Yu pikin de buli ɔda pikin dɛn? (Bullying) Mek wi tok abaut dis!

Aw yu go fil if yu yɛri se yu pikin de buli ɔda pikin dɛn, de mek dɛn fred, ɔ de mɔna ɔda pikin dɛn na skul ɔ ɔdasay? I rili shok ɛn sɔri, nɔto so? Bɔt we yu yɛri sɔntin lɛk dat, ilɛksɛf i at fɔ du, di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ chɛk am wantɛm wantɛm ɛn du di tin dɛn we yu nid. Dis buli we pɔsin kin buli kin bi bay we i de tɔk ɔ i kin du am wit in bɔdi. Bɔt if dɛn nɔ stɔp am, chans de fɔ mek di pikin biev mɔ we nɔ lɛk ɔda pipul dɛn, nɔ go ebul fɔ biev fayn na skul, ɛn i nɔ go ebul fɔ mek padi ɔ kɔntinyu fɔ bi padi.

Wetin mek wi pikin dɛn kin buli lɛk dis? Wetin na di rizin dɛn we mek i apin?

Fɔ tru, bɔku rizin dɛn de we mek pikin dɛn de buli ɔda pipul dɛn. Lɛ wi tek wan luk pan wetin dɛn bi.

Filin we nɔ gɛt sef ɛn sho se yu gɛt pawa

Sɔm pikin dɛn kin gɛt bɔku insekyuriti bɔt dɛnsɛf. Dɛn kin tink tin dɛn lɛk, "A nɔ gud?", "Ɔda pipul dɛn smat pas mi?" So, we dɛn buli pɔsin we dɛn tink se wik pas dɛn smɔl, pan bɔdi ɔ maynd, dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn impɔtant, pipul dɛn lɛk dɛn, ɔ dɛn ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛn . Imajin, we yu mek smɔl pikin fred na klas ɛn target dɛn wit dɛn it, di pɔsin we de buli yu kin fil lɛk "hiro." Bɔt dat rili rɔng, nɔto so?

Nɔ no se "dis nɔ rayt".

Ɔda tɛm dɛn, pikin dɛn kin buli bikɔs dɛn nɔ no se i nɔ fayn. Sɔm pikin dɛn nɔ kin ɔndastand se i nɔ bad fɔ mek dɛn laf ɔ marginalize pikin dɛn we difrɛn bikɔs dɛn ay, dɛn wet, dɛn luk, dɛn kɔlɔ, ɔ dɛn rilijɔn. Dem tink se na jos "joke."

Pat pan wan patɛn fɔ bi stɛp ɛn agresiv bihayvya

Fɔ sɔm pikin dɛn, fɔ buli kin bi pat pan di we aw dɛn kin biev trangayes ɛn we kin mek dɛn vɛks. Bɔku tɛm, dɛn pikin ya nid ɛp fɔ kɔntrol dɛn strɔng filin, lɛk fɔ vɛks, fɔ fil bad, ɛn fɔ fil bad. Sɔntɛm dɛn nɔ gɛt di skil fɔ wok togɛda wit ɔda pipul dɛn. Na dɛn kayn kayn tin ya, sɔmtin lɛk kɔyl, ɔ ``tɛrapi,'' kin ɛp dɛn fɔ dil wit aw dɛn de fil, stɔp fɔ buli, ɛn fɔ mek dɛn gɛt mɔ soshal skil.

Fɔ falamakata tin dɛn we dɛn kin si na os

I rili sɔri we sɔm pikin dɛn de buli ɔda pipul dɛn bikɔs dɛn de falamakata wetin dɛn de si na os. Pikin dɛn we de si agresiv, nɔ fayn tɔk ɛn biev na dɛn famili kin lan fɔ trit ɔda pipul dɛn di sem we. Semweso, pikin dɛn we dɛn kin provok ɛn kɔs na os kin lan se fɔ buli na fayn we fɔ kɔntrol pikin dɛn we dɛn fil se dɛn wik pas dɛn.

Wetin wi fɔ du fɔ sev pikin dɛn frɔm dis buli?

If yu kam fɔ no se yu pikin de buli ɔda pipul dɛn, tray fɔ du dɛn tin ya ɛn nɔ panik, bɔt yu fɔ disayd fɔ du am.

