Yu de si ɔltin wit op? Ɔ na we yu nɔ gɛt op? Mek wi tok abaut dis (Optimism)!

Aw yu de tide? Tek smɔl tɛm fɔ stɔp fɔ rid dis atikul ɛn tink bɔt sɔm pan di tin dɛn we apin to yu tide. If i pɔsibul, grap pen ɛn pepa ɛn rayt sɔm spɛshal tin dɛn we yu mɛmba. Mek wi si wetin yu de rayt.

So, wetin yu bin tink? Yu tink se yu de bin ful-ɔp wit gud tin dɛn mɔ? Sɔntin lɛk, “Tide na bin fayn de! Grɔnma bin mek brɛf. A bin de wit mi padi dɛn na skul, ɛn tide in Inglish tɛm bin rili bad!” Ɔ yu maynd bin de waka waka go na di rɔng ples dɛn? Somtin laik, "Granma mek brekfas and a let, and a mis di bus. Mi padi dem spend lanch taim de rid abaut di sem boring TV sho. Tide na Inglish! A no laik Thursday at ol!”? Bɔku sɛns de fɔ tink dis we.

Wetin na fɔ gɛt op ɛn fɔ nɔ gɛt op?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, fɔ gɛt op ɛn fɔ nɔ gɛt op na tu we dɛn fɔ luk tin ɛn tink. Di tu we aw wi de tink .

Pɔsin we gɛt op kin si di brayt say fɔ tin ɔltɛm. Dɛn de op se ɔltin go go fayn. Dɛn biliv bak se dɛn gɛt di talɛnt ɛn di ebul fɔ mek gud tin apin. Dɛn kin gɛt filin ɔltɛm se, "O, a kin fiks dis."

Bɔt wi kin kɔl pipul dɛn we de fɛn fɔlt pan ɔltin, we de si ɔltin insay blak ɛn wayt, “pessimists.” Bɔku tɛm, pɔsin we nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ op kin tink se tin go rɔng, ɔ dɛn kin tink ɔltɛm bɔt tin dɛn we nɔ go fayn. Dɛn kin tink ɔltɛm se, “Dis nɔ go wok.”

Bɔt na di tin ya. Nɔn pan wi nɔ kin gɛt op ɔltɛm ɔ nɔ kin gɛt op ɔltɛm. Bɔt wi ɔl kin ledɔm smɔl mɔ pan wan pan dɛn tu we ya fɔ tink. Di gud nyus na dat, ilɛksɛf yu de na di say we nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ op, yu nɔ nid fɔ de da we de ɔltɛm! Wi ɔl kin chenj di we aw wi de si tin smɔl ɛn gɛt op smɔl. Na sɔntin we wi kin lan.

Wetin mek fɔ tink gud wan rili fayn fɔ yu?

Risach pipul dɛn, dat na sayɛnsman dɛn, dɔn de stɔdi bɔt pipul dɛn we gɛt op fɔ lɔng tɛm. Dɛn se we wi de tink gud wan, dat kin ɛp wi fɔ gɛt gladi-at , fɔ gɛt sakrifays na layf, ɛn ivin gɛt wɛlbɔdi.

Jɔs tink bɔt, we yu tink gud wan, dat de gi yu dɛn bɛnifit dɛn ya:

• Mental hεlth : Optimism na diprεshכn , dat na, ``( diprεshכnI tan lɛk shild we kin protɛkt yu frɔm tin dɛn lɛk ``(Depression)``. Sɔntɛm yu de pan risk fɔ gɛt ``(Diprɛshɔn)``, bɔt fɔ tink gud wan kin ɛp fɔ mek yu nɔr gɛt am.
• Stress Resilience: We yu gɛt optimistic outlook, yu kin gɛt bɔku trɛnk fɔ bia wit di prɛshɔn dɛm na layf, dat na, ``Stress.`` We prɔblɛm kam, yu nɔ kin panik, bɔt yu kin luk am difrɛn we.
• Lɔng layf: Nɔr sɔprayz, dɛn dɔn si se fɔ tink gud wan kin ɛp pipul dɛn fɔ liv lɔng ɛn ɛp dɛn fɔ liv lɔng. Dat min se na di men tin fɔ liv wɛlbɔdi layf ɛn gladi at.
• Lan fɔ bi gud tin: Di bɛst pat pan ɔl dis na dat yu kin lan fɔ tink gud wan, ilɛksɛf di we aw yu de tink kin lɛk fɔ tink bɔt di bad tin dɛn. Na sɔntin we pɔsin kin tren.

