Ua ʻike anei ʻoe ua kaumaha kāu keiki liʻiliʻi, huhū, a ʻoi aku ka mālie ma mua o ka maʻamau? He mea maʻamau no nā keiki liʻiliʻi ke kaumaha a me ka hoʻonāukiuki. ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha ke kaumaha ke hakakā ʻoe me kahi hoaaloha a i ʻole ke loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hoʻokolohua paʻakikī. Akā inā ʻaʻole e emi kēia kaumaha i loko o kekahi mau lā, akā e hoʻomau no nā pule, hiki ke ʻoi aku ka koʻikoʻi ma mua o kā mākou e manaʻo ai. Ma ke ʻano he makua, ʻaʻohe mea hiki ke ʻike i kēia loli i kāu keiki ma mua o ʻoe. No laila i kēia lā, e kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia ʻano i kapa ʻia ʻo ke kaumaha, hiki ke hoʻopilikia i nā keiki liʻiliʻi.
Loaʻa maoli anei i nā keiki ʻōpio ke kaumaha?
ʻAe. ʻO ka pane i kēia nīnau, "ʻAe loa." Manaʻo pinepine mākou he mea kaumaha ka mea e hoʻopilikia wale ana i nā pākeke. Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki i ke kaumaha ke hoʻopilikia ʻaʻole wale i nā keiki kula, akā, i nā keiki kula kamaliʻi a me nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi.
ʻAʻole kēia he hana ʻino a ke keiki a i ʻole ka hewa o ka makua. I ka pololei, he maʻi lolo ka kaumaha e hoʻopilikia ai i nā pākeke a me nā keiki. Hoʻokumu ʻia ia e nā loli i kekahi mau kemika (neurotransmitters) i loko o ko kākou lolo. Loaʻa paha i kekahi mau keiki kahi predisposition genetic i kēia.
I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ua like ia me kekahi mau keiki i hānau ʻia me kahi talena kūikawā no ke mele a i ʻole ke kiʻi. Pēlā nō, hiki i kekahi mau keiki ke loaʻa i nā kūlana e like me ke kaumaha.
Kaumaha a me ka Hopohopo - He aha ka pilina ma waena o nā mea ʻelua?
Wahi a nā loea, ʻoi aku ka maʻamau o ka hopohopo ma mua o ke kaumaha, ʻoiai ma mua o ka hiki ʻana o ke keiki i ka wā ʻōpio. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka pilikia o nā keiki e ʻike nei i ka hopohopo i ko lākou wā kamaliʻi i ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kaumaha i ko lākou wā makua. Ua hōʻike ʻia nā noiʻi he hapalua o nā keiki ʻōpio e ʻeha nei i ke kaumaha i loaʻa ka pilikia e pili ana i ka hopohopo i ko lākou wā kamaliʻi.
No laila, he hewa weliweli loa ka hoʻēmi ʻana i ka hopohopo o ke keiki ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "Pēlā nō ia, e maikaʻi ana ke ulu aʻe lākou." Hoʻoulu kēia mau kūlana i ke kaumaha nui o ka noʻonoʻo no ke keiki a hoʻopilikia pū i nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā. Hiki i kēia ke alakaʻi i ka manaʻo o ka manaʻolana ʻole i loko o ke keiki. ʻO kēia manaʻolana ʻole ka mea e hoʻokuke ai i ke keiki i kahi e hōʻeha ai iā lākou iho.
Aia kekahi mau ʻano hopohopo like ʻole i maʻamau i waena o nā keiki ʻōpio.
| ʻAno hopohopo | He aha kēlā manaʻo? |
|---|---|
| Hopohopo Hoʻokaʻawale | He makaʻu nui kēia mau keiki i ka hōʻeha ʻana i ko lākou ʻohana (makuahine, makuakāne, kaikaina). No laila, makaʻu nui lākou i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻia mai ko lākou mau mākua, ʻoiai ke hele ʻana i ke kula. I nā lā kula, hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i nā ʻeha ʻōpū a me nā poʻo. ʻAʻole kēia ʻeha mai ke kino mai, akā, mai ke kaumaha o ka noʻonoʻo e puka mai ana mai ka lolo. |
| Ka Hopohopo Kaiapili | He paʻakikī i kēia mau keiki ke kamaʻilio a me ka launa pū ʻana me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻoiai ma ke kula. ʻOiai paha e kamaʻilio maikaʻi lākou me ko lākou mau mākua ma ka home, ʻaʻole paha lākou e ʻōlelo iki i kekahi ma waho. ʻO kēia ke kumu pinepine ʻaʻole lākou makemake e hele i ke kula. |
| Ka maʻi hopohopo laulā | Hopohopo nui kēia mau keiki no ka wā e hiki mai ana me ke kumu ʻole. E noʻonoʻo i kahi haumāna papa ʻekolu e hopohopo nei pehea ʻo ia e hiki ai i ke kahua kula. Inā ʻoe e nīnau iā ia, 'Pehea ʻoe i pāʻani ai i kēia lā?' e pane paha ʻo ia, 'Ua loaʻa iaʻu ʻelua mau pahuhopu,' a laila ʻōlelo, 'Akā ke hopohopo nei au no ka hoʻokolohua pela ʻana i ka lā ʻapōpō.' |
Pehea e ʻike ai inā loaʻa i kaʻu keiki ke kaumaha?