1. Fɔ buli pɔsin na siriɔs tin!

Fɔs, tɛl yu pikin klia wan.Dat buli nɔ de ɛva fayn, ɛn if i kɔntinyu, i kin gɛt siriɔs prɔblɛm dɛn na os, na skul, ɛn na sosayti. Mek lɔ dɛn na os bɔt aw fɔ buli pɔsin, ɛn mek dɛn du am strikt wan. If dɛn nɔ gi pikin di ɔnɔ as pɔnishmɛnt, i fɔ bi sɔntin we di pikin rili fil. Fɔ ɛgzampul, if yu pikin de buli ɔda pikin dɛn bay `imel`, `tɛks mɛsej`, ɔ `sɔshial nɛtwɔk sayt`, stɔp fɔ yuz di fon ɔ kɔmpyuta fɔ sɔm tɛm. If yu pikin de biev bad na os, ilɛksɛf na brɔda ɛn sista dɛn ɔ ɔda pipul dɛn, stɔp am wantɛm wantɛm. Bifo dat, ansa dɛn di rayt we, we nɔ gɛt fɛt-fɛt, lɛk fɔ tɛl dɛn fɔ kɔmɔt na di eria.

2. Tich dɛn fɔ rɛspɛkt ɔda pipul dɛn ɛn fɔ du gud!

Tich yu pikin se i bad fɔ mek yu provok ɔ fɔ smɔl difrɛns pan difrɛns pan in kɔlɔ, rilijɔn, di we aw i luk, spɛshal nid, man ɔ uman, ɔ di ikɔnomi stetmɛnt. Bi sɛnsitiv to di difrɛns bitwin ɔda pipul dɛm, dat na, praktis ``Empathy``. If i pɔsibul, mek yu pikin put an pan kɔmyuniti grup wit pikin dɛn we kɔmɔt na difrɛn say dɛn. Dis go gi yu pikin di chans fɔ no ɛn wok wit difrɛn pipul dɛn.

3. Fɛn ɔda tin dɛn bɔt yu pikin in soshal layf!

Tray fɔ ɔndastand wetin de afɛkt yu pikin in bihayvya na skul (ɔ ɛnisay we di buli de apin). Tɔk to di mama ɛn papa fɔ di pikin in padi dɛn, in ticha dɛn, di wan dɛn we de gi advays bɔt di pikin, ɛn di skul prinsipal. Yu tink se ɔda pikin dɛn de buli? Aw yu pikin in padi dɛn de? Wetin na di prɔblɛm dɛn we kin mit pikin dɛn na skul? Tɔk to yu pikin bɔt dɛn rilayshɔnship ya ɛn di prɛshɔn we i gɛt fɔ fit in. Mek dɛn put an pan tin dɛn we nɔ de na skul. Dis go ɛp dɛn fɔ mek nyu padi dɛn ɛn gɛt gud padi biznɛs wit dɛn.

4. Ɛnkɔrej pipul dɛn fɔ biev fayn!

Pozitiv riinfɔsmɛnt gɛt bɔku pawa pas negatif disiplin. No we yu pikin de du sɔntin fayn. We dɛn de biev fayn ɛn fayn, notis ɛn prez dɛn. Se sohmtin lek, "Yu boi pikin/gita du big wok pan dat kweshon tide, en a gladi bad bad wan fo dat."

5. Stay kɔnɛkt wit di skul!

If buli de apin na skul, wok wit di administreshɔn ɛn ticha dɛn fɔ mek wan akshɔn plan. If yu pikin no se yu no aw dɛn de biev na skul, i go ɛp am fɔ gɛt mɔ rispɔnsibul ɛn fɔ pik di rayt we fɔ liv wit ɔda pipul dɛn.

Tink bɔt am, sɔntɛnde pikin dɛn kin buli bikɔs dɛn want atɛnshɔn. We wi prez dɛn gud wok, dɛn kin gɛt da atɛnshɔn de insay wɛlbɔdi we.

Mek wi stat na os!

Fɔ fɛt wit brɔda ɛn sista na os na nɔmal tin, i kin apin na ɔlmost ɔl os. Infakt, pas nɔmɔ if bad bad tin apin to pɔsin, i go fayn fɔ lɛ wi nɔ de pan dɛn fɛt-fɛt dɛn de. Bɔt,Tek tɛm we yu de kɔl yu nem ɛn kɔl yu nem. Tɔk to ɛni pikin wan bay wan ɛn mɛmba dɛn ɔltɛm bɔt wetin fayn ɛn wetin nɔ fayn.

