Kaumaha mau anei kāu keiki? E aʻo kākou e pili ana i ke kaumaha o ke kamaliʻi.

ʻAʻole anei kāu keiki e pāʻani nui e like me ka wā ma mua? Huhū mau ʻo ia? Uē paha ʻo ia no nā mea liʻiliʻi loa? Manaʻo mākou a pau e hauʻoli mau nā keiki, e ʻakaʻaka, a e holo a puni. Akā, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, e like me nā mākua, hiki i nā keiki ke ʻeha i ke kaumaha, kahi maʻi noʻonoʻo a mākou e ʻike nei he "Kaumaha." He mea maʻamau kēia ma mua o ko mākou manaʻo. A, inā ʻike pono ʻia a mālama ʻia, hiki ke ho'ōla loa ʻia. Mai makaʻu e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ia mea. E kamaʻilio ākea kākou e pili ana i ia mea.

He aha maoli ke Kaumaha o ke Kamaliʻi?

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻo ke kaumaha o ke kamaliʻi he manaʻo lōʻihi o ke kaumaha nui, ka hoʻonāukiuki, a i ʻole ka manaʻolana ʻole i loko o kahi keiki. ʻAʻole kēia he kaumaha iki wale nō. Hiki i kēia mau manaʻo ke hoʻopilikia i nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā o ke keiki, ko lākou pilina, ko lākou ola kula, a me ko lākou pilina me ka ʻohana.

Manaʻo paha kekahi he mea hou kēia. Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua noho ka kaumaha no nā hanauna i waena o nā keiki. ʻO ka mea hou, ua ʻike mākou i kēia manawa i nā mea hou aʻe e pili ana i ia mea, loaʻa iā mākou nā ala e ʻike ai iā ia, a ua ʻike mākou hiki ke mālama ʻia. A ua ʻike nui nā kauka i kēia manawa inā ʻaʻole mālama ʻia, hiki ke hoʻoweliweli i ke ola.

Pehea e ʻike ai inā loaʻa i kaʻu keiki kēia maʻi?

ʻO kēia ka ʻāpana paʻakikī loa, no ka mea, ʻaʻole hōʻike nā keiki, ʻoiai nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi, i ko lākou mau manaʻo i nā huaʻōlelo e like me ka hana a nā mākua. Akā, hōʻike lākou ia mea ma o kā lākou ʻano.

E noʻonoʻo, ua makemake nui kāu kaikamahine i ke kaha kiʻi a me ka pāʻani me kāna mau hoaaloha. Akā i kēia manawa, noho hoʻokahi mau ʻo ia i loko o kona lumi. Akā i ka hoʻi ʻana mai o kekahi o kou mau hoaaloha i ka home, minoʻaka ʻo ia a kamaʻilio iki. A laila e noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe, "ʻĀ... ua maikaʻi ʻo ia, malia paha he ʻano kaumaha wale nō ia." Akā i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, i ka wā e kaumaha ai nā keiki, ʻaʻole paha e ʻike mau ʻia ko lākou kaumaha. Aia kekahi mau manawa i maʻamau lākou.

Wahi a nā kauka, ʻo ka hōʻailona nui a kikoʻī loa o ke kaumaha o ka wā kamaliʻi he ʻano i kapa ʻia ʻo 'anhedonia' . ʻO ia hoʻi, ka nalowale o ka hiki ke ʻike i ka leʻaleʻa a i ʻole ka leʻaleʻa . ʻO ka hiki ʻole ke loaʻa i kekahi leʻaleʻa mai nā mea i leʻaleʻa ma mua, e like me ka pāʻani ʻana, ka nānā ʻana i ke TV, a i ʻole ka hoʻolohe ʻana i nā moʻolelo.

E nānā kākou i ka papa ma lalo nei e ʻike ai pehea e hōʻike ai nā keiki i nā hōʻailona o ke kaumaha.

Pehea e mālama ʻia ai? Aia kekahi 'pila kilokilo' no kēia?

ʻAʻole loa. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i ke kaumaha o ka wā kamaliʻi ʻaʻole ia he mea hiki ke hana ʻia i ka pō hoʻokahi, ʻaʻole hoʻi he mea hiki ke hana ʻia me hoʻokahi pila. He hana ia e pono ai ka mālama nui a me ke ahonui. ʻElua ʻano nui o ka mālama ʻana.

1. Hoʻōla Kamaʻilio / Hoʻōla Manaʻo

ʻO kēia ka hana mua pinepine. ʻOkoʻa kēia mau ʻano hana ma muli o ka makahiki a me ke kūlana o ke keiki.

