Yu pikin nɔ de ɛva de na wan ples? Bɔku tɛm yu kin fil lɛk se dɛn nɔ de pe atɛnshɔn to ɛnitin ɔ lisin to yu? Ɔ dɛn kin vɛks wantɛm wantɛm fɔ di smɔl smɔl tin dɛn? Bikɔs ɔf dis kayn we aw yu de biev, yu fambul, padi dɛn, ɔ ivin di skul dɔn aks yu se, “Yu pikin nɔ de biev fayn.” If yusɛf dɔn gɛt dɛn kayn ɛkspiriɛns dɛn de, dis stori go rili nia yu. Bikɔs tide wi go tɔk bɔt sɔm pan di tin dɛm we mama ɛn papa dɛm we gɛt pikin dɛm we gɛt ADHD, ɔ atɛnshɔn dɛfisit hyperactivity disorder, gɛt na dɛn maynd, bɔt dɛn nɔr ebul fɔ tɛl sosayti.
Mi pikin nɔto "bad pikin"!
Sɔm pikin dɛn we gɛt ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) kin gɛt prɔblɛm fɔ de na wan ples, we min se dɛn kin rili aktif . Ɔda pipul dɛn kin tink se dɛn de du tin dɛn we dɛn nɔ de pe atɛnshɔn, we min se dɛn kin rili want fɔ du sɔntin . I nɔ kin izi fɔ dɛn pikin ya fɔ du wetin dɛn tɛl dɛn fɔ du ɛn fɔ kɔntrol di we aw dɛn de fil. Naw, we pikin we gɛt dɛn abit dɛn ya nɔ de biev fayn, wi kin tink se na bay wilful i de tray fɔ mek wi vɛks ɔ nɔ lisin to wi. Bɔt nɔto dat na di tru.
Dɛn pikin ya de rili liv wit wan patikyula chenj na di bren wok. Nɔto dɛn kin disayd fɔ du dat.
Wan mama se, “I kin rili at mi we ɔda mama ɛn papa dɛn de luk wi pikin dɛn ɛn kɔl dɛn ‘bad pikin.’” In pikin dɛn ɔl tu gɛt ADHD. I se we pikin lɛk dis kin vɛks wantɛm wantɛm, vɛks, ɛn ala (a meltdown), dɛn kin rili tray fɔ tɛl wi aw dɛn de fil. Bɔt dɛn nɔ no aw fɔ du am. Wae dεn lan da mεtכd de, dεn pikin dεm de chenj di we dεn nכ kin imajin.
ADHD nɔ de divɛlɔp bikɔs ɔf "parental mistek"!
Dis na wan pan di big big mistek dɛn we pipul dɛn kin tink bɔt na di sosayti. We bɔku pipul dɛn si di bad we aw pikin de biev, dɛn kin pɔynt dɛn finga to di mama ɛn papa. Yu go dɔn yɛri stori dɛn lɛk "dɛn nɔ mɛn di pikin fayn fayn wan," "dɛn pamper am tumɔs," ɛn "nɔ kɔrɛkt am."
Bɔt masta sabi bukman dɛn se di men tin we kin mek pɔsin gɛt ADHD na di jɛnɛtiks . Dat min se, na tin we pɔsin kin gɛt frɔm dɛn gret gret granpa dɛn. Naw dɛn dɔn biliv tranga wan se dis sik nɔto bikɔs ɔf ɛni fɔlt we di mama ɔ papa gɛt.
Di stori bɔt wan mama we gɛt ilevin ia ol bɔy pikin we de sɔfa wit ADHD, ɔtizm, ɛn wɔri hat rili impɔtant.
"Bɔku pipul dɛn kin tink se ADHD na lɛbl we dɛn kin put pan pikin dɛn bad bad we. Bɔt i nɔto prɔblɛm we dɛn de mɛn pikin dɛn. Na dat na di big mistek we pipul dɛn kin tink bɔt ADHD."
