Yu rili de fred fɔ lɛ yu lɛk pɔsin? Mek wi tok abaut Philophobia!

Lɔv na fayn tin, nɔto so? Bɔt fɔ sɔm pipul dɛn, we dɛn tink bɔt fɔ lɛk dɛnsɛf ɔ fɔ bigin fɔ gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit dɛnsɛf, dat kin mek dɛn fred ɛn strɛs. Yu dɔn ɛva fil da we de? If na so i bi, dis kin bi yu. Wi kin kɔl dis kɔndishɔn philophobia.

Wetin na Filophobia?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, Filophobia na fɔ fred pasmak, we nɔ kɔmɔn fɔ lɛk pɔsin. I nɔ jɔs min se, ‘O, a nɔ lɛk lɔv.’ Na wan fred we dip pasmak, we rili strɔng. Dis frayd kin mek i nɔr kin izi, ɛn sɔmtɛm nɔr kin izi fɔ sɔm pipul dɛm fɔ mek ɛn kip padi biznɛs wit lɔv. "Filos" na di Grik wɔd fɔ pɔsin we dɛn lɛk. "Phobos" min fɔ fred. So we dɛn tu tin ya kam togɛda, di minin fɔ ‘frayd fɔ lɛk’ kin kam.

Tink bɔt, di fɔs Kwin na Ingland insay istri, we nem Ɛlizabɛt, nɔ ɛva mared, ɛn dɛn bin no am as di ‘Vɛjin Kwin.’ Sɔm pipul dɛn biliv se i bin gɛt dis sik bak we i bin de tink bɔt we i nɔ lɛk fɔ lan bɔt ɔda pipul dɛn.

So wetin na fɔbia?

Naw yu go de wɔnda, ‘Wetin na dis fred?’ Fɔ fred na fɔ fred pasmak, nɔrmal fɔ tin dɛm wae nɔr go kɔz wi ɛni rial bad tin. Dɛn tin ya na rili prɔblɛm dɛn we kin mek pɔsin wɔri . Filofobia na wan patikyula sik we de mek pipul dɛn fred . Dat min se yu de fred wan patikyula tin, di tink bɔt fɔ lɛk pɔsin dis tɛm, ɔ sɔntin lɛk dat.

Aw kɔmɔn tin fɔ lɛ pɔsin nɔ lɛk ɔda pipul dɛn?

I at fɔ tɔk ɛksaktɔli ɔmɔs pipul dɛn gɛt philophobia. Bɔrku pipul kin kip dɛn frayd to dɛnsɛf ɔr nɔr kin ivin no se dɛn gɛt am. Bɔt wi no se lɛk 1 pan ɛvri 10 big pipul dɛn ɛn 1 pan ɛvri 5 yɔŋ pipul dɛn na Amɛrika go dil wit wan patikyula fred sɔm tɛm na dɛn layf. So philophobia kin bi wan pan dɛn.

Udat de pan denja fɔ gɛt filophobia?

Dɛn kin se uman dɛn kin gɛt dɛn kayn tin ya we kin mek dɛn fred. Bɔku ɔda tin dɛn de bak we kin mek pɔsin gɛt dis sik:

• Famili istri: If yu dɔn si yu mama ɛn papa ɔ pɔsin we de nia yu gɛt wan sik we de mek yu fred ɔ wɔri, yu go gɛt dis kayn fred. Jɔs lɛk aw mama de fred spayda, na so in pikin kin fred spayda mɔ.
• Jɛnɛtik inflɔwɛns: Sɔm risach dɔn sho se sɔm pipul dɛn gɛt difrɛn kayn jɛnɛtiks we kin mek dɛn gɛt prɔblɛm wit wɔri ɛn fred.
• Fɔ gɛt ɔda tin dɛn we de mek yu fred: Na kɔmɔn tin fɔ gɛt pas wan tin we de mek yu fred. Sɔmbɔdi we de fred fɔ lɛk pɔsin kin fred bak fɔ kɔmit (dɛn kɔl dis gamophobia) , fred fɔ lɛ dɛn nɔ gri fɔ tek am, ɔ fɔ fred fɔ lɛ dɛn lɛf am.

Wetin mek a de fred fɔ lɛk pɔsin so?

Tink bɔt am, wetin mek pɔsin go fred sɔntin we fayn lɛk lɔv? Bɔku tɛm, we yu luk di rut fɔ dis fred, yu kin tray fɔ no bɔt wan bad bad tin we bin apin to yu we yu bin smɔl . Filophobia tan lɛk we pɔsin de du sɔntin we de protɛkt pɔsin . If yu nɔr alaw yusɛf fɔ lɛk pɔrsin, yu sabkɔshɛns kin tink se yu de sev yusɛf frɔm pwɛl hat ɛn frɔm pen.

