Aw fɔ dil wit di bad we aw yu smɔl pikin de biev? (Toddler Behavior Management) Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis!

Oh, dis smol pikin dem no bi amazing? Aw bɔku nyu tin dɛn kin lan insay wan de, bɔku nyu gem dɛn kin bigin! Ɔltin na dɛn wɔl na nyu tin ɛn i ful-ɔp wit sɔprayz. Bɔt as dɛn de lan dɛn nyu tin ya, tɛm kin de we dɛn kin mek wi, dat na, mama ɛn papa, gɛt smɔl prɔblɛm. If yu gɛt smɔl pikin we nɔ fayn na os, sɔntɛm yu sabi dɛn tin ya. Tide, lɛ wi tɔk bɔt di we aw dɛn smɔl pikin ya de biev, wetin mek dɛn de biev di we aw dɛn de biev, ɛn aw wi kin gayd dɛn wit kol at ɛn wit lɔv dɛn tɛm dɛn de.

Wetin mek wi smɔl pikin dɛn kin so natin? Dis na nɔmal tin? (Ɔndastand di we aw di pikin dɛn we de smɔl smɔl de biev)

Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl we wi fɔ ɔndastand fɔs na dat i rili nɔmal fɔ mek smɔl pikin, we ol bitwin wan ɛn af ɛn tri to 4 ia, dat na, pikin we ol ‘Toddler’ ej , fɔ bi naf, fɔ traŋa, ɛn sɔntɛnde fɔ biev di we we go mek wi vɛks. Dis na pat pan dɛn growth, dat na, ‘Divɛlɔpmɛnt’ .

Jɔs tink bɔt dat, we dɛn ol dis ej dɛn kin bigin fɔ waka, rɔn, ɛn jomp fɔ dɛnsɛf. Dɛn kin tɔch ɔl wetin dɛn want, put am na dɛn mɔt, ɛn trowe am. Dis na tɛm we dɛn de fɛn dɛn ‘indipɛndɛns’ . Dɛn dɔn bigin fɔ gɛt di filin se "A kin du wetin a want." Dɔn bak, dɛn nɔr ebul yet fɔ kɔntrol ɔr sho aw dɛn de fil - gladi, sɔri, vɛks - fayn fayn wan. Dɛn nɔ no bɔku wɔd dɛn. So, dɛn kin sho dɛn filin ya di we aw dɛn no aw fɔ du am. Sɔntɛnde, i kin bi fɔ ala, fɔ rɔl na grɔn, ɔ fɔ trowe sɔntin.

Impɔtant: Bɔrku pan dɛn bihayvya ya na nɔmal stej dɛm fɔ di pikin in divɛlɔpmɛnt. Bɔt, dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ ignore dɛn ɔl. I impɔtant fɔ gayd di rayt we.

Wetin mek wi pikin dɛn kin biev dis kayn we? Wetin na di rizin dɛn?

Bɔku rizin dɛn de we mek pikin de biev wan patikyula we. We wi ɔndastand dɛn, i kin izi fɔ wi smɔl fɔ dil wit dɛn.