Ma ke ʻano he makua, inā ʻike ʻoe i kahi loli i ke ʻano o kāu keiki, e hopohopo. Inā hōʻike kāu keiki i hoʻokahi a ʻoi aku paha o nā hōʻailona ma lalo nei no nā pule ʻelua a ʻoi aku paha, he hōʻailona paha ia o ke kaumaha.
| ʻAno | He wehewehe iki |
|---|---|
| Kaumaha mau, uē mau | Ke kaumaha mau nei a me ka uē ʻana no ke kumu ʻole. |
| Ke hoʻowahāwahā nei i nā mea āu i makemake ai ma mua | ʻOiai ua hauʻoli ʻoe i ka pāʻani, ke kaha kiʻi, a i ʻole ka nānā ʻana i ke TV, i kēia manawa ʻaʻohe ou hoihoi a hauʻoli paha i kekahi o kēlā mau mea. ʻO kēia hiki ʻole ke hauʻoli kekahi o nā hōʻailona nui o ke kaumaha. |
| Makemake e noho mehameha | ʻOiai loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa kūpono e pāʻani ai me nā hoaaloha, pale aku ʻoe iā ia a hoʻāʻo e noho hoʻokahi i loko o kou lumi. |
| Huhū mau, hoʻonāukiuki | Huhū lākou i nā mea liʻiliʻi, hoʻomaka i nā hakakā, a hana i ke ʻano kūpono ʻole. |
| Manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole iā ʻoe iho | ʻŌlelo lākou i nā mea e like me, "He mea ʻole wau," "ʻAʻohe mea aloha iaʻu," a "He pilikia wau no nā kānaka a pau." |
| ʻEha kino pinepine | Hoʻopiʻi pinepine lākou i nā ʻeha ʻōpū a me nā poʻo ʻeha no ke kumu ʻole. |
| Ka hoʻopilikia ʻana i nā hana kula | Ka hoʻokaʻulua ʻole e hele i ke kula, ka hiki ʻole ke noʻonoʻo i ka hana ʻoiai ke hele nei i ke kula, nā māka haʻahaʻa. |
| Nā loli i ka ʻai a me ka hiamoe | Ka emi koke ʻana a i ʻole ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka ʻai ʻana. ʻAʻole hiki ke hiamoe i ka pō a i ʻole ka hiamoe ʻana i ka lā a pau. |
| Nā manaʻo a i ʻole nā moʻolelo weliweli | Ke kamaʻilio nei e pili ana i ka holo ʻana mai ka home aku, ke kamaʻilio nei e pili ana i ka make ʻana, ke kamaʻilio nei e pili ana i nā manaʻo e hōʻeha iā ʻoe iho. Inā ʻike ʻoe i kekahi mea e like me kēia, pono ʻoe e ʻimi koke i ke kōkua lapaʻau. |
ʻO ʻoe ka mea ʻike maikaʻi loa i kāu keiki. Inā manaʻo ʻoe he loli ke ʻano o kāu keiki a ʻaʻole ia e nalo aku, mai hoʻowahāwahā i kēlā manaʻo. E noiʻi i kēlā kānalua. ʻO ka mea maikaʻi loa e hana ai, ʻo ia ke ʻike i ke kauka a ʻimi i ka ʻōlelo aʻo.
Pehea e kōkua ai i kāu keiki? - ʻO ka hana mua he hōʻoia pololei
Ma mua o ko kākou kōkua ʻana i kahi keiki, pono kākou e ʻike pono i ke ʻano o ke kūlana o ke keiki. E like me ka ʻōlelo a kekahi loea, "Inā ʻo ka mea nui loa no ke keiki me ke kaumaha, ʻo ia ka wahi, ka wahi, ka wahi, ʻo ka mea nui loa no ke keiki me ke kaumaha, ʻo ia ka ʻike ʻana, ka ʻike ʻana, ka ʻike ʻana ."
Ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau, he mea nui e hōʻoia inā ua kaumaha maoli kāu keiki. Hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i kāu keiki i kahi kauka pediatric, kahi kauka psychiatrist keiki, a i ʻole he psychologist.
Ke ʻike ʻoe i ke kauka, hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i kēia mau nīnau:
- "E ke kauka, pehea ke kūlana o kaʻu keiki?"
- "Hiki iā ʻoe ke wehewehe mai iaʻu ma ke ʻano e hiki ai iaʻu ke hoʻomaopopo?"
- "He aha nā koho lapaʻau no kēia?"
He aha nā lāʻau lapaʻau?
Ke ʻike ʻia ke keiki me ke kaumaha, aia kekahi mau koho lapaʻau. ʻAʻole kēia he mea hiki ke ho'ōla ʻia i ka pō hoʻokahi. He mea ia e pono e hana ʻia me ke alu like ʻana o nā mākua, ke kauka, a me ke keiki.
1. Kūkākūkā (Psychotherapy/Counselling): He mea nui loa kēia. Kōkua ke kūkākūkā i ke keiki e hoʻomaopopo i ko lākou mau manaʻo, e hoʻokele iā lākou, a hāʻawi iā lākou i ka ikaika e kū i nā pilikia. I kekahi manawa pono nā lālā ʻē aʻe o ka ʻohana e komo i kēia (Family Therapy).
2. Lāʻau lapaʻau: I kekahi mau hihia, hiki i ke kauka ke kuhikuhi i nā lāʻau antidepressants. ʻAʻohe pono e makaʻu i kēia mau lāʻau lapaʻau. Ke ʻike pono ʻia a hāʻawi ʻia ma lalo o ka nānā ʻana o ke kauka, hiki i kēia mau lāʻau lapaʻau ke palekana a maikaʻi loa. Akā e hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole he kilokilo ka lāʻau lapaʻau. Loaʻa nā hopena maikaʻi loa ke hui pū ʻia me ke aʻo ʻana.
ʻO ka mea nui loa, ʻo ka hāʻawi ʻole ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau he hopena ʻaoʻao. ʻO ia hoʻi, e hoʻomau ka maʻi o ke keiki. No laila, e kamaʻilio pono me kāu kauka ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana i kekahi mea e pili ana i kēia.
He kaumaha anei nā kaumaha a pau?
ʻAʻole. He mea kēia e pono ai kākou e hoʻomaopopo. He mea kaumaha maoli ke ola o kekahi mau keiki. ʻO nā pilikia ʻohana, nā paio makua, nā pilikia waiwai, nā pilikia ma ke kula, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe, hiki ke hoʻolilo i kahi keiki i mea kaumaha a hoʻonāukiuki. Ua kapa ʻia kēia he demoralization.He ʻokoʻa kēia mai ke kaumaha. He mea maʻamau ke kaumaha i ka wā paʻakikī ke ola. Eia kekahi, hiki i kekahi mau keiki ke hōʻike i nā hōʻailona o ke kaumaha ma muli o ke kaomi o ka hoʻonaʻauao hoʻokūkū nui a me nā hana ma waho o ke kula.
Leka Lawe-Home
- Hiki i nā keiki ʻōpio ke loaʻa i ke kaumaha. ʻAʻole ia he hewa o ke keiki a ʻaʻole hoʻi he hewa o nā mākua.
- Inā mau nā hōʻailona o ke kaumaha, ka huhū, a me ka mehameha paha o kāu keiki no nā pule ʻelua a ʻoi, e hopohopo.
- Inā ʻike ʻoe i kahi loli i ke ʻano o kāu keiki, mai hoʻowahāwahā iā ia no ka mea "e maikaʻi aʻe ia ke ulu aʻe." E ʻimi koke i ke kōkua lapaʻau.
- Ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka lāʻau lapaʻau, he mea nui e loaʻa kahi hōʻailona pololei o ke ʻano o ke keiki.
- ʻAʻole wale ka lāʻau lapaʻau e pili ana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau. He mea nui loa ke aʻo ʻana a me ke aloha a me ke kākoʻo āu e hāʻawi ai ma ke ʻano he makua no kāu keiki e hoʻōla koke.
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