Ingabe nawe wesaba kakhulu ukubeletha? Ake sixoxe nge-tokophobia!

Uyazi, abanye abantu bazizwa besaba kakhulu uma becabanga ngokubeletha. Akuyona nje uvalo oluvamile, kodwa ukwesaba okujulile, ngezinye izikhathi okusongela ukuphila. Namuhla sizokhuluma ngesimo esibizwa ngokuthi i-tokophobia . Uma uzizwa ngale ndlela, khumbula ukuthi awuwedwa.

Iyini ngempela iTokophobia?

Kalula nje, i-tokophobia ukwesaba ukubeletha ngokweqile, okungalawuleki. Ngokuvamile kuthinta abesifazane, kodwa ngokumangazayo, amanye amadoda angabhekana nalesi simo. Odokotela bakubiza ngokuthi ukwesaba okuthile, noma ukwesaba okuthile okuthile (kulokhu, ukubeletha).

Cabanga ngakho, abanye abantu besaba izinto ezifana nezicabucabu nokuphakama. Kunjalo nangalena. Kodwa kulokhu, besaba ukubeletha.

Kunezinhlobo ezimbili ze-tokophobia, akunjalo?

Yebo, uzwile kahle. I-Tokophobia ingahlukaniswa ngezinhlobo ezimbili eziyinhloko:

1. I-Tokophobia Eyinhloko: Lokhu kwenzeka kumuntu ongakaze akhulelwe . Kungase kube ngenxa yezinto azizwe noma azibonile kusukela ebuntwaneni.

2. I-Secondary Tokophobia: Lokhu kwenzeka ngemva kokuhlangenwe nakho okubi kakhulu, okubuhlungu ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa noma sokubeletha kwangaphambilini. Isibonelo, ukubeletha okunzima kakhulu, ukubeletha okufile, njll.

Ingabe lokhu kwesaba kungahlobene nokunye ukwesaba?

Empeleni, yebo. Ngezinye izikhathi le tokophobia ingahlotshaniswa nokunye ukwesaba. Cabanga ngakho, izinto ezinjengalezi:

• Ukwesaba ubuhlungu: Abanye abantu bazizwa besaba kakhulu ngisho nalapho becabanga ngobuhlungu bokubeletha.
• Ukwesaba odokotela noma izibhedlela: Abanye abantu besaba ukubona odokotela noma ngisho nokuya esibhedlela. Bangase babe nezimo ezibizwa ngokuthi `(Iatrophobia)` noma `(Nosocomephobia)`.
• Ukwesaba ukuthintwa: Lokhu kungaba nomthelela omkhulu ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa.
• Ukwesaba izinaliti: Lokhu kwesaba kuthonywa futhi yi-"Trypanophobia", njengoba imijovo inikezwa ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
• Ukwesaba ukufa (i-Thanatophobia): Ukwesaba ukubeletha ngokweqile, okukholelwa ukuthi kuyisenzakalo esisongela ukuphila.

Okunye ukwesaba okuningi okufana nalokhu kungabangela lokhu.

Ingabe i-phobia ihlukile ekwesabeni okuvamile?

Lona umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu. Kujwayelekile kakhulu ukuzizwa wesaba noma ukhathazekile ngezinto ezibonakala ziyingozi noma ezingakhululekile. Abantu abaningi bazizwa besaba kancane uma becabanga ngokukhulelwa nokubeletha. Lokho kungokwemvelo. Kodwa imicabango enjalo ngokuvamile ayinawo umthelela omkhulu emisebenzini yansuku zonke.

KodwaUkwesaba kuyinto enkulu kakhulu, engalawuleki. Lokhu kwesaba kungaholela nasekugwemeni izinto ezithile. Ungase ube nemicabango engavamile kanye nokuziphatha okunzima ukulawula. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho namaphupho okuphila, njengokuba nomntwana noma ukuqala umndeni, angavinjelwa yilokhu kwesaba.

Ngingazi kanjani ukuthi ngine-tokophobia?

Abantu abaningi banokukhathazeka ngokubeletha. Lokho kuyinto evamile. Kodwa abanye besifazane abane-tokophobia bayakugwema ukukhulelwa ngokuphelele. Uma bekhulelwa ngengozi, abajabuli ngakho, futhi bazama ukufihla isisu sabo esikhulayo kwabanye.

Uma ubhekene nale mizwa, asikho isizathu sokuba namahloni noma sokuhlupheka wedwa. Ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu kuyisinyathelo sokuqala nesibaluleke kakhulu ekunqobeni lesi simo. Ukwelashwa kungenza ukukhulelwa nokulungiselela ukubeletha kungabi yinto ecindezelayo.