Wan ɔda mama se, "Bɔku tin de mek mama ɛn papa shem dis. Pipul dɛn kin tink se, 'Yu go mɔs dɔn du sɔntin we nɔ rayt.' Wan ɔda mama bin tɛl mi se, ‘Yu go mɔs dɔn mek i wach bɔku TV we i bin smɔl.’ A bin tink se, 'Dat nɔ mek ɛni sɛns.'"
ADHD na rial sik.
Dis nɔto jok ɔ tin we dɛn mek. Dɔktɔ ɛn wɛlbɔdi biznɛs institiushɔn dɛn ɔlsay na di wɔl dɔn gri se dis na rial mɛrɛsin. Bɔt sɔm pipul dɛn stil de dawt bɔt am.
Wan mama sɛn in bɔy pikin we gɛt ADHD na wan kamp. Pan ɔl we i bin dɔn gi di ɔganayza dɛn advays bɔt aw fɔ kɔntrol in bɔy pikin in kɔndishɔn, nɔbɔdi nɔ bin biliv pan ADHD. Dis bin mek in pikin gɛt bɔku prɔblɛm dɛn na di kamp.
So if pipul dɛn we nɔ ɔndastand dis sityueshɔn lan bɔt am, dɛn go ebul fɔ luk dɛn pikin dɛn de wit sɔri-at. Dɔn, di pikin dɛn go fil se, "Di big pipul dɛn ɔndastand mi, dɛn de na mi sayd." Da trɔst de rili valyu to dɛn.
| Di rɔŋ we aw pipul dɛn de tink na di sosayti | Di tru tin bɔt mɛrɛsin |
|---|---|
| Dis na "bad bihayvya" we dɛn kin du bay wilful. | Nɔ, dis na sayn we kin kam bikɔs di nyurotransmitta dɛn we de na di bren de wok. |
| Dis na bikɔs di mama ɛn papa dɛn mek mistek. | Nɔ, di tin dɛn we de mek pɔsin gɛt ADHD mɔ na di jɛnɛtik ɛn di tin dɛn we de apin na di say we i de. Nɔto di mama ɛn papa dɛn fɔlt. |
| Yu kin fiks am bay we yu nak, kɔl am, ɛn pɔnish am. | Pɔnishmɛnt nɔ kin jɔs pwɛl di pikin in sɛf, bɔt i nɔ kin mɛn di sik dɛn bak. I kin ivin mek di tin wɔs. |
| Dɛn pikin ya les ɛn dɛn nɔ gɛt intres. | Dis nɔ kin bi bikɔs ɔf di bore, bɔt na bikɔs i nɔ kin izi fɔ di bren fɔ pe atɛnshɔn ɛn ɔganayz di wok dɛn we i fɔ du. |
Dis sityueshɔn nɔ go ebul fɔ fiks bay pɔnishmɛnt.
Fɔ saspɛnd am na skul fɔ pikin in bihayvya prɔblɛm nɔto tin we nɔ kɔmɔn na wi kɔntri. Wan mama se dɛn bin saspɛnd in bɔy pikin fɔ 10 dez insay tri mɔnt we i bin de na gred tɔd. I bin dɔn ɛksplen to di skul se di we aw in bɔy pikin bin de du tin pasmak ɛn di we aw i bin de du tin kwik kwik wan na pat pan in ADHD kɔndishɔn, bɔt dɛn nɔ bin ɔndastand.
"A wish se skul dɛm fɔ pe atɛnshɔn mɔ fɔ fɛn di kɔz fɔ di biɛvhɔ ɛn fɛn sɔlvishɔn fɔ am pas fɔ pɔnish am. Dɛn pikin dɛm de nɔ de lan natin bay we dɛn saspɛnd dɛn," na so i se. Sɔm ticha dɛn tink se fɔ "slap dɛn tranga wan" go pul dɛn bad abit ya. Bɔt dat kin jɔs mek di pikin in at pwɛl mɔ ɛn mɔ.
