Yu mɛmba di de we di dɔktɔ tɛl yu se yu gɛt kansa? Ɔ pɔsin we yu sabi bin ɛkspiriɛns am? We yu yɛri dɛn wɔd dɛn de, i bin tan lɛk se di wan ol wɔl dɔn kam krach pan yu. Ɔl wetin wi bin dɔn tink bɔt ɛn bil ɔp te da tɛm de, i bin tan lɛk se i dɔn lɔs wantɛm wantɛm. I bin rili at fɔ du, ɛn i bin mek wi at pwɛl. Dɔn, insay di dak tɛm we kin bigin, kwɛstyɔn dɛn kin ful-ɔp wi maynd. Klosap ɔl dɛn kwɛstyɔn dɛn de kin bigin wit di wɔd ‘wetin mek?’. "Wetin mek dis apin to mi?", "Wetin a du bad?"... Wi kin fil bad mɔ as wi de luk fɔ ansa to dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya. Bɔku tɛm, wi nɔ kin ɛva gɛt di ansa dɛn.
"Dis hapun bikos yu bin strong" - dis tori de rili komfot?
Insay dɛn tranga tɛm ya, sɔntɛnde wi yon padi ɛn fambul dɛn kin tɔk tin dɛn we kin tray fɔ kɔrej wi, bɔt dɛn kin jɔs mek wi fil bad mɔ. Yu go dɔn yɛri stori dɛn lɛk, "Gɔd gi yu dis sik bikɔs yu strɔng, ɛn bikɔs i no se yu go ebul fɔ bia wit am." Ɔ sɔm pipul dɛn de we kin jɔs se, "Nɔ wɔri, i go bɛtɛ." Fɔ tru, dɛn pipul ya nɔ min natin. Dɛn de tray fɔ du gud to wi. Bɔt dɛn nɔ ɔndastand di pen, fred, ɛn nɔ shɔ we pɔsin we de fɛt kansa kin go tru. So dɛn wɔd dɛn de nɔ de briŋ ɛni kɔrej. Wetin dɛn rili de du na fɔ mek wi fil se wi de wangren mɔ ɛn mɔ. Wae di tritmɛnt bigin, mɔr afta dɛn dɔn
tek kimotɛrapi, di tin kin wɔs. As wan sayd ɛfɛkt fɔ di tritmɛnt, di we aw di bɔdi de luk kin bigin fɔ chenj. Fɔ lɔs in ia na di men prɔblɛm we bɔku pipul dɛn kin gɛt.
Yu dɔn ɛva fil lɛk pipul dɛn we no se yu nɔ kin fil fayn fɔ tɔk to yu we yu luk chenj? Yu dɔn ɛva fil lɛk se dɛn de avɔyd yu?
Bɔku tɛm, dis nɔto sɔntin we dɛn kin du bay wilful. Dɛn nɔ no wetin fɔ tɛl yu ɔ aw fɔ mek yu fil. So dɛn kin tray fɔ avɔyd fɔ mit yu. We ɔl dis kam togɛda, yu kin fil lɛk se na yu wan de na di wɔl.
Wetin yu fɔ se ɛn wetin yu nɔ fɔ tɔk we yu de tɔk to pɔsin we gɛt kansa?
If yu padi ɔr fambul gɛt kansa, i impɔtant fɔ sɔpɔt dɛn. Bɔt i impɔtant bak fɔ no aw fɔ du am. Na smɔl aidia bɔt dat.
| Tin dɛn we Nɔ Ɛp fɔ Tɔk | Tin dɛn we go ɛp wi fɔ tɔk |
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| "A no aw yu de fil." (Yu nɔ rili fil am.) | "If yu wan tok abaut dis, a go lisin." |
| "Tink positif. Evritin go beta." | "Aw yu de tide? Yu nid eni helep from mi?" |
| "Di pɔsin we sik na aftanun sɛf bin wɛl." (Ɔlman in ɛkspiriɛns difrɛn.) | "A so proud of di we aw yu de handle dis." |
| "I nɔ mata if yu ia dɔn go, i go kam bak." | "No mata wetin hapun to yu, yu stil valyu to mi." |
Jɔs, tray fɔ ɔndastand am, pas fɔ sɔri fɔ am.
If yu nɔ ebul tink bɔt ɛnitin fɔ tɔk, jɔs fɔ ol dɛn an ɛn se, "A de wit yu" na big trɛnk. If dɛn want fɔ tɔk, tek tɛm lisin. Rɛspɛkt di we aw dɛn de fil. Dat na tru tru sɔpɔt.
