Yu dɔn ɛva notis se yu smɔl pikin in at pwɛl, vɛks, ɔ kwayɛt pas aw i kin bi? Na nɔmal tin fɔ mek yɔŋ pikin dɛn fil bad ɛn fil bad. I nɔ kin sɔprayz fɔ fil bad we yu de fɛt wit yu padi ɔ we yu gɛt ɛgzam we nɔ izi fɔ yu. Bɔt if dis pwɛl hat nɔr de kam dɔŋ insay tu ɔ tri dez, bɔt i kɔntinyu fɔ sɔm wiks, e kin siriɔs pas aw wi kin tink. As mama ɔ papa, nɔbɔdi nɔ go ebul fɔ fil dis chenj na yu pikin pas yu. So tide, lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis sik wae dɛn kɔl pwɛl hat, wae kin afɛkt yɔŋ pikin dɛm bak.
Yu tink se yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin rili gɛt pwɛl at?
Yɛs. Di ansa to dis kweshon na, "Absolutely yes." Bɔku tɛm wi kin tink se pwɛl hat na sɔntin we kin afɛkt big pipul dɛn nɔmɔ. Bɔt di tru tin na dat, pwɛl hat nɔr kin afɛkt pikin dɛm wae de go skul, bɔt i kin afɛkt pikin dɛm wae nɔr de go skul ɛn pikin dɛm wae de smɔl.
Dis nɔto di bad we aw pikin de biev ɔ na in mama ɔ papa in fɔlt. Fɔ tɔk di kɔrɛkt tin, pwɛl hat na wan sik wae de kam pan big pipul ɛn pikin dɛm na in bren. I kin kam bikɔs sɔm kayn kemikal dɛn (nyurotransmitta) kin chenj na wi bren. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin gɛt wan jenɛtik prɛdispɔzishɔn fɔ dis.
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, i tan lɛk se dɛn bɔn sɔm pikin dɛn wit spɛshal talɛnt fɔ myuzik ɔ fɔ mek art. Semweso, sɔm pikin dɛn kin gɛt tin dɛn lɛk pwɛl hat.
Pwɛl hat ɛn wɔri - Wetin na di kɔnekshɔn bitwin dɛn tu?
Masta sabi bukman dɛn se we pɔsin de wɔri pas aw i de fil bad, mɔ bifo pikin rich di tɛm we i de bɔn. Infakt, pikin dɛm wae kin gɛt pwɛl hat wae dɛn smɔl kin gɛt bɔrku pwɛl hat sik wae dɛn dɔn big. Stɔdi dɔn sho se lɛk af pan di yɔŋ pikin dɛn we gɛt pwɛl at bin gɛt prɔblɛm we gɛt fɔ du wit wɔri we dɛn bin smɔl.
So, na mistek we rili denja fɔ mek pikin nɔ wɔri tumɔs bay we yu se, "Na so i bi, i go fayn we dɛn big." Dɛn tin ya kin mek di pikin gɛt big maynd strɛs ɛn ivin ambɔg di tin dɛn we i de du ɛvride. Dis kin mek di pikin fil se i nɔ gɛt op igen. Dis we aw pikin nɔ gɛt op na in kin mek i du bad to insɛf.
Bɔrku kayn wɔri hat wae kin kam pan yɔŋ pikin dɛm.
| Tayp fɔ wɔri | Wetin dat min? |
|---|---|
| Fɔ Wɔri fɔ Separeshɔn | Dɛn pikin ya kin rili fred fɔ du bad to dɛn famili (mama, papa, brɔda ɛn sista dɛn). So, dɛn kin rili fred fɔ lɛ dɛn nɔ de wit dɛn mama ɛn papa, mɔ we dɛn de go skul. Na skul de, dɛn kin rili gɛt bɛlɛ at ɛn ed at. Dis pen nɔr de kɔmɔt na di bɔdi, bɔt na di mental strɛs wae de kam frɔm di bren. |
| Sɔshial Fɔbia | I nɔ kin izi fɔ dɛn pikin ya fɔ tɔk ɛn tɔk to ɔda pipul dɛn, mɔ na skul. Pan ɔl we dɛn kin tɔk fayn wit dɛn mama ɛn papa na os, dɛn nɔ kin tɔk wan wɔd to ɛnibɔdi na do. Bɔku tɛm, dis na di rizin we mek dɛn nɔ kin want fɔ go skul. |
| Jɛnɛralized Anxiety Disɔda | Dɛn pikin ya kin wɔri pasmak ɛn pasmak bɔt di tumara bambay. Imajin wan pikin we de na gred tɔd de wɔri bɔt aw i go rich na di kɔmpas. If yu aks am se, ‘Aw yu ple tide?’ i kin ansa se, ‘A dɔn skor tu gol,’ dɔn i se, ‘Bɔt a de wɔri bɔt di tɛst fɔ spɛl tumara.’ |
Aw a go no if mi pikin gɛt pwɛl at?