• Testing Boundaries: Yɔŋ pikin dɛn tan lɛk smɔl sayɛnsman dɛn. Dɛn kin de wɔnda ɔltɛm se, "Wetin go apin if a du dis?" "Mama go kɔl mi?" "A kin du dis?" Sɔntɛm dɛn de tɛst di say we yu nɔ ebul fɔ peshɛnt. Dis na di we aw dɛn de lan bɔt di wɔl.
• Fɔ mek yu pe atɛnshɔn to yu: Sɔntɛnde, pikin dɛn nɔ go biev fayn fɔ mek yu pe atɛnshɔn to dɛn. Dɛn ɔndastand se if dɛn mek nɔys ɔ muf sɔntin, mama ɛn papa go kam rɔn. If pipul dɛn pe atɛnshɔn to dɛn fɔ di bad we aw dɛn de biev, dɛn go tɛmpt dɛn fɔ du am bak ɛn bak.
• I nɔ kin izi fɔ sho wetin dɛn nid/Fil: Yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin gɛt prɔblɛm fɔ sho aw dɛn de fil, lɛk we dɛn angri, taya, vɛks, ɔ sɔri, tru wɔd dɛn. So dɛn kin sho dɛn filin ya tru di we aw dɛn de biev. Fɔ ɛgzampul, if yu kɛr yu pikin go na stɔ we i taya bad bad wan, i kin kray ɔ trowe.
• Divɛlɔpmɛnt fɔ di Bren:Yɔŋ pikin dɛn bren stil de divɛlɔp. Na di frɔnt lɔb , we na di pat pan di bren we de kɔntrol di we aw pɔsin de fil, we de tink di rayt we, ɛn we de ɛp dɛn fɔ disayd fɔ du sɔntin, nɔ kin rili divɛlɔp na dis ej. Na dat mek dɛn kin vɛks wantɛm wantɛm ɛn traŋa.
• Fɔ No ɛn Want fɔ Lan: Natin nɔ de fɔ mek yɔŋ pikin dɛn rili want fɔ no mɔ. Ɔltin na nyu tin to dɛn. Na dat mek dɛn de tɔch, pul, ɛn put ɔltin na dɛn mɔt. Dis na aw dɛn kin fɛn ɔltin na di wɔl.

Wetin wi go du fɔ ɛnkɔrej pipul dɛn fɔ biev fayn ɛn fɔ kɔntrol bad abit dɛn?

Okay, naw wi no wetin mek smɔl pikin dɛn de biev dis we. So, wetin wi go du fɔ mek dɛn biev fayn ɛn fɔ mek dɛn nɔ biev bad? Na sɔm advays dɛn ya:

1. Sɛt Klia Bɔnda dɛn

Pikin dɛn nid bɔda. I de mek dɛn fil sef ɛn ɛp dɛn fɔ ɔndastand aw di wɔl de wok.

• Sɛt simpul lɔ dɛn: Mek sɔm simpul lɔ dɛn we pɔsin kin ɔndastand, lɛk "Wi nɔ de trowe tɔys." "Wi nɔ de hit ɔda pipul dɛn."
• Bi kɔnsistɛns: Wan lɔ wan de ɛn ɔda wan di nɛks de nɔ de wok. Mama ɛn papa dɛn ɔl tu nid fɔ gri pan di sem lɔ dɛn. Di pikin nid fɔ no se dɛn lɔ ya de apin ɔltɛm.
• Bi gud bɔt yu strɔng: We dɛn brok wan lɔ, tɛl yu pikin wit kol at ɛn klia wan se i nɔ rayt, ɛn nɔ ala. "Sɔn/dota, wi nɔ de drɔ na di wɔl. Na wan pepa de fɔ yu fɔ drɔ pan."

2. Prez ɛn Ɛnkɔrej Gud Biɛvhɔ - Pozitiv Riinfɔsmɛnt

Dis na di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl! We yu pikin du gud tin, mek shɔ se yu si am ɛn gladi fɔ am.

• Gi spɛshal prez: "Yu put di tɔys dɛn fayn fayn wan, dat na fayn tin!", wit wetin di pikin du fayn. Dis kin wok pas fɔ jɔs se "gud bɔy."
• Apres ivin di smɔl smɔl tin dɛn: Ilɛksɛf yu pikin lisin to sɔntin we yu de tɔk ɛn peshɛnt, gladi fɔ am.
• Wit bɔdi lɔv: We prez de wit smɔl ɔg, kis, ɔ pat na in ed, di pikin kin fil am mɔ.

Dis we fɔ du ‘Positiv Riinfɔsmɛnt’ kin rili wok fayn.

3. Di At fɔ Distrakshɔn

We smɔl pikin de tray fɔ nɔ obe, i kin rili ɛp fɔ mek i pe atɛnshɔn to ɔda tin kwik kwik wan.

