Ke haʻi aku kāu kauka iā ʻoe ua loaʻa iā ʻoe ka maʻi ʻaʻai umauma, a ua ʻoi aku ka holomua, Pae III a i ʻole IV, ua like paha me he kuʻi lā i ke poʻo. He mea maʻamau ka manaʻo e like me ka hiolo ʻana o kou honua holoʻokoʻa i kēlā manawa. Akā ʻo ka mea paʻakikī loa, ʻo ia paha ka noʻonoʻo ʻana pehea e haʻi aku ai i kou ʻohana, i ka poʻe kokoke loa iā ʻoe - kāu kāne, kāu mau keiki, kou makuahine, kou makuakāne. ʻOi aku kēia ma mua o ka hāʻawi wale ʻana i ka ʻike. Pono ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i kou mau manaʻo makaʻu, ke kaumaha, a me ka huhū, a me nā manaʻo o kou ʻohana. Akā, ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi. Ehia mau wāhine ma ka honua i hele i kahi ʻike like? E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i kēia kamaʻilio paʻakikī no nā mea a pau o kou ʻohana.
Pehea ʻoe e uhaʻi ai i kēia nūhou i ka home?
ʻO ka maʻamau, haʻi mua ka hapa nui o ka poʻe i kā lākou hoa, ʻo ia hoʻi, kā lākou kāne a wahine paha, e pili ana i kēia ʻano nūhou. ʻO ka mea maikaʻi loa, ʻo ia ko lākou noho pū ʻana me ʻoe i ka wā e hāʻawi ai ke kauka iā ʻoe i kēia hōʻailona. Akā, ʻaʻole ia e hana mau ʻia. I kekahi manawa lohe paha ʻoe i ka nūhou ke noho hoʻokahi ʻoe.
E noʻonoʻo ua make ka makuahine o kāu kāne i ka maʻi kanesa. ʻEhia mau manawa āu e noʻonoʻo ai e haʻi aku i kekahi e like me ia? Akā ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa e hana ai i ka manawa e like me kēia, ʻo ia ka haʻi ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka wikiwiki .
Inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e hūnā i kēia mau mea no ka makaʻu o ka hōʻeha ʻana iā lākou, me ka manaʻo e pono ʻoe e pale aku iā lākou, e hoʻonui wale aku ia i kou kaumaha a e hoʻopilikia ia i kāu pilina.
"He mea maʻamau iā lākou ke kaumaha. Pono ʻoe e hoʻokuʻu iā lākou e hoʻokuʻu iā ia," wahi a nā kauka a me nā kākāʻōlelo. He mea paʻakikī paha iā ʻoe ke ʻike iā lākou e uē ana a huhū. Akā, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka hūnā ʻana i kēlā mau manaʻo.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi pololei aku i kou mau mākua a i ʻole kou mau kaikaina. A i ʻole, inā paʻakikī loa kēlā iā ʻoe, hiki iā ʻoe ke noi i kāu hoa a i ʻole he hoaaloha hilinaʻi e haʻi iā ʻoe i ka nūhou. Mai makaʻu e haʻi aku i nā ʻohana mamao a i ʻole nā hoaaloha ʻē aʻe. E haʻi iki aku iā lākou ke loaʻa iā ʻoe ka wiwo ʻole. ʻO ka haʻi ʻana i ka mea like i nā mea a pau i nā manawa he nui hiki ke hoʻoluhi i ka naʻau.
Pehea ʻoe e haʻi aku ai i nā keiki e pili ana i kēia?
ʻO kēia paha ka ʻāpana paʻakikī loa. Inā ʻōpiopio kāu mau keiki, pehea ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo ai iā lākou i kēia? Pehea ʻoe e haʻi aku ai iā lākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo me ka hoʻoweliweli ʻole iā lākou?
E noʻonoʻo he 3 a me 6 makahiki kāu mau keiki. ʻOiai i ko lākou wā ʻōpiopio, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka haʻi ʻana iā lākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Akā, he mea maopopo ia no ko lākou mau makahiki.
