Yusɛf de fil dis kayn we? Ɔl wetin yu de du, frɔm di smɔl wan to di big wan, yu fɔ du am 100% pafɛkt wan. Yu kin fil ebi ebi lod ɛn fil gilti if yu mek smɔl mistek? If na so, yu kin de sɔfa wit wan mental kɔndishɔn we dɛn kɔl ‘ Perfectionism ’. Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, dis na di strɔng biliv we yu biliv se ɔltin we yu de du fɔ pafɛkt, ɛn yu nɔ fɔ mek ɛni mistek. Fɔ tink dis kayn we nɔr kin rili fayn fɔ yu maynd ɛn bɔdi wɛl bɔdi.
Aw yu go no if yu gɛt pafɛkt pɔsin?
Bɔku pan wi kin bi ‘Perfectionists’ wan we ɔ ɔda we na wi layf. Sɔntɛm yu tan lɛk dat we yu de kuk, ɔ sɔntɛm yu de du yu wok. Bɔt if yu de luk fɔ dis ‘pafɛkt’ pan ɔltin we yu de du, dat min se yu go gɛt dis sik. Lɛ wi si wetin na di men kwaliti dɛn.
- Procrastination: Fɔ put am bifo fɔ stat wan wok bikɔs yu de fred se yu nɔ go ebul fɔ dɔn am we yu nɔ mek ɛni mistek.
- Tek tɛm we nɔ nid: Yu kin tek bɔku tɛm fɔ du di sem tin pas ɔda pipul dɛn bikɔs yu nɔ gɛt tɛm fɔ du am ‘perf ECT ’.
- Tink bɔt di ɛnd rizulyt nɔmɔ: Bifo yu ɛnjɔy di prɔses, yu de wok wit di ɛnd rizulyt nɔmɔ na yu maynd.
- Dissatisfayshɔn: Yu kin fil lɛk se yu nɔ dɔn wit di wok te yu tink se, "Dis rili fayn naw."
Di impɔtant tin na dat ‘Perfectionism’ nɔto sik. Bɔt if dɛn nɔ kɔntrol am , i kin rili afɛkt yu maynd wɛlbɔdi.
Yu tink se men kayn tin dɛn de we pɔsin kin want fɔ du pafɛkt?
Yɛs, wi de tɔk mɔ bɔt tri kayn pipul dɛn we de mek pɔsin pafɛkt. Pan ɔl we dɛn tin ya fiba, smɔl difrɛns de bak. Lɛ wi si wetin dɛn tin ya de na dis tebul.
| Pafɛkt pɔsin in tayp | Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan... |
|---|---|
| Pɔsin in yon standad pafɛkt (we de bays pan in yon standad) . | Dis na rili wɛlbɔdi. Na bikɔs yu kin sɛt ay gol fɔ yusɛf ɛn yu kin want fɔ du dɛn. Dis kin mek yu nɔr gɛt pwɛl hat ɛn strɛs. Ivin if ɔda pipul dɛn se, "Dis na tu big gol fɔ ajɔst," i go mek yu want fɔ du sɔntin. |
| Fɔ tink bɔt pɔsin we pafɛkt we i de tink bɔt insɛf | Dis na tin we denja smɔl. We yu de du dis, yu kin fil se yu de fred ɛn yu nɔ gɛt op, lɛk se yu nɔ go ɛva ebul fɔ du wetin yu dɔn plan fɔ du. Dis kin mek yu gɛt tin dɛn lɛk fɔ wɔri, strɛs, fɔ blem yusɛf, ɛn fɔ avɔyd fɔ wok. |
| Soshal prɛskrib pafɛkt (we dɛn de bays pan prɛshɔn frɔm di sosayti) . | Wetin kin apin na dis kes na dat yu nɔ de ɔnda prɛshɔn frɔm yusɛf, bɔt frɔm ɔdasay, fɔ ‘du ɔltin pafɛkt wan’. Fɔ ɛgzampul, na wok dɛn lɛk dɔktɔ ɔ lɔya, dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ mek ivin smɔl mistek. Dɔn bak, di prɛshɔn we sɔm mama ɛn papa dɛn ɛn di sosayti kin gi dɛnsɛf kin bi rizin fɔ dis. |
Di wɛlbɔdi ifɛkt dɛn we pɔsin kin gɛt we i want fɔ du ɔltin pafɛkt
Risach dɔn sho se fɔ lɛ pɔsin pafɛkt, gɛt sɔntin fɔ du wit bɔku prɔblɛm dɛn we i kin gɛt wit in maynd. Lɛ wi tek wan luk pan wetin dɛn ifɛkt ya kin bi.
- Prɔblɛm dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit pɔsin in maynd :
- Bɔn ɔt (we pɔsin kin taya na in maynd ɛn in bɔdi we i de wok pasmak) .
- Strɛs
- Pwɛl at
- Wɔri
- Tin dɛn we pɔsin kin tink bɔt fɔ kil insɛf
- Tin dɛm wae yu nɔr want fɔ tink ɛn du ( Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder - OCD) .