Di advays wae de gi mama ɛn papa wae de woke fɔ ɔlman nɔr de woke fɔ pikin dɛm wae gɛt ADHD
Ivin if wi mama ɛn papa mɛn wi di ol "du wetin a se" we, dɛn we dɛn de nɔ de wok we dɛn de mɛn pikin we gɛt ADHD. Wi nid fɔ rili peshɛnt ɛn chenj chenj we wi de tich di pikin. Wi nid fɔ go dɔŋ usay di pikin de ɛn tɔk to dɛn di we we dɛn ɔndastand.
Semweso, advays we go wok fɔ pikin we nɔ gɛt ADHD nɔ go wok fɔ dɛn pikin ya. Yu go dɔn yɛri advays dɛn lɛk, "Mi pikin nɔ go gro lɛk dat," ɔ "Tray fɔ mek stika chɔt." Pan ɔl we dis advays kin bi gud tin, i nɔ fit di nid fɔ pikin we gɛt ADHD.
Fɔ mɛn pikin we gɛt ADHD rili at.
Sɔm mama ɛn papa dɛn kin spɛn bɔku tɛm ɛn trɛnk fɔ tray fɔ mek wan rutin fɔ dɛn pikin ɔltɛm, fɔ du risach bɔt am, fɔ go to dɔktɔ dɛn, ɛn fɔ fɛn infɔmeshɔn na di intanɛt.
Wan mama bin tɔk se: “I rili taya.” "Sɔntɛnde ɔltin kin fil bad. A kin fil lɛk se a nɔ de du mi bɛst fɔ mi bɔy pikin, se a de fel. I so at fɔ bia da filin de."
"Ɛvride na nyu advantej. Dis joyn nɔ izi - bɔt wi kin win dis," na so wan ɔda mama se.
Di bɛst pat na dat , tɔk tɛrapi ɛn if nid de, mɛrɛsin we dɔktɔ gi yu pikin kin ɛp yu fɔ kɔntrol in ADHD. Dɔn bak, dɛn mek wan Individualized Education Plan (IEP) fɔ mit di pikin in lanin nid.Yu kin aks yu pikin in skul bɔt dis. Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ tɔk to yu famili dɔktɔ ɔ dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn bɔt ɔl dis.
Silva layn de insay ɛvri dak klawd.
Pan ɔl dɛn prɔblɛm ya, i kin mek yu tink se ADHD nɔto jɔs bad tin. Sɔm mama ɛn papa dɛn kin se dɛn pikin dɛn gɛt spɛshal tin dɛn we dɛn kin du bikɔs dɛn gɛt ADHD.
- Tink ausayd di bɔks
- Fɔ luk tin dɛn di nyu we
- Fɔ pe atɛnshɔn pasmak pan sɔntin we yu intres pan
Wan mama se: “Nɔbɔdi nɔ de tɔk bɔt di gud tin dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit ADHD.” "Dat na bikos wi edukeshon sistem and di wold no de fo akomoda di pipul we de autsaid di norm."
So, pan ɔl we yu ɔndastand di prɔblɛm dɛn we yu pikin gɛt, nɔ fɔgɛt fɔ gladi fɔ di spɛshal tin dɛn we i ebul fɔ du.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- ADHD nɔto di bad we aw pikin de biev ɔ di mama ɛn papa fɔlt. Na wan sik wae de sik wae de mɛk pɔrsin no bɔt wae de chenj wae di bren de wok.
- Pɔnishmɛnt nɔ go mɛn dis sik. Bifo dat, wetin di pikin nid na yu lɔv, ɔndastandin, ɛn sɔpɔt.
- Nɔto ɔl advays we de wok fɔ nɔmal pikin dɛn go wok fɔ pikin we gɛt ADHD. I impɔtant fɔ fɛn we we go wok fɔ yu pikin.
- If yu fil se dis joyn de taya, nɔ shem fɔ am. Aks fɔ ɛp. Tɔk to yu dɔktɔ ɔr tritmɛnt ɛn gɛt di rayt tritmɛnt ɛn advays savis.
- As yu de luk yu pikin in prɔblɛm dɛn, no ɛn gladi fɔ di spɛshal tin dɛn we i ebul fɔ du ɛn di tin dɛn we i ebul fɔ du.
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