He moeʻuhane nani ka loaʻa ʻana o nā māhoe no nā mea he nui. ʻO wai ka mea makemake ʻole e ʻike i ʻelua pēpē like, e ʻaʻahu ana i nā lole like a e pāʻani pū ana? Akā, ʻaʻole pinepine mākou e noʻonoʻo i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma hope o kēia moeʻuhane, ke kumukūʻai e pili ana, a me nā mōhai e pono ai ke hana ʻia no ia mea. I kēia lā, ke kamaʻilio nei mākou e pili ana i kahi makuahine i kapa ʻia ʻo Leslie nāna i hele i loko o ia ʻike. He mea nui loa kāna moʻolelo no nā mea he nui ma ko mākou ʻāina, ʻoiai ka poʻe e ʻeha nei i ka nele i ke keiki a ke noʻonoʻo nei i nā ʻano hana e like me `(IVF)`.
Ka moʻolelo o Leslie: Mai ke kaumaha o ka loaʻa ʻole o nā keiki a hiki i ka hauʻoli o nā māhoe
He makuahine ʻo Leslie he 33 ona makahiki. Loaʻa iā ia a me kāna kāne, ʻo Heath, he keiki kāne 5 ona makahiki. Ua hāpai maoli ʻia ʻo ia, me ka ʻole o kekahi mālama kūikawā. Akā, ua loaʻa iā Leslie kahi pilikia nui i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi keiki. Ua loaʻa iā ia kekahi mau hāpai ʻana o ka ectopic , he mea weliweli loa ia. Ma muli o kēia, ua aʻo aku nā kauka iā Leslie lāua ʻo Heath ʻaʻole e hoʻāʻo hou e loaʻa nā keiki ma ke ʻano maoli.
No laila, me ka makemake nui e loaʻa hou kahi keiki, ua hoʻoholo lākou e huli i ka IVF. I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻo IVF - ʻO ka In Vitro Fertilization kahi hana e hui pū ʻia ai ka hua manu o ka makuahine a me ka sperm o ka makuakāne ma waho o ke kino i loko o kahi keʻena hoʻokolohua e hana i kahi embryo, a laila hoʻokomo ʻia i loko o ka ʻōpū o ka makuahine. Me he mea lā ʻo kēia ka manawa hope loa i loaʻa iā lākou e loaʻa hou aku nā keiki.
Ke kumukūʻai a me nā manaʻo: Ke koho ʻana i ka mālama ʻana i ka IVF
Ua hoʻolilo ʻo Leslie lāua ʻo Heath i $22,000 no kēia lapaʻau , ʻo ia hoʻi he mau haneli haneli kālā ma ke kālā o ko kākou ʻāina. He kālā nui kēia. ʻO ia ke kumu i manaʻo ai lāua, ma kahi o ka hoʻolilo nui ʻana, e loaʻa iā lāua nā māhoe inā hiki. Wahi a Leslie, "ʻAʻole mākou i hele i ke kauka a ʻōlelo ua makemake mākou i nā māhoe. Ua ʻōlelo mākou, 'ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke loaʻa nā keiki, pono mākou i kāu kōkua, ʻo ia wale nō ke ala e loaʻa ai iā mākou. No laila e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi inā loaʻa iā mākou nā māhoe.'" No ka mea, ua like ke kumukūʻai inā he hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha kā mākou keiki. No laila, inā ʻo kēia ka manawa hope loa, ua manaʻo lāua e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻopiha ʻana i ka ʻohana.
He moʻolelo hoʻopā maoli kēia āna e haʻi mai nei.
"ʻAʻole au i manaʻo hiki iā ʻoe ke kau i kahi kumukūʻai ma luna o kou ʻohana. ʻO koʻu ʻano nānā ʻana, pehea koʻu pōmaikaʻi i ka loaʻa ʻana o kaʻu mau keiki... Uē wau i koʻu noʻonoʻo ʻana i ia mea. ʻO ka ʻāpana paʻakikī loa, he pipiʻi loa ia. ʻO kekahi ʻaoʻao, ʻo ia ka hānai ʻana, he pipiʻi loa hoʻi ia."
Hōʻike kēia ʻaʻole hiki ke ana ʻia ka waiwai o ke keiki me ke kālā. ʻAʻole noʻonoʻo iki nā mākua e hana i kekahi mōhai no ia mea.
ʻŌlelo aʻo a ke kauka a me nā hoʻoholo koʻikoʻi
Ma mua o ka mālama ʻana i ka IVF, ua hōʻoia ke kauka o Leslie ua hele lākou i ke aʻo ʻana no ka hānau keiki. He ʻanuʻu koʻikoʻi loa kēia no ka mea i loko o kēia kaʻina hana, pono lākou e hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia he nui i hiki ʻole ke noʻonoʻo ʻia. Eia kekahi laʻana, he aha ka mea e hana ai me nā embryos i koe ma hope o ka mālama ʻana, ʻo wai ka mea nona nā embryos inā hemo ka wahine, a pehea e hoʻoponopono ai i ka pilikia o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā māhoe i ka wā i loaʻa ai iā lāua hoʻokahi keiki.