Na sɔm tin dɛn we kin mek pɔsin nɔ lɛk ɔda pipul dɛn:

• Bad padi biznɛs we dɛn bin dɔn gɛt trade: Imajin wan pikin we bin de wach dɛn mama ɛn papa we de fɛt ɔ dayvɔs we i bin smɔl. Ɔ mama ɔ papa we day, lɛf, ɔ we dɛn bin de trit bad we i bin smɔl... I kin rili at fɔ mek pikin we dɔn ɛkspiriɛns dɛn tin ya lɛk ɔda pipul dɛn. Na di sem tin kin apin to big pipul dɛn. If wan padi biznɛs we dɛn bin dɔn gɛt trade na fɔ nɔ fetful to dɛn, dayvɔs, fɔ trit dɛn bad, ɔ fɔ lɛf dɛn, i nɔ go sɔprayz fɔ no se dɛn de fred fɔ lɛk dɛnsɛf bak. Imajin, Nimali in fɔs bɔyfrɛn bin rili fil bad. Afta dat, i kin wɔri ɛn fred we i tink bɔt fɔ bigin padi biznɛs bak.

• Fɔ fred se dɛn nɔ go gri fɔ tek yu ɔ lɛf yu: If wan pan yu mama ɛn papa bin lɛf yu we yu bin smɔl, dat kin bi rizin bak fɔ mek yu fred fɔ lɛk yu. We padi ɛn patna dɛn nɔ gri wit yu ɔltɛm we yu dɔn big, yu kin fred fɔ lɛk yu. Yu kin fil lɛk se ‘sɔmbɔdi go lɛf mi ɛni we.’

• Di tin dɛn we de mɔna pipul dɛn na dɛn kɔlchɔ ɔ rilijɔn: Sɔm kɔlchɔ dɛn nɔ kin tink bɛtɛ bɔt lɔv, ɛn dɛn kin arenj fɔ arenj mared. Yu kin fred fɔ lɛk yu bikɔs yu fil se yu nɔ gɛt rayt fɔ pik yu patna. Dɔn bak, if yu na LGBTQ+, yu kin fred fɔ lɛk pɔsin if yu rilijɔn ɔ kɔlchɔ de agens di rileshɔnship. Fɔ fred se sosayti go pul yu kɔmɔt nia yu ɛn yu famili nɔ go gri fɔ tek yu.

• Disinhibited Social Engagement Disorder (DSED): Pikin we nɔ de gɛt di atɛnshɔn, lɔv, ɛn tɛnki we dɛn nid frɔm in mama ɛn papa ɔ ɔda big pipul dɛn we dɛn kin abop pan as pikin kin fred fɔ lɛk am as i de gro. Dɛn kayn pikin dɛn de kin gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit strenja dɛn pas di wan dɛn we dɛn lɛk. DSED na wan kayn Riaktiv Atɛshmɛnt Disɔda .

Wetin na di sayn dɛm wae de sho se pɔrsin nɔr de fil fayn?

Dis kin afɛkt pipul dɛn we de fred fɔ lɛk dɛn difrɛn we dɛn. Yu kin gɛt dɛn tin ya:

• Klos, tayt padi biznɛs kin bi sɔntin we nɔ pɔsibul.
• We yu de na rileshɔnship , yu kin fil bɔku wɔri , ɛn yu kin wɔri ɔltɛm se di rileshɔnship go dɔn.
• Yu kin fred fɔ yu patna ɔ aw dɛn de fil .
• Dɛn kin push pipul dɛn fɔ go fa ɔ dɛn kin dɔn padi biznɛs wantɛm wantɛm .

We yu gɛt filin fɔ lɛk yu, yu kin gɛt sɔm kayn sik dɛn bak na yu bɔdi lɛk:

• Diziz we pɔsin kin gɛt
• Dray mɔt
• Fɔ fil bad bad wan ɔ fɔ fred
• Nɔs, vɔmit, ɔ dayarɛa
• Bɔku bɔku swet
• Fɔ blo kwik kwik wan ɛn fɔ mek yu at rit
• Fɔ shek ɔ shek shek
• Shot we yu de blo

Aw fɔ no di we aw pipul dɛn de tink bɔt filɔf?

So, aw dɔktɔ dɛn kin no if pɔsin de fred filɔ? Di American Psychiatric Association gɛt wan gayd we dɛn kɔl di Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). Mental hεlth prכfεshכn dεm lεk saykכlכjist dεm kin yuse am fכ no fכ fכm bay di sayn dεm εn aw dεn de afekt yu layf.