“Fɔ gɛt op nɔto jɔs we fɔ tink, na di men tin fɔ mek yu gɛt wɛlbɔdi.”

Aw pipul dɛn we gɛt op ɛn we nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ op kin si tin dɛn we de apin?

Fɔ gɛt op nɔto jɔs fɔ si di gud say fɔ tin, ɔ fɔ ɛkspɛkt gud tin. Na we fɔ tink bɔt, fɔ intaprit, sɔntin we dɔn ɔlrɛdi apin.

Tink bɔt am dis we. We sɔntin gud apin , pipul dɛn we gɛt op kin tink bɔt wetin dɛn du fɔ mek i so gud. Dɛn kin si di tin dɛn we dɛn ebul fɔ du as tin dɛn we go de sote go ɛn we nɔ de chenj. Dɛn kin tink bak bɔt aw dɛn gud tin ya kin mek di rod fɔ gɛt mɔ gud tin dɛn. Fɔ ɛgzampul, if dɛn pas ɛgzam fayn fayn wan, pɔsin we gɛt op go tink se, “A pas bikɔs a bin de stɔdi tranga wan. A kin ebul fɔ du dɛn tin ya. Dis go ɛp mi fɔ gɛt bɛtɛ wok.”

Bɔt, we tin nɔ de go lɛk aw dɛn bin dɔn plan , ɔda say de fɔ am. Pipul dɛn we gɛt op nɔ de blem dɛnsɛf. Dɛn kin si se tin dɛn we kin mek dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du natin as sɔntin we kin apin fɔ shɔt tɛm . We mistek apin, pipul dɛn we gɛt op kin se na sɔntin we apin ɔ sɔntin we apin, nɔto wetin dɛn ebul fɔ du. Bikɔs dɛn nɔ de si setback as pɔsin in yon shɔtkɔm, pipul dɛn we gɛt op kin ebul fɔ bounce bak frɔm disapɔyntmɛnt pas pipul dɛn we nɔ gɛt op.

Na wan smɔl ɛgzampul dis. Nimala ɛn Supunu ɔl tu kin go tray fɔ mek di skul baskɛtbɔl tim. Nɔn pan dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ mek di tim. Dɛn ɔl tu sɔri, bɔt dɛn de dil wit am difrɛn we.

Nimal na pɔsin we gɛt op. I tink se: "Bɔku talɛnt pleya dɛn bin de na di trayal, ɛn na wan wan ples nɔmɔ bin de na di tim. So a bin de praktis as a ebul, ɛn a fil se a bin ple fayn! Di kɔch gi mi gud fidbak. A go wok pan wetin i tɔk ɛn wach ɛvri gem dis sizin. Dɔn a go gɛt bɛtɛ chans nɛks ia."

Si? Nimal de pe atɛnshɔn pan di patikyula tin we de apin, nɔto pan di tin dɛn we i nɔ ebul fɔ du. I nɔ de si dis sityueshɔn as sɔntin we go de sote go. Im ful expekt se im go fit mek di tim neks yie, and im don de tink olredi abaut wetin im nid to du to mek am.

Supun na bit pan di pessimistik sayd. Im tink se: “I no wonda se dem no andastan mi – na mi bi di wikest pesin fo di trials, and i luk laik se di koch no laik mi so. Natin no go eva go rait fo mi. A get fo admit, a no bi so gud pleya.” Nɔ lɛk Nimal, Supun tek dis sɛt bak fɔ insɛf. I de blem insɛf, ɛn i tink se tin dɛn we de na do (kɔch, layf) de wok agens am. Wetin wɔs, dis wan tin we apin dɔn mek i dawt in yon atletik abiliti.

Naw tink fɔ yusɛf, uswan pan dɛn tu pipul ya go mɔs fil bad fɔ lɔng tɛm? Udat kin praktis mɔ ɛn tray bak? Udat kin giv-ɔp mɔ? Di ansa klia, nɔto so?

Aw fɔ tink gud wan kin mek yu ebul fɔ bia ?

