Yu padi dɔn lɔs in famili? Wi go tɔk bɔt dis sɔri-at?

Imajin se yu bɛst padi in tayt fambul, sɔntɛm yu grani, granpa, ɔ ivin pɔsin we de nia yu pas am, dɔn day. Dat na tin we rili sɔri ɛn we de mek pɔsin in at pwɛl, nɔto so? Yu padi go mɔs dɔn rili nɔ ebul fɔ du natin, i bin sɔprayz, ɛn i bin de in wan da tɛm de. Yu go dɔn tink wan tawzin tɛm se, "O, aw a go ɛp am dis tɛm? Wetin a go du fɔ mek i nɔ fil pen?" Dat na rili fayn tin fɔ tink bɔt. So, tide, lɛ wi tɔk bɔt wetin yu go du fɔ bi trɛnk fɔ yu padi ɛn briŋ smɔl kɔrej na in at insay dis kayn tranga tɛm.

Wetin na dis sɔri-at rili?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, sɔri-at na di pen ɛn sɔri we wi kin fil we wi lɔs pɔsin we wi lɛk. I tan lɛk se na big big wet na wi at. Nɔto ɔlman kin fil dis wet di sem we. Di we aw ɛnibɔdi kin bia wit dis pwɛl at ɛn aw i kin du am, rili difrɛn.

Imajin se yu padi Sameera in mama dɔn day. Sameera kin kray bɔku, i kin sho in sɔri fɔ ɔlman fɔ si. Bɔt, ɔda padi, lɛ wi se in nem na Netmi, kin rili kwayɛt we in papa day. I kin tray fɔ de in wan, nɔ tɔk to ɛnibɔdi bɔku. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin stɔp fɔ ple ɛn ɛnjɔy dɛnsɛf fɔ sɔm tɛm sɔntɛnde lɛk dis. Dɛn nɔ kin lɛk ɔl dɛn tin dɛn de igen. Bɔt ɔda pikin dɛn de we kin tray fɔ go bak to dɛn nɔmal layf kwik kwik wan. Dɛn kin rili want fɔ go skul, ple wit dɛn padi dɛn, ɛn du ɔda tin dɛn. No rayt ɔ rɔŋ nɔ de pan ɔl dɛn we ya. Na bikɔs ɔlman gɛt in yon we fɔ bia wit pwɛl at.

Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na dat, pwɛl at nɔto sik. Na tin we pɔsin kin du we wi lɔs pɔsin we wi lɛk. I nid tɛm fɔ mek i wɛl.

Sɔm pikin dɛn kin lɛk fɔ tɔk bɔt aw dɛn de fil. Ɔda wan dɛn nɔ de du dat. Sɔm kin sho aw dɛn at pwɛl bay we dɛn de drɔ ɔ kɔlɔ. Dɔn bak, bɔku pipul dɛn kin lɛk fɔ spɛn mɔ tɛm wit dɛn famili insay dis kayn tɛm, ɛn dɛn kin gɛt lɔv ɛn kɔrej frɔm dɛn. Famili mɛmba dɛn fɔ ɛp dɛnsɛf, du gud to dɛnsɛf. We wi de tɔk bɔt gud mɛmori bɔt di pɔsin we dɛn lɔs ɛn di gladi gladi tɛm dɛn we dɛn spɛn wit dɛn, dat kin mek dɛn rili fil fri. Ɔl dɛn tin ya kin ɛp fɔ mek di pen nɔ bɔku.

Aw yu go ɛp yu padi we i de fil bad?

We yu padi de fil dis kayn pen, di bɛst tin we yu go du na fɔ jɔs de fɔ dɛn as gud padi. Sɔntɛm yu nɔ go ebul fɔ mek dɛn fil fayn ɔ mek dɛn gladi wantɛm wantɛm, bɔt dat nɔ bad. Yu kin mek dɛn fil aw dɛn de fil.

