ʻAʻole anei e noho mau kāu keiki ma kahi hoʻokahi? Manaʻo pinepine ʻoe ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻolohe i kekahi mea a hoʻolohe paha iā ʻoe? A i ʻole huhū koke lākou i nā mea liʻiliʻi loa? Ma muli o kēia ʻano, ua hoʻopiʻi ʻia paha ʻoe e nā ʻohana, nā hoaaloha, a i ʻole ke kula, me ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "ʻAʻole maikaʻi ke ʻano o kāu keiki." Inā ua kū pū ʻoe i kēlā mau ʻike, e pili loa kēia moʻolelo iā ʻoe. No ka mea, i kēia lā e kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i kekahi o nā mea a nā mākua o nā keiki e noho ana me ka ADHD, a i ʻole ka maʻi hyperactivity deficit attention, i loko o ko lākou manaʻo, akā ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke haʻi aku i ke kaiāulu.
ʻAʻole kaʻu keiki he "keiki maikaʻi ʻole"!
ʻO kekahi mau keiki me ka ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) he paʻakikī ke noho ma kahi hoʻokahi, ʻo ia hoʻi he hyperactive loa lākou. Manaʻo kekahi e hana ana lākou i nā mea me ka nānā ʻole ʻana, ʻo ia hoʻi he impulsive loa lākou. He paʻakikī paha i kēia mau keiki ke hahai i nā kuhikuhi a me ka kaohi ʻana i ko lākou mau manaʻo. I kēia manawa, ke hana hewa kahi keiki me kēia mau ʻano, manaʻo mākou e hoʻāʻo nei ʻo ia e hoʻonāukiuki iā mākou a hoʻolohe ʻole paha iā mākou. Akā, ʻaʻole ia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
Ke ola nei kēia mau keiki me kahi loli i ka hana o ka lolo. ʻAʻole na lākou ia koho.
Wahi a kekahi makuahine , "He mea ʻeha maoli iaʻu ke nānā aku nā mākua ʻē aʻe i kā mākou mau keiki a kapa iā lākou he 'mau keiki maikaʻi ʻole.'" Loaʻa i kāna mau keiki ʻelua ka ADHD. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia i ka wā e huhū koke ai kahi keiki e like me kēia, huhū, a ʻuwā (he meltdown), ke hoʻāʻo nei lākou e haʻi mai iā mākou i ko lākou manaʻo. Akā, ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike pehea e hana ai. Ke aʻo lākou i kēlā ʻano hana, loli kēlā mau keiki i nā ʻano hiki ʻole iā lākou ke noʻonoʻo.
ʻAʻole ulu ka ADHD ma muli o nā "hewa a nā mākua"!
ʻO kēia kekahi o nā kuhihewa nui loa i loko o ke kaiāulu. I ka ʻike ʻana i ke ʻano hana hewa a ke keiki, kuhikuhi ka poʻe he nui i ka makuahine a me ka makuakāne. Ua lohe paha ʻoe i nā moʻolelo e like me "ʻaʻole i hānai pono ʻia ke keiki," "nui ka mālama ʻia," a me "ʻaʻohe hoʻopaʻi."
Akā, ʻōlelo nā loea ʻo ke kumu nui o ka ADHD, ʻo ia hoʻi, he hoʻoilina ia. Ua hoʻokūpaʻa ʻia i kēia manawa ʻaʻole i hana ʻia kēia kūlana e kekahi hewa ma ka ʻaoʻao o ka makuahine a i ʻole ka makuakāne.
He mea nui loa ka moʻolelo o kahi makuahine o kahi keiki kāne he ʻumikūmākahi makahiki e hakakā nei me ka ADHD, ka autism, a me ka hopohopo .
"Manaʻo ka poʻe he nui he lepili i kau ʻia ma luna o nā keiki me ka ʻole o ka mālama ʻana i ke keiki me ka ADHD. Akā, ʻaʻole ia he pilikia makua. ʻO ia ka manaʻo kuhihewa nui loa e pili ana i ka ADHD."
Wahi a kekahi makuahine, "Nui ka hilahila o nā mākua i kēia. Manaʻo ka poʻe, 'Ua hana hewa paha ʻoe.' Ua ʻōlelo mai kekahi makuahine iaʻu, 'Ua ʻae paha ʻoe iā ia e nānā nui i ke TV i kona wā liʻiliʻi.' Ua manaʻo wau, 'ʻAʻohe manaʻo o ia mea.'"