• Ɛgzampul: Imajin se yu smɔl pikin de kray we i de aks fɔ tɔys na wan stɔ. Da tɛm de, tray fɔ pul in atɛnshɔn kwik kwik wan bay we yu se, "O, luk da fayn fayn bɔd de na do!" Ɔ, se sɔntin lɛk, "Wi go go na os ɛn lisin to yu fav siŋ?"
• Dis ‘distraction’ mεtכd de wok wכnd, spεshal wan we i yכng.

4. Gi di tin dɛn we yu go pik

We pikin dɛn fil lɛk se dɛn gɛt kɔntrol, dɛn nɔ kin du tin we dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol.

• Gi dɛn simpul tin fɔ disayd: "Yu want fɔ drink frɔm di rɛd kɔp ɔ di blu kɔp?" "Wi go ple dis gem o dat gem?" Bɔt stɔp di tin dɛn we yu go pik fɔ du to tu ɔ tri. If yu giv dem tu moch, dem go get konfuz.
• Dis kin mek dɛn ebul fɔ disayd bak.

5. Kɔnsistɛns na di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl!

Di lɔ dɛn we yu kin mek ɛn di ansa dɛn we yu kin gi fɔ bi di sem ɔltɛm. If yu ansa wan we tide ɛn ɔda we tumara, di pikin go kɔnfyus.

• Mama, papa, ɛn ɔda big pipul dɛn na di os ɔl fɔ fala dɛn lɔ ya di sem we.
• Kɔnsistɛns na sɔntin we de mek pikin dɛn fil sef ɛn ɛp dɛn fɔ lan bɔt di wɔl.

Wetin yu kin du we dɛn tantrum dɛn de kam?

A, dis na wan pan di big big prɔblɛm dɛn we bɔku mama ɛn papa dɛn kin gɛt! Fɔ vɛks na tin we kin apin na di wɔl fɔ yɔŋ pikin dɛn. Bɔt wetin wi kin du we dɛn du dat?

1. Stay calm: Dis kin izi fɔ tɔk pas fɔ du. Bɔt if yu vɛks, yu pikin kin vɛks mɔ ɛn mɔ. Tek dip briz ɛn tray fɔ mek yusɛf kol. Mɛmba se dis nɔto sɔntin we yu pikin de du to yu bay wilful, na sɔntin we kin apin bikɔs dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol aw dɛn de fil.

2. Mek shɔ se di pikin sef: If di pikin de strɛs di we we go ambɔg insɛf (e.g., fɔ nak in ed na grɔn), kɛr am go na say we sef. Rimov tin dɛn we shap ɛn tin dɛn we kin brok.

3. Nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to di Biɛvhɔ, Nɔto di Pikin: If di pikin sef, sɔntɛnde di bɛst tin fɔ du na fɔ ignore di bihayvya. If yu pe atɛnshɔn to am, i go mɔs bi se i go apin bak. Bɔt, nɔ lɛf di pikin in wan kpatakpata. Mek dɛn no se yu de de ɛn yu rɛdi fɔ tɔk we dɛn kol.

4. Afta di tantrum: We di pikin dɔn kol, ol am ɛn tɔk to am wit lɔv. Se sɔntin lɛk, "Yu rili vɛks, nɔto so?" ɛn mek i no se yu ɔndastand aw i de fil. Bɔt, nɔ gi am wetin i aks fɔ (nɔ mek i win di tantrum).

5. Tray fɔ mek yu nɔ vɛks bifo i apin: If i tan lɛk se yu pikin taya ɔ angri, mit dɛn nid dɛn de kwik kwik wan. Sɔntɛnde, pipul dɛn kin vɛks fɔ smɔl rizin dɛn lɛk dɛn wan ya.

Wan smɔl stori: Imajin se yu de na supamakit, ɛn yu pikin aks fɔ chɔklɛt wantɛm wantɛm ɛn rol na grɔn. Pipul dɛn de wach. Yu de shem bad bad wan ɛn yu vɛks. Bɔt if yu ala ɛn nak di pikin da tɛm de, di tin go jɔs wɔs. As kol as yu ebul, tek di pikin ɛn waka go. Se sɔntin lɛk, "No chɔklɛt naw, mi pikin, lɛ wi go na os ɛn it." If i kɔntinyu fɔ kray, ilɛk wetin ɔda pipul dɛn tink, yu tinap tranga wan.

