Ingabe ingane yakho iyesaba ukuya esikoleni? Ingabe lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi i-Scolionophobia? Ake sixoxe ngakho!

Ingabe ingane yakho encane ibonakala ingathandi ukuya esikoleni? Ingabe ngezinye izikhathi iyakhala ithi, "Hawu, Mama/Baba, angikwazi ukuya esikoleni namuhla?" Ukungathandi okuncane kuyinto evamile. Kodwa lokhu akukhona nje ukungathandi, kwabanye abantwana, umcabango wokuya esikoleni ubangela ukwesaba okukhulu nokukhathazeka. Lesi simo sibizwa ngokuthi 'i-Scolionophobia' noma ukwesaba okukhulu kwesikole. Nakuba kungesona ngempela isifo ku-'DSM-5 (Incwadi Yokuhlola Nezibalo Yezinkinga Zengqondo)', odokotela bakubona njengento ewela ngaphansi kwesigaba 'se-phobias ethile'.

Kunezikhathi eziningi lapho izingane ezincane zingafuni ukuya esikoleni. Lokhu kuyinto evamile. Kodwa kulokhu okubizwa ngokuthi 'i-Scolionophobia', ingane izizwa ingavikelekile futhi ikhathazekile ngisho noma icabanga ngokuya esikoleni. Ngezinye izikhathi kuyalimaza ngisho nasemzimbeni. Ingane enjalo ingase ingayi esikoleni izinsuku eziningi ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacile, noma ngezizathu ezingaziwa. Lokhu kubizwa nangokuthi 'i-school phobia' noma 'ukwenqaba isikole'. Elinye igama elithi 'didaskaleinophobia'. Lesi simo singavame ukuhlotshaniswa nezinye 'izinkinga zokukhathazeka'.

Ngakho-ke, ubani ongase esabe ukuya kulesi sikole?

Ngokuvamile phakathi kwezinyanga ezingu-18 nezingu-24, okungukuthi, cishe unyaka owodwa nesigamu kuya kwemibili, izingane ezincane kakhulu ziba "nokukhathazeka ngokuhlukana." Lokhu kusho ukuthi ziyakhala, ziyacasuka, futhi zesabe lapho zihlukaniswa nonina, uyise, noma umnakekeli wazo. Kodwa-ke, lesi simo sivame ukunyamalala njengoba izingane zikhula. Uma kwenzeka, zingase zibe "ne-scolionophobia."

Uma sibheka phambili, lolu hlobo lwezingane lunamathuba amaningi okwesaba ukuya esikoleni:

• Uma abazali bevikela ngokweqile: Abanye abazali bavame ukuvikela ngokweqile izingane zabo ngisho nasezintweni ezincane. Lokhu kungaholela kulesi simo.
• Abanye abantwana bazalwa bekhathazekile kancane: lokho kumane kuyimvelo yabo.
• Uma ungukuphela kwengane emndenini.
• Uma ungumntwana omncane emndenini.
• Uma unesifo esingamahlalakhona.

Cabanga nje, indodana kaNimali, uSandun omncane. Ungukuphela kwengane emndenini. Bobabili unina noyise bayamthanda kakhulu futhi bayamnakekela njengengane. USandan ubelokhu esaba kancane kusukela esemncane. Lapho eqala ukuya esikoleni, wayekhala njalo ekuseni, ethi, "Isisu sami sibuhlungu, mama." Kwakuyilapho kuphela lapho esibonisa khona udokotela lapho kwaqapheleka khona ukuthi uSandun wayenokwesaba ukuya esikoleni.

Ubona ukwesaba okungakanani ukuya esikoleni?

Lokhu "kwesaba isikole" kuthinta phakathi kuka -2% no-5% wezingane. Lokho kusho ukuthi, uma sikubeka kalula, cishe ingane eyodwa kwezingu-20 ingaba nalesi simo.

Lokhu kubonakala kakhulu:

• Phakathi kwezingane ezincane, cishe iminyaka emi-5-6 ubudala.
• Phakathi kwezingane ezifunda esikoleni samabanga aphakathi, cishe zineminyaka eyi-10-11 ubudala. (Lokho kusho ukuthi cishe zineminyaka emihlanu noma eyisithupha ubudala)

Futhi, izimpawu ze-Scolionophobia zingabonakala ngezikhathi zezinguquko ezinkulu empilweni yengane, njengalapho ingane iqala isikole samabanga aphezulu.

Kungani wesaba ukuya esikoleni? Yiziphi izizathu?