- Di prɔblɛm dɛn we pɔsin kin gɛt we i de it
- Prɔblɛm dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit layf:
- Nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ ɔnɔ fɔ yusɛf
- Disapɔyntmɛnt
- Fɔ put di wok bifo tɛm
- Prɔblɛm dɛn we de na di rilayshɔnship bitwin pipul dɛn
Wetin mek wi gɛt dis ‘Perfectionism’?
I at fɔ sho wan rizin fɔ dis. Bɔku rizin dɛn kin de. Lɛ wi luk di men wan dɛn.
- Fɔ fred pasmak fɔ lɛ pɔsin nɔ ebul fɔ du sɔntin.
- Di strɔng nid fɔ mek mama ɛn papa ɔ ɛlda dɛn gladi.
- Di want fɔ mek ɔda pipul dɛn lɛk am ɛn gri wit am.
- Fɔ gɛt ɔda mental wɛl bɔdi prɔblɛm lɛk fɔ wɔri ɛn OCD.
- Fɔ fil se yu nɔ sef ɛn nɔ fit fɔ yusɛf.
- Prɔblɛm dɛn we de na di rilayshɔn wit mama ɛn papa we dɛn smɔl.
- Fɔ bi pɔsin we sho se i gɛt ay talɛnt we i bin de skul ɔ we i bin yɔŋ.
Ɛni tritmɛnt de fɔ lɛ pɔsin nɔ want fɔ du ɔltin pafɛkt?
Yɛs, na fɔ tru. Bifo yu tray fɔ dil wit dis fɔ yusɛf, i impɔtant fɔ go to pɔsin we sabi bɔt mental wɛlbɔdi biznɛs , lɛk dɔktɔ we de mɛn pipul dɛn we gɛt sik ɔ we de gi advays tru yu dɔktɔ . Dɛn kin ɛp yu fɔ no di men tin we de mek yu gɛt dis sik ɛn bigin di rayt tritmɛnt.
Bɔku men we dɛn de fɔ trit pɔsin.
Kɔgnitiv-bihayvya tɛrapi (CBT) .
Dis de tich yu se nɔto ɔltin fɔ pafɛkt 100%. I de tich yu se mistek na nɔmal tin ɛn nɔ mek dɛn stɔp yu pan yu joyn.
Hipnotɛrapi
Dis kin ɛp fɔ lɛf fɔ tink bɔt ‘ɔl ɔ natin’. Dis kin ɛp fɔ chenj dis strikt abit.
Famili sistɛm dɛn tɛrapi
Insay dis, wi de luk aw pafɛkt pɔsin bin kam na yu famili, ɛn aw i afɛkt yu as pɔsin. Wi kin wok wit wi famili fɔ fɛn sɔlv fɔ dis prɔblɛm.
Tin dɛn we yu kin tray fɔ yusɛf
Apat frɔm dɔktɔ dɛn advays, bɔku tin dɛn de we yu kin tray fɔ kɔntrol dis sik yusɛf.
- Rayt di gud ɛn bad tin dɛn: Rayt insay wan buk wetin di gud ɛn bad tin dɛn we pɔsin kin du we i want fɔ du ɔltin pafɛkt, fɔ yu. We yu fil da we de bak, luk dɛn bad tin dɛn de ɛn mek yu maynd.
- Sɛt rial gol dɛn: Sɛt rial gol dɛn we yu go rili ebul fɔ du. Dɔn yu go stɔp fɔ taya fɔ rɔnata tin dɛn we nɔ pɔsibul.
- Sɛt di de we yu fɔ dɔn: Sɛt di de we yu go ebul fɔ du ɛni wok ɛn tray fɔ dɔn am insay da tɛm de. Dis go mek yu nɔ west yu tɛm pan di sem tin we yu nɔ nid fɔ du.
- Nɔ tek tɛm du tin: Bifo yu tink bɔt di ɛnd risal, brok di wok to pat dɛn ɛn go bifo afta yu dɔn dɔn wan pat. Da we de, yu nɔ go fil se yu nɔ go gɛt bɛtɛ prɔblɛm.
- Embras mistek: Mɛmba se mistek nɔto bad tin. Infakt, yu kin lan frɔm dɛn. Bifo yu de tink bɔt dɛn, tek dɛn as pat pan layf.
- Fokus pan ɔda tin dɛn: Bifo yu tray fɔ mek di sem tin pafɛkt, spɛn tɛm fɔ du difrɛn tin dɛn we de mek yu gladi ɛn we impɔtant to yu.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Fɔ pafɛkt nɔto sik, bɔt na wan maynd prɔblɛm we kin afɛkt yu maynd bad bad wan if yu nɔ chɛk yu.
- Mistek na pat pan layf. Ɔndastand se nɔto ɔltin fɔ bi 100% pafɛkt.
- If yu de fil strɛs ɔr de wɔri bɔt dis tin, i rili impɔtant fɔ go to dɔktɔ ɛn aks fɔ advays pas fɔ sɔfa yu wan.
- Sɛt rial gol dɛn, nɔ de tek tɛm, mek tɛm fɔ tin dɛn we go mek yu gladi. Bi gud to yusɛf.
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