Ua nalowale anei kekahi o kou ʻohana i kekahi hoaaloha ou? E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia kaumaha?

E noʻonoʻo ua hala aku kekahi lālā o ka ʻohana pili o kāu hoaaloha maikaʻi loa, malia paha he kupuna wahine, kupuna kāne, a i ʻole kekahi mea kokoke loa. He mea kaumaha a hoʻopūʻiwa hoʻi kēlā, ʻeā? Pono paha ua kōkua ʻole loa kāu hoaaloha, ua pūʻiwa, a ua mehameha hoʻi i kēlā manawa. Pono paha ʻoe i noʻonoʻo i hoʻokahi tausani manawa, "Auē, pehea lā e hiki ai iaʻu ke kōkua iā ia i kēia manawa? He aha kaʻu e hana ai e hōʻoluʻolu i kona ʻeha?" He manaʻo waiwai nui kēlā. No laila, i kēia lā, e kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kāu mea e hiki ai ke hana e ikaika no kāu hoaaloha a lawe mai i kahi hōʻoluʻolu iki i kona puʻuwai i ka wā paʻakikī.

He aha maoli kēia kaumaha?

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻo ke kaumaha ka ʻeha a me ke kaumaha a mākou e ʻike ai i ka wā e nalowale ai kekahi a mākou e aloha ai. Ua like ia me ke kaumaha nui ma ko mākou mau puʻuwai. ʻAʻole like ka manaʻo o nā kānaka a pau i kēia kaumaha. He ʻokoʻa loa ke ʻano o kēlā me kēia kanaka e kū ai i kēia kaumaha a me ka pane ʻana iā ia.

E noʻonoʻo ua hala aku ka makuahine o kou hoaaloha ʻo Sameera. E uē nui paha ʻo Sameera, e hōʻike paha ʻo ia i kona kaumaha no ka ʻike ʻana o nā mea a pau. Akā, ʻo kekahi hoaaloha, e ʻōlelo kākou ʻo Netmi kona inoa, e lilo paha i mea mālie loa ke hala aku kona makuakāne. E hoʻāʻo paha ʻo ia e noho mehameha, ʻaʻole e kamaʻilio nui me kekahi. Hoʻōki kekahi mau keiki i ka pāʻani a me ka leʻaleʻa no kekahi manawa i nā manawa e like me kēia. Ua nalowale ko lākou hoihoi i kēlā mau mea a pau. Eia naʻe, aia kekahi mau keiki ʻē aʻe e hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻi i ko lākou ola maʻamau i ka hikiwawe loa. Makemake nui lākou e hele i ke kula, e pāʻani me nā hoaaloha, a hana i nā hana ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻohe pololei a hewa paha i kēia mau ʻano a pau. No ka mea, he ʻano ponoʻī ko kēlā me kēia kanaka e hoʻoponopono ai i ke kaumaha.

ʻO ka mea nui loa, ʻaʻole he maʻi ke kaumaha. He hopena kūlohelohe ia i ka nalowale ʻana o kahi mea a kākou e aloha ai. Pono ka manawa e ho'ōla ai.

Makemake kekahi mau keiki e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ko lākou mau manaʻo. ʻAʻole makemake kekahi. Hiki i kekahi ke hōʻike i ko lākou kaumaha ma ke kaha kiʻi a i ʻole ke kala ʻana. Eia kekahi, makemake ka nui o ka poʻe e hoʻolilo i ka manawa hou aku me ko lākou ʻohana i kahi manawa e like me kēia, e loaʻa ana ke aloha a me ka hōʻoluʻolu mai iā lākou. Pono nā lālā o ka ʻohana e kōkua kekahi i kekahi, e lokomaikaʻi kekahi i kekahi. ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i nā hoʻomanaʻo maikaʻi o ka mea a lākou i nalowale ai a me nā manawa hauʻoli i hoʻolilo ʻia me lākou hiki ke lilo i mea hōʻoluʻolu nui. Kōkua kēia mau mea a pau i ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻana i ka ʻeha.

Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kōkua i kahi hoaaloha i ko lākou kaumaha?

Ke pilikia kou hoaaloha i kēia ʻano ʻeha, ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa hiki iā ʻoe ke hana, ʻo ia ke noho pū me ia ma ke ʻano he hoaaloha maikaʻi. ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e hiki ke hoʻohauʻoli iā lākou a hoʻohauʻoli koke iā lākou, akā, ʻaʻohe pilikia. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻae iā lākou e ʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo.

