Ungashayela kanjani ngokuphepha emgwaqweni ngaphandle kokuthola ingozi? (Ukushayela Ngokuzivikela) Ake sixoxe ngakho namuhla!

Uma ungumshayeli, asikwazi ukulawula indlela abanye abantu abashayela ngayo noma lokho abakwenzayo emgwaqweni. Lokho kuyiqiniso. Kodwa-ke, kunezinto eziningi esingazenza ukunciphisa ingozi yengozi nokuzivikela. Yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi 'ukushayela ngokuzivikela '. Uma sikhuluma iqiniso, lokhu kufana nokuthatha izinyathelo zokuphepha ngaphambi kokuba sigule. Kumayelana nokuqaphela ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke ingozi emgwaqweni.

Ngakho-ke, sikwenza kanjani lokhu (Ukushayela Ngokuzivikela)?

Lokhu akudingeki kube yinto enkulu. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukulungisa ingqondo yakho ngaphambi kokuthi ushayele . Lokho kusho ukuthi udinga ukuqaphela, ukunaka, futhi uhlale uqaphela abanye abashayeli. Bese uzama ukulandela lezi zinyathelo.

1. Hlala uqaphele okukuzungezile.

Lena yinto yokuqala nebaluleke kakhulu. Ungabheki nje phambili bese ushayela.

• Hlola njalo izibuko zemoto yakho. Udinga ukubona ukuthi ubani oza ngemuva nokuthi ubani oza ngakolunye uhlangothi.
• Bheka phambili. Lokho kusho ukuthi uhlale ubheka okwenzekayo emgwaqweni imizuzwana engama-20 kuya kwengama-30 ngaphambili . Ngaleyo ndlela, uma kwenzeka into engalindelekile, ungakulungiselela kusenesikhathi.
• Ungagcini amehlo akho egxile endaweni eyodwa. Skena kuzo zonke izinhlangothi.
• Ngezinye izikhathi kuba nabashayeli abanolaka kakhulu emgwaqweni. Uma ubona umuntu onjalo, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukunciphisa ijubane kancane, noma uma kungenzeka, ume eceleni komgwaqo umdedele ahambe. Ungancintisani naye noma umthukuthelise. Ngoba asifuni ukulwa, ukuphepha kwethu kubaluleke kakhulu.
• Futhi, hlala uqaphele abantu abahamba ngezinyawo, abagijimayo, abagibeli bamabhayisikili, futhi ngezinye izikhathi izilwane ezifuywayo ezigxuma emgwaqweni . Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ezindaweni zasemadolobheni nasezindaweni eziseduze nezikole.

2. Lawula ijubane lakho.

Isivinini singaba yinto eyingozi kakhulu uma singalawulwa kahle.

• Shayela ngaphakathi komkhawulo wejubane. Imikhawulo yejubane ibekwa emigwaqweni ngesizathu esithile. Ibaluleke kakhulu ekuphepheni kwakho nakwabanye.
• Uma uhamba ngesivinini esikhulu kunalokho okucabangayo, kunzima ukulawula imoto yakho. Uma othile efika ngokuzumayo phambi kwakho, inja igxuma isuke endleleni, noma imoto ephambi kwayo ima ngokuzumayo, unesikhathi esincane nebanga elincane lokuma. Njengoba nje kungenzeka ukuthi ushelele futhi uwe emgwaqweni omanzi, lapho uhamba ngokushesha, kulapho amathuba okuba nengozi enkulu khona.
• Shayela kancane kakhulu uma isimo sezulu sibi. Lokho kusho ukuthi kufanele ushayele kancane kunokujwayelekile uma lina kakhulu, uma imigwaqo imanzi, noma uma kunenkungu. Umgwaqo ushelela kakhulu ngezikhathi ezinjalo, futhi ukubonakala kuyancipha.

3. Landela umthetho wemizuzwana emi-3

Ukushayela eduze kakhulu nemoto ephambi kwakho kuwumkhuba oyingozi kakhulu. Lo 'mthetho wemizuzwana emi-3' uzokusiza ukuthi ugcine ibanga eliphephile.

• Lokhu kulula kakhulu. Uma ushayela, lapho imoto ephambi kwakho idlula uphawu oluqondile eceleni komgwaqo (isibonelo, isigxobo sesibani, umugqa odwetshwe emgwaqweni, isihlahla, uphawu), qala ukubala engqondweni yakho, "Okunye... okubili... okuthathu..." imizuzwana emithathu.
• Uma ubala uze ufike ku-'ezintathu', imoto yakho kufanele idlule kulolo phawu. Uma kunjalo, usendaweni ephephile yokulandela .
• Uma udlula ngephutha leso sibonakaliso ngaphambi kokuba ubale ufike ku-'three', kusho ukuthi ugibela umsila . Bese wehlisa ijubane kancane bese ugcina ibanga eliphephile.
• Uma umgwaqo ungalungile, okungukuthi, ngosuku lwemvula, emgwaqweni onodaka, noma enkungwini , kuzuzisa kakhulu ukuthi umzimba ukwandise lokhu kube cishe imizuzwana emi-3 noma eyisithupha . Ngoba ngezikhathi ezinjalo, isikhathi esithathayo ukumisa imoto side kakhulu.

