Yu kin vɛks izi wan bak? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt Anger Management!

Sɔntɛnde, yu kin vɛks wantɛm wantɛm? Da tɛm de, yu go vɛks sote yu want fɔ ala ɔ nak pɔsin. Imajin, if yu smɔl brɔda ɔ sista tek yu tɔys we yu nɔ aks, ɔ if yu gi dɛn bɔku homwok na skul, ɔ if yu padi aks fɔ yu fav buk ɔ vidio gem ɛn brok am... Oh, so ɛnibɔdi go vɛks da tɛm de, nɔto so? I rili nɔmal.

Wetin na fɔ vɛks? Wi rili ɔndastand am?

Wi ɔl gɛt difrɛn kayn filin dɛn. Sɔntɛnde wi kin rili gladi, ɔda tɛm dɛn wi kin fil bad, ɛn sɔntɛnde wi kin jɛlɔs smɔl. Vɛks na ɔda nɔmal tin bak we mɔtalman kin fil. Natin nɔ bad fɔ vɛks sɔntɛnde. Infakt, sɔntɛnde i kin fayn fɔ lɛ wi vɛks, i kin ivin impɔtant. Tink bɔt am, we pɔsin du yu injɔstis, dis filin fɔ vɛks kin ɛp fɔ tɔk fɔ yusɛf, fɔ tinap fɔ yu rayt.

Bɔt di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na dat, dis strɔng filin fɔ vɛks nid fɔ kɔmɔt insay wan rili gud we. If nɔto dat, yu no wetin kin apin? I tan lɛk we yu put wata na di stov ɛn kip di lid tayt tayt wan. If no we nɔ de fɔ mek di stim kɔmɔt, as tɛm de go di wata go bɔl ɛn di lid go fɔdɔm, nɔto so? Na so i bi. If dat apin to yu bak, dat min se if yu nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol yu wamat ɛn bɔm, i nɔ fayn fɔ yu ɔ di wan dɛn we de arawnd yu. So, i rili impɔtant fɔ kɔntrol di we aw pɔsin de vɛks fayn.

Wetin mek wi kin vɛks so? Wetin na di rizin dɛn?

Nɔto jɔs smɔl pikin dɛn, bɔt wi ɔl kin vɛks fɔ difrɛn rizin dɛn. Dis na tin we pɔsin kin du fɔ insɛf, we min se di rizin dɛn we kin mek pɔsin vɛks kin difrɛn frɔm wan pɔsin to ɔda pɔsin.

• We tin nɔ de go lɛk aw yu bin de tink: I kin izi fɔ mek yu vɛks we sɔntin nɔ de go lɛk aw yu bin de tink. Fɔ ɛgzampul, yu kin vɛks if yu lɔs wan gem we yu bin tink se yu go win, ɔ if sɔntin we yu bil brok.
• Fɔ fil vɛks pan yusɛf: Sɔntɛnde we yu nɔ ɔndastand skul asaynmɛnt ɔ lɛsin, yu kin vɛks ɛn fil bad fɔ yusɛf. Yu kin fil vɛks we yu tink se, "Wetin mek a nɔ ɔndastand dis?"
• Frustration: We yu tray fɔ rich yu gol ɛn kɔntinyu fɔ fel, yu kin gɛt frustrate. Dat pwɛl at kin mek i vɛks izi wan. Imajin, if yu de tray fɔ drɔ fayn fayn pikchɔ, bɔt i nɔ apin di we aw yu want, yu kin vɛks, nɔto so?
• Bikɔs ɔf ɔda pipul dɛn: Yu kin vɛks we pɔsin de provok yu, kɔl yu nem, ɔ biev di we we go mek yu fil bad. Yu kin vɛks bak we yu padi mek prɔmis to yu ɛn brok am, ɔ we yu fil se wan lɔ we yu mama ɛn papa mek nɔ rayt to yu.
• Fɔ blem yu fɔ sɔntin we nɔ rayt: Wan pan di tin dɛn we kin mek wi vɛks pas ɔl na we dɛn blem yu ɔ pɔnish yu fɔ sɔntin we yu nɔ du.I kin vɛks bad bad wan bikɔs i kin fil se i nɔ fayn.
• Fɔ vɛks fɔ natin: Nɔ sɔprayz, sɔntɛnde yu kin vɛks fɔ natin. Da tɛm de, yu nɔ kin ivin fɛnɔt "Wetin mek a vɛks so?"

