Are there piles of books and papers on the table in your room? Are there always a lot of clothes on the chair? When you open the closet , do things jump out one by one? These kinds of things are very familiar to our lives, aren't they? Sometimes, even when we see this mess, we feel tired and stressed. Did you know that the mess around us is directly related to the mess in our minds? That's what we're going to talk about today.
Who is Marie Kondo? Why is this method so popular?
Marie Kondo is a Japanese expert in organizing. Her method, the 'KonMari' method, has become very popular around the world because it is so simple and so relaxing. She says, "The most important thing is to decide what to keep, not what to get rid of."
Simply put, the essence of her method is to "keep only things that spark joy in your heart." How many things do we have in our homes and rooms that we don't use, that have no value to us, and that don't make us happy when we look at them? When we remove that unnecessary burden and only keep things that are truly valuable to us and that make us happy, we feel a great sense of freedom in our lives.
How is getting rid of unnecessary things good for our hearts?
Imagine, your room is full of stuff. It takes you minutes to find something you need. That alone makes you feel anxious. A cluttered environment like this directly affects our minds.
A messy, chaotic environment reduces our focus and ability to make important decisions.
When we organize our surroundings, what really happens is that our minds become organized too. When we remove unnecessary things, we have more space to focus on the important things, our relationships, our goals. And another benefit is that you can easily find what you need at any time!
| The psychological benefits of being organized | Practical advantages |
|---|---|
| Reduced stress. | Being able to find anything quickly. |
| Increased attention and concentration. | Saving time and effort. |
| Increased ability to make important decisions. | Increased space in the home or office. |
| Appreciating the things you own. | Creating a clean and healthy environment. |
How do you find exactly what brings you joy?
Okay, now you're probably thinking, "How do I know exactly what these 'things that bring me joy' are?" Marie Kondo has a very simple method for this.
First, gather all the same type of things in one place. For example, gather all your clothes in one place. Then, pick up one piece of clothing . When you pick it up, what do you feel? Do you feel happy, loving, warm? Or do you feel nothing?
If this is hard to understand, think of it this way. Take a gift from your best friend, or a piece of clothing that you really love. Remember the happy feeling you get when you hold it. That feeling should be the yardstick by which everything else is measured. Be grateful for the things that don't bring you that kind of joy, and let them go . That means getting rid of them (donate, recycle, or throw them away).
How do you teach these things to children?
A question many of us parents have is, "How do we teach our children about this order?" Marie Kondo says that we should teach this to our children not as a punishment, but as a game, as a good habit.
- Teach children to appreciate their possessions: Teach them that their toys and books are valuable. Teach them to use them carefully and respect them.
- Give everything a "home": Give every toy and book a designated place, a "home." When they're done playing, help your child return the items to their "homes."
- Work together: Do things together with your child, like folding laundry and putting away toys. Marie Kondo says she folds laundry with her two daughters. "I don't expect them to fold clothes perfectly. But I want them to develop a positive attitude toward being tidy and taking care of their things."
Do you always want to be neat?
After reading all this, you might be thinking, "Wow, isn't it a burden to always be so organized?" Marie Kondo's answer to this is very valuable.
She says, "After I became a mother with my first child, I was so frustrated that I couldn't keep my house in order. After my second child, I didn't even have the energy to think about it! Motherhood taught me to forgive myself. The joy of being a parent is far greater than the joy of having a perfectly tidy home."
The message from this is that order is important. But it shouldn't be a burden on our lives. Sometimes, things can get messy. That's normal. The important thing is to add joy and peace to our lives instead of trying to be perfect.
Take-Home Message
- The chaos in your environment can directly affect your mental health.
- Get rid of unnecessary things and keep only the things that truly bring you joy (Spark Joy).
- Order is like exercise for the mind. It increases your focus, decision-making ability, and mental peace.
- Teach children from a young age to appreciate and put things in order, not as a punishment, but as a good habit.
- Don't always try to be perfect. It's normal to mess up at times in life. Learn to forgive yourself.
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