• Pāʻani Lapaʻau: He nui nā keiki ʻōpio e paʻakikī ana i ka hōʻike ʻana i ko lākou mau manaʻo ma nā huaʻōlelo. No laila, hoʻohana nā mea lapaʻau i nā pēpē, nā mea pāʻani, a me nā kiʻi e kōkua i ke keiki e hoʻomaopopo i ko lākou mau manaʻo, e like me ke kaumaha, ka makaʻu, a me ka huhū. Kōkua kēia i ke keiki e hoʻoponopono i kēlā mau manaʻo.
• Lapaʻau Hana Noʻonoʻo (CBT): He kūpono loa kēia ʻano hana no nā keiki makua a me nā keiki ʻōpio. I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, kōkua ia i ka ʻike ʻana i nā ʻano noʻonoʻo maikaʻi ʻole o ke keiki ("He maikaʻi ʻole wau," "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu") a hoʻololi iā lākou i nā mea maoli a maikaʻi. Hiki i kēia ke hoʻomaikaʻi i ke ʻano a me ke ʻano.
• Hoʻōla ʻOhana: Hoʻopilikia nui ʻia ke olakino noʻonoʻo o ke keiki e ke kaiapuni ʻohana. Ma kēia ʻano hana, ʻaʻole wale ke keiki akā ʻo nā mākua a me nā kaikaina pū kekahi e kūkākūkā ʻia, a hāʻawi ʻia ke alakaʻi no ke kākoʻo ʻana i ke keiki ma ke ʻano he ʻohana.

2. Lāʻau lapaʻau

Makaʻu kekahi mau mākua ke lohe lākou e pili ana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau. "ʻĀ, he mau antidepressants no ke keiki ʻōpiopio? E loaʻa anei iā lākou nā hopena ʻaoʻao?" He kūpono kēia makaʻu.

Akā ʻo ka mea nui e ʻike ai, ʻo ia ke kuhikuhi wale nei nā kauka i ka lāʻau lapaʻau i kahi keiki ke pono loa. A hana lākou pēlā ma lalo o ka nānā pono ʻana . Ua aʻo ʻia nā lāʻau lapaʻau e like me Prozac i kekahi ʻano i nā keiki, a ua hōʻoia ʻia ko lākou palekana a me ka pono.

ʻO ka mea nui loa:

ʻAʻole loa e hāʻawi wale ke kauka i kahi lāʻau lapaʻau i ke keiki a hoʻouna iā lākou i ka home. He hana hui ka hoʻolālā lapaʻau. Pono e hui pū ʻia ka kamaʻilio lapaʻau, ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i nā mākua, a me ka lāʻau lapaʻau, inā pono. He mea nui e ʻike pinepine i ke kauka i nā pule mua ma hope o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau e nānā pono i ka pane a ke keiki a me nā loli.

He aha kā mākou e hiki ai ke hana ma ke ʻano he mau mākua?

ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻonui ʻia ke kuleana o nā mākua i ke kaʻina hana hoʻōla o ke keiki. Eia kekahi mau mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana.

• E hoʻolohe ākea: E hoʻolohe i ka mea a kāu keiki e ʻōlelo ai me ka ʻole o ka hoʻohewa a me ka hoʻohewa ʻole. Ma kahi o ka nīnau huhū ʻana, "He aha kou pilikia?", e nīnau me ke aloha, "Ke ʻike nei au ua huhū ʻoe. Hiki iā kāua ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ia mea no kekahi manawa?"
• E ʻimi i ke aʻo lapaʻau:ʻOiai inā ʻike ʻoe i kahi loli liʻiliʻi, mai hoʻowahāwahā iā ia a manaʻo, "E maikaʻi ana." E ʻike i kahi pediatrician kūpono a i ʻole psychiatrist keiki.
• E hoʻomanawanui: ʻAʻole kēia he mea e ho'ōla koke ʻia. He manawa ka lāʻau lapaʻau. E hoʻomanawanui a e aloha i kāu keiki. E mahalo i nā mea maikaʻi āna e hana ai.
• E hāʻawi i ke kākoʻo ʻohana: E hoʻomaopopo i ke keiki ʻaʻole lākou mehameha. E ʻae i ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa e hui pū e pāʻani, e kamaʻilio, a e hoʻolilo manawa pū.
• E hoʻomau i ka launa pū ʻana me kāu kauka: E hōʻike koke i nā loli ʻē aʻe i ke ʻano o kāu keiki, ka hiamoe, a i ʻole nā ​​ʻano ʻai i kāu kauka , ʻoiai inā ua hoʻomaka ʻoe i ka lāʻau lapaʻau. Mai hopohopo, he mea maʻamau loa ia.