1. Jos bi de, na big tin!

Yu kin tɔk to am ɛn aks am se, "Wi go go waka?" "Wi go ple gem?" ɔ "Wi go jɔs de togɛda fɔ sɔm tɛm?" Mek i du wetin i want. Jɔs fɔ de wit am na big trɛnk, big trɛnk. Yu nɔ nid fɔ tɔk ɛnitin we spɛshal, jɔs yu prezɛns dɔn inof.

2. Nɔ fos yusɛf fɔ "bi wɛl."

We yu padi sɔri, fɔ tray fɔ mek dɛn gladi bay we yu de tɔk tin lɛk, "Duya nɔ kray," "Nɔ sɔri," ɔ "Yu nid fɔ strɔng" go jɔs ambɔg dɛn mɔ. Na nɔmal tin fɔ lɛ dɛn fil bad ɛn kray. Alaw dɛn fɔ mek dɛn fil dɛn de kɔmɔt.

3. Gi dem chans fo tok (bot no fos dem)

Yu kin fil smɔl fɔ fred ɔ shem fɔ tɔk bɔt dis. Bɔt fɔ tɔk sɔntin lɛk, "A so sɔri fɔ di lɔs fɔ yu grani" go mek i no se yu ɔndastand in pen. Dat kin ɛp am fɔ bigin tɔk to yu bɔt wetin de na in maynd.

Wan we we rili fayn na fɔ se: " If yu want fɔ tɔk bɔt dis, a go lisin. "

Bɔt, if yu padi nɔ want fɔ tɔk bɔt am da tɛm de, mek dɛn no. Nɔ fos dɛn. Jɔs mek dɛn no se yu de de ɛnitɛm we dɛn nid yu.

4. Ɛp fɔ sheb gud mɛmori

If yu padi bigin fɔ tɔk bɔt di pɔsin we dɛn lɔs, tɔk bɔt di gud tɛm dɛn we una bin gɛt togɛda, di fayn fayn stori dɛn, ɛn di gud tin dɛn we una bin de mɛmba. I kin mek dɛn fil gladi smɔl ɛn fil fri. Sɔntɛnde, we yu padi kray, yusɛf kin kray bikɔs yu nɔ kin ebul fɔ stɔp yu sɔri-at. Natin nɔ bad fɔ kray wit da kayn padi de. I go mek una padi biznɛs strɔng mɔ ɛn mɔ.

5. Peshɛnt, gi am tɛm fɔ chenj.

Nɔ tink se yu padi go gladi ɛn ple ple lɛk aw dɛn bin de du trade. I nɔ go apin wan nɛt. As dɛn de go tru de pwɛl hat, sɔm dez dɛn nɔr go fil fɔ ple ɔr ɛnjɔy dɛnsɛf lɛk aw dɛn bin de du trade. Bɔt, di nɛks de dɛn go de laf ɛn ple lɛk aw dɛn bin de ple. Ɛvride kin difrɛn. So na fɔ peshɛnt.

6. Tin dɛn we wi fɔ tek tɛm mek wi nɔ tɔk

Sɔntɛnde, di tin dɛn we wi kin tɔk we wi nɔ no, kin mek wi padi fil bad mɔ. Fɔ ɛgzampul:

• "No kray, yu na boi/gayl." (Imɔshɔn dɛn nɔ gɛt man ɔ uman.)
• "Evritin go fayn in taim." (Pan ɔl we dis na tru, i nɔ de briŋ bɔku kɔmfɔt dis tɛm.)
• "I de fo beta ples nau." (Dis nɔ kin fil di sem we to ɔlman, ɛn sɔm kin ivin vɛks pan am.)
• "A ɔndastand aw yu de fil." (Wi nɔ kin rili ɔndastand ɔda pɔsin in pen 100% pan di tɛm, so i bɛtɛ fɔ tɔk sɔntin lɛk, "A kin imajin aw i fɔ tranga fɔ yu.")
• Fɔ tɔk bɔt yu yon ɛkspiriɛns dɛn nɔmɔ. ("Dis na wetin apin we mi granpa day..." ɛn afta dat yu de rid bɔt yusɛf instead fɔ lisin to yu padi.)