As mama ɔ papa, if yu notis se yu pikin de biev chenj, na fɔ wɔri. If yu pikin sho wan ɔr mɔ pan dɛn sik ya fɔ pas tu wiks, dat kin bi sayn fɔ pwɛl hat.
| Di kwaliti we pɔsin gɛt | Wan smɔl ɛksplen |
|---|---|
| Ɔltɛm a kin fil bad, i kin kray | Fɔ de fil bad ɛn kray ɔltɛm fɔ no patikyula rizin. |
| Fɔ nɔ lɛk tin dɛn we yu bin de lɛk trade | Pan ɔl we yu bin de ɛnjɔy fɔ ple, drɔ, ɔ wach TV, naw yu nɔ gɛt ɛni intres ɔ gladi at pan ɛni wan pan dɛn tin dɛn de. Dis nɔr ebul fɔ gladi na wan pan de men sayn dɛm wae de sho se pɔrsin gɛt pwɛl hat. |
| Fɔ lɛk fɔ de in wan | Pan ɔl we yu gɛt di chans fɔ ple wit yu padi dɛn, yu de avɔyd am ɛn tray fɔ de na yu rum yu wan. |
| I kin vɛks ɔltɛm, i kin vɛks | Dɛn kin vɛks pan smɔl smɔl tin dɛn, dɛn kin bigin fɔ fɛt, ɛn biev di we we nɔ mek sɛns. |
| Fɔ tink bad bɔt yusɛf | Dɛn kin tɔk tin dɛn lɛk, "A nɔ gɛt yus," "Nɔbɔdi nɔ lɛk mi," ɛn "A na prɔblɛm fɔ ɔlman." |
| Pen we pɔsin kin gɛt na in bɔdi ɔltɛm | Bɔku tɛm dɛn kin kɔmplen bɔt bɛlɛ we de at ɛn ed we de at fɔ no patikyula rizin. |
| Skul wok we de ambɔg | Nɔ want fɔ go skul, nɔ ebul fɔ pe atɛnshɔn pan wok ivin we yu de go skul, yu nɔ gɛt gred fayn. |
| Di chenj dɛn we de apin na di it ɛn slip | Wantɛm wantɛm, di it we pɔsin de it go dɔŋ ɔ i go bɔku. Nɔ ebul fɔ slip na nɛt ɔ fil fɔ slip ɔl di de. |
| Tin dɛn ɔ stori dɛn we denja | Tɔk bɔt fɔ rɔnawe kɔmɔt na os, tɔk bɔt day, tɔk bɔt tink bɔt fɔ du bad to yusɛf. If yu si ɛnitin lɛk dis, yu fɔ go to dɔktɔ wantɛm wantɛm. |
Yu sabi yu pikin pas ɔlman. If yu fil se yu pikin de biev chenj ɛn i nɔ de go, duya nɔ ignore da filin de. Investigate dat saspekshɔn. Di bɛst tin fɔ du na fɔ go to dɔktɔ ɛn aks fɔ advays.
Aw fɔ ɛp yu pikin? - Di fɔs tin we yu fɔ du na fɔ no di sik kɔrɛkt wan
Bifo wi go ɛp pikin, wi nid fɔ no ustɛm di pikin gɛt. As wan masta sabi bukman se, "If di tin wae impɔtant pas ɔl fɔ pikin wae gɛt pwɛl hat na di say, di say we i de, di say we i de, di tin wae impɔtant pas ɔl fɔ pikin wae gɛt pwɛl hat sik na fɔ no di sik, no di sik, no di sik ."