Dɔktɔ dɛn kin yuz dɛn krayteria ya fɔ no wan patikyula fred lɛk filophobia:

• Fɔ fred ɔltɛm fɔ lɛk pɔsin we kin las fɔ at le siks mɔnt .
• Wan strɔng frayd ɔ wɔri we kin kam we yu fil lɛk se yu lɛk am.
• Di sayn dɛm wae de sho se yu nɔr de fil fayn kin apun wae yu de fes pɔrsin wae yu lɛk.
• Nɔ gi ɔ gɛt lɔv bikɔs wɔri ɔ fred de mek yu want fɔ du sɔntin.
• Bɔrku sayn dɛm wae de ambɔg di ebul fɔ mek pɔrsin gɛt minin, tayt padi biznɛs.

Aw dɛn kin trit filophobia?

So yu tink se no tritmɛnt nɔ de fɔ dis? Fɔ tru, i de. Wan tritmɛnt we dɛn kɔl Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) kin ɛp yu fɔ pul di filophobia. Dis na wan kayn saykotɛrapi. Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, na tritmɛnt fɔ tɔk. I de ɛp yu fɔ no di tin dɛn we yu de tink ɛn biev we de mek yu fred fɔ lɛk pɔsin.

Yu kin bɛnifit bak frɔm wan kayn tritmɛnt we dɛn kɔl Systemic Desensitization Therapy . Dɛn se ɛksposhɔn tɛrapi kin ɛp pas 90% pan pipul dɛm wae gɛt sɔm kayn frayd frayd sik.

Dis na aw i de wok:

• Dɛn go tich yu fɔ manej yu sik dɛn bay we yu de yuz rilaks tɛknik lɛk fɔ du dip briz ɛn fɔ tink gud wan.
• Smɔl smɔl yu kin gɛt di aidia bɔt lɔv . Fɔs, yu kin tink bɔt am, dɔn yu kin tɔk bɔt am, dɔn dɛn kin mek yu fes smɔl smɔl tin dɛn.
• I de gi yu prɛktikal wok dɛn we go ɛp yu fɔ yus fɔ gi ɛn gɛt lɔv.

Wetin na di prɔblɛm dɛn we kin apin we pɔsin nɔ lɛk ɔda pipul dɛn?

Wetin go apin if wi lɛf dis fred fɔ lɛk pɔsin? Layf we nɔ gɛt lɔv kin afɛkt yu bɔdi ɛn maynd wɛlbɔdi. Dis kin mek yu gɛt tin dɛn lɛk dɛn tin ya:

• Wae yu kin wɔri, pwɛl hat, ɔr pɔrsin wae gɛt panik.
• Fɔ man, na erectile dysfunction.
• Pɔst-Traumatik Strɛs Disɔda (PTSD).
• Dizayd fɔ Yuz Sɔbstans.

Ustɛm yu fɔ go to dɔktɔ?

Yu fɔ rili go to dɔktɔ if yu gɛt ɛni wan pan dɛn tin ya:

• Panik atak dɛn de kam.
• If yu gɛt pwɛl hat ɔltɛm wae de ambɔg yu ɛvride layf ɔr slip.
• If yu gɛt sayn dɛm fɔ pwɛl hat ɔr prɔblɛm wit sɔm kayn mɛrɛsin .

Wetin a fɔ aks mi dɔktɔ?

We yu go to dɔktɔ, yu kin aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk dɛn wan ya:

• Wetin mek a gɛt dis fred?
• Wetin na di bɛst tritmɛnt fɔ mi?
• A fɔ tray fɔ tek saykotɛrapi?
• Aw lɔng a go nid tɛrapi?
• Yu tink se mɛrɛsin go ɛp?

Fɔ dɔn, mɛmba...

Na nɔmal tin fɔ mek wi ɔl tray fɔ protɛkt wisɛf frɔm bad ɛn pen. Bɔt if yu fred fɔ lɛk de mek yu gɛt prɔblɛm wit yu bɔdi ɔ yu maynd, ɔ i de afɛkt yu ebul fɔ mek padi biznɛs, na de di prɔblɛm bigin.

Fɔ gi ɛn gɛt lɔv fɔ bi sɔntin we de mek pɔsin gladi.

We yu de fred fɔ lɛk pɔsin bikɔs yu nɔ lɛk ɔda pipul dɛn, yu wɔl kin fil se yu wangren de. Bɔt mɛmba se yu kin lan fɔ dil wit dis frayd tru tin dɛn lɛk CBT ɛn desensitization therapy . As tɛm de go, yu go ebul fɔ gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit yu patna, yu fambul, ɛn padi dɛn we gɛt lɔv. Nɔ sɔfa yu wan, aks fɔ ɛp. Nɔto yu wan de.

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