He kūlana maoli ka ADHD.
ʻAʻole kēia he mea hoʻohenehene a he mea i haku ʻia. Ua ʻae nā kauka a me nā ʻoihana olakino a puni ka honua i kēia ma ke ʻano he maʻi olakino maoli. Akā, ke kānalua nei kekahi poʻe e pili ana i ia mea.
Ua hoʻouna aku kekahi makuahine i kāna keiki kāne me ka ADHD i kahi kahua hoʻomoana. ʻOiai ua hāʻawi ʻo ia i nā mea hoʻonohonoho i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka mālama ʻana i ke kūlana o kāna keiki kāne, ʻaʻohe mea ma ke kahua hoʻomoana i manaʻoʻiʻo i ka ADHD. ʻO ka hopena, ua kū kāna keiki kāne i nā pilikia he nui ma kahi hoʻomoana.
No laila, inā e aʻo ka poʻe i hoʻomaopopo ʻole i kēia kūlana e pili ana i ia mea, e hiki iā lākou ke nānā aku i kēlā mau keiki me ke aloha. A laila, e manaʻo nā keiki, "Hoʻomaopopo ka poʻe mākua iaʻu, aia lākou ma koʻu ʻaoʻao." He waiwai nui kēlā hilinaʻi iā lākou.
| Nā manaʻo kuhihewa i loko o ke kaiāulu | ʻOiaʻiʻo lapaʻau |
|---|---|
| He "hana maikaʻi ʻole" kēia i manaʻo ʻia. | ʻAʻole, he hōʻailona kēia i hoʻokumu ʻia e ka loli o ka hana o nā neurotransmitters i loko o ka lolo. |
| ʻO ke kumu o kēia, ʻo ia ka hewa o nā mākua. | ʻAʻole, ʻo ke kumu nui o ka ADHD ʻo ia nā kumu genetic a me ke kaiapuni. ʻAʻole ia he hewa o nā mākua. |
| Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono ma ke kuʻi ʻana, ka ʻōhumu ʻana, a me ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana. | ʻAʻole wale ka hoʻopaʻi e hōʻino i ka manaʻo ponoʻī o ke keiki, akā, ʻaʻole hoʻi e ho'ōla i nā hōʻailona. Hiki iā ia ke hoʻonui i ke kūlana. |
| He palaualelo a hoihoi ʻole kēia mau keiki. | ʻAʻole kēia ma muli o ka luhi, akā, no ka paʻakikī o ka lolo e mālama i ka nānā a me ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā hana. |
ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻoponopono ʻia kēia kūlana e ka hoʻopaʻi.
ʻAʻole mea maʻamau ka hoʻokuʻu ʻia ʻana mai ke kula no ka pilikia o ke ʻano o ke keiki ma ko mākou ʻāina. Ua ʻōlelo kekahi makuahine ua hoʻokuʻu ʻia kāna keiki no 10 mau lā i loko o ʻekolu mahina i kona wā ma ke kula ʻekolu. Ua wehewehe ʻo ia i ke kula ʻo ka hyperactivity a me ka impulsivity o kāna keiki he ʻāpana ia o kona maʻi ADHD, akā ʻaʻole lākou i maopopo.
"Makemake au e kālele nui aku nā kula i ka ʻimi ʻana i ke kumu o ke ʻano a me ka ʻimi ʻana i nā hopena no ia mea ma mua o ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana. ʻAʻole aʻo kēlā mau keiki i kekahi mea ma ka hoʻokuʻu ʻia ʻana," wahi āna. Manaʻo kekahi mau kumu e hoʻopau ka "paʻi ikaika ʻana iā lākou" i kēia mau hana hewa. Akā, ʻo ia wale nō ka mea e hoʻonui ai i ke kaumaha o ke keiki.
ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo makua e pono ai no nā mea āpau, ʻaʻole ia e pono no nā keiki ADHD
ʻOiai ua hānai ko mākou mau mākua iā mākou ma ke ʻano kahiko "e hana i kaʻu e ʻōlelo ai", ʻaʻole holo pono kēlā mau ʻano hana i ka hānai ʻana i kahi keiki ADHD. Pono mākou e ahonui a maʻalahi hoʻi i ke aʻo ʻana i ke keiki. Pono mākou e iho i lalo i kahi o ke keiki a kamaʻilio me lākou ma ke ʻano e maopopo ai iā lākou.