We wi de tink gud wan, dat kin mek wi si tin dɛn we kin mek wi at pwɛl as tin dɛn we kin apin fɔ shɔt tɛm , we min se wi kin ebul fɔ wɛl frɔm dɛn. I de mek wi gɛt trɛnk fɔ tray bak bifo wi giv ɔp. I de mek wi ebul fɔ mɛmba wi gol ɛn drim dɛn, ɛn wok tranga wan fɔ rich dɛn. Dis kin mek pipul dɛn we gɛt op kin fil se dɛn ebul fɔ kɔntrol di tin dɛn we de apin to dɛn, ɛn dɛn kin fil bak se dɛn gɛt bɛtɛ rɛspɛkt fɔ dɛnsɛf . Dɛn kin tink gud wan bɔt dɛnsɛf ɛn dɛn kin gɛt kɔnfidɛns.

Bɔt we wi de tink bɔt tin dɛn we nɔ fayn, dat kin mek wi tek di tin dɛn we wi at pwɛl ɛn di tin dɛn we wi nɔ want fɔ du. I kin mek bak i tan lɛk se dɛn de sote go pas aw dɛn rili de. We wi nɔ de si tin, wi kin pe atɛnshɔn pan di bad tin dɛn we kin apin to wi, ɛn ɛni fayn tin we kin apin kin apin. We tin nɔr kin go lɛk aw dɛn bin dɔn plan, di we aw pɔsin kin tink we nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ op kin mek i nɔ izi fɔ bia wit di prɔblɛm.

Dis optimism na fɔ si ɔltin insay rosy tɔyn? (Rialistik Optimism)

Nɔ, nɔto so i bi. Optimism no min se evritin na fairy tale, no bi fo si evritin fo rosy tones. Pipul dɛn we gɛt op nɔ kin ignore prɔblɛm ɔ mek lɛk se ɔltin na layf pafɛkt. Dɛn kin pe atɛnshɔn pan wetin gud bɔt wan tin ɛn wetin dɛn kin du fɔ mek tin bɛtɛ.

Pipul dɛn we gɛt op kin gɛt tru tru kɔnfidɛns . Dat na bikɔs dɛn dɔn rɛdi. Dɛn no se dɛn fɔ stɔdi tranga wan fɔ pas wan tranga ɛgzam. Dɛn no se dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ mek di baskɛtbɔl tim if dɛn nɔ praktis.

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, fɔ gɛt op na fɔ du sɔntin. Na fɔ fɛn wɛlbɔdi balans bitwin gud ɛn rial tink.

Yu want fɔ tink smɔl we nɔ gɛt op?

Pesimistik tinkin kin drɛg wi dɔŋ – so i fayn fɔ no se dɛn kin chenj di bad we aw pɔsin de tink. Bɔt dat nɔ min se yu fɔ pul ɔl di bad tin dɛn we yu de tink bɔt.

Sɔntɛnde, di we aw pipul dɛn kin tink se “Wetin rayt?” de ɛp wi fɔ no klia wan prɔblɛm. We wi de tink bɔt wetin go rɔng, dat kin ɛp wi fɔ avɔyd denja dɛn we nɔ nid fɔ apin.

Tink bɔt am dis we. Yu brɔda de teks yu we yu de drayv. Yu negatif maynd de wɔn yu se: “Ei, dis nɔ fayn!” So yu tɛl am fɔ stɔp, at least fɔ in sef, ɛn fɔ yu yon. Insay dis sityueshɔn, yu kin jɔyn wan bad tin (“If a teks ɛn drayv, a kin gɛt aksidɛnt!”) wit wan fayn akshɔn (“A no se a kin du sɔntin fɔ stɔp dis.”).

Wi ɔl kin go tru tranga tɛm dɛn sɔntɛnde. I kin fil lɛk se natin nɔ de go fayn. We wi de fil bad, i fayn fɔ gri se wi de fil ɛn tɔk bɔt wetin bad. We yu tɔk to pɔsin we yu biliv, dat kin ɛp yu fɔ fil fayn ɛn mɛmba yu bɔt di gud tin dɛn we yu ebul fɔ du. Di impɔtant tin na fɔ nɔ stɔp na di rut fɔ wetin rɔng. If yu du dat, ivin bad tin dɛn we yu de tink bɔt kin ɛp yu fɔ go bifo.

Aw wi go gɛt op smɔl?