Bifo wi tɔk tin dɛn lɛk dis, i rili valyu fɔ jɔs lisin ɛn tray fɔ ɔndastand am.

Ustɛm wi fɔ tek tɛm smɔl?

Bɔku tɛm, sɔri-at kin stɔp smɔl smɔl as tɛm de go. Bɔt, ivin afta lɔng tɛm, .(Dis kin tek wik ɔ mɔnt, i kin difrɛn frɔm wan pɔsin to ɔda pɔsin.) If i tan lɛk se yu padi nɔ de go bak to aw i bin de trade, i nɔ ebul fɔ du di tin dɛn we dɛn kin du ɔltɛm, ɛn i kin fil bad ɛn wɔri ɔltɛm, dat min se yu fɔ wɔri smɔl.

Fɔ ɛgzampul:

• If yu nɔ intres pan ɛnitin lɛk aw yu bin de intres trade.
• If tin dɛn lɛk skul wok ɛn ple bin dɔn stɔp kpatakpata.
• If di it ɛn slip dɔn go dɔŋ ɔ i dɔn bɔku bad bad wan.
• If yu de tray ɔltɛm fɔ de yu wan ɛn nɔ tɔk to ɛnibɔdi.
• If yu tɔk bɔt tin dɛn lɛk fɔ du bad to yusɛf.

If yu notis sɔntin lɛk dis, tɛl yu mama ɛn papa, ticha, ɔ pɔsin we de advays yu na skul bɔt dat. Dis nɔto fɔ betray, bɔt na we fɔ mek big pɔsin no se yu pikin nid ɛp. Dɔn dɛn kin gi dɛn di sɔpɔt we dɛn nid, sɔntɛm dɛn kin ivin ɛp dɛn frɔm di wan dɛn we sabi du dɛn wok.

Yusɛf kin lan mɔ bɔt Sɔri-at.

We yu si yu padi de go tru prɔblɛm, yu go want fɔ lan mɔ bɔt pwɛl at bak. Dat na gud tin. Yu kin aks di big pipul dɛm na yu layf (mama ɛn papa, grani ɛn granpa, ticha dɛm) aw dɛn bin fil we dɛn lɔs pɔsin we dɛn lɛk, aw dɛn bin pas am, ɛn wetin ɛp dɛn. Dɛn ɛkspiriɛns dɛn de go tich yu valyu lɛsin dɛn bak.

Fɔ dɔn, tin dɛn fɔ mek yu mɛmba

So, na sɔm pan di tin dɛn we yu kin du we yu padi de fil bad:

• Stay klos to yu padi dɛn. Yu prezɛns na big sɔs fɔ dɛn trɛnk.
• Lisin gud gud wan. If dɛn want fɔ tɔk, lisin ɛn nɔ ambɔg dɛn.
• Bi gud pɔsin, peshɛnt, ɛn tray fɔ ɔndastand aw dɛn de fil.
• Nɔ fos dɛn. Nɔ fos dɛn fɔ gladi ɔ fɔ tɔk.
• Invayt dɛn fɔ du di tin dɛn we dɛn kin du ɔltɛm, bɔt alaw dɛn fɔ du wetin dɛn want.
• Ɛp dɛn fɔ mɛmba gud tin bɔt di pɔsin we dɛn lɔs, if dɛn rɛdi.
• If yu fil se yu de wɔri, tɛl big pɔsin we yu abop pan.

Mɛmba se una padi biznɛs na di bɛst mɛrɛsin ɛn kɔrej we i go gɛt dis tɛm. Ivin if yu ɛp am smɔl, dat go mek i gɛt bɔku trɛnk fɔ pas dis tranga tɛm.

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