Pēlā nō, ʻo nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e pono ai no kahi keiki me ka ʻole o ka ADHD, ʻaʻole paha e pono no kēia mau keiki. Ua lohe paha ʻoe i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e like me, "ʻAʻole e ulu kaʻu keiki e like me kēlā," a i ʻole "E hoʻāʻo i kahi pakuhi sticker." ʻOiai he manaʻo maikaʻi paha kēia ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, ʻaʻole ia e kūpono i nā pono o kahi keiki me ADHD.
He mea paʻakikī maoli ka hānai ʻana i kahi keiki ADHD.
Hoʻolilo kekahi mau mākua i ka manawa a me ka ikaika nui e hoʻāʻo nei e hana i kahi hana maʻamau no kā lākou keiki, e noiʻi ana iā ia, e ʻike ana i nā kauka, a e ʻimi ana i ka ʻike ma ka pūnaewele.
"He mea luhi maoli ia," wahi a kekahi makuahine. "I kekahi manawa ua kaumaha loa nā mea a pau. Manaʻo wau ʻaʻole wau e hana nei i kaʻu mea maikaʻi loa no kaʻu keiki kāne, ua hāʻule wau. He mea paʻakikī loa ke hoʻomanawanui i kēlā manaʻo."
"He huakaʻi hou kēlā me kēia lā. ʻAʻole maʻalahi kēia huakaʻi - akā hiki iā kākou ke lanakila ma luna o kēia," wahi a kekahi makuahine ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ka mea maikaʻi loa, ʻo ia ka hoʻoponopono kamaʻilio a, inā pono, nā lāʻau lapaʻau i kuhikuhi ʻia e ke kauka hiki ke kōkua i kāu keiki e hoʻokele i kā lākou ADHD. Eia kekahi, ua hoʻolālā ʻia kahi Hoʻolālā Hoʻonaʻauao Pilikino (IEP) e hoʻokō i nā pono aʻo o ke keiki.Hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i ke kula o kāu keiki e pili ana i kēia. ʻO ka mea nui loa, ʻo ia ke kamaʻilio me kāu kauka ʻohana a i ʻole ke kauka keiki e pili ana i kēia mau mea āpau.
Aia kahi uhi kālā i loko o kēlā me kēia ao ʻeleʻele.
I waena o kēia mau pilikia a pau, hiki ke hoʻowalewale ʻia ke manaʻo ʻaʻole he mea maikaʻi ʻole ka ADHD. Wahi a kekahi mau mākua he mau hiki kūikawā ko kā lākou mau keiki ma muli o ka ADHD.
- Ke noʻonoʻo nei ma waho o ka pahu
- Ke nānā nei i nā mea ma ke ʻano hou
- Ke kau nui ʻana i ka manaʻo ma kahi kumuhana hoihoi
"ʻAʻohe mea e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea maikaʻi e pili ana i ka ADHD," wahi a kekahi makuahine. "No ka mea, ʻaʻole i hoʻolālā ʻia kā mākou ʻōnaehana hoʻonaʻauao a me ke ao nei e hoʻokipa i ka poʻe ma waho o ke ʻano maʻamau."
No laila, ʻoiai e hoʻomaopopo ana i nā pilikia o kāu keiki, mai poina e mahalo i kona mau hiki kūikawā.
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- ʻAʻole ka ADHD he ʻano maikaʻi ʻole o ke keiki a ʻaʻole hoʻi he hewa o nā mākua. He ʻano ia i ʻike ʻia e ke kauka i hoʻokumu ʻia e nā loli i ka hana o ka lolo.
- ʻAʻole e ho'ōla ka hoʻopaʻi i kēia maʻi. Akā, ʻo ka mea e pono ai ke keiki, ʻo ia kou aloha, kou hoʻomaopopo ʻana, a me ke kākoʻo.
- ʻAʻole nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a pau e pono ai no nā keiki maʻamau e pono ai no ke keiki me ADHD. He mea nui e loaʻa kahi ʻano hana e pono ai no kāu keiki.
- Inā manaʻo ʻoe he luhi kēia huakaʻi, mai hilahila iā ia. E noi i ke kōkua. E kamaʻilio me kāu kauka a mea hoʻōla paha a loaʻa iā ʻoe ka lāʻau lapaʻau kūpono a me nā lawelawe aʻoaʻo.
- I kou nānā ʻana i nā pilikia o kāu keiki, e ʻike a mahalo i kona mau hiki a me kona mau ikaika kū hoʻokahi.
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