1. E hele wale mai, he mea nui ia!

Hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio me ia a nīnau aku, "E hele kāua e holoholo?" "E pāʻani kāua i kahi pāʻani?" a i ʻole "E noho pū kāua no kekahi manawa?" E ʻae iā ia e hana i kāna makemake. ʻO ka noho pū ʻana me ia he kumu ikaika nui ia, he kumu ikaika nui. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e ʻōlelo i kekahi mea kūikawā, ʻo kou alo wale nō ua lawa ia.

2. Mai koi iā ʻoe iho e "maikaʻi."

Ke kaumaha kou hoaaloha, ʻo ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hoʻohauʻoli iā lākou ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana i nā mea e like me, "E ʻoluʻolu, mai uē," "Mai kaumaha," a i ʻole "Pono ʻoe e ikaika" e hōʻeha wale aku iā lākou. He mea maʻamau iā lākou ke kaumaha a me ka uē. E ʻae iā lākou e hoʻokuʻu i kēlā mau manaʻo.

3. Hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi manawa e kamaʻilio ai (akā, mai koi iā lākou)

E hopohopo paha ʻoe a hilahila paha e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēia. Akā, ʻo ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kahi mea e like me, "E kala mai iaʻu no ka nalowale ʻana o kou kupuna wahine" e hōʻike iā ia ua maopopo iā ʻoe kona ʻeha. Hiki paha i kēlā ke kōkua iā ia e hoʻomaka e kamaʻilio me ʻoe e pili ana i kona manaʻo.

ʻO kahi ala lokomaikaʻi loa, ʻo ia ke ʻōlelo ʻana: " Inā makemake ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēia, e hoʻolohe wau. "

Akā, inā ʻaʻole makemake kāu hoaaloha e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ia mea i kēlā manawa, e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou. Mai koi aku iā lākou. E hoʻomaopopo wale iā lākou aia ʻoe ma laila i kēlā me kēia manawa a lākou e pono ai iā ʻoe.

4. Kōkua e kaʻana like i nā hoʻomanaʻo maikaʻi

Inā hoʻomaka kāu hoaaloha e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke kanaka a lākou i nalowale ai, e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā manawa maikaʻi i loaʻa pū ai ʻolua, nā moʻolelo ʻakaʻaka, a me nā hoʻomanaʻo maikaʻi. Hiki iā ia ke hoʻohauʻoli iki iā lākou a hoʻomaha. I kekahi manawa, ke uē kāu hoaaloha, hiki iā ʻoe ke uē pū no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kāohi i kou kaumaha. ʻAʻohe hewa o ka uē ʻana me ia ʻano hoaaloha. E hoʻoikaika ia i kou pilina.

5. E hoʻomanawanui, e hāʻawi i ka manawa e loli ai.

Mai manaʻo ʻoe e hauʻoli a pāʻani ana kāu hoaaloha e like me ka wā ma mua. ʻAʻole ia e hana i ka pō hoʻokahi. I ko lākou hele ʻana i ke kaʻina hana kaumaha, i kekahi mau lā, ʻaʻole lākou makemake e pāʻani a leʻaleʻa paha e like me ka wā ma mua. Akā, i kekahi lā aʻe, e ʻakaʻaka a pāʻani ana lākou e like me ka wā ma mua. Hiki ke ʻokoʻa kēlā me kēia lā. No laila e hoʻomanawanui.

6. Nā mea a mākou e makaʻala ai mai ʻōlelo aku

I kekahi manawa, ʻo nā mea a mākou e ʻōlelo ai me ka ʻike ʻole ʻana hiki ke hōʻeha hou aku i kā mākou hoaaloha. Eia kekahi laʻana:

• "Mai uē, he keikikāne/kaikamahine ʻoe." (ʻAʻohe wahine o nā manaʻo.)
• "E maikaʻi nā mea a pau i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa." (ʻOiai he ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia, ʻaʻole ia e lawe mai i ka hōʻoluʻolu nui i kēia manawa.)
• "Aia ʻo ia ma kahi ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi i kēia manawa." (ʻAʻole paha e like kēia me nā mea a pau, a hiki i kekahi ke huhū iā ia.)
• "Maopopo iaʻu kou manaʻo." (ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻomaopopo maoli i ka ʻeha o kekahi kanaka i ka 100% o ka manawa, no laila ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kahi mea e like me, "Hiki iaʻu ke noʻonoʻo i ka paʻakikī o ia mea iā ʻoe.")
• E kamaʻilio wale nō e pili ana i kāu mau ʻike ponoʻī. ("ʻO kēia ka mea i hana ʻia i ka wā i hala aku ai koʻu kupuna kāne..." a laila e heluhelu e pili ana iā ʻoe iho ma kahi o ka hoʻolohe ʻana i kāu hoaaloha.)