Ngezinye izikhathi, kungase kungabi khona imbangela ecacile yalesi simo, i-"Scolionophobia." Kodwa-ke, izinkinga esikoleni noma ekhaya zingabangela ingane ukuba ikhathazeke noma yesabe isikole.

Imiphumela yendawo yasekhaya:

Izingane ezine-Scolionophobia zingase zibhekane nezinkinga ezifana nalezi ekhaya:

• Ukwesaba ubudlova ekhaya noma endaweni ezungezile: Ngezinye izikhathi ingane ingase yesabe lapho ibona ukulwa kwenzeka ekhaya, noma ngenxa yezinto ezimbi ezenzeka eduze kwayo.
• Izinkinga zomnotho: Uma kunezinkinga zezimali ekhaya, nezingane ziyazizwa nazo.
• Ukuntuleka kokudla nokuphuza: Ukungabi nokudla okwanele nokuphuza nakho kuyimbangela enkulu yokucindezeleka.
• Ukuntuleka kwezindlu ezifanele noma ukungabi nakhaya.
• Ukuntuleka kokunakwa okugcwele ngabazali noma abanakekeli: Uma bobabili abazali besemsebenzini, asikho isikhathi sokukhuluma nengane noma sokubuza imibuzo yayo. Cabanga nje, abazali bakaKasun basebenza kusukela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku. UKasun akanamuntu angaxoxa naye ngosizi lwakhe.
• Izinguquko ezinkulu emndenini: Izinto ezifana nokuthutha indlu, ukuhlukana kwabazali, noma ukufa komuntu.

Imiphumela yendawo yesikole:

Izingane zingase zibe ne-'Scolionophobia' ngemva kokubhekana nalezi zinhlobo zokuhlangenwe nakho esikoleni:

• Ukuxhashazwa, ukugconwa, noma izinsongo zomzimba ezivela kwabanye abantwana: Abanye abantwana bayagcona, basongela, noma bazame ukushaya abanye. Lokhu kungenza ingane yesabe ukuya esikoleni.
• Ukwesaba ukugxekwa, ukujeziswa, noma ukuhlekwa usulu othisha noma abasebenzi besikole: Ingane ingaba nokwesaba okunjengokuthi "Uthisha uzongithethisa," noma "Uthisha uzongishaya."
• Ukukhubazeka kokufunda: Isibonelo, izingane ezinezimo ezifana ne-dyslexia (ubunzima bokufunda nolimi) noma i-dyscalculia (ubunzima bokuqonda izinombolo kanye nezibalo) zingase zibe nokukhathazeka ngenxa yobunzima ngomsebenzi wesikole.
• Ukukhathazeka noma ukwesaba okukhulu izinhlekelele ezinkulu: Isibonelo, ukwesaba into efana nokudubulana esikoleni. Ngisho noma izinto ezinjalo zingavamile ezweni lethu, izingane zingase zesabe ngenxa yezinto ezizibona ezindabeni.

Uma wesaba ukuya esikoleni, yiziphi izimpawu?

Ezinganeni eziningi ezine-Scolionophobia, izimpawu eziyinhloko zingokomzimba . Uma ucabanga ngokuya esikoleni, ingane ingase ibhekane nalokhu okulandelayo:

• Uhudo.
• Ubuhlungu bekhanda.
• Isicanucanu nokuhlanza.
• Ubuhlungu besisu.
• Ukuthuthumela noma ukuthuthumela okungalawuleki.

Lezi zimpawu zomzimba zingokoqobo. Ingane ayidlali. Ukwesaba okusenhliziyweni yayo yikona okubangela lobu bunzima obungokomzimba.

Izingane zingaba nezimpawu zempilo yengqondo . Isibonelo:

• Ukunamathela: Ukwesaba ukushiya abazali noma abanakekeli. Ukuhlala uzama ukuba nabo.
• Ukwesaba ubumnyama.
• Amaphuphu amabi.
• Ukukhathazeka njalo ngokuphepha kwakho noma ukuphepha kwabanye.
• Izinto ezinjengokunyakazisa, ukuklabalasa, nokugingqika phansi (`Ukucasuka`).

Isibonelo, indodakazi ka-Amaya, uMihri. Njalo ekuseni lapho esezoya esikoleni, uthi, "O, isisu sami sibuhlungu," futhi ngezinye izikhathi uyahlanza. Lapho efika ekhaya evela esikoleni, uphilile. Lezi yizimpawu zomzimba azishilo.

Udokotela ukubona kanjani lokhu?