"E ʻōlelo pololei, 'He maʻi kanesa ko Māmā. ' Ka maʻi kanesa.Mai makaʻu i ka huaʻōlelo ''. Inā ʻoe e hūnā i kēlā huaʻōlelo, ke lohe lākou mai kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, aia paha kahi nīnau nui i loko o ko lākou manaʻo, "E Māmā, no ke aha ʻoe i haʻi ʻole mai ai iaʻu i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo?" ʻO ia ka mea e hoʻoweliweli hou aku ai iā lākou.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke wehewehe maʻalahi penei: "He pōhaku ʻino ko Māmā i loko o kona kino. ʻO ia ke kumu e maʻi iki nei ʻo ia. Ke hāʻawi nei ke kauka iā ia i ka lāʻau lapaʻau e hoʻoheheʻe i ka pōhaku a wehe iā ia. Hiki i kēlā lāʻau lapaʻau ke hoʻohāʻule i kona lauoho, a luhi ʻo ia i kekahi manawa. Inā ʻike ʻoe i nā mākua e uē ana, mai makaʻu i kēlā, he mea maʻamau ia."
Pono ke ʻano o kāu kamaʻilio ʻana me nā keiki e ʻokoʻa ma muli o ko lākou mau makahiki.
| Ka hui makahiki o ke keiki | Pehea e ʻōlelo ai |
|---|---|
| Nā keiki kula kamaliʻi a me nā keiki ʻōpio (3-7 makahiki) | E hoʻohana i nā huaʻōlelo maʻalahi loa. E hoʻomaopopo pono ʻaʻole lākou e laha a ʻaʻole na lākou ia hewa. E hoʻohana i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohālikelike e like me "he pōhaku i loko o ka ʻōpū o ka makuahine." |
| Nā keiki hele kula (8-12 makahiki) | Hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio hou aku me nā kikoʻī. E haʻi iā lākou i ke ʻano o ka lāʻau lapaʻau (e laʻa me ka hāʻule ʻana o ka lauoho mai ka chemo) a pehea e pili ai iā ʻoe. E nīnau iā lākou i nā nīnau, e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ko lākou mau makaʻu. |
| Nā keiki ʻōpio (ʻōpio) | E kamaʻilio ākea e like me ke kanaka makua. Hiki iā lākou ke nānā i ka ʻike ma ka pūnaewele, no laila e ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i kou kūlana maoli (Stage III a i ʻole IV), nā koho lapaʻau, a me ka wānana. E ʻae iā lākou e hōʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo. E kamaʻilio pū e pili ana i nā ala e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kōkua iā lākou. |
Pehea ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo ai iā lākou i kou kūlana maoli?
ʻAʻole like ke kanesa no kēlā me kēia kanaka. ʻO kou kuleana ke wehewehe i kēia i kou ʻohana. ʻAʻole e hana ʻia ke ʻoki kino a i ʻole ka chemotherapy i nā mea a pau me ke kanesa o ka umauma .
Hiki ke paʻakikī ke wehewehe aku i nā mea aloha, ʻoiai e pili ana i ka Pae IV.He mea paʻakikī paha iā lākou ke ʻae i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo "ʻaʻole hiki ke ho'ōla loa ʻia, akā hiki ke kāohi ʻia, a pono ʻoe e hoʻomau i kekahi ʻano lāʻau lapaʻau."
E makaʻu paha kekahi mau ʻohana e make koke ʻoe. E hauʻoli lākou i ka ʻike ʻana he mau wahine e ola ana no nā makahiki he ʻumi a ʻoi aku paha me ke kanesa pae IV. I ke kahua III, hiki ke lōʻihi aku kēlā manawa.
ʻO ka mea maikaʻi loa e hana ai, ʻo ia ke haʻi pololei aku i kāu kauka e pili ana i kāna ʻōlelo. Inā nīnau kekahi keiki liʻiliʻi i kekahi mea e like me, "E make ana anei ʻo Māmā?" hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo, "ʻAʻole mākou e noʻonoʻo nei i kēlā i kēia manawa, e ke keiki. Ke mālama pono nei nā kauka iā Māmā. Inā me he mea lā e hiki mai ana kēlā, e kamaʻilio hou mākou e pili ana."
Pehea e noi ai i ke kōkua mai ka ʻohana?
E hoʻololi maoli nō ke kanesa i ke ola o kou ʻohana, no laila he mea nui loa e maopopo i kāu mea e makemake ai a me kāu mea e pono ai me ka poʻe pili loa iā ʻoe.