Ma mua o ka ʻōlelo ʻana i nā mea e like me kēia, ʻoi aku ka waiwai o ka hoʻolohe wale ʻana a me ka hoʻāʻo e hoʻomaopopo iā ia.

Āhea kākou e akahele iki ai?

ʻO ka maʻamau, e emi mālie ke kaumaha i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa. Eia naʻe, ma hope o ka manawa lōʻihi,(Hiki i kēia ke hala i nā pule a i ʻole nā ​​mahina, ʻokoʻa ia mai kēlā kanaka a kēia kanaka.) Inā ʻaʻole like kāu hoaaloha me he mea lā e hoʻi ana i ko lākou ʻano maʻamau, ʻaʻole hiki ke hana i kā lākou mau hana maʻamau, a ke kaumaha a hopohopo mau nei, a laila pono ʻoe e hopohopo iki.

ʻo kahi laʻana:

• Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe hoihoi i kekahi mea e like me ka wā ma mua.
• Inā ua oki loa nā mea e like me ke kula a me ka pāʻani.
• Inā ua emi a piʻi nui paha ka ʻai ʻana a me ka hiamoe ʻana.
• Inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo mau e noho mehameha a ʻaʻole e kamaʻilio me kekahi.
• Inā ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea e like me ka hōʻeha ʻana iā ʻoe iho.

Inā ʻike ʻoe i kekahi mea e like me kēia, e haʻi aku i kou mau mākua, ke kumu, a i ʻole ke kākāʻōlelo kula e pili ana i ia mea. ʻAʻole kēia he kumakaia, akā, he ala ia e hōʻike ai i kahi pākeke e pono ana kāu keiki i ke kōkua. A laila hiki iā lākou ke hāʻawi i ke kākoʻo e pono ai lākou, malia paha he kōkua loea.

Hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo hou aʻe e pili ana i ke Kaumaha.

Ke ʻike nei i kāu hoaaloha e hele ana i kahi manawa paʻakikī, makemake paha ʻoe e aʻo hou e pili ana i ke kaumaha. He mea maikaʻi kēlā. Hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i nā mākua i kou ola (nā mākua, nā kūpuna, nā kumu) pehea lākou i manaʻo ai i ka wā i nalowale ai kekahi a lākou i aloha ai, pehea lākou i hala ai, a me nā mea i kōkua iā lākou. E aʻo pū kēlā mau ʻike iā ʻoe i nā haʻawina waiwai nui.

ʻO ka mea hope loa, nā mea āu e hoʻomanaʻo ai

No laila, eia kahi hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo o ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana ke kaumaha kou hoaaloha:

• E noho kokoke i kou mau hoaaloha. ʻO kou alo he kumu ikaika nui ia no lākou.
• E hoʻolohe pono. Inā makemake lākou e kamaʻilio, e hoʻolohe me ke keakea ʻole.
• E lokomaikaʻi, e hoʻomanawanui, a e hoʻāʻo e hoʻomaopopo i ko lākou mau manaʻo.
• Mai koi aku iā lākou. Mai koi aku iā lākou e hauʻoli a e kamaʻilio paha.
• E kono iā lākou e hana i nā mea maʻamau, akā e ʻae iā lākou e hana i kā lākou makemake.
• E kōkua iā lākou e kaʻana like i nā hoʻomanaʻo maikaʻi o ke kanaka a lākou i nalowale ai, inā makemake lākou.
• Inā hopohopo ʻoe, e haʻi aku i kahi pākeke hilinaʻi.

E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻo kou pilina aloha ka lāʻau lapaʻau nui loa a me ka hōʻoluʻolu e loaʻa iā ia i kēia manawa. ʻOiai he kōkua iki mai iā ʻoe e lilo ia i ikaika nui nona e lanakila ai i kēia manawa paʻakikī.

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