Kungani lokhu kwesaba okukhulu kuvela? Yiziphi izizathu?

I-Tokophobia ingabangelwa yizinto eziningana. Ezinye zezimbangela eziyinhloko yilezi:

• Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi noma ukudlwengulwa esikhathini esidlule: Okuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo kungaholela ehlazweni nasekuzondeni ngokukhulelwa.
• Ingcindezi yokubeletha umntwana ngendlela evamile (ngesitho sangasese sowesifazane) ngaphandle kwezinkinga: Ngezinye izikhathi, lolu hlobo lwengcindezi oluvela emndenini nasemphakathini nalo luyandisa ukwesaba.
• Ukuzwa ngezinto ezimbi abanye abantu ababhekana nazo ngesikhathi sokubeletha: Abantu abasizungezile ngezinye izikhathi baxoxa izindaba ezesabekayo njengokuthi, "O, lokhu kwenzeke komunye umuntu, lokho kwenzeke komunye umuntu." Ukuzizwa njalo kungandisa lokhu kwesaba.
• Ukuzizwa unamahloni futhi ungakhululekile ngodokotela abathinta isitho sangasese sowesifazane ngesikhathi sokubeletha.
• Ukungaqapheli ukuthi amathuba okuba nezinkinga ngesikhathi sokubeletha awaphezulu njengoba kubonakala: Abanye abantu bayesaba ngokungadingekile izingozi.
• Ukulindela izinguquko zendlela yokuphila: Ukwesaba ukuthi ukuba nengane kuzosho ukulahlekelwa ukulawula isimiso sakho nokulahlekelwa inkululeko yakho.

Ziyini izimpawu ze-Tokophobia?

I-Tokophobia ithinta imicabango yakho nokuziphatha kwakho. Abantu abaningi abanalesi simo bangase babe nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo, njengokucindezeleka. Banamathuba amaningi okuba nemiphumela emibi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.

Imicabango kanye nokuziphatha

Lokhu kwesaba okukhulu kokubeletha kungakwenza wenze izinto ezifana nalezi:

• Ukugwema ukuya ocansini.
• Angizizwa ngixhumene ngokomzwelo nomntwana okhula esibelethweni sami.
• Angizizwa ngijabule ngokukhulelwa.
• Bazama ukufihla iqiniso lokuthi bakhulelwe kwabanye.
• Ukuzizwa unesizungu futhi unesizungu, ungekho kumlingani wakho noma abantu obathandayo.

Imiphumela emibi engaba khona ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa

Abesifazane abasaba kakhulu ukubeletha banamathuba amaningi okubhekana nalokhu okulandelayo:

• Ngisho noma kungenzeka ukubeletha umntwana ngokuphephile, kucelwa ukuhlinzwa kokubeletha (ukuhlinzwa kokubeletha ngokuhlinzwa).
• Uma ukhulelwa, ungase ulingeke ukuba ukhiphe isisu.
• Ngemva kokuthola umntwana, ucabanga ukunika omunye umuntu ingane ukuba ayikhulise.

Odokotela basibona kanjani lesi simo?

Odokotela bavame ukuxilonga i-tokophobia uma uvakashela udokotela ngesinye isizathu.

• Abesifazane abangakakhulelwa: Uma uya kohlolwa minyaka yonke, udokotela wakho uvame ukukubuza ngokuhlela umndeni kanye nokuba nabantwana. Leso yisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokukhuluma ngokwesaba kwakho nokukhathazeka kwakho ngokubeletha.
• Abesifazane abakhulelwe: Ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa kwakho kwangaphambi kokubeletha, uzobuzwa imibuzo mayelana nempilo yakho yengqondo. Ukuphendula le mibuzo ngokwethembeka kuzosiza odokotela ukuthi baxilonge i-tokophobia.

Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha i-tokophobia?

Enye yezindlela zokwelapha eziyinhloko nezisebenza kahle kakhulu ze-tokophobia ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo (i-CBT). I-CBT ikusiza ukuthi ubone izici ezithile ezibangela ukwesaba kwakho ukubeletha. Ungasebenza futhi nomeluleki wezempilo yengqondo ukuze ufunde izindlela ezinempilo zokubhekana nalokhu kwesaba.

Kalula nje, lokhu kushintsha izindlela zakho zokucabanga ezimbi futhi kukunikeza isibindi sokubhekana nokwesaba kwakho.