Bifo yu bigin fɔ trit yu pikin, i impɔtant fɔ no if yu pikin rili gɛt pwɛl at. Yu kin kɛr yu pikin go to dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn, dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn, ɔ dɔktɔ we de stɔdi bɔt pɔsin in maynd.
We yu go to dɔktɔ, yu kin aks dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya:
- "Dɔkta, wetin na mi pikin in kɔndishɔn?"
- "Yu kin duya ɛksplen am di we aw a go ɔndastand?"
- "Wetin na di tritmɛnt opshɔn dɛm fɔ dis?"
Wetin na di tritmɛnt dɛn?
Wae dɛn dɔn no se pikin gɛt pwɛl hat, sɔm tritmɛnt dɛn de fɔ am. Dis nɔto sɔntin we pɔsin kin mɛn wan nɛt. Na sɔntin we dɛn nid fɔ du wit di kɔpɔreshɔn we di mama ɛn papa, di dɔktɔ, ɛn di pikin gɛt.
1. Kɔnsul (Psychotherapy/Counselling): Dis rili impɔtant. Fɔ advays di pikin kin ɛp di pikin fɔ ɔndastand aw i de fil, fɔ kɔntrol am, ɛn gi am trɛnk fɔ gɛt prɔblɛm. Sɔntɛnde ɔda famili mɛmba dɛnsɛf kin gɛt fɔ tek pat pan dis (Family Therapy).
2. Mɛrɛsin: Sɔntɛnde, di dɔktɔ kin gi yu mɛrɛsin fɔ mek yu nɔ fil bad. Nɔr nid fɔ fred dɛn mɛrɛsin ya. We dɛn no di sik fayn fayn wan ɛn gi dɛn ɔnda dɔktɔ in sɔpɔtishɔn, dɛn mɛrɛsin ya kin rili sef ɛn wok. Bɔt mɛmba se mɛrɛsin nɔto majik. Di bɛst tin kin apin we dɛn jɔyn am wit advays.
Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na dat, we pɔsin nɔ gi am mɛrɛsin, i kin gɛt sayd ɛfɛkt. Dat min se di pikin go kɔntinyu fɔ sik. So, tek tɛm tɔk to yu dɔktɔ bifo yu disayd fɔ du ɛnitin bɔt dis.
Ɔl sɔri-at na pwɛl hat?
Nɔ, dis na sɔntin bak we wi nid fɔ ɔndastand. Sɔm pikin dɛn layf kin rili sɔri. Famili prɔblɛm, mama ɛn papa dɛn agyumɛnt, ikɔnomi prɔblɛm, prɔblɛm na skul, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn kin mek pikin fil bad ɛn fil bad. Dɛn kɔl dis dimɔralayzeshɔn.Dis difrɛn frɔm pwɛl hat. Na nɔmal tin fɔ fil bad we layf tranga. Dɔn bak, sɔm pikin dɛn kin sho sayn dɛm fɔ pwɛl hat bikɔs ɔf di prɛshɔn we dɛn kin gɛt we dɛn de lan buk we dɛn kin kɔmpit pasmak ɛn we dɛn kin du tin dɛn we nɔ de na di skul.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Ivin smɔl pikin dɛn kin gɛt pwɛl at. Nɔto di pikin in fɔlt ɔ di mama ɛn papa in fɔlt.
- If yu pikin in sayn dɛm wae de sho se i de fil bad, vɛks, ɔr de in wan nɔr de fɔ pas tu wiks, na fɔ wɔri.
- If yu notis chenj na yu pikin in bihayvya, nɔr ignore am as "i go bɛtɛ we i big." Go to dɔktɔ wantɛm wantɛm.
- Bifo yu bigin fɔ trit am, i impɔtant fɔ mek yu no di kɔrɛkt tin bɔt wetin di pikin gɛt.
- Di tritmɛnt nɔto jɔs fɔ tek mɛrɛsin. Fɔ advays yu pikin ɛn di lɔv ɛn sɔpɔt we yu de gi as mama ɔ papa, rili impɔtant bak fɔ mek yu pikin wɛl kwik kwik wan.
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