Azikho izindlela ezithile zokuxilonga i-'Scolionophobia'. Okusho ukuthi, alukho uhlu oluqondile lokuthi "uma unalezi zimpawu, unalesi sifo."

Ukuze aqonde imbangela eyinhloko yokwenqaba kwengane yakho ukuya esikoleni, udokotela angase akubuze wena noma ingane yakho izinto ezifana nalezi:

• Ziyini izimpawu zengane yakho?
• Lezi zimpawu zaqala nini?
• Sekuyisikhathi esingakanani izimpawu zikhona?
• Ingabe lezi zimpawu ziyanda ngenxa yesigameko esithile noma into eyenzekile kothile?
• Yini ongayenza ukuze unciphise lezi zimpawu?

Kusekelwe ezimpendulweni zale mibuzo lapho udokotela enquma khona ukuthi ingane inasiphi isimo.

Ngakho-ke, uphatha kanjani lokhu?

Izingane ezinezimpawu ezincane ze-Scolionophobia zinganqoba ukwesaba kwazo isikole, mhlawumbe ngosizo lwabazali bazo noma uthisha.

Kodwa-ke, uma izimpawu zinzima , noma uma zihlotshaniswa nesinye isimo sempilo yengqondo, izingane zingazuza ekwelashweni okufana nalokhu:

• Ukwelashwa ngenkulumo:
• Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha Kokuqonda (CBT): Lokhu kuvame ukubizwa ngokuthi "ukwelashwa kokukhuluma." Kuhilela ukusiza ingane ukuthi ibone imicabango engalungile nengasizi. Umelaphi ube esefundisa ingane ukuthi ingayishintsha kanjani leyo micabango engalungile ngemicabango efanele nenengqondo. Isibonelo, uma ingane icabanga ukuthi, "Uthisha wami uhlala engithethisa," umelaphi usiza ingane ukuthi ihlole ukuthi lokho kuyiqiniso nokuthi kungani kunjalo.
• Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha Kokukhuluma (i-DBT): Kulolu hlobo lokwelashwa kwe-DBT, izingane zifundiswa amakhono amane okuzisiza ukubhekana nemizwa enzima. Uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ufundisa ingane amakhono amabili agxile ekwamukeleni kanye namakhono amabili agxile ekushintsheni. Umgomo uwukusiza ingane iqonde ukuthi imicabango yayo ithinta kanjani ukuziphatha kwayo. Ngalokhu kuqonda, ingalawula kangcono imizwa yayo emibi kanye nobudlelwano bayo nabanye.

• Ukwelashwa ngokuchayeka: Lokhu kuhilela ukuchayeka kancane kancane engane entweni eyesabayo. Okokuqala, ungaqala ngokuyenza icabange ukuthi kuzokwenzekani esikoleni. Kancane kancane, empeleni ubhekene nalolo valo. Isibonelo, uma ingane yesaba ukuya esangweni lesikole, qala ubheke isango ukude, bese ngakusasa, usondele kancane, futhi ngale ndlela, ukwesaba kuzoncipha kancane kancane.

• Imithi: Imithi ingasiza, ikakhulukazi uma ingane yakho inesinye isimo sempilo yengqondo. Isibonelo, izingane zinganikwa imithi yokucindezeleka ebizwa ngokuthi i-Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs). Ama-SSRI, njenge-Sertraline (Zoloft®) noma i-Fluoxetine (Prozac®), angayilapha inkinga yokukhathazeka engaphansi. Kodwa khumbula, le mithi kufanele inikezwe kuphela ngaphansi kokuqondisa kukadokotela.

Okubaluleke kakhulu: Zonke lezi zindlela zokwelapha kufanele zenziwe kuphela ngaphansi kwesiqondiso sikadokotela oqeqeshiwe noma umeluleki wezempilo yengqondo . Ungenzi nje noma yini ozizwa sengathi uyayenza.

Ingabe zikhona ezinye izimo ezihlobene nalokhu kwesaba ukuya esikoleni?

Yebo. Izingane ezinezinkinga zokukhathazeka noma ezinye izimo zempilo yengqondo zinamathuba amaningi okuba nalesi simo sokwenqaba esikoleni. Izingane ezine-scolionophobia zingase zibe nesinye noma ngaphezulu kwalokhu okulandelayo:

• Ukucindezeleka.
• Isifo Sokukhathazeka Esijwayelekile (i-GAD).
• Isifo Sokucindezeleka Okungapheli (OCD). (Ungase ukhumbule ukuthi sikhulume ngalokhu esihlokweni esidlule.)
• Isiphithiphithi Sokuphikisa Esiphikisayo.
• Isifo Sokucindezeleka Ngemva Kokuhlukumezeka (PTSD).
• Isifo Sokukhathazeka Komphakathi.