Di pawa fɔ sɔpɔt frɔm say dɛn we dɛn nɔ bin de ɛkspɛkt
We wi kin de wi wan ɛn wi kin fil pen lɛk dis, sɔntɛnde wi kin gɛt ɛp frɔm say dɛn we wi nɔ bin ɛva tink se i pɔsibul. We yu go na stɔ, na bɔs, ɔ na strit, yu kin mit pɔsin we dɔn go tru di sem ɛkspiriɛns lɛk yu, ɔ we de go tru am. Wan strenja kin kam nia yu ɛn tɛl yu bɔt dɛn ɛkspiriɛns bay we i se, "A dɔn pas dis bak." Ɔ dɛn kin gi yu trɛnk bay we dɛn se, “Stay strɔng, yu kin win dis.” Ivin insay smɔl tɛm lɛk dis, wi nɔ go ebul fɔ tɔk bɔt di trɛnk ɛn kɔmfɔt we de kɔmɔt frɔm am. Bikɔs na da tɛm de yu kin no se,
"Nɔto mi wan. Ɔda pipul dɛn de we ɔndastand dis pen ɛn dɛn filin ya we a de go tru." Di saykolojik sɔpɔt we de kɔmɔt frɔm am nɔ gɛt wan valyu. I tan lɛk smɔl layt we yu kin si we yu lɔs na dak.
Wetin mek i impɔtant fɔ tɛl ɔda pipul dɛn bɔt ɛkspiriɛns lɛk dis?
- Yu wan nɔ de igen: Yu no se nɔto yu nɔmɔ de gɛt dis.
- Dɛn kin alaw filin fɔ flɔ: Yu kin gɛt pɔrsin fɔ tɔk to bɔt yu frayd, sɔri, ɛn vɛks wae yu nɔr gɛt ɛni jɔjmɛnt.
- Gɛt fayn advays: Di bad tin dɛn we kin apin we di tritmɛnt dɛn kin gɛtYu kin gɛt fayn advays frɔm ɛkspiriɛns bɔt aw fɔ dil wit prɔblɛm dɛn ɛn wetin fɔ du.
- I de gi yu op: We yu si pipul dɛm wae dɔn wɛl frɔm dis sik ɛn de liv nɔrmal layf, i de gi yu big op.
If yu nid dis kayn sɔpɔt, yu kin tɔk to yu
dɔktɔ ɛn no bɔt di grup dɛn we de sɔpɔt kansa.
Layf afta kansa: Na gift we dɛn gɛt
Kansa na bad bad tin, bɔt we yu dɔn wɛl frɔm am, di we aw yu de si layf kin chenj kpatakpata. I tan lɛk se yu gɛt gift. Wi kin luk ɔda pipul dɛn wit mɔ gudnɛs ɛn ɔndastandin. Wi kin fil ɔda pipul dɛn pen fayn fayn wan. Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na dat naw yu no wetin fɔ tɔk fɔ kɔrej ɔda pɔsin we de fɛt kansa. Sɔntɛm yu go mit pɔsin lɛk dat na supamakit, na klos stɔ. Dɔn yu kin go ɔp to dɛn, tɛl dɛn yu stori, ɛn bi dɛn trɛnk. Bikɔs fɔ dɛnsɛf, di sɔpɔt we dɛn kin gɛt frɔm pɔsin we dɛn nɔ bin de ɛkspɛkt kin rili valyu da tɛm de.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Fɔ fred, fɔ fil bad, fɔ vɛks, ɛn fɔ de yu wan na nɔmal filin afta dɛn dɔn no se yu gɛt kansa. Nɔ fil bad bɔt am.
- Nɔ fil se yu wangren de bikɔs yu luk dɔn chenj ɔ bikɔs pipul dɛn de avɔyd yu. Ɛp dɛn fɔ ɔndastand yu.
- Di sɔpɔt we pɔsin we dɔn go tru di sem ɛkspiriɛns we yu gɛt, rili pawaful. I go gi yu op ɛn trɛnk.
- If yu padi ɔ yu fambul gɛt kansa, lisin to dɛn ɛn ɔndastand dɛn pas fɔ sɔri fɔ dɛn.
- Dis waka at, bɔt nɔto yu wangren de. Aks yu dɔktɔ ɛn sɔpɔt grup fɔ ɛp ɛnitɛm we yu nid am.
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