ukulindela ukululama, iseluleko sezokwelapha, izinqumo zokwelashwa, izinqumo zokuphila, ulwazi lwezempilo