4. Susa ngokuphelele iziphazamiso

Uma ushayela imoto , kufanele ugxile ngokuphelele emgwaqweni futhi ushayele. Ngisho nokuphazamiseka kwesikhashana kungaholela engozini enkulu.

• Inkinga enkulu yesikhathi sethu yile foni ephathekayo . Ukushayela ucingo, ukuthumela imiyalezo, ukuya ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ukubuka amavidiyo ngenkathi ushayela kuyingozi kakhulu. Lezi yizinto ezivinjelwe ngumthetho, futhi uma ubanjwa, ungathola ngisho nenhlawulo.
• Akukhona lokho kuphela, ukudla ngenkathi ushayela, ukufuna ibhodlela lamanzi, ukudlala umculo ophakeme, ukwenza okuthile kudeshibhodi, noma ngisho nokuxoxa nabantu abasesihlalweni sangemuva konke kungakuphazamisa.
• Kangangokunokwenzeka , gwema zonke iziphazamiso uze ufike lapho uya khona. Beka ifoni yakho ku-silent bese uyibeka endaweni ekude, mhlawumbe esikhwameni sakho. Amanye amafoni nawo anemodi yokushayela , lapho ivuliwe ithumela ngokuzenzakalelayo umlayezo kubashayi bezingcingo ukuthi uyashayela. Lokho futhi kungumqondo omuhle.

Cabanga nje, uma iphutha elincane, umzuzwana wokukhohlwa, libangela ingozi enkulu, umonakalo elingawubangela. Ukukhubazeka impilo yonke, usizi lomndeni, ukulahlekelwa ngokwezomnotho... Konke lokhu kungavinjelwa ngokucabanga okuncane kanye nokuqapha okuncane, akunjalo?

5. Ungathembeli kwabanye abashayeli kuphela.

Sonke sidinga ukuba nomusa kwabanye uma sisendleleni, futhi sidinga ukubanika isikhala. Kodwa, ungashayeli ngokuqiniseka okungu-100% ukuthi wonke umuntu uzoshayela ngokomthetho, akubone, akudedele, futhi aziphathe ngendlela ocabanga ukuthi kufanele aziphathe ngayo.

• Uyazinakekela. Lokho kusho ukuthi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abanye benzani, cabanga ngendlela ongazivikela ngayo.
• Esikhundleni sokuziphonsa nje lapho ucabanga ukuthi, 'Uzongidedela,' cabanga ngakho okwesikhashana, 'Ngizokwenzenjani uma engangidedeli?'
• Isibonelo, uma usuzojika kwesokudla endaweni yokuhlangana kwemigwaqo, kunokuba ucabange ukuthi imoto ezayo izokuvumela ukuthi udlule, yiba nohlelo lokuthi uzokwenzani uma ingami.
• Mhlawumbe omunye umshayeli usefonini yakhe, akakubonanga, ubesesimweni esiphuthumayo, noma akayazi imithetho.
• Abanye abashayeli bashayela izibani ezibomvu futhi bangazinaki izimpawu zokuma. Ngakho-ke kungcono ukulungela lezi zinto ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lokho kusho ukuthi uhlale ucabanga ukuthi 'kuthiwani uma'.

Enye into mayelana nokushayela ngokuphephile

Uma kungenzeka, kuyazuzisa kakhulu ukuthatha izifundo zokushayela zokuzivikela njalo eminyakeni embalwa. Ngeke nje kuvuselele ulwazi lwakho, kodwa futhi kuzokusiza ukuthi uthuthukise amakhono akho okushayela. Kwamanye amazwe, ukuthatha izifundo ezinjalo kukunikeza nesaphulelo esincane ku-premium yakho yomshuwalense wemoto. Kunezindawo eSri Lanka ezinikeza izifundo ezinjalo. Ungathola okwengeziwe ngalokhu ezikoleni zokuqeqesha ukushayela ezidumile eSri Lanka, noma ezinhlanganweni zikahulumeni ezifana noMnyango Wezimoto.

Okokugcina, okufanele ukukhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Ngakho-ke, uma ukhumbula la maphuzu esixoxe ngawo namuhla ngenkathi ushayela, ungawanciphisa kakhulu amathuba engozi.

• Hlala unake.
• Lawula isivinini sakho.
• Gcina ibanga eliphephile kusuka ezimotweni ezingaphambili.
• Gwema iziphazamiso ngokuphelele.
• Lungela amathuba okuba abanye abashayeli benze amaphutha.

Impilo yakho, kanye nezimpilo zabo bonke abanye abantu emgwaqweni, zibaluleke kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, cabanga njalo ngokuphepha, bekezela, futhi ushayele ngokucophelela. Khumbula, umshayeli omuhle akuyena ohamba ngokushesha futhi afike lapho eya khona kuqala, kodwa yilowo ohamba ngokucophelela futhi aqede uhambo lwakhe ngokuphepha.

Qaphela uma uhamba!

Ukushayela Ngokuphepha, Ukuvimbela Izingozi, Ukushayela Ngokuzivikela, Amathiphu Okushayela eSri Lanka, Ukushayela, Ukuphepha Emgwaqweni, Ukunaka Kwabashayeli