I ka wā mua, makemake ʻo Leslie e hoʻokomo ʻia ʻekolu mau embryos i loko o kona ʻōpū. ʻO ke kumu o kēia, ʻo ia ke kiʻi i ka hapa nui o ke kālā āna i hoʻolilo ai. Ua manaʻolana ʻo ia e holomua ana kekahi ma ka liʻiliʻi, a inā hiki, ʻelua. Akā, ʻaʻole makemake iki kāna kauka iā ia. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "ʻAʻole loa." Hōʻike kēia i ke kuleana o nā kauka. ʻO kā lākou pahuhopu nui ʻaʻole ka hana ʻana i nā māhoe, akā, e kōkua i ka lawe ʻana mai i hoʻokahi pēpē olakino i ka honua.
I ka hopena, ua hoʻoholo lākou e hoʻoili i ʻelua mau embryo. ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, ua holomua nā mea ʻelua!
Māhoe: Ua lilo ka moeʻuhane i mea maoli a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo paʻakikī
Ua olakino nā māhoe kaikamahine a Leslie, ʻo Bella lāua ʻo Maddie, i kēia lā. Akā, ʻaʻole i maʻalahi ka hāpai ʻana no Leslie. Pono ʻo ia e hoʻomaha i ʻeono pule ma kahi moe. Ua wehewehe ʻo ia i ka makahiki mua ma hope o ka hānau ʻana o kāna mau keiki he "paʻakikī loa." ʻO kekahi kumu no kēlā, ʻo kāna keiki hiapo, ʻo Garrett, ʻelua wale nō makahiki i ia manawa.
I ka wā i hele aku ai ʻo Leslie me kāna mau keiki, nui ka poʻe e hele mai i ona lā a ʻōlelo mai, "ʻAuē, makemake au e loaʻa nā māhoe." Ua ʻakaʻaka paha ʻo ia iā ia iho i kēlā manawa.
"E akahele. ʻAʻole ia he mea maʻalahi. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e hoʻololi, akā, ʻaʻole ia he pāʻani."
ʻO ka mea e pono ai kākou e hoʻomaopopo mai kēia moʻolelo, ʻo ia ka hiki ke ʻokoʻa ka ʻoiaʻiʻo mai ke kiʻi nani e kū mai ana ma waho. Akā, haʻi ʻo Leslie i kahi moʻolelo nani loa i ka hopena. "ʻOiai ka paʻakikī o kēlā makahiki mua, ua kūpono ia. He aha ka paʻakikī o hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha makahiki i ka wā lōʻihi ? E loaʻa iaʻu kekahi makahiki paʻakikī ʻē aʻe, i ko lākou wā ʻōpiopio."
| Nā mea e noʻonoʻo ai | Nā laʻana mai ka ʻike o Leslie |
|---|---|
| Kumukūʻai kālā | ʻEkolu mau puni o ka mālama ʻana he $22,000 ke kumukūʻai. He hoʻopukapuka kālā kēia me ka ʻole o ka hōʻoia o ka holomua. |
| Ka hoʻomākaukau noʻonoʻo a me ke kino | Pono e hoʻomaha i kahi moe no 6 mau pule i ka wā hāpai. He mea paʻakikī loa ka makahiki mua ma hope o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā keiki. |
| Ke koʻikoʻi o ke kūkākūkā lapaʻau | Ke koi ʻia nei e hana i nā hoʻoholo paʻakikī, e like me ka nui o nā embryos e hoʻoili ʻia a me ka mea e hana ai me nā embryos i koe. He mea nui ke alakaʻi a ke kauka. |
| Ka hopena i nā lālā ʻē aʻe o ka ʻohana | Hoʻonui ʻia ka pilikia ke hānau ʻia nā māhoe, ʻoiai he ʻelua wale nō makahiki o ke keiki hiapo. |
Ua hoʻomaopopo mai ka moʻolelo a Leslie iā kākou ʻaʻole wale ka IVF he lāʻau lapaʻau, akā, he huakaʻi paʻakikī e pili ana i ke kālā, nā manaʻo, nā manaʻolana, a me nā pilikia he nui.
Leka Lawe-Home
- Hiki i nā hana hoʻōla hānau keiki e like me IVF ke lilo i kaʻina hana pipiʻi a hoʻokaumaha hoʻi i ka naʻau.
- He mea paʻakikī ka loaʻa ʻana o nā māhoe ma mua o ka mea i ʻike ʻia, ʻoiai i ka wā hāpai a me ka makahiki mua a ʻelua paha ma hope o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā keiki.
- ʻAʻole hiki ke ana ʻia ka waiwai o ke keiki ma ke kālā, akā he mea nui e noʻonoʻo pono i nā ʻano kālā ma mua o ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau.
- Ma mua o ka hana ʻana i kekahi o ia mau hoʻoholo, he mea nui e kūkākūkā ākea i nā mea āpau me kāu kauka . E kōkua kā lākou alakaʻi iā ʻoe e hana i nā hoʻoholo kūpono.
- I ka hopena o kēlā me kēia pilikia, e hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ka hauʻoli a me ke aloha āu e loaʻa ai mai kāu poʻe keiki aku ka waiwai ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe.
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