Imajin se yu de tray fɔ lɛf fɔ smok, ɔ yu de tray fɔ lɛf fɔ it bɔku bɔku it ɛn bigin fɔ du ɛksasaiz . Yu rili want fɔ du am. Bot den yu mek wan smol mistek and yu laik, "Oh, a no fit du dis..."? Da tɛm de, di we aw yu de tɔk to yusɛf kin chenj yu wan ol waka. I kin mek yu want fɔ du sɔntin ɔ i kin mek yu at pwɛl atɔl.
Di pawa we di we aw yu de tɔk to yusɛf gɛt.
Lɛ wi tɔk smɔl bɔt wan stɔdi we dɛn bin du pan dis. Dɛn bin gi wan grup we de ple wata polo wan nyu skil fɔ praktis. Dɛn bin tɛl wan grup fɔ tɔk fayn tin to dɛnsɛf we dɛn de du am. Dat min tin dɛn lɛk, "A kin du dis," ɛn "A gud." Di ɔda grup bin de praktis nɔmal wan ɛn dɛn nɔ bin de tɔk natin.
Di tin dɛn we bin apin bin rili wɔndaful. Di pleya dɛn we bin de fid dɛn bren fayn fayn tin dɛn bin impɔtant pas di ɔda wan dɛn. Dɛn nɔ bin gɛt bɛtɛ tin dɛn bak we dɛn nɔ bin want na dɛn maynd. Dis bin mek dɛn ebul fɔ pe atɛnshɔn mɔ pan wetin dɛn bin de lan.
So we yu si se yu de tink bɔt bad, bad tin dɛn , aw yu go ridayrɛkt yu maynd to gud, gud dairekshɔn? Lɛ wi luk sɔm we dɛn we go ɛp yu fɔ du dat.
Yu kin tɔk to yusɛf lɛk yu padi?
Imajin yu bes padi, mek wi se im nem na ‘Kasun’, de rili veks se somtin go rong. Yu de kɔl am? Yu de du am bad mɔ bay we yu se, "Yu nɔ go ivin du dat rayt"? Nɔ, nɔto so? Wetin yu du na fɔ mek i biliv tranga wan bay we yu se, "I nɔ bad, man, na so i bi. Lɛ wi tray bak," nɔto so?
Bɔt we wi de tɔk to wisɛf, bɔku tɛm wi kin du di kɔmɔn tin. We smɔl tin nɔ apin, wi kin blem wisɛf. Wi kin tink tin dɛn lɛk, "A nɔ go ɛva ebul fɔ du dis," "A so les." If di vɔys we de insay yu ed tan lɛk pɔsin we yu nɔ go ɛva want fɔ de nia, na tɛm fɔ chenj da vɔys de.
Di nɛks tɛm we yu si se yu de blem yusɛf, tink se: "If mi bɛst padi bin de wit mi rayt naw, us kayn tin a go tɛl am?" Semweso, tɔk to yusɛf saful wan ɛn fayn, jɔs lɛk aw yu go tɔk to pɔsin we yu lɛk .
If di advays we yu de gi yusɛf nɔ fayn fɔ gi yu bɛst padi, da advays de nɔ go fayn fɔ yu bak.
Rayt yu sakrifays dɛn! Dat na big big trɛnk.
We wi de fil bad, i kin izi fɔ fɔgɛt ɔl di gud tin dɛn we wi dɔn wok tranga wan fɔ du. Imajin se yu de tray fɔ lɛf fɔ it bɔku bɔku it dɛn. If yu gɛt smɔl wet wan de, yu go tink se, “O, ɔl wetin a dɔn wok tranga wan fɔ lɔng tɛm dɔn west.”
Bɔt if yu rayt yu sakrifays , dat na di prɔgrɛs we yu dɔn mek, sɔmsay, yu gɛt pruf we pɔsin kin si fɔ di tray we yu de tray.
I fayn fɔ kip yu wet, bɔt i nɔ go du fɔ yu, mɔ if yu gɛt bɔku wet fɔ lɔs.
So, gɛt di abit fɔ rayt sɔm ɔda tin dɛn. Fɔ ɛgzampul:
- Aw lɔng yu bin de du ɛksɛsayz fɔ wan de?
- Yu nɔ bin it brɛf ?
- Yu bin go na di jim?
- Di nɔmba we yu pik fɔ it frut instead fɔ it biskit.
We yu rayt dɛn smɔl smɔl tin dɛn de, we bad tin kam na yu maynd ɛn yu de tray fɔ sabotaj yusɛf, yu kin tek da buk de ɛn luk am. Den yu go si, "Aw many gud tins a don du?" Yu kin gladi fɔ dɛn ɔl.
‘Mistek’ na jɔs ‘fidbak’ fɔ lan!
Yu go mɔs dɔn yɛri di wɔd we se, "No failure, only feedback ." Wetin i min na dat, we sɔntin nɔ go yu we, instead fɔ de tink bɔt am, luk am ɔbjɛktiv wan ɛn nɔ gɛt filin.
Lɛ wi luk wan ɛgzampul: Yu dɔn gɛt lɛk wan kilo.
- Failure Response: "Oh my god, dis wik na disasta. A nɔ go ɛva gɛt skinny."
- Positiv Fidbak Rispɔns: "Hmm... A dɔn gɛt smɔl wet. I go bi se na bikɔs di soya sos we a bin gɛt fɔ dina las nɛt bin tu sɔl. A go gɛt fɔ avɔyd dat nɛks wik."
Yu ɔndastand di difrɛns? Di fɔs wan de mek yu at pwɛl. Di sɛkɔn wan de mek yu lan frɔm di mistek we yu mek.
Fɔ ɔndastand dis kɔnsɛpt mɔ, lɛ wi luk tu maynd we wan sayɛnsman we nem Karɔl S. Dwɛk we de stɔdi bɔt pɔsin in maynd bin tɔk bɔt.
| Wetin yu de tink | Biliv |
|---|---|
| Fiks Mindset we Nɔ De | Di biliv se pɔsin nɔ go ebul fɔ chenj in kwaliti dɛn, di tin dɛn we i ebul fɔ du, ɔ di tin dɛn we i sabi du. Fɔ ɛgzampul: "A na naturally les, ɛn a nɔ go ebul chenj dat." |
| Di we aw pipul dɛn de tink bɔt aw fɔ gro | Di biliv se a kin tray ɔltɛm ɛn impɔtant. Ex: "Ivin as a les likl, a kin bi aktif if a trai." |
Di sɛkɔn maynd na di wan we de mek op ɔltɛm. We yu pul di aidia bɔt ‘mistek’ pan yu gol, ɔl wetin yu lɛf wit na fɔ gɛt sakrifays ɛn fɔ lan .
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- We yu de tɔk to yusɛf, tɔk fayn ɛn saful wan, jɔs lɛk aw yu go tɔk to yu bɛst padi.
- Rayt nɔto jɔs big gol dɛm, bɔt ivin di smɔl smɔl win dɛm we yu kin ajɔst ɛvride (e.g. it wan pis frut) ɛn gladi fɔ dɛm.
- If sɔntin nɔ go fayn, nɔ si am as ‘mistek’, bɔt na ‘fidbak’ fɔ lan frɔm fɔ di fyuchu.
- Ɔltɛm gɛt ‘Growth Mindset’. Dat min se, biliv se ɛnitin kin bɛtɛ if yu tray tranga wan.
- If bad tin dɛn de ambɔg yu ɛvride layf, nɔ ɛva shem fɔ tɔk to yu dɔktɔ bɔt dat.
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