If yu kin lɛk fɔ bi pɔsin we nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ op bɔku tɛm, yu kin sabi fɔ si di gud tin dɛn. Na sɔm tin dɛn we yu kin tray fɔ du:

• We gud tin de apin, notis dɛn ɛn gladi fɔ dɛn. We ɛni de dɔn, tek 10 minit fɔ tink bɔt di de ɛn fɛn sɔm tin dɛn we yu gladi fɔ. Rayt dɛn na wan jɔnal ɔ na wan ap we de mek pɔsin want fɔ du sɔntin na yu fon ɔ tablɛt. I nɔ mata if na sɔntin we smɔl, lɛk, "Sɔmbɔdi smayl to mi tide."
• Trenin yu maynd fɔ biliv se yu kin mek gud tin apin na yu layf. Praktis fɔ tɛl yusɛf patikyula tin dɛn we yu go du fɔ mek yu gɛt sakrifays. Fɔ ɛgzampul: “If a de stɔdi, a go ebul fɔ gɛt gud gred.” “If a de praktis, a go du wɛl pan da sho de.” “If a go na da volontia program de, a go mek nyu padi dɛn.”
• Nɔ blem yusɛf we tin nɔ go fayn. Wetin di vɔys we de insay yu ed de tɔk we tin nɔ de go lɛk aw yu bin de tink? "A fail di math test bikos a bad fo math."Bifo a tink se, “A nɔ bin ebul fɔ du da tɛst de bikɔs a nɔ bin stɔdi tranga wan. A nɔ go mek dat apin igen!” Bifo yu tink se, “Anuradha lɛf mi bikɔs a nɔ gɛt wan yus,” tink se, “Naw a dɔn ɔndastand wetin mek we pɔsin skata kin rili pen, bɔt we a spɛn tɛm wit mi padi dɛn, dat kin mek a fil fayn bak.”
• We gud tin apin, gi yusɛf di prez. Tink bɔt wetin yu du fɔ mek yu gɛt di gud rizɔlt. Yu bin pripia gud gud wan fɔ di ɛgzam? Yu bin de praktis wit ɔl yu at? Tink bɔt us trɛnk yu bin yuz ɛn aw dɛn ɛp yu fɔ gɛt sakrifays. Nɔ fred fɔ tink se, “Na mi du dis!”
• Mɛmba yusɛf se tin dɛn we kin mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ du natin, na fɔ shɔt tɛm nɔmɔ. As sɔntin nɔ go fayn so, mɛmba yusɛf se i go pas – ɛn mek plan fɔ mek i apin. Fɔ ɛgzampul: “Mi A-lɛvel rizɔlt nɔ bin fayn lɛk aw a bin de op, bɔt a kin stɔdi mɔ ɛn tek di ɛgzam bak.”
• Wach aw ɔda pipul dɛn de tɔk bɔt dɛnsɛf. Yu padi ɛn fambul dɛn de tink gud wan ɔ yu nɔ de tink gud wan? Fɔ ɛgzampul, yu papa se, “Na mi kuk di ɔt dɔg dɛn, mi na bad bad kuk!” Ɔ i se, “A kuk di ɔt dɔg dɛn bikɔs a bin de wach di dɔg de rɔnata swɛlin!”

Tray fɔ put dɛn abit ya insay yu layf smɔl smɔl. Fɔs, yu kin fil tranga wan, bɔt afta sɔm tɛm, yu go notis di difrɛns.

So, di las mɛsej we yu go kɛr go na os:

Naw yu ɔndastand se fɔ gɛt op na we we pɔsin dɔn lan fɔ tink . Dat min se pessimism na sɔntin we wi kin lɛf bak !

Dis kin tek sɔm tɛm, so nɔ pwɛl at. As yu de no mɔ bɔt dɛn tu we ya fɔ tink, smɔl smɔl yu go si mɔ we dɛn fɔ tink gud wan. Kip de tel yusɛf se, "A kin bi mɔ optimist, a go kɔntinyu fɔ praktis dis!"

Mɛmba se ɛni smɔl tin we yu du impɔtant. Ɛnitin we yu tray fɔ chenj di we aw yu de tink, de mek yu gɛt gladi-at, sakrifays, ɛn wɛlbɔdi smɔl . So, lɛ wi bigin dis fayn waka tide! Gud lɔk!