Ingabe zikhona ezinye izindlela zokwelapha ukuze uphile ngempumelelo nalokhu kwesaba?

Ngaphezu kwe-CBT, kunezinye izindlela eziningana ezingasiza ekunqobeni i-tokophobia:

• Ama-antidepressant: Uma unesifo sokucindezeleka, le mithi ingasiza. Isebenza ngokulinganisela amakhemikhali asebuchosheni (abizwa ngokuthi ama-neurotransmitters) alawula isimo sengqondo. Kodwa-ke, kufanele ithathwe kuphela ngaphansi kokuqondisa kukadokotela.
• Ukwelapha nge-hypnotherapy: Lokhu kuhilela ukukubeka esimweni esikhethekile sokuphumula nokukusiza ukuthi uhlole imicabango yakho engaphansi kokuqonda ebangela lokhu kwesaba. Lokhu kufanele kwenziwe nochwepheshe oqeqeshiwe.
• Ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka: Izinto ezifana ne-yoga nokuzindla zingakusiza uphumule ingqondo yakho. Lokhu kungakusiza uzizwe uqiniseka kakhulu ngokubeletha.

Ingabe ikhona indlela yokuvimbela i-tokophobia ukuthi ingakhuli?

Kunzima ukusho ukuthi i-tokophobia ingavinjelwa ngokuphelele. Kodwa kunezinto ezithile ongazenza ukuze unciphise umthelela enawo empilweni yakho. Kuvamile ukuzizwa wesaba futhi ukhathazekile ngokubeletha. Kodwa ungavumeli ukuthi kuphazamise amaphupho akho okuqala nokukhulisa umndeni. Uma uzizwa ukhathazekile ngalolu hlobo, khuluma nodokotela wakho ngakho ngokushesha okukhulu.

Futhi, zama ukugwema ukulalela izindaba ezimbi nezesabekayo mayelana nokubeletha ezilandiswa abanye. Ukuthi nje izinto azihambanga njengoba bekuhleliwe kwabanye akusho ukuthi zizohamba nawe.

Ingabe lesi simo singalapheka ngokuphelele?

Uma ukwelashwa kuphumelele, ukucindezeleka okukhulu kanye nokwesaba ukubeletha kungancishiswa kakhulu. Ungase uzizwe ukhathazekile kancane. Kodwa ukufunda izindlela zokuzola ingqondo yakho kungasiza ekuvimbeleni leyo mizwa ukuba ibe namandla kakhulu ukuba ingalawuleki.

Ezinye izinto ezibalulekile okufanele uzazi lapho ubhekene ne-tokophobia

Kubalulekile ukuba nenethiwekhi enhle yokusekelana lapho ubhekene ne-tokophobia. Thola abangani nomndeni abanomthelela omuhle empilweni yakho. Laba bantu kungenzeka ukuthi abazange bakhulelwe bona ngokwabo, kodwa bangakunikeza izwi elihle futhi bakukhuthaze.

Futhi, ungenza okulandelayo ukuze uqaphele kakhulu ukubeletha:

• Iya emakilasini okukhulelwa: La makilasi azokufundisa ngalokho ongakulindela ngesikhathi sokubeletha kanye nokubeletha. Lawa avame ukwenziwa ngasekupheleni kokukhulelwa.
• Amakilasi okukhulelwa kwasekuqaleni: Lawa makilasi awusizo kulabo abasesigabeni sokuqala sokukhulelwa noma labo abanethemba lokukhulelwa.
• Vakashela isibhedlela noma isikhungo sokubeletha: Izindawo eziningi zinikeza izinkambo eziqondiswayo ezifana nalezi, futhi uzothola ithuba lokubuza imibuzo.
• Joyina iqembu lokusekela: Kunezinkundla eziningi eziku-inthanethi zabesifazane abakhulelwe, kanye nezinketho zalabo abakhulelwe. Isibhedlela sakho singase sihlele namaqembu anjalo.

Ekugcineni, kufanele ngithi... (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

I-Tokophobia ukwesaba ukubeletha ngokweqile. Kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa ukhathazekile ngezinto eziningi ezingaziwa ezihambisana nokuba nomntwana. Kodwa ungakuvumeli ukuthi kukuvimbele ekuphishekeleni amaphupho akho okuqala nokukhulisa umndeni. Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngezinto ezikukhathazayo. Kunezindlela eziningi zokukusiza ukunqoba lokhu kwesaba. Ngokwenza kanjalo, ungajabulela ukukhulelwa kwakho futhi wamukele ingane yakho entsha. Awuwedwa, futhi ungesabi ukucela usizo.

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