E noi pololei i ke kōkua , e like me "Makemake nui au iā ʻoe e holoi i ka lole i ka Pōʻalua a kiʻi i nā keiki mai ke kula i nā lā ʻekolu ʻē aʻe." No ka mea, ʻaʻole hiki i kāu hoa ke heluhelu i kou manaʻo.
E loli ana kāu mau pono i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa. Inā ʻoe i ke kahua ʻekolu, e paʻakikī paha iā ʻoe ke mālama ʻia , a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻi i kou ola maʻamau i loko o kekahi mau mahina. I ke kahua ʻehā, pono paha ʻoe i ke kōkua hou aku. E loaʻa nā manawa e maikaʻi ai kou manaʻo, a me nā manawa ʻē aʻe e paʻakikī ai ʻoe. He mea nui e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēia mau mea a pau me kou ʻohana a hoʻoholo i ka mea maikaʻi loa no nā mea āpau.
Pono nō hoʻi ʻoe e aʻo e ʻae i ke kōkua. Inā ua hana mau ʻoe me ke kūʻokoʻa, he mea paʻakikī paha ke noi koke aku i ke kōkua mai kekahi poʻe a ʻae i ke kōkua a lākou e hāʻawi mai ai iā ʻoe. Akā i kēia manawa, ʻaʻole ia he mea hilahila, he mea pono ia.
Mai makaʻu e ʻōlelo e pili ana i kou mau makemake.
Ua holomua loa nā lāʻau lapaʻau no ka maʻi ʻaʻai umauma i kēia manawa. Eia nō naʻe, ʻike kekahi mau wahine he mea hōʻoluʻolu loa ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi kumuhana a ka poʻe he nui e makaʻu nei e kamaʻilio. ʻO ia hoʻi, "Pehea inā ʻaʻole holo pono kaʻu lāʻau lapaʻau?" a i ʻole "Pehea inā manaʻo wau he lāʻau lapaʻau kaʻu i kēia manawa?"
Malia paha e ʻōlelo ana kāu kauka he hiki ke ho'ōla ʻia kou maʻi kanesa pae 3. Akā he mea hōʻoluʻolu paha ke kamaʻilio me kou ʻohana e pili ana i ka mea e hana ʻia inā ʻaʻole. A i ʻole ua noho ʻoe ma ke kahua 4 no nā makahiki, ua hoʻāʻo i nā lāʻau lapaʻau āpau, a ke noʻonoʻo nei i ka mālama hospice e kōkua iā ʻoe e ola i kou mau lā hope me ka ʻoluʻolu.
Aia kahi pōmaikaʻi huna o ka loaʻa ʻana o kēia mau kamaʻilio paʻakikī. Ke kamaʻilio ʻoe e pili ana i ia mea, mae kou mau makaʻu. Ke haʻi aku ʻoe i kou ʻohana i kāu makemake a kākau ʻia i lalo, e noʻonoʻo ʻoe, "ʻAe, i kēia manawa he hoʻolālā kaʻu. I kēia manawa hiki iaʻu ke waiho i ka ʻaoʻao a noʻonoʻo wale e pili ana i ke ola."
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- E ʻoiaʻiʻo a wehe i kou ʻohana, ʻoiai hoʻi kāu hoa, e pili ana i ke kūlana maoli. Mai hūnā i ka ʻike e pale aku iā lākou.
- I ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā keiki, e hoʻohana i nā huaʻōlelo maʻalahi e kūpono i ko lākou mau makahiki . Mai makaʻu i ka huaʻōlelo "maʻi ʻaʻai," akā e wehewehe iā ia ma ke ʻano e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻomaopopo.
- E noi pono i ke kōkua . ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi ke heluhelu i kou manaʻo. ʻO ke noi ʻana a me ka ʻae ʻana i ke kōkua he hōʻailona ia o ka ikaika.
- Mai makaʻu e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou kūlana, ka lāʻau lapaʻau, a me kou mau makemake no ka wā e hiki mai ana. E hāʻawi kēia mau kamaʻilio ʻana iā ʻoe a me kou ʻohana i ka maluhia o ka noʻonoʻo a me ka maopopo.
- Mai hele wale ʻoe ma kēia huakaʻi. E kiʻi i ke kākoʻo mai kāu kauka, ʻohana, a me nā hoaaloha hilinaʻi. E ʻimi i ke aʻo ʻana inā pono.
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