Ngakho-ke, uma ingane yesaba ukuya esikoleni, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphenya ukuthi imbangela ingabe ingenye yini inkinga efana nale.

Ingane yami ingakunqoba kanjani ukwesaba kwayo ukuya kulesi sikole?

Ngokwelashwa okufanele, izingane eziningi ziyakunqoba ukwesaba kwazo isikole. Kwabanye, ukukhathazeka okuhlobene nesikole akupheli ngokuphelele, kodwa bafunda ukuphila nakho.

Kanye nanoma yiluphi ukwelashwa okusemthethweni, izingane zingafunda amasu okubhekana nokucindezeleka ukuze zinciphise ukukhathazeka, njengokuthi:

• Ukufunda amasu okucabanga noma okuzindla: Lokhu kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka. Kunezivivinyo ezilula zokucabanga ku-YouTube ezingase zenziwe ngisho nezingane ezincane.
• Ukuzijwayeza izivivinyo zokuphefumula: Ukuphefumula okujulile nokuphefumula kancane kungasiza ekuthuliseni ingqondo.
• Ukuphinda izinkulumo ezinhle neziqinisekisayo (`iziqiniseko`): Ukusho izinto ezinjengokuthi "Ngingakwazi", "Nginamandla", "Ngizodlula kulokhu".

Izinto ongazenza njengabazali:

• Lalela ingane yakho: Lalela ngesineke lokho ingane yakho ekushoyo. Ungasho izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Kuyini lokho, ungaqambi amanga."
• Qonda ingane: Yamukela ukuthi ukwesaba kwayo kungokoqobo.
• Khuluma nothisha: Yazisa othisha esikoleni bese uthola ukwesekwa kwabo.
• Zibekele imigomo emincane nengane yakho: Ungalindeli izinto ezinkulu ngesikhathi esisodwa. Thatha isinyathelo ngasinye.
• Funa iseluleko sezokwelapha: Uma unenkinga, qiniseka ukuthi ubona udokotela noma umeluleki wezempilo yengqondo .

Yini okufanele ngiyibuze udokotela wengane yami?

Ungabuza udokotela wengane yakho izinto ezifana nalezi:

• Yisiphi isizathu okungenzeka kakhulu sokuba ingane yami yenqabe ukuya esikoleni?
• Ingabe ingane yami inesifo sengqondo?
• Ingabe ingane yami ingazuza ngokubona udokotela wezokwelapha?
• Ngingamsiza kanjani ingane yami ukuba inqobe lo kwesaba esikoleni?

Ngokubuza le mibuzo, uzokwazi ukuqonda kangcono isimo futhi uthole indlela engcono kakhulu yokusiza ingane yakho.

Uyasaba ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole?

Yebo. Abanye abantwana banokwesaba okukhulu ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole, njengomsebenzi wesikole. Lokhu kwesaba umsebenzi wesikole kubizwa ngokuthi i-devwahrphobia . Uma izingane ezine-devwahrphobia zinikwa umsebenzi omningi esikoleni, zingase zibe nokuhlaselwa uvalo noma ezinye izimpawu zokukhathazeka okukhulu. Lesi futhi yisimo esidinga ukunakwa, njenge-scolionophobia.

Ngakho-ke, yiziphi izinto okufanele sizikhumbule kule ndaba?

I-Scolionophobia ukwesaba kakhulu isikole. Nakuba kungesona isifo esisemthethweni, ochwepheshe abaningi bayibheka njengokwesaba okuthile. Abanye abantwana abane-Scolionophobia babhekana nokukhathazeka okukhulu lapho becabanga ngokuya esikoleni. Bangase baphuthe esikoleni izinsuku eziningi ngaphandle kwesizathu esibonakalayo.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu akulona iphutha lengane noma into eyenze ngamabomu.

Uma ingane inezimpawu ezincane, ukukhathazeka okuhlobene nesikole kungancishiswa ngosizo lothisha noma umzali. Kodwa-ke, uma izimpawu zinzima, lezi zingane zingasizwa ngokwelashwa kanye, uma kudingeka, ngemithi enqunywe udokotela.

Uma ingane yakho inale nkinga, ungalokothi uyishiye yodwa. Funa iseluleko sezokwelapha. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukunikeza ingane yakho uthando, ukuqonda, kanye nokusekelwa.

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