Aw wi as mama ɛn papa go kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt kol at? (Parental Self-Care) we mama ɛn papa dɛn kin kia fɔ dɛnsɛf)

Dis na tin bak we rili impɔtant. We wi de kia fɔ pikin dɛn ɛn dil wit dɛn bad bad tin dɛn, wi kin taya ɛn vɛks bak. Wi nid fɔ kia fɔ wisɛf bak.

• Tek tɛm blo fɔ yusɛf: Sɛt smɔl tɛm ɛvride fɔ yusɛf. Du sɔntin we yu lɛk.
• Aks fɔ ɛp: Nɔ fred fɔ aks fɔ ɛp frɔm yu patna, fambul, ɛn padi dɛn.
• Slip: Gɛt bɔku slip as yu ebul. We yu nɔ de slip fayn, dat kin mek yu vɛks mɔ.
• Ɛksesaiz: Fɔ du ivin smɔl ɛksesaiz kin rili fayn fɔ mek yu maynd gɛt wɛlbɔdi.
• Mɛmba se nɔto yu wangren de: ɔl mama ɛn papa kin go tru dɛn tin ya.

Ustɛm fɔ aks fɔ advays to dɔktɔ?

Pan ɔl we bɔku tɛm dɛn kayn tin ya kin apin to yɔŋ pikin dɛn, sɔm tɛm dɛn de we i kin nid fɔ go to dɔktɔ ɔ dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn we de mɛn dɛn maynd fɔ advays.

• If di pikin de biev bɔku tɛm insay wan we we rili agresiv (i de bit ɔda pipul dɛn, bit am, pwɛl tin dɛn).
• If di pikin tray fɔ du bad to insɛf.
• If di pikin in bihayvya de ambɔg in wok we i de du ɛvride (it, slip, ple).
• If di we aw yu pikin de biev de mek di ɔda pipul dɛn na di famili strɛs, ɛn yu nɔ go ebul fɔ tek am igen.
• If yu tink se yu pikin gɛt dilɛy fɔ divɛlɔp (dilɛj fɔ tɔk, sɔshal prɔblɛm).

If na so i bi, go to yu famili dɔktɔ. I kin rifer yu to di rayt spɛshal dɔktɔ, fɔ ɛgzampul, dɔktɔ we de stɔdi bɔt pikin dɛn maynd ɔ dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn we de gro . Nɔ fred, fɔ aks fɔ ɛp nɔto sayn fɔ se yu wik.

Di impɔtant tin dɛn we wi nid fɔ mɛmba (Take-Home Message) .

Fɔ mɛn pikin nɔ kin izi. I tan lɛk we pɔsin de rayd rɔla kɔsta; gladi gladi, lɔv de de, bɔt de bak we yu taya ɛn vɛks.

Mɛmba:

* Bɔku pan di bad bad tin dɛn we yu pikin kin du na nɔmal tin we kin mek i gro.

* Lɔv, peshɛnt, ɛn kɔnsistɛns na yu bɛst wɛpɔn dɛn.

* Prez ɛn ɛnkɔrej yu fɔ biev fayn.

* Sɛt klia bɔda dɛn, ɛn kɔnsistɛns wit dɛn.

* Tray fɔ de kwayɛt we yu de vɛks.

* Tek kia ɔf yusɛf. Yu kin jɔs kia fɔ yu pikin gud gud wan if yu wɛl.

* Nɔ shem fɔ aks fɔ ɛp if nid de.

Ɛni tɛm we yu spɛn wit yu smɔl pikin, na sɔntin we valyu. Dɛn kin gro ɔp so fast. So, aksept dis naughty taim as wan fayn pat fo dem growth en mek yu fain di strength fo guide dem wit lov!

Toddler Biheviour, Parenting, Disiplin, Tantrum, Pikin Divɛlɔpmɛnt