Tink bak bɔt yu yon we aw yu de biev. Tink bɔt di we aw yu de tɔk bifo yu pikin dɛn, di we aw yu de sɔlv prɔblɛm ɛn cham-mɔt. Pikin dɛn we de ala, yuz bad langwej, put ɔda pipul dɛn dɔŋ, kɔndɛm bad bad wan na os, ɔ si se dɛn brɔda ɔ sista ɔ dɛn mama ɔ papa/di pɔsin we de kia fɔ dɛn de trit dɛn bad, kin du di sem tin dɛn we dɛn nɔ de na skul.

If yu de du bad bad tin bifo yu pikin dɛn ɔ bifo yu pikin dɛn, i go mɔs bi se dɛn go fala yu pikin dɛn. Bifo dat, pe atɛnshɔn pan di gud tin dɛn we ɔda pipul dɛn gɛt, nɔto di bad tin dɛn. We yu gɛt prɔblɛm dɛn na yu layf, tɔk to yu pikin dɛn opin wan bɔt di tin dɛn we de mek yu at pwɛl ɛn aw yu de dil wit dɛn filin dɛn de.

Na tru se sɔntɛnde yu nid fɔ kɔrɛkt yu pikin dɛn ɛn tɔk bad bɔt dɛn fɔ ɛp dɛn fɔ kɔrɛkt dɛn mistek dɛn. Bɔt nɔ mek dat tɔn to harsh wɔd ɔ akɔdin. If yu nɔ lɛk di we aw pikin de biev, tɔk mɔ se yu want fɔ si dɛn chenj am ɛn yu biliv se dɛn go ebul fɔ du am.

Udat ɔda pɔsin wi go gɛt ɛp frɔm?

If yu tink se ɔda tin we kin mek yu strɛs na os de afɛkt di we aw yu pikin de biev, aks fɔ ɛp frɔm skul ɛn yu kɔmyuniti. Di wan dɛn we de gi advays, di bigman dɛn pan Gɔd biznɛs, di wan dɛn we de mɛn pipul dɛn, ɛn yu famili dɔktɔ kin ɛp yu. If yu pikin gɛt agyumɛnt, traŋa, ɔ gɛt histri fɔ gɛt prɔblɛm wit aw fɔ kɔntrol in vɛks, tink bɔt fɔ mek pɔsin we de mɛn pipul dɛn ɔ pɔsin we sabi bɔt aw fɔ biev go ebul fɔ chɛk am.

Pan ɔl we i kin mek yu pikin dɛn at pwɛl fɔ ɛp yu pikin dɛn fɔ stɔp dis buli, mɛmba se bad abit nɔ kin stɔp fɔ insɛf. Tink bɔt di sakrifays ɛn gladi at we yu want mek yu pikin dɛn gɛt na skul, na wokples, ɛn na dɛn padi biznɛs wit dɛnsɛf ɔlsay na dɛn layf. Fɔ stɔp dis buli naw na big step fɔ rich dɛn gol dɛn de.

Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os

Okay, so frɔm wetin wi dɔn tɔk bɔt, i fɔ klia to yu se fɔ buli pikin nɔto sɔntin we wi fɔ tek layt.

• Ɔndastand di rizin: Fɔ no wetin mek yu pikin de du dis. Na insekyuriti? Yu tink se i nid fɔ pe atɛnshɔn to am? Ɔ na sɔntin we yu de si na os?
• Tek akshɔn wantɛm wantɛm: Tek dis as siriɔs tin, tɔk to yu pikin, ɛn du di tin dɛn we yu nid.
• Tich gud ɛn bad: Tich fɔ rɛspɛkt ɔda pipul dɛn, fɔ du gud, ɛn fɔ no se ɔda pipul dɛn difrɛn.
• Ɛnkɔrej yu pikin gud gud wan: Prez yu pikin we i de du gud tin. I de mek big impak.
• Join di skul: Ticha dɛm, una wok wit di prinsipal fɔ fɛn sɔlv fɔ dis prɔblɛm.
• Bi ɛgzampul yusɛf:Mek di os ɛnvayrɔmɛnt gɛt pis ɛn lɔv. Di we aw yu de sɔlv prɔblɛm na fayn ɛgzampul fɔ yu pikin dɛn.
• Go to pɔsin we sabi du in wok if nid de: Sɔntɛnde, tin lɛk tritmɛnt kin rili ɛp yu.

Nɔ fɔgɛt, na wi wok fɔ ɛp ɛvri pikin fɔ gro fayn ɛn bi pɔsin we de wok fayn na di sosayti.

` buli, buli pikin, advays fɔ mɛn pikin, buli na skul, prɔblɛm wit di we aw pɔsin de biev, sayɛns, di we aw pikin de biev