Aw a go no if a vɛks? Wetin na di sayn dɛn?

We wi vɛks, wi kin fil am difrɛn we dɛn. Bɔku tɛm, yu bɔdi kin tɛl yu se yu vɛks. If yu pe atɛnshɔn smɔl to dɛn sayn ya, yusɛf go ɔndastand am.

• We yu de blo fast fast: Yu de blo fast smɔl ɛn yu kin fil lɛk se yu de kam fɔdɔm.
• Rɛd na dɛn fes: Sɔm pipul dɛn fes kin tɔn rɛd we dɛn vɛks.
• Mɔsul dɛn tayt: Yu kin fil lɛk se yu mɔsul dɛn de tayt, mɔ na say dɛn lɛk yu sholda ɛn nɛk.
• An kramp: Yu kin de klem yu an dɛn we yu nɔ no.
• Wetin de na yu maynd: Yu kin fil lɛk fɔ bit pɔsin, brok sɔntin, trowe sɔntin? Ɔ yu kin fil lɛk fɔ ala ɔ fɛt?
• Yu vɔys kin chenj: We yu vɛks, yu vɔys kin kam tranga ɛn ay. Yu kin ivin ala pan di wan dɛn we yu lɛk ɛn bisin bɔt we yu nɔ no.

Sɔm pipul dɛn de we kin kip dɛn vɛks bɔtul insay ɛn nɔ kin sho am. If yu na wan pan dɛn pipul dɛn de, yu go gɛt tin dɛn lɛk dis:

• Yu kin gɛt ed we de at.
• Yu kin gɛt bɛlɛ at ɔ yu at kin bɔn.
• Yu kin fil bad ɛn fil bad wit yusɛf ɛn jɔs kray.

Mɛmba se i nɔ ɛva fayn fɔ kip wamat insay bɔtul insay. Na dat mek i impɔtant fɔ fɛn wɛl bɔdi we fɔ pul da vɛks de we nɔ go mek yu ɔr ɔda pipul dɛn sɔfa ɔr pwɛl hat.

Aw wi kin no we ɔda pɔsin vɛks?

We pɔsin we yu sabi, ilɛksɛf na yu padi, yu fambul, ɔ ɔda pɔsin vɛks, yu kin no bay di we aw i de biev.

• I kin luk ɔdasay, kray, ɛn kɔmɔt usay yu de.
• Yu kin sɛt mɔt we yu nɔ de tɔk to yusɛf, we yu nɔ go ansa kwɛstyɔn dɛn, ilɛksɛf dɛn aks am.
• Sɔm pipul dɛn kin sɛt mɔt wantɛm wantɛm , ɛn dɛn kin tinap na sayd we dɛn lɔs dɛnsɛf.
• Sɔm ɔda pipul dɛn de, dɛn de ala, de wev dɛn an, tray fɔ bit, wund, ɛn trowe tin pan di wan dɛn we de nia dɛn.

Na dis kayn tɛm, mɔ if pɔsin de biev bad bad wan, di bɛst tin we yu go du na fɔ kɔmɔt nia am kwik kwik wan. Yu sef de kam fɔs.

We yu de fa frɔm di pɔsin we vɛks, stɔp ɛn tink fɔ smɔl tɛm. Aks yusɛf se, "Wetin mek da pɔsin de vɛks so?" "Enitin de we yu fit du to mek di situeshɔn beta?" "Wetin di ɔda pɔsin kin du ? ""Yu fil am?" Tink bɔt am fɔ smɔl tɛm. Afta di ɔda pɔsin in wamat dɔn stɔp smɔl, tray fɔ tɔk to dɛn bɔt di prɔblɛm. Bɔt if dɛn nɔ want fɔ tɔk, nɔ fos dɛn. Tek tɛm lisin to wetin dɛn gɛt fɔ tɔk, ɛn tray fɔ ɔndastand.

Wetin a kin du we a vɛks? Aw a go ebul fɔ kɔntrol am?

If yu vɛks , di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ lɛ yu nɔ lɔs kɔntrol. If yu pul yu vɛks pan ɔda pipul dɛn, ala pan dɛn, ɔ bit dɛn, dat nɔ go ɛva sɔlv prɔblɛm. I go jɔs mek di prɔblɛm dɛn wɔs. Bifo dat, tray dɛn tin ya:

1. Admit se yu vɛks: Rikɔgnayz fɔ yusɛf se "A vɛks rayt naw."

2. Tray fɔ fɛn di kɔz: Tink fɔ smɔl tɛm bɔt "Wetin mek a vɛks so?" Wetin apin? Udat bin tɔk wetin?

3. Tink bɔt wetin yu go du fɔ mek i nɔ apin igen: Fɛn we fɔ sɔlv di prɔblɛm. Fɔ ɛgzampul, if yu sista gɛt tɔys ɛn yu nɔ gɛt am, i nɔ bad fɔ vɛks ɛn brok in tɔys. Sɔntɛm yu kin tɔk to yu mama ɔ papa bɔt am, ɔ aks yu sista fɔ ple wit am fɔ sɔm tɛm. Ɔ if yu gɛt prɔblɛm fɔ sɔlv prɔblɛm wit matematiks na skul, bifo yu te yu buk, aks yu ticha, yu mama ɔ papa, ɔ pɔsin we yu sabi fɔ ɛp yu.

De tin wae impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ tɔk bɔt yu vɛks ɛn aw yu de fil wit big pɔsin we yu trɔst – yu mama, papa, ticha, yu bɛst padi, ɔr yu tayt fambul. Dis kin rili ɛp wi. We yu tɔk bɔt yu vɛks ɛn wetin de na yu maynd, yu go fil lɛk se dɛn bad bad filin dɛn de de dɔn smɔl smɔl.

Tray dɛn Anger Busters ya!

Na sɔm ɔda simpul tin dɛm wae yu kin du fɔ ɛp fɔ ridyus yu vɛks wae yu bigin fɔ vɛks, ɔr wae yu dɔn ɔlrɛdi vɛks. Wi de kɔl dɛn wan ya "Anger Busters."

• Tɔk to gud padi we yu trɔst bɔt wetin yu de fil.
• Kip yu maynd fɔs ɛn kɔnt smɔl smɔl te yu rich tɛn. Yu kin ivin kɔnt to twɛnti if yu want.
• Ɔg pɔsin we yu lɛk, ɔ mek pɔsin ɔg yu. Dis kin rili mek wi fil fayn.
• Du jomp jack ɔ ɛni ɔda simpul ɛgzampul we yu lɛk. Go fɔ rɔn ɔ fɔ waka.
• Sho yu wamat na pikchɔ. Dray wetin yu de fil wit kɔlɔ dɛn pan wan pepa.
• Ple wan fayn vidio gem (bɔt nɔto wan we de mek pɔsin vɛks ɔ we gɛt fɔ du wit fɛt!).
• Rɔn rawnd di os ɔ yad as fast as yu ebul lɛk fayv tɛm so.
• Put yu fav siŋ ɛn siŋ wit am.
• Pul sɔm plant dɛn we yu nɔ want na di gadin, ɔ du sɔm gadin wok.
• Tink bɔt gud tin dɛn we go mek yu gladi. Sɔntɛm na trip we yu bin go, spɔt we yu lɛk, ɔ it we yu lɛk.
• Rayd bayk, sketbɔd if yu ebul, ple baskɛtbɔl ɔ kriket wit yu padi dɛn – simpul wan, du sɔntin we aktif!

So, di las tin fɔ mɛmba na...

Luk, nɔbɔdi na dis wɔl nɔ go ɛva vɛks. Na pat pan wi layf. Bɔt, bifo dat, sɔntin de we rili impɔtant we wi ɔl fɔ mɛmba: Aw yu de biev we yu vɛks kin mek ɔ brok sɔntin.

I tan lɛk se yu de drayv motoka. Vɛks tan lɛk di pawa we de insay di ``ɛnjin'' na di motoka. Na dat pawa de mek di motoka go. Bɔt di ``stiarin'', dat na di divays we de kɔntrol di motoka, nid fɔ de fayn fayn wan na yu an. Wetin go apin if yu lɔs da kɔntrol de? Aksidɛnt kin apin, nɔto so? Na dat, nɔ mek wamat kɔntrol yu. Yu na di wan we gɛt fɔ kɔntrol wamat! As yu de praktis dɛn we ya, yu go no se yu ebul